hello! my name is amber and i have been through a lot over the years! my father died when i was 6 years old and 6 years later i developed an auto-immune disease called lupus. i have been in and out of the hospital many time and have been through severe pain physically, and mentally because of it. no question is too odd or confusing, and i will try my best to give you my best and most honest advice. i am very spiritual and into positive thinking, so i could also help you out with anything having to do with finding your way in life. love and light!
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'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant? (link)
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I don't think so, my love! That is very unlikely :). Just be more careful next time if you think that will help!
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How can I end my relationship with my boyfriend? I don't like to continue our relationship anymore, I'm afraid maybe he will only play with me, when we were still new with our relationship he asked me if i am still a virgin, and i said yes then as days past, I just know that before we've met he is such a playboy, he like girls those who have big boobs, sexy body and he want to watch those movie in sex. I know this when we were already in a relationship. Now i like to end up our relationship, but he don't want... Do you think my boyfriend is serious? I need an advice... (link)
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Do you actually like this boy? What if he actually likes you back? Maybe you should talk to him about it first and be open with him, say you want to break up because you are afraid/think that he will cheat on you or just use you. If you can not be open with him or if he can not be open with you, then there probably is no basis for a real, lasting relationship anyways (assuming that is what you want). So, just be completely honest with him and tell him how you feel, and if you decide you want to break up then that is your decision, and you should not feel afraid to do so. It is your choice and you have the right to be with whoever you want or to not be with whoever you want, regardless of what he says back in that manner.
Love and light
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I have paid a sponsorer to sponsor me 14000$ but no w he doesnt pick the call nor call us.Every penny we gave him was hard earned money this man have cheated us what shall we do with this person if I am from NSW.
I dont have his address just bank details and phone numbers. (link)
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You have not given much information to help me answer this question for you, but I will definitely try my best and give you the best advice I can. You do not need his address to get the law involved, this is what you must do first before you do anything else. The law is the only way to deal with this properly, so I suggest calling your local police department (you can look up the number on the internet) and telling them all about what happened and they might ask you for the information of this man, in which you have (some pretty crucial information, might I add). Don\'t worry, I am sure stuff like this happens a lot but the best thing to do is let people handle it that have dealt with this stuff before and know how to do it in the proper manner. What he did was against the law, so that you have the law on your side, which in this case is a very good thing. It\'s times like these that make you thankful for things like the government! Anyways, please start this process ASAP so you can get the process started and work on putting your mind to ease. I hope everything works out for the best.
love and light
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When I masturbate, I only use my clit, because its the only way I know of. Is there something better than just the clit? (link)
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Well, you can use the actual vagina opening, but most people find that that does not work as well. The clitoris is the most sensitive part on the female body, and it is actually the only part of the human body that is there just for pleasure. So, have fun with it!
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years and I always wanna have sex and he doesn't want to as much as me. We have sex about once a month. Whenever I try to have sex and he says no i get really upset and angry. Is it normal to feel this way? (link)
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This is fairly normal, but do you know why you are upset? Have you asked him why he does not want to as much as you do? Maybe there is a misunderstanding or some sort of miscommunication between you two. Hope this helps a bit.
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I've been using Triphasil now for month I thought my period is gona come back to normal but not yet what should I try or must I contineu using it? I want to try for a baby wil it help me to fel pregnent (link)
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Who told you to start using Triphasil if you want to get pregnant? Triphasil is a medication you use if you do NOT want to get pregnant. If your will is to have a baby, by all means STOP using Triphasil. hope I got that question right.
Love and light,
Amber
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I truly loved a girl name preethi she lives in Coimbatore im Arun maheedhar in same area because of her situation and completion of her parents she left me we both doin masters in Coimbatore the day of her proposal is Nov 8 th around 7.30 in the evening then our life was awesome for few days like upto Dec 30 th the same year 2013 I was last seen her at Dec 30 th 2013 evening I dropped her in a market place and I left with tears and my tears still not stopped today april 6th 1.14 am I was feeling very sad abt the memories I tried to erase her memories but I can't I tried many things but only fail remains in love in carrer in life only her memories left with me now I want to die with that same memory but I don't want any resurrection after this life it's enough I'm now not fit for my life. Her birthday is April 9th so on that day I pray for her life for last time and I want to die with those memories please tell a way for a quick painless death (link)
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Arun, there is no need for a "quick and painless death". Sadly, that will get you no where. You will only return back to life in some way or another and run into the same problems again. However, know that that does not mean that there is no point to life, and that there can not be joy and love again! Joy and happiness and love are your birthright, only your mind is what can prevent you from seeing this. However, don't worry or beat yourself up over this, so many people get themselves in these situations and feel like this every day! You are loved, in many ways which you can not 'see' right now and things are always happening in your favour. It sent you to me, who knows exactly what to say at this point because I have been in your exact same shoes numerous amount of time. You have to be able to change your mindset, this is the first step out of your misery because it is your mind which is causing you to feel certain emotions. You have to find a way to gain a proper solution which will help you out of this. Right now your mind keeps playing the same situations over and over again, and the only way out of this, like I said is to get out of your mind. There are many ways in which you can achieve this, you only need to pick one or two, depending on how you feel. What are your favourite activities to perform? Do you like to read? Run? Learn? Swim? A real beneficial way of getting out of your mind is through doing some sort of physical activity, this will get you into what some people call "The Zone" and help you find REAL solutions which come from a place beyong your analytical mind. Like I said, you can also read, paint, draw, jog, even study! Whatever gets you out of your normal path of thinking and takes you into being. Also, ask for guidance from a 'higher source'. You can call this God, Higher Self, Love, anything you like. Ask for this guidance and allow yourself to feel you being guided and then take steps which make you feel good. Use your intuition and above all, take action and try not to think as much! This will only make things much worst. If you need further advice, please contact me again. I am always here to help and I can give you further guidance. Like I said, the best advice I can give you is to stop thinking so much and to start doing! There is a solution, but right now your mind can not perceive of it properly. Keep hope and have faith in yourself.
