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Help me gain some insight into the advice you give.
I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.
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you are the biggest idiot i have ever read about on advicenators how dare you you insult the aadvicenators family it's people like you that make the world such a bad place to live in you should'nt go putting thousands of people down because you are an idiot and it just so happens i myself think me and the rest of the advicenators family happen to give the best damn advice around and screw anybody that says any different you self loathing non sensible degenerate quack you should be ashamed
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poeple come here because they cant tell anyone these types of things, if they feel comfortablee asking random people their advice than that is their choosing no elses. I find it unbelievable how some of these teens write, and how much their advice helped me but others as well. It may not pertain to you, but others. They are just here to ask, learn, and get some comfort. Who are you to tell them otherwise. That is how they feel, this is what they want.
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I'm 25. Not 17. As a matter of fact, answers that younger columnists have given to the same questions as I have are excellent. Most are things I'd say myself.
And the concieving a child thing. How many teenage mothers are there in the world? Look it up, I think you'll be surprised.
Don't come on here looking to start something.
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Look i you want a good answere just go to [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) you will always get a good answere there
hope it helped
nathan
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little life experience? maybe they dont have the answers to every question on this site, but yes, they most likely have answers to questions that they HAVE had experience with. if you can't believe that not everyone has the answers to life, then you shouldn't even be on here
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if people didn't want an opinion or help, they woudln't be on this site.
And you know what?
so what if we don't give the best advice all the time.
At least we TRY.
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The truth is, people ask questions about little things like what cell phone carrier they think is best, and things that are based on opinion. Any person in their right mind can give their opinion about something like that. And another thing, the columnists on this site don't answer random questions. If they have been through a similar situation or know something about the topic, then its not your business to tell them theyre not qualified. The people on this website may know more about a certain subject than you think. I suggest you lay off the people on this site that are only trying to help others, and stumble off of this website just as quick as you came across it.
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yeah my answer to this question is very simple and can be followed in steps.
1-you dont like our advice dont take it
2-not everyone on here is young
3-umm some teenagers actually can give more advice than others depends on how they were raised or what they have been through
and one other thing..obviously you have not been through much to say all that. soo there.
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well if you dont like the advice given, dont take it. who said you had to? & just so you know, teenagers can give really good advice to other teenagers. theres alot of them on here who can get really good advice from people who have been through the same stuff.
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Your apology as given is accepted.
-Ryan
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You obviously haven't been on this site very long. Not everyone on here is a teenager. Yes, there are a lot of teenagers on this site, but you also have people who are grandparents along with everything in between. What's great about this site is that people of all ages give advice and are, for the most part, respected for their opinion. People don't always agree w/the advice they've been given even when it is good advice. There's a rating system here and people do give bad ratings to people when they don't feel the advice is good.
This is a forum not unlike that of your advice columnists such as Ann Landers. Who was Ann Landers that she should be able to advise America. She had no special training and frankly I don't think anyone should take anything someone says 100% to heart. She was advising people from letters. To me a simple letter w/sketchy details is not they best way to advise someone. But, it's fun for the questioner and fun for the columnist.
How I think this forum can be helpful is in its ability to trigger different approaches to a problem that an individual had not thought of. If you read the answers to the questions you would see that the questioner gets many different opinions and views as to how the problem can be solved. There is no way that someone could take all the answers literally and to heart. We just give the questioner ideas that they can consider or a view they never thought of. I don't expect people to do exactly what I say, but I hope that I trigger a creative force w/in the questioner to develop a successful plan in triumphing their dilemma.
Last, but not least, I have read some absolutely thought provoking excellent advice from teenagers. I've been impressed at how intuitive and insightful they are and would listen to what these people have to say any time of the week. You may want to take a second look at what you've been witnessing here.
Best of luck to you!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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So your ASKING us to give you some insight, which in other words means you want OUR OPINION? Am I right? Yep. First off we are not all teenagers, I myself am 25 and there are a few others on here way older than me. When someone comes here for advice all we can do is tell them what we would do in that situation, or find them the resources or websites they need to find the information there looking for. If this was such a awful place then explain to me why I have had over 10,000 people visit my column and leave me feedback saying they like my advice. When we give people advice it is no different that listening to your girlfriend complain about something then telling her what you would do. It's not always the best advice, but it's advice. Everyone here knows, and are encouraged by us, to talk to there parents or a guidance counselor. What they do with the advice we give them is there business, not yours.
-Marine Wife
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Personally, you're entitled to your opinion, but in some aspects, you're wrong. Kids/teenagers come onto this site because most of the users/advice givers are kids THEIR age.
Answer me this. Would you rather have 45 year old answer your question [when they probably couldn't place themselves in your position], or a teenager, who knows exactly what the hell you're going through?
If you were to ask me, I rather have a teenager answer me. It's easier for us to place ourselves in the other person's shoes. And not everyone is inexperienced & doesn't know what they're talking about. A lot of teenagers have been through things you wouldn't believe, and have more life experience, so to speak than others. Going through things so life changing makes you wiser & more cautious.
But this is my opinion, if you don't like the site, don't come back. I realize "it's a free world." but if you don't like something to the point where you critisize people and the whole site, don't bother wasting your time coming to it. It's stupid, immature & pointless.
And by the way, nobody asked for your opinion on the situations, advice given & the people on the site. :]
Just keep it simple, and don't come back. There's no point being on the site if you think it's dumb. It's a time waster. :]
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Well, I don't know about others, but I would much rather have another teenager who can see things from my point of view give me advice then some Physiatrist who thinks he understands teenagers. And thats exactley why people ask us. We are other teenagers their same age who can look at the situation and see it as if it were us in their position. And since we are teenagers, it is alot easier for us to do just that instead of some 40 year old.
Also, not everyone answers every question. Certain people answer certain questions according to their life experiances. We may have not been around long enough to see everything, but atleast one person here has seen it. Somebody might be able to answer why someones best friend likes their boyfriend, while someone else might not be able to.
And thats exactley why I, and alot of other teenagers come here for advice.
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A bunch of people that give advice dont give advice for the heck of it. They give the people advice on questions that they have had a previous experience with. Everyone has their right to their own opinon so I am so not gonna argue with you but I dont believe in what ur saying!!!!
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I'm not going to try arguing with you because, hey, you're entitled to your own opinion. I doubt that after reading everything that everyone has already written that you're going to change your mind if you haven't already.
There is one thing I'd like to point out though. Most any question can be answered by most anyone with a little research. A 17, or even a 13 year old, can look up information about conceiving a child and give a very intelligent, very good response.
