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I truly loved a girl name preethi she lives in Coimbatore im Arun maheedhar in same area because of her situation and completion of her parents she left me we both doin masters in Coimbatore the day of her proposal is Nov 8 th around 7.30 in the evening then our life was awesome for few days like upto Dec 30 th the same year 2013 I was last seen her at Dec 30 th 2013 evening I dropped her in a market place and I left with tears and my tears still not stopped today april 6th 1.14 am I was feeling very sad abt the memories I tried to erase her memories but I can't I tried many things but only fail remains in love in carrer in life only her memories left with me now I want to die with that same memory but I don't want any resurrection after this life it's enough I'm now not fit for my life. Her birthday is April 9th so on that day I pray for her life for last time and I want to die with those memories please tell a way for a quick painless death
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Absolutely not. Suicide is stupid and you're being selfish for even thinking about it.
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"It's better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all,"
I'm sorry, for your loss. Your story is tragic but very beautiful. Reading your letter brought a tear to my eye. Love is a wonderful thing and your lucky you were able to experience it. Don't kill your self. Preethi would want you to live. Love never seems to last long enough for any of us. Believe me your not alone.
I'm sure you have beautiful memories of your time together. I'm sure you don't want to erase something so beautiful, right? Life has shown you love and that is an amazing thing. I'm sorry you were not able to keep it. But some people live their whole lives never even experiencing it. Some people will never know what love feels like.
I know your feeling a lot of pain right now. I wish i could make it go away. Hang in there and try to be strong. You are fit for your life. Life has a lot more love to give you but, you must stay open to it. You have to keep believing.
Now that you have felt love you must know that the world has beautiful secrets in it, right? You seem like a very beautiful and deep feeling person. The world could use more like you. Please don't give up on love. People like you and I were born to make the world a more beautiful place. Tragedy hurts but it is a valid and beautiful part of the human experience.
Congratulations of having felt love. <3
I'm sending you warmth and happiness :)
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I can't give you any advice about suicide or death, unfortunately, except to keep living! I've been to the darkest depths of the mind and have considered death several times, but somehow I always find something to live for. Please do not do anything drastic, and if you need to talk to someone who understands and will listen, please call the Suicide Hotline at 85265 65656
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i have been there done that and death is not the answer, there is away around this, if you really want to be with her go find her and fight to be with her again. or get a notepad/journal - write down how you feel, carry it with you and every time you feel down about this write it down, it really does help as it gets it out of your system, rather then be sad about the memories use the happy ones to drive you forward to either find her again or to move on and find someone else u can be happy with.
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I refuse to give anyone advice on how they can kill themselves. Trust me when I say this, suicide is never worth it.
I suggest that you seek counseling to recover from your problem, since this is probably not the only girl who will ever break your heart. A few resources that you can connect with, include:
The Lifeline Foundation (91 33 2474 4704)
AASRA (91 22 2754 6669)
MAIYTREYI (91 413 339999)
ROSHNI (91 40 7904646)
Saath (91 79 2630 5544)
SNEHA (91 0 44 2464 0050)
The Samaritans Sahara (91 22 2307 3451)
Sumaitri (sumaitri.org)
MAITHRI (91 239 6272)
I will tell you that when I broke up with my first love, I could not stop crying and it felt like I would never get over him but I did. The way that he broke m heart was completely awful and it took me a long time to get over it, and I have. The two of us are now best friends and he regrets hurting me.
Now I have been with my boyfriend for three years who I plan to marry and begin a future with one day. I love my life right now, and I promise you that you will find yourself in a situation one day. When you find the right woman she will give you the world and will never leave with you a broke heart. You have so much going for you, you're getting your masters degree, killing yourself is definitely not the answer.
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Im sorry for the way you feel...I thought about raking my own life once.i can't tell you how to hurt yourself, but I can tell you that your life is so priceless and that you gotta be strong. Your life is worth living.it doesn't seem like you cant carry on but you have to take it one day at a time .
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Arun, there is no need for a "quick and painless death". Sadly, that will get you no where. You will only return back to life in some way or another and run into the same problems again. However, know that that does not mean that there is no point to life, and that there can not be joy and love again! Joy and happiness and love are your birthright, only your mind is what can prevent you from seeing this. However, don't worry or beat yourself up over this, so many people get themselves in these situations and feel like this every day! You are loved, in many ways which you can not 'see' right now and things are always happening in your favour. It sent you to me, who knows exactly what to say at this point because I have been in your exact same shoes numerous amount of time. You have to be able to change your mindset, this is the first step out of your misery because it is your mind which is causing you to feel certain emotions. You have to find a way to gain a proper solution which will help you out of this. Right now your mind keeps playing the same situations over and over again, and the only way out of this, like I said is to get out of your mind. There are many ways in which you can achieve this, you only need to pick one or two, depending on how you feel. What are your favourite activities to perform? Do you like to read? Run? Learn? Swim? A real beneficial way of getting out of your mind is through doing some sort of physical activity, this will get you into what some people call "The Zone" and help you find REAL solutions which come from a place beyong your analytical mind. Like I said, you can also read, paint, draw, jog, even