Love and light,
Amber
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theres this guy that im totally in.hes diferent than the boys ive been with before,we have lots of stuff in comment and he has the best sence of humor.but i tend to fall for guys very fast and doesnt work out that great usually,but he doesnt even know im into him and i really dont want to be rejected,so what the hell should i do? and im 15 and were in one grade from 2 weeks,he doesnt know much about me though,im quite closed,not shy though,im very direct with people except when it comes to boys :/ and hes not shy,hes quite confident(one of the reasons i like him) i dont know how to bond with him more,we had a couple of eye contact (you know thosee eye contacts :) aaah dunno what to do :/ fuck (link)
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you should just go up and talk to him! everyone's only human and chances are that he;s thought about talking to you as well. just start on the simple topics like asking him what he's into and then go from there.. there are no wrong ways to converse, just make sure you actually listen to what he is saying and you'll have no problem! people can tell when you're actually listening to them and they really enjoy when they feel they are being listened to :). other than that just take a deep breath and relax, focus on just being yourself and having fun.
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how your family have impact on you (link)
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we are all affect to each other in various ways. your family can have a huge impact on everything from your over-all mental health to your physical health. it's important to try and establish a healthy relationship with your family otherwise it could lead to other emotional issues going on in other various parts of your life. everything in life is linked to each other in some way and family plays a very large role in that web of inter-connections.
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If a person gets their natural hair blown out will it go back to being curl (link)
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yes! it will go back to curly after you have washed it with water..
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Okay so I'm a teenager and I can't do anything. I'm always stuck inside with nothing to do and no one to see. The only time I can is if my mom can be home and drive me somewhere..which is never cause she's always working. So idk what to do! I haven't hung out or really done anything since June. I used to sneak out during the day but then I got caught and grounded and I've been thinking bout doing it again but I think I'll be too nervous and scared to. And idk what I'd do anyway. Just please help I'm so bored and I just wanna enjoy these last few years of my childhood. How do I make things fun and interesting and crazy? (not anything illegal) and don't say I should wait till im an adult or to read or watch tv cause ive been doing that and im tired of it so yeah! Thanks and sorry for this being so long! (link)
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wow.. it seems like you're in a rut. why are you not doing these things that would make you happy during the day? is it because of your parents? if so, you need to sit down and have a serious talk with them and let them know that you want to do more things and enjoy yourself because that would make you happy. if they don't understand, then i'm sorry to say this but you need to start living life for you and do what you want anyways (provided that it does not cause any harm to anyone else around you). as for getting inspired on doing things.. find your passion! try photography, exercising, cooking/baking, scrapbooking, painting, drawing, writing poetry, talking with friends, going out to coffee with friends, writing stories, watching youtube videos/documentaries online, trying yoga or dancing, listening to music, there are plenty of things to do! what i suggest is just DOING IT. try one thing and then that one thing will lead you to have inspiration for trying the next thing. you have to take it step by step though, and constantly try and push yourself out of your comfort zone. day by day, things will get better, i wish you the best of luck
amber
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I met my friend back about 2 months ago when she first moved into the apartment complex. This woman is 52 and lives alone. I live across the hall from her so I would visit often. We both gradually started getting into refurbishing our old furniture, shopping together and hanging out. We seemed to of got along very well. (I am 27) suddenly, yesterday I come home from my mothers to find all my board games I gave too her grandson in front of my door with a note that read already have thanks anyway then to find out she removed me from Facebook and now walks by me like I don't exist?. I don't know what the hell too think. I went out of my way to help her many times. I even texted and called her bit no answer. I am not good with confrontation in person...should I move on or what? (link)
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hm.. well, that seems really confusing and you never know why she may be doing this? make an effort to communicate with her, maybe leave her a not asking what is wrong.. you need to know what is wrong to be able to get this off your mind though, that is extremely odd behavior from what you have told accounted in your question.. good luck
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Gosh. She's such a bitch. I'm a 16 year old college student. They say "forgive those who wrong you and be nice to them.". Well yes, that's what I did. End result? Loads of insults and mockery. I try to be nice to her and she doesn't appreciate. I wasn't in the wrong in the first place, but it was her who thought everything she did was right and that everyone has to do things her way. She's getting on my nerves and I don't know what to do. She keeps judging me and stealing my friends away.>:( Oh dear. Help. Thanksss. (link)
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just ignore her as best as possible, and if she keeps trying to bug you then you need to stand up for yourself and try something else. ask your parents or other authority figures for help, maybe even a friend. they can help you and will know what to do
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Never even met eachother.