One of the reasons I like Advicenators is because when I see a question I don't know the answer to I look it up. I don't necessarily answer the question, but I learn about something that I didn't know anything about before. If I feel that I can answer the question after researching it, I do. If not, I know something new and may be more qualified to answer such a question in the future.
Regular users of this site have come to terms with the fact that there are younger users that answer questions they know nothing about and think they're doing the world good. It's a fact of life that there are idiots out there. There will be idiots WHEREVER you go. If you can't learn to ignore them here like you do everywhere else in your life, just don't use the site. If you can, I'm sure everyone would love your input. :)
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some of us here, have been through a lot of things that people ask us about. whether we are 15, 16, 17, 18, it doesn't matter. we've still had experiences & we give answers to what we think is best. its not up to us, whether the person follows our advice. so don't jump down our throats for the advice we give, jump down the people's throats who follow stupid advice.
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wow you knwo what people know there are teens answering questions when they ask them. and the truth is, nowadays teens do know a lot about the world. at least we try and we have a right to try so if you don't think we should be allowed to answer questions then you can take it to the webmaster.
p.s. you make it sound like you know everything about the world and teens are worthless. well we deal with pressure, and drugs, and alchohol, and real life problems everyday so i would back off if i were you.
IF YOU WANT "PROPER ADVICE" GO SEE A THERAPIST.
the teens on adivecenators are my friends and i know that they are probably hurt that you would say such a thing.
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I only answer stuff I know.
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We never said we were perfect or give perfect answers...or they should follow those answers. The person asks for different points of views and opinions and who are we to judge....we just help them.
If you are a hater...leave us alone!
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You dont know what your talking about. Have a little faith in people. Not everyone is the same on the outside. Im pretty sure a 17 year old girl can know what shes talking about. If you dont' like the site, back the hell off. There arnt just teenagers there are adults answering questions too. This site is amazing.. no matter what you say. Me being a teen, we want help from people our age that actually went threw the same thing. So don't be such a narrowminded person and just dont come back here to bash people.
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A lot of people have really turned against you, whoever you are. So you must've gotten the picture by now. Well most of us here try to help people who are in need of advice. We don't exactly "claim" that we give good advice just because we're told so. Besides, isn't that what the site is about? Getting and giving free advice. And what do you think are the qualifications? Tell us when you think of something.
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"I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice."
what exactly are your qualifications? When your insulting somebody, you need to back-up your comment. Some advice-givers know more things about boy problems than others, others know more about fashion or makeup, others know about parenting better, some know cars better, and some know more about sex. Why only have opinions from your friends when you can get it from thousands of people who know alot about these topics. People can do what they want, and if they choose to seek advice from peers, they may do so.
case closed.
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for your information, this site was created to have fun and give advice, i give advice about sex although i haven't had sex yet, but so what! i know about it i'm not brain dead and besides, you don't have to be a professional to give advice, who made that kind of screwed up rule? most users probably won't use any of our advice word for word. you need to get over yourself and if you don't like this website that you "stumbled across by accident" then freaking leave. no one wants to listen to your ignorance.
just because we are only "17" doesn't mean we don't have a clue about life. we've probably experienced more than you know so shut up.
STEPP OFF
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i'm an ASE certified mechanic, most of my answers can be found in the cars section. i know how to work on, repair, buy, and fix cars. i answer mostly questions about cars. how that's a problem i don't know.
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I only have a couple of things too say..
1) Grow Up
2) When you need advice, go seek *professionals*
And well tbh...what difference are professioanls too us?
We have been through it, we are here too help.
Why join this site if you have such a problem?
You sound so pathetic...All us '17 year olds' probably know a hella lot more thn you will EVER know.
Grow Up.
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I understand where you're coming from - but its not about qualifications or professionals. People come here expecting advice from people who have already experienced their situation.
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I'm not a proffessional. Im still a kid. This website anybody could get to, a 5 year old could be giving advice here. The advice we give is what we think will help people, but we dont know what the person on the recieving end is willing to do, or how convinient our advice is to their situation. We just try to give advice like we would to one of our good friends. We dont get much out of it besides satisfaction of really helping somebody when we do. Nobody gets paid here, and if they chose to follow our advice, wonderful, if they dont, they still have the problem and we can still be broke. All is fair here, no secrets. Some people are just good. some 17 year old might know someone with a similar situation..idk but we chose the questions we wanna answe, so we have to know something. Give us a little credit we definetly dont think were all that.
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people know they're talking to non-experts when they ask a question. If they don't, they don't deserve good advice.
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No one says you have to take this advice and do exactly what one says. It's an opinion, everyone knows that. You take it or leave the problem as it is or find another way to deal. ADVICE and "right answer" don't exactly add up.
"..teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience."
and I'm sure you took the time to ask everyone about their life experiences?
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Sometimes an opinion from a "17 year old girl" is what someone needs. Most of the questions are asked by teens and they need to be answered by teens. Professionals don't know everything and some of them don't understand teenage problems. I used to go to a shrink and she didn't understand my problems fully. People my age did, though. When I have problems, I go to people my age who are experiencing the same things I am. Sometimes I go to my mom since she's been through everything I'm going through. Sometimes people just need a second opinion.
By the way, I know you can only ask a question when you make an account. So if this site is such bogus and nobody can use our advice, why did you make one?
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i know there are countless answers for this question already, but i just wanted to put some input on it.what i have to say, 10 other people could have said, but i didnt read everyones answers, so i dont know, this is just my opinion.
i dont think i give great advide.but there are some categories of things that i know a lot about or that i've been throught, that i could help someone on.i dont tell people to heavily rely on my advice, because thats just what it is, advice.it could be wrong, it could be bad, who knows.but its my opinion, my advice.
this site is mainly teens, give other teens advice. so the questions these teens are asking other teens, chances are there is some teen out there thats been through it, and has something to say about it, whether its good, solid advice, or if its a bunch of bull.thats for the person who asked the question to decide, and thats the chance they take asking for advice on a website like this. i can almost guarentee 99% of us arent qualified to give advice, but we've been through somethings, ever if we're only teenagers.and we know somethings.it might not be a lot of stuff, but its something.and its always good to have a place where you can come and ask peoples opinions and ask for advice from people your age that have been through similar things.
i like to just come on here and ask a question that i wouldnt regularly ask someone in person, because its private on here.noone knows who you actually are unless you tell them, so theres no confruntation factor about it.its easy to ask for advice on here because theres so many people willing to offer their opinion to you, and you dont have to ask them face to face.
theres never a godsend answer to anyones personal crisis, becuase its a personal crisis, so you, personally, have to figure it out.advice from other people help though.its not going to make it better, and people know that.i dont think people expect the advice on here to make their problems poof, because nothing but themselves can.its nice to hear what other people have been through, because sometimes it can make what your going through sound not as bad.
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Not many of us have the qualifications, because most of us are teenagers.As one person said some of us have been through hell and back, which makes us know how it feels to be going through something, and since we're back from hell(or we are going through it now) we know how to help(hopefully) help the person who asked the question. And you know what, most of the questions on here are things like on if a guy likes them, or if they are having health problems. On most of the questions if it is really serious, we tell them "Go get some help from a doctor" or from a parent. Some of us aren't trying to come across as a "Godsend", I'm here cause I love giving advice, and I like knowing I helped someone. so yeah, that's all I really need to say.
~Vera
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I accept ur appology but don't see why it's such a big deal, I half agreed with you. But you were pretty harsh, especially since there's people on this site who really do give good advice (not all, but some)
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This site has helped me alot. And I have got comments back saying how I helped others. I come on here for topic ideas for my english class, halloween outfits, even recipes for christmas and I have always been answered perfectly. Sometimes I can't talk to anyone about some things when I really need help. I can come here and the great thing is alot of people know where I am coming from and understand me. I think this is a great site that should be recomended. I don't think you fully understand the purpose of this site...
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What you don't understand is that nowhere on this site does it say this advice is professional. Of course getting advice from an experienced adult is significantly better in many cases; that goes without saying. But this website provides a place for people to get answers when they don't necessarily have complete access to a trained professional.
Furthermore, sometimes someone doesn't need to be trained to be qualified to give advice. Are you saying you have never asked a friend for a perspective on a personal problem before? We all, at some point, ask others for help. We can choose to agree with them and take action in the way they suggested, or we can say no if we think they're wrong. The people who ask questions on this site realize that some of the answers they receive may be really, really stupid, and if that is the case, they don't have to pay attention to them. They're just looking for someone to provide new ideas for them.
Finally, you obviously haven't spent much time on this site, which I find odd, since you have been so quick to attack it. Many of the questions here are like "What kind of camera should I get?" or "Where can I find a cute myspace layout?" Do you really need to be a trained professional to answer those? I think not.
I know it must be thrilling for you to get up on a soap box and critize an enormous group of people. But maybe you should find a new hobby; this site has helped a lot of people through problems, both frivolous and serious, and I personally don't find anything wrong with that.
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U dont need to be a professional to give out good advuce, i mean whos a professional on life, people from different religions backgrounds and ages and differet prospectives can give u advice which is great andi f it helps even better, and of it doesnt u dont have to use it and at least sumone tried....
Amber xoxo
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Many of the users on this site ARE teenagers. Keep in mind that people our own age can more easily put themselves in another's shoes. There's plenty of adults here, too, that give better advice than I could ever hope to give.
This site covers so many topics and ideas these days. It has branched off from just "so there's this guy that stares at me all the time and gives me flowers every day do you think he likes meee?" questions. You can get advice about styling your hair, family problems, homework help, music recommendations, getting rid of the nail polish stain in the hallway carpet before you rparents come home, and anything else you can think of.
Most of the questions on this site are about the "little things" in life. For those who may need the help of a professional, we tell them so.
Almost all of us don't try to give advice that we know nothing about. Those that do don't usually stick around here long anyways.
Most of the teenagers on this site have been through more than you could possibly ever wrap your head around, so don't even try. Just because we're teenagers doesn't mean we're stupid, ignorant people who can't help anyone.
If you don't like us, leave. Nobody's making you come here. If you don't like our advice, don't ask us for it.
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If you don't like our advice, then don't ask. Who are you to even tell us we don't have a place giving our personal opinion. It's our OPINION. People can either take it or not. It's not like we are telling them what to do. By the way some of us give great advice.
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People who come to this site seeking answers should become aware that not all information they receive is going to be one hundred percent correct.
Advicenators is a good way to get people started off in the right direction - from here they could ever so easily get a second opinion.
I don't think I'm qualified to give advice - I avoid subjects I know nothing about. I don't give crap advice that won't be any help - or I at least try.
So why don't you go waste your time at another site that you find more useful. Okay?
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I don't see why an internet site should take up so much of your valuble mature time. so please, go spend it somewhere else.
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Well I personally think you should shut up because the people don't have to take the advice. They only take it if they think its good. Thats the purpose of this site. If you didn't like the idea of this site.. then don't come here. I personally get, for the most part,good advice. There are some people who don't give good advice, but a lot of people do. People shouldn't come here expecting professional advice anyway. They should know that there will be random people answering their questions.
For the too young to understand things.. even if we haven't been through something, we can give insight from things we know about it or what we would do in that situation. Even though I am only 14, I do know a lot. And most of the people on this site are the same age as I am. If I don't know the answer to a question, I don't answer it. Say I was answering a question about conceiving a child. I would either not answer it or I would look up information on the internet.
I think that if you don't like this site so much then you should just not come here. I personally love this site because I love to help people with their problems, big or small. I also get some help myself.
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You know what? I agree in most cases. But here's the thing--the site's here, and people are going to ask. So why I personally am here is because there's a great deal of misinformation being distributed (mostly related to health issues), and I'm doing my best to correct that.
I don't think I'm remotely talented. Just because I want to study psychology doesn't give me any special qualifications. But what I do have is common sense, and a fair bit of book knowledge. So that is why I'm here--to dispel myths that would otherwise go unchallenged.
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In some ways, yep I agree with you. But, the person receiving the advice, should only know its only advice. I think, that its good though for people that need help.. with like suicide or something, its good that they get random peoples advice on their view of it. Everyone on here, mostly, I'm sure tries to do their best with giving their advice.
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just because we're teenagers, doesn't mean we don't understand what the person is going through. we take our experiences and tell people how we think they should handle it. they don't to do anything we say. it's just ADVICE.
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I guess in a way you are right. We all dont have a say in the persons life but we are trying to help someone in need. It doesnt mean you have to take our advice, at least just consider it.
HOPED I HELPED
♥ Flaggal
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The point of this website is that people want the opinion of the crowd on it. If they did not think such an opinion was appropriate, they wouldn't ask here. Quite simply, we do the best we can... And I always research beforehand.
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do you really think that we havnt gone through anything?
people dont have to take our advice its just a 2nd opinion.
most people dont even answer then questions they dont know something about.
if you didnt think this was a very "educational" site then y do u even care.
we're not just gonna stop giving eachother advice because one person thinks that its not good advice.
were just like friends who give advice about nothing they know but we accually know what were talking about...
thanks 4 makin my day
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wow. finally someone says it. No I doubt there are many of us who are qualified. Do I really have the right to give people adivce on their problems when just last week I attempted suicide because of mine? no.
But i try, because the people who come here withe serious problems want help, and we are their first step. We are (for the most part) kind people with morals who some can better relate to, or feel better talkting to. we are just people, even professionals can offer bad advice.