My mum kind of told me about this girl, Hannah. She works with her. She is gay (hannah) plays football - like me.
And i have fallen for her so bad and we havent even met. Spoken or anything. Is it lust? I dont think so. I don't think about us doing any sexual stuff. I just think about her sososoo much.
She knows i exsist and has asked to meet me.
I am not even gay - i have a boyfriend.
But i have fallen for her - How?
What do i do? I need to talk to her - but i can't.
Help me? (link)
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aw, this is beautiful! you have to just try and take the chance of talking to her and see what happens, who knows what will!
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I went through a divorce, lost my house and family, bankruptcy and lost my job all within the last year. I have been diagnosed with clinical depression. I am suicidal most days but haven't attempted yet. What do I do? I have been through lots of therapy also. I don't really want to die, just want pain to stop. Help me please. (link)
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you need to find your passion and reinvent your life. stop thinking, start meditating. the answers will come to you through outside sources
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jerkin of isnt doing me any good. I cant get a girl to bang me and, porn and jerkin off isnt good enough. What the hell do i do? Btw, im in 8th grade. (link)
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work on yourself and start getting confident.. maybe start working out and trying to find a girl friend. a lot of girls want a boyfriend! try and cut down on the porn day by day
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The subject says it all. We have a good relationship otherwise and I do not wish to make a devisive issue out of it, but what is a Christion man to do in this case? (link)
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why will she not have sex with you anymore? you definitely need to ask her this and speak with her about this subject. just be kind and understanding with her, it may just be a fear of her own and she may be going through something right now that she does not understand herself. communication is key! talk to her, none of us will know what she really feels and why she is acting this way. it may end up making your relationship stronger.
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we got together when i was 15(yes 15,we were together for 3 yrs,got married and divorced after 9mths.stayed divorced for 18 mths,i did my thing,he did his,but he always wanted me back it was me that said no,i did terrible things but he accepted it and now 15 yrs later hes bringing it up,& i dont remember alot of the things that happened back then,& he keeps insisting i just dont want to tell him.plz give me some advice (link)
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oh jees, why is he bringing up something that is so deep in your past? seems like there is some hidden anger or emotions that have been unresolved for a very long time.. he has been very generous with you though, it seems. so try and send him the love back.. let him express why he feels hurt and angry and try and explain to him why you did the things you did and let him know that you appreciate him for putting up with you through all those hard times! sounds like a great guy, he just needs a little emotional support from his lovely wife!
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Hello Advicinators. I am a 13 year old female living in the midwest region of the USA. I'm bullied quite frequently at school, and I want to stop going to tis school for that reason. I've never gone to another school but I feel that it may be better. When I was 11 I started cutting myself to deal with everything. My parents are recently divorced, my mom does drugs and so does my grandma, and my dad can be lazy so I always have to take care of my younger sister, who is 11.
I am very unhappy with my life. I feel ugly and fat, worthless, used, scarred, and that i do not deserve the very oxygen that I am breathing. I have tried some medications but they don't seem to work very well. In short, I'm done. I can't fix me. I've can't stop cutting. I've lost all hope. I think about suicide constantly. I tried twice before. The first time I cut was 1, the second I took sleeping pills slit my wrists in the bath. I am seeing a phycaiatrist. I hate her. I feel as if people only put up with me to get what they need. Help me know why I am like this. I want to stop tis but I don't have anyone to talk to. Don't just say Oh your beautiful and you shouldn't kill yourself (link)
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oh dear.. love, it seems like you're in a really rough place right now. the only one that can change things though, is you! no matter how many times other people may try and tell you otherwise, you are the one in the end who needs to tell yourself and believe that you are beautiful and that you can make it through this. be strong for yourself! become your own guardian angel.. be the hero of your story, that's what i did when i was in a very rough place just like yourself. you will make it through this, have you ever heard of the law of attraction or the movie "the secret"? it is all based on positive thinking! seems like you need a bit of that in your life cause you're going through some tough times!
love and light
amber
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So me and my boyfriend had sex he had a condom on when we first started doing it but after words he kept saying I need to take a shower and make sure I clean out down there I keep asking why and he just said that he may cummed touched me with it ... I had gotten my pireod the next day so I think I'm in the clear am I??? Still confused because a few days later he had gotten mad at me and said he took the condom off and cummed in me but I got my period!!!... I can't be pregnant right???.... I need some guidance (link)
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well, it seems unlikely but you should always take a pregnancy change just in case! you need to give yourself peace of mind about it and the only real way of telling is by taking a test and seeing for yourself! wishing you the best of luck, do it asap so you can get your mind off of it :)
amber
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