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I respect your point of view, however, your response makes me feel like I have no reason to give advice to people on this site.
I love giving advice. I am 16 years old. But because I am a teenager does not mean I merely suck at giving advice.
I can see your point. It annoys me when people give those uneducated responses that contain no corrent grammer or spelling. Along with responding to the question completely out of context.
However, I see so many people younger than me giving out so much better advice than I ever thought! I respect all people regardless of age, gender, race, disability, social or family status to retrieve helpful advice to those who need it.
Also, I have seen people feeling suicidal about themselves, and when people respond to those messages, giving them hope and encouragement, it really makes a big difference in their lives. I love seeing that. I love making people smile from the advice I give out.
And you are right about this, "i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child." It upsets me when people respond to questions they don't even have much knowledge on. But.. there are 17-year olds who have conceived. Think of that before you say that again.. respect those who have made mistakes but be grateful to those who are willing to warn others not to make the mistakes they made. It's great to know that people are willing to do that.
I have observed many situations on this website. People feeling depressed, stressed out from a boyfriend/girlfriend, heartbreaks, school, work, or just everything. And seeing so many people would try giving out their time and effort to try to help them out is precious. Some people can't even get that in this world. It saddens me when some people are left uncared for. But when I see people trying so hard to help out, no matter what it takes, it cheers me up. People helping people is such a gift and I am sure God is proud of each person on this website that gives out advice to people who need it. Devoting their time to help out and make a difference is a way to get you to heaven. (no offense to anyone who is not Christian).
I also agree with you that not all people here are college-educated advice experts with a Masters Degree, but I can assure you that you should never underestimate someone and their abilities to give good advice. I've seen wonderful advice, and I feel you would too if you take the time and look harder.
And personally in my opinion, many of these questions require more opinion than fact to successfully answer the question.
For example, someone could ask what brand of soap is better. You can go by opinion, stating which one smells better, or by fact stating which one has vitamins and antioxidents.
Please excuse me for trying my best to give [maybe not the best advice] but advice that gives effort. I give props to those who sacrifice their time to answer any questions I ask. I always see those few that give no effort to it, like they could say "who cares; go die" doesn't even deserve to be here. But people giving thoughtful and respectful responses are the kind of answers I would like.
I apoligize for your arrogance regarding to the people's questions and answers. I sincerely hope you change your mind and think about it again.
Have a lovely day!
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Okay, so we are a bunch of inexperienced people that don't have real advices... so, what's your point in telling us that?
Do you maybe believe that we'll stop giving advice? Did you think you'll get a life in trying? Are you trying to seem smart? If so, you failed at all three. But keep on trying. I'm sure you'll succeed. Heh heh.
You shouldn't diss people who have problems. =) It's not nice.
Tell me, Ms. Critic, did I give you good advice? Oh well
Hope I've helped
-Jenny C
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Well, hun. I'm sorry you can't leave your name. If you feel like speaking your mind don't be annynomous. Honestly, sometimes we are right. We give advice on what we know. We understand drama, and shit like that. So if you feel like bashing what we do, you really need to leave your name so we can bash you.
Kbye.
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i guess that i kind of agree with you. However, i myself, only answer questions having to do with fashion, or teenage depression, or period questions. Generally things that i have somewhat of an authoritative position on/experience with. I only 'answer' sex questions if someone who answered before me said something untrue that might hinder the asker. Also, i'm only 14 so i feel i know ver little about sex. I'll give my view on people's life when they ask for an opinion, but in general i don't answer questions that are too serious or important. Those questions are best left un answered rather than being answered with someone that's totally untrue.
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Lots of teenagers have had plenty of life experience. When teens ask about issues they're having (stuff with love, how to look good, issues with tampons, etc) they aren't looking for some stuffy doctor telling them things they don't understand. What we look for is someone who is actually going through our same problems. Some teenagers may not be qualified or able to give advice on heavy issues, such as how to have children. But not all the questions are like that- some questions may not seem so complicated to the genius you consider yourself to be, but to young people who are confused about what they are going through, it really helps to get a peer's view on how to handle things.
Edit: I read your apology on the site news. Apology accepted -at least from me =] everyone has bad days, but next time, try and think about what you're saying before you lash out unfairly against hundreds of people. just a thought =]
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Who ever you are you are just stupid because everyone on here are not on here because they are GODSENT or whatever they are here to find help on any subject and the people who help them are people who might have went through that already and has advice on how you should go about doing it your opinion is stupid thats my opinion
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Teenagers have not had little life experience. There are plenty of us who have been through pregnancy, self-injury, healthy issues, eating disorders, abuse, family problems, rape, friend issues, relationships, and everything else.
You need life experience to gain a perspective on life, not to give adivce.
And you are at loss as to how a 17 year old girl can give advice on how to conceive a child? Did you not have health class in high school or something? Did you not learn from books, legitiment online sites, friends, parents, and others about sex and everything about it?
Most of us may be teenagers, but many of us have been through hell and back, and you don't know any of us. You don't know the situations I've been put through. but I know how to handle them. And why? because I experienced them. When you are a teenager, you don't sit in a bubble and not watch or experience the life around you.
We are real people with real problems.
And if you don't like it here, that's your problem and none of us care. It's your loss.
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Hm, well, that's just YOUR opinion. You would find that a lot of people that ask questions on this website have been helped by columnists. I really have no idea why you're expecting psychologist advice from columnists because the majority of these columnists are teengaers. But, even so, these columnists are willing to create an advice account and take time out of their day to try to help people. Of course you wouldn't find the best advice for someone with a personal crisis or serious problem on here because only a psychologist can solve those kinds of serious problems. Oh yeah, and the word "advice" means that you're giving someone your own personal opinion. So if you don't like the advice, then ignore it. You don't have to try to insult people and waste time on this website; if you have a serious problem that cannot be answered on this website, then go see a therapist. And don't say all this crap about peoples` "personal opinions" because I think you proeved your own "personal opinion" by asking your question. Oh, and just because someone says "people think I give really good advice" and YOU don't think they do, then that's just YOUR opinion. As a matter of fact, my column says that, and yeah, I do think I give pretty good advice and people have actually told me that; I'm not making any false claims that I'm a psychologist or anything, even though I'm studying to become one.
So if you think you can give better advice, then why don't you go make an amazing column and give amazing adivce? Because obviously you think that you can do way better. :-)
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Well most of the people on here are asking question that happen a lot in real life. And most of the people on here have exsperenced those things and can help sahre there opinon to help other people not make the same mistake. Nobody is saying that because someone gave that adivce they have to take it, it will just help them think threw the cituation more. Pluse from my personal exsperence i have a asked a few questions on hee and used the advice and it has turned out great for me. not saying everyone on here is gonna have the best advice, we all make mistakes but most people do.
If you dsont think that people on here give good advice then dont ask questions.
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hey buddy, if you don't like the site or the advice we give, DON'T MAKE AN ACCOUNT. no ones making you help people. we come onto this site looking to maybe, just maybe help someone with a hard time. sorry if that's a crime. it's people like you who make me sick
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First of all, you make it sound like Advicenators deals only with questions relating to 'personal crisis.' This would validate your points if it were true- the vast majority of questions on this site instead seem to me to refer to slightly less massive problems. Yes, occasionally I see a question which details a serious situation and if I can offer my perspective I will do so, but most of the questions I answer are purely fact based. I think the best question I ever answered, where I really helped someone, was the one where I told somebody how best to get blu-tack off a wall without taking the paint off too.
Secondly, as has been mentioned by countless others, many of the people on the site LOOKING for advice ARE teenagers, so who better qualified to give it? On several occasions I have seen people several years my junior make salient and well thought out points that have really helped other people.
Finally, this site is free to use, and free to join. If you ask a question of the whole world, you can't expect a fantastic answer every time. In the same vein the site has no real 'qualifications' needed to join- if you want to help, you do. I wonder really why you're criticising the endeavour, I mean the idea of an online community devoted solely to helping each other out sounds worthy of praise and support, don't you think?
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First of all, most of the advice-seekers here are teenagers, and teenagers ask for help from other teenagers. End of story.
You mentioned how we are not at a place to give someone their personal opinion when we have so little life experience. I'll have you know that giving your personal opinion does not hurt anybody. If the advice-giver gives really stupid advice and the asker is stupid enough to believe that it's the right answer, then that's the asker's problem (of course, if the answer is encouraging the asker to hurt herself or break the law or something like that, that's a completely different matter).
Who said anybody has to be at "a place to give someone their personal opinion"? That's exactly what a personal opinion is---a personal opinion. You don't have to be an expert to give someone your personal opinion. And the advice-seeker can choose whether to ignore it or take it seriously.
And lastly, what makes you think that you know the right answer to everything? There are many ways of giving advice...there is no right or wrong answer to most of these questions on the site. Since when is there a right answer to a question about conceiving a child?
If you don't like the site, fine, go away and leave us alone. If the only joy you have in life is going to websites and putting down the occupants, then seriously, get a life
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This is where you are wrong, my dear.
We answer questions we know we can answer. If we've been through something similar, what harm is there in giving advice?
99% of the questions on here don't need ANY qualifications to answer. It's common sense, not being lazy and researching, or as I said previously.. if you've been through the same dilemma. In the odd chance there is a serious question needing a serious answer (eg, needing to be hosiptalised) it's obvious and that person gets told straight out to seek help. Not from the young advice givers on the site. But from the OWNERS.
and it does help. Infact, a huge amount.
Look at the feedback from the people we have helped to give you an idea.
If you aren't a fan of advicenators, simply don't visit this site any more. and keep YOUR "personal opinion" to yourself and don't bother wasting any of our time.
Thankyou and goodbye.
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Wow Thanks! You just made all of us more united...against U.
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This hurts me.
Let me start off by saying that everyone has SOMETHING they are good at giving advice about. Maybe it doesn't seem like they are old enough to know some things, but truth is, they very well could be. I may be young, but when a teacher or parent doesn't know how to fix their computer or other electronic device, guess who they come crying to... the teenager of the family.
Another thing is that this is a public website. If one of us can't give "proper advice", other people that answer can give their bit and complete the other person's thought or idea. Also, if someone is asking a serious question about something that can easily be found on the internet or a reference book, they are probably not very smart and basically any answer or information could help them out.
Most teens just need someone to listen to them and maybe give them some guidance from someone outside of the loop that sees the big picture. Think of it as a support group - a family, if you will. Your family, like your fellow advice givers, want the best for you but might not always be right. Live with it.
As for claiming "people think I give really good advice", they could be referring to their fashion advice or something else that is teen-related and useful for this site.
In conclusion, If you don't like this site - Leave. No one is making you stay. That's my advice to you since this IS an advice site - not a forum to bitch about how dumb teenagers are.
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Well a lot of people who are asking for advice here are teenagers. So who better to give them advice then someone who understands how a teenager thinks (in other words, a teenager!)
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I actually somewhat agree with what you've said here. I once saw a question once asked by a thirty year old man who was in serious debt and was asking for a part time job offer from anyone in his area. And you know what answer he got? It was from a ten year old girl who said "u culd babysit till u get wat u want." Seriously. Oh my GOD. I try to only answer questions to which I have had similar background experience in close proximity...otherwise my answer does not help the asker at all.
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I find this incredibly offensive, and I'm sure a lot of other members would too.
I'm interested as to what you think qualifies as 'proper advice', because I could name several columnists off the top of my head who give excellent advice.
None of us claim to have the qualifications to give 'real people proper advice', but that doesn't mean we don't know anything about anything. I'm only 15 years old but I could quite easily give accurate advice on conceiving a child, not because I've done so but because my Mother is a midwife and she's passed a lot of information onto me. There are many columnists who know a lot about certain subjects and give really good, really helpful advice on them.
Yes, of course there are stupid people on here who don't know what they're talking about, but there are also hundreds of people who have really helped out the people seeking advice here. You have absolutely no right to come here and decide that we're all unhelpful and unintelligent because it's simply not true.
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I agree one on part - I doubt a 17yr old knows alot about conceiving a child [however, kids do have kids nowadays, so that pretty much just shoots that down, now doesn't it?].
If you come here thinking you're getting topnotch, certified-guaranteed expert advice, then I think you're the one who needs to stop and think.
By typing your problem, and submiting it on this site, you've pretty much just agreed that you understand that you're getting advice from kids - or maybe adults, who are only saying what they would do in your situation [or what they have done, if they've been there before]. To assume that they're experts is only pure idiocy.
I think you should take another look at your question.
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Wow, your a bitch.
Anyways, not everybody on this site thinks they give good advice. Hell, I know mine isn't the best in the world. Big fuckin deal. It helps people. And a lot of the people on here have advice that helps people. And they put their whole heart into what they say. I do, just about everyone on here does. And I can not say how much people on here have helped me.
I don't see harm in somebody even attempting to help another person. Every question on here has an answer and somebody who can answer it.
If a 13 year old asks a question, most likely a 13 year old can answer it best. I know when I was 13, I wouldn't want a 20 year old giving me advice.
Look at most the questions. They are asked by 13-18 year olds. Right? Most of the columnists on here, are that age and can answer those questions better.
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Many people below explained things very well. I just wanted to emphasise one thing. At no point ever is a person who comes to this site led to believe that he/she will be getting professional advice. So, since no such guarantee is made, there is no reason to be disapointed with the advice.
It should be absolutely clear that what is delivered here IS generally personal opinion. Thats actually what advice is in most cases. As in "real" life one has the choice to take it or leave it.
I would like to say one last thing, as someone who has been on this site a fairly long time. There is plenty of good advice here, and there are plenty of people with professional qualifications within different areas.
Part of the deal with this place is that you have to spend some time sorting the good from the not so good. Sometimes that takes a long time, but that has to be expected on a site that remains free of charge. Sometimes, there are also advantages to having people of all ages and backgrounds. One may just come accross a totally different way to approach a problem.
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Well I am 18 years old and I have used this site for over a year now. In reality there are alot of people, young and old, who give advice on this website. Some give good advice based on personal experiences in their life and offer insight on how to handle certain life issues. Others offer advice that is hardly advice in that. Alot of the young people on this site around the ages of 13-15 give advice that could be said to be immature and not even all that helpful. But there are alot of younger kids that give great advice. And there are alot of people on this site, despite age, that have gone through alot in their life. Do you honestly know? No. You think just because you read a few answers from younger members and maybe look though a couple pages that you can say these people have no valuable life experiences. It seems to me that you are senile and ignorant. At the age of 14, I had gone through alot more in my life, then some people have in 30 years of living. Do you have a right to judge everyone on this site as a whole, based on a couple answers you have come upon? No.
You have no right to deem everyone on this site unqualified to give advice, based on age, gender, or how they have answered certain questions. Like you said: You were browsing and found this site. If you do not like its content, then move on. It is as easy as that. Click the BACK button and go to another website. What I find ironic is that most likely you yourself were looking for advice or looking to give advice and probably came upon this website because of it. And then you think you have the right to pass judgement on everyone on this site, because of what? Your standards. And why do you feel you are a "godsend" to everyone on this website? Everyone on this website intends to give helpful advice.
Maybe a seventeen year old girl can give advice on conceiving. In this imperfect world there are alot of young girls that are already young parents. There are also alot of girls who have older siblings who hav egone through pregnancies. You don't know. So again, do you have a right to judge? No. You do not.
When you look up the definition of advice you will come upon this:
Ad·vice –noun 1. an opinion or recommendation offered as a guide to action
Advice is in fact an opinion. Not some technical, "qualified" answer. Anyone can give advice. Age is not a factor. A seven year old child can give advice. Will it be accurate or helpful? Probably not, but any human being is capable and qualified to give advice. This site is an advice website. Not a website where people with major physcological problems get answers from random people. If you need advice or guidance on something involving a more serious issue in your life, then you probably should be consulting a doctor or therapist. Most questions fall under the category of Love, Friendships, and Sex. Anyone is "qualified" to give advice about that. There are tons of people, young and old, that have experienced love, friendships, and sex in their life so far. So if you were seeking more qualified and more technical insight than you should probably consult the closest therapist near you.
Ignorance is bliss. You may feel that everyone on this site has no right to give advice, but I don't feel like you will ever fully mature and come to realization with how ignorant, judgemental, and prejudice you really are. Can I do anything about it? Sadly no. But I do have a voice and the right to speak freely. That is what this website is about. If you have a problem with it then you can move on to a different website.
Best of luck in the future. Hopefully your therapist can help you.
Best regards,
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Wow...your an ***hole.
Hmm...this site was designed for people to give advice based on their own experiences. Oh and you obviously didn't just "stumble" across this site, you made your own account! You are obviously seeking some advice from 17 year olds as well I see. We arent brainwashing people or "poeple" as you obviously can't spell! Mr. I have a Ph.d. in advice!!
Everyone is their own individual and they can choose whether to follow the advice given or not to! It's as simple as that. I think you can take all your complaints and shove them strait up your ***! And if you wish to gain some more insight from me, leave your name and address so I can show you in person.
p.s. And in that apology note, realized is spelled with a Z not an S. It was bugging the crap out of me when I wrote it. I sure hope the creator of this site is much more simpithetic then I am.
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okay, well you may not think that anyone of us gives good advice, btu then why the hell are you on this site?? and i mean the people that are on this site obviously think that we do give good advice, or weve helped them (etc) so thats why. and some teenage girls are mothers and we go through more than you think aso maybe if you dont like this advice you should just leave the site completely because you obviously dont understand what this is here for. Because, the truth is, half of the people, maybe even mroe than half of the poeple on this site are teenagers, and well half of the people on this site probably dont even listen to the advice, they probably go online when they are frustrated or sad(etc) and they probably just look for people to give them their opinions on their situation to make them feel better and TRY to help, and if we dont .. then hey, we tried at least. But what i have to say is that we all should know that the internet is the internet, we cant really trust anyone on the internet, because i could say i was a doctor and no one would ever know if i truly was or not, and so my point is that we give our opinions, you can take it or leave it, all we can do is try to help, and some of us have even gone through some of the situations that people ask about.. so if you dont like our advice then im sorry but you can leave the site, but other people must if they are on here. bye
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I am 34 years old. Not all of us are kids.
But that's irrelevant. All we are trying to do here is lend a listening ear and a helpful voice. Truth is not determined by the age of the person telling it; I've heard some pretty sage words from my five-year-old daughter. I acknowledge that I've seen some unwarranted egos in here, but very rarely do I actually see bad advice.
This is a website where people freely help other people. I can't think of many causes more noble than that. Do not presume to put these people down - they are doing far more good by giving their advice than you are by berating it.
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The like the old saying age ain't nothing but a number. You don't know if a 14 year old has been through all of the "forbidden for young" things in life such as drugs, abuse, threats, bullying, manipulative mean girls, and eracism. Anybody of any age over 3 can experience it. That's why those who have lved to tell the tale have that same strength, that same confidence to make it through, and lead many others through that path.
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14 years old and I give one of the best advice out there, by "opinion", of course
Oh yea, let's see you relate to many out there who need personal help
Here's my question for you
How do you say you love someone and love someone, and you really don't?
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Im 13 years old
I go to physcology classes becuase I have the intelligance too.
Maybe one day in the near future Ill be your phychiatrist.
Im glad you wasted your time on critizing the site, honestly We like the site and If you dont like it , then honestly none of us care.
But i understand your point partially, but some teenagers get help from this site as do adults.
Hearing peoples opionions is good and when you dont have any one to talk to about things, this site helps alot.
Think about people in other situations, and I actually have 2 advicenators accounts, and on my other one I have answered over 400 questions and 90 percent of them were given ratings of 5, so apparently im doing something right.
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I understand what you're getting at.. but how does it effect you? You claim you got to this site by accident && then you criticize us.. yeahh it's like we're going to you're work and do that as well. If we don't give proper advice then we get rated on our question.. that's what we do.
But on your side of the story i see what you're saying.. and you're right. Many people's opinions are based on other people's facts- and they may be wrong.
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Well. I must say. I personally love how you stumble across this website on accident, and feel the need to critisize what we are doing here. I would love to see you create an account and blow all of our "childish advice" out of the water.
Now. All defensive statements aside..
Like everyone said below, there are people of all ages on this site. I'm sure a 13 year old would feel more comfortable having their question answered by a fellow 13 year old, rather than an older person who might not be too familiar with what their going through. Which is why certain people answer certain questions. Not all of us are claiming to have a degree in psychology, and claim to be qualified to give advice, but some of us are striving towards that and this isnt a bad start.
The persons that ask questions on this site know that the members volunteer themselves and most likely dont have any qualifications. If the question was pertaining to something serious and we are unable to give advice about, most of us tell them to seek professional or medical attention to correct that problem.
We dont promote dangerous advice, or tell people to do anything illegal, so I'd say we have a pretty good establishment here.
As for the "little life experience" comment, I dont believe that age has anything to do with the ability to give advice. Everyone has an opinion, and the right to express such views, just like you are doing right now.
(Personally I dont think you are at liberty to judge a website based upon 5 minutes of skimming through questions, but thats besides the point)
I'm 17, and I've been through alot of rough situations that most haven't, which is why I enjoy helping other people on this site to reassure them that they are not alone in what is happening. Like I said previously, people who come to this site dont expect to get expert advice, they know that they will get their question out to a wide range of ages, and hope to find the best answer that suits their needs.
Remember, they dont HAVE to take our advice. We tell them what we think, and thats the reason they post the question: TO SEE WHAT WE THINK.
If they choose to take it and listen to what we say, that is up to them, and if anything happens in regards to that, it will be them that is at fault.
Also.
I dont believe im a "godsend"
I try and help who I can. If they say that I did, then great, I'm glad. If not; better luck next time.
Maybe you havent ever been able to be helped in your life, or felt as if there wasnt an answer, but 9 times out of 10 there is always an answer. It just might take alot of searching to produce one. It may not be apparent right away, or when its most needed, but it does appear.
Sorry you feel the way that you do towards this website, but I would rather have people come here to vent their feelings & receive advice, rather than trying to do something on their own and getting hurt because they were misinformed.
You should really sign up for this website. Try your hand at it. You seem to be far more qualified than us, considering you're being so critical.
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First, let me thank you for asking a question of all us imbeciles. I don't know if I can add much to all the great answers that come before mine, but I have to add my two cents worth.
It is my opinion that if you had read very many of the questions and answers you would have found that the majority of our younger advisers stick with what they know. Occasionally one will try a venture into the unknown, and when they do they get their column suspended for a few days and are warned not to do that again. No one is allowed to give harmful or illegal advise here.
My occupations have all been in emergency medicine. Ask me about the current fashions or hairstyles and I couldn't give you an answer. Don't know, don't care. But our younger users know all about that.
Talk about tampons, discharge or shaving private parts...mmm I don't care. But the younger girls who are new to all that LOVE to share the experiences they are having. Same with boyfriend questions and does he/she like me. They know all about that.
They are entitled to give their opinions. It is just the same as talking to your girlfriends or boyfriends about a problem.
If we get a question better answered by adults, there are plenty here to answer the question and plenty of teens who will let someone know if a really bad answer is given.
I don't think anyone tries to come off as a "godsend" to anybody. I know there are people who have been helped because once in a while they will let us know. I doubt seriously that we make much of a difference to a lot of people who come here for advice, not in a big way, but there have been a few that I KNOW of and that makes it worthwhile.
So weather you call it advice, or opinions or just
hand holding for someone who needs someone to talk to I think we perform a service. We are damn good at it too.
If you want to join us and maybe feel good about yourself for making a small difference to someone in need, we are happy to have you.
If you just want to come on and try to make us feel bad for what we do...go away, you will not succeed. :)
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not all people depend on these answers but itz nice to hav a lot of options and have different peoples ideas, and most people on this site will no that young adults will or might be giving advice but they still ask because they no the risks, maybe if you stayed on the site longer you would understand that.
emily
p.s i am only 13 yrs old yet i haven given great advice and it shows on my ratings!!
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ad·vice /ædˈvaɪs/
–noun
1. an opinion or recommendation offered as a guide to action, conduct, etc.: I shall act on your advice.
"An opinion or recommendation offered as a guide."
Lets think about this for a second here....Hmm. Now please show me where in that statement does it say right or wrong answer? Where does it say definite answer?
Who are you to give your "opinion" on us little advicenators? How long have you seen this site? Has it really been long enough to determine if people can or cannot give "good" advice?
"such little life experience." Who is to say that what little we all have, isnt enough to help someone else? Are you God? Can you judge us based on what you've seen over the past 5 minutes? Do you think that by using one example we are to stop what we're doing and see the light? Should I just delete my account now? Should I stop giving my "good advice?"
Have you not seen people with advice who back it up with outside sources, references, and so forth? No of course you havent, because you wouldnt have typed this fun little rant, now would you have? Nah I dont think so. Hey in the future, lets try something fun..hmm..but what? Oh I know! How about we all look around, check some people out, dig up some good stuff, get some good "advice" and see what we have to offer before we play God and cast our judgement on everyone! Oh boy does that sound fun?! I think it sure does!
Maybe next time you'll stumble across the truth, and we dont have to play this childs game anymore. However looking at the fact that you dont do your research, I dont think we should hold our breath.
Next time when you think you are in a place to give YOUR "personal opinion" I suggest you look again buddy.
-Solaris out
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shut up some people have no where else to turn and besides, its their choice who they go to so just mind your own business.
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If you feel you are more qualified, then by all means, sign up for access and give your advice. If you think someone is giving bad advice, log on and correct them. I do when I think the topic is important enough to need a clarification - though on many topics it just isn't worth it. If you aren't willing to contribute in order to correct what you see as a problem here, then I would question if you are even concerned enough to ask the question you are asking in the first place.
I really don't think age is important when it comes to giving advice on love or relationships, which is a large part of the questions asked here.
Not everyone here who gives advice is a teenager - and though there are many teens here, I would no more assume their advice is bad simply due to age anymore than I would assume that just because you see one post you disagree with that this would set a precedent across the board. And though I do not have any access to hard data, my hunch is that the average age for advice-givers is probably somewhat higher than that for the average age of those asking the questions.
Be aware that you are coming off less as someone concerned over the fitness of the advice given, and more as someone who is simply wanting to stir the pot based on age alone. Its easier to stand on the sidelines and be critical than to involve yourself in an attempt to change what you are critical of. Did you happen to post any advice on the thread you are referring to?
If there is a paucity of mature adults willing to give advice here (which I am not prepared to accept as fact), then I would say that it isn't the fault of the teens. At the very least, they are willing to try their best to give what advice they can - even if that doesn't meet with your standards. Standards that, as I said earlier, are probably far too high when dealing with just about anything on the internet.
I also would question the assumption that age is directly relevant to the quality of advice given. I've heard horrible advice from adults who think themselves correct and knowledgeable, but in dealing with them one actually needs a better excuse to dismiss their advice with other than age. You actually need to admit that many people, irregardless of their age, aren't fit to give advice. Age is just an easy label to put on someone. If you take age out of the equation, then you end up with both innately good, and bad, givers of advice - which you would get anywhere. It isn't realistic to expect all advice to be good, no matter what you ask. You still need to be prepared to be discerning concerning the advice you recieve.
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Like the other people before me, I dont see how age really has to do with giving 'good advice'. The fact that you were 'quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience.' just shows that you seem to have the stereotype of teenagers being irresponsible and immature in your mind.
You can't really judge how well a person can give advice based on their age. Everyone's lives, frankly, are quite different and some people have more experiences than others in a shorter amount of time. A lot of people on this website are actually trying to help and maybe make the world a 'better place' by giving advice to a person in need. Advice isn't absolute; it's based on observation, experience, and opinion. You dont need a masters degree or some diploma to prove that you can give the right advice. Sometimes it just takes experience and observation. Advice given from all sorts of people can give new perspective on the situation that you might not have considered before.
To end your confusion about how a 17 year old girl can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child, for all you, as someone pointed out before me, might have experience in the medical field, her parents could be doctors, she might have taken medical training classes at some point, or she might had gone through such an experience. You can't just assume that people give whatever advice comes into their head; some people might actually have experience regarding certain situations.
When people ask for advice, they ask for advice. period. They usually dont narrow it down to only having specific people answer; everyones advice is counted and the less helpful ones are ignored. Besides, most of the questions on this site are usually directed to teenagers and up. Not often do we have questions that are solely directed at the older 'more experienced' adults. But yeah, that's my input on your statement/question thing. Hopefully i didnt offend you and i wasnt trying to come off as totally knowledgeable either.
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First off, this isn't really a question, so I don't see why it is here.
When it comes to advice, there really isn't a right or wrong answer; some advice is better than others, and that is relative to the question anyways.
Few people actually claim that their own advice is law, written in stone, and the best solution to the problem at hand. I don't see that around here. Who says that any/all input has to be taken seriously? It is always up to the person who asked whether or not their answer satisfied what they were looking for.
Yeah there are some people on here who don't give the best advice, but it is unfair to judge everybody here on a handful of people.
"...how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people..."
- Isn't everybody a real people? You can be narrow-minded and take the sterotypical teenager and apply it to everybody 13-19, but I would find that doing so is just as immature as you claim them to be.
You made a good point: not many teenagers have full-life experiences to give "good" advice. I agree. I really don't know what life is all about and how to deal with its curveballs, its downs. But I, as I'm sure many others too, have learned from parents and older relatives/friends from their own experiences and advice.
Advice is subjective. Advice will always be questionable, some more than others. To downplay it wouldn't be a great encouragement to anyone either.
I'll give some credit to those who try, who actually make an effort and want to help. I would say almost everybody here answers questions because they want to help others. Experienced in the field or not, trying to help people is still better than putting them down, going around comitting crimes, or being too ignorant to acknowledge there is a world outside their own.
I say let them give their advice. Most people end up learning more about themselves by doing so. Many of us don't have the graduate school degree to give professional advice to deal with depression and other health related issues...but most could still point in the right direction or just be there for them. We can help them get help.
You never really know, but a few words of encouragement from somebody here really could bring up a person's self-esteem.
People give advice here to help others. Not every question here is an immediate crisis. Those that are have the people needed to step up to it. Not everyone here claims to be the advice guru and know everything. I try to help with what I can. If you don't like somebody's answer to a question, then don't take it - simple as that. All I know is that if somebody wanted advice from all sides of the field, younger, older, experienced...then they can find it here. Hope that helped.
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I both agree and disagree with you, and I'll tell you why.
There are a signifigant number of people on this site that are over the age of 21, making them an adult almost everywhere you go. There are a few parents on this site, etc. I can assure you that every single person on this site is an expert at something.
MikeCFT, for example, is a certified fitness trainer. He can give excellent advice on fitness, nutrition, etc., but he might not be the best with computers. [I have no idea how he is with computers.]
Lucky for Mike, he doesn't have to answer computer questions that he knows nothing about. He can wait and let DangerNerd answer them, or anyone else with computer expertise.
Teenagers, however, are great at answering the repetitive menstrual cycle and boy problem questions, for the most part. They have all pretty much had a signifigant other. They can also answer fashion questions. Maybe teens aren't the best people to answer certain questions, but they are more qualified than many adults to answer others.
On this site, we urge everyone to not answer questions for which they have no expertise.
A seventeen year old girl could be very qualified to answer questions on conceiving a child. For example, she may be training to be in the medical field, her parents could be doctors, or she could have been in a comparable situation. Also, teens today get this type of information in school, so they could very well know what they are talking about. Granted, you never know who someone is, or what they know. It is very possible for someone to make something up. People here generally don't do that, though.
And lastly, there are few cases where it really counts. For those that are, the more adult advicenators can offer their insight.
Age is just a number. Not to insult your intelligence, but I assume that you are older than me; I am fifteen years of age. I could correct your grammar, and maybe even give you some math or music lessons. My IQ might be higher than yours. It is physically possible for me to be pregnant (I'm not, don't worry). You cannot assume that just because someone is a certain age they have no life experience. Quite frankly, nowadays, I would bet that it were growing to be the opposite.
I think I've said enough. I hope that I haven't offended you, but this issue is something that is very, very important to me.
Have a nice day, and do respond in the feedback you leave!
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i'm rather confused why you would ask this. is the fact the people are asking peers-older and younger-their opinions on real life problems really that horrible a concept to you? the idea of this site is that people get to chose what questions to answer, and most of the time a 17 year old WONT answer one about concieving a child. Advicenators has been really helpful for me as a teenager to get answers and opinions from people because there are ALOT of questions that I do not feel comfortable asking people in person.
You can't judge a persons life experience because of their age. People have very varried lives and levels of maturity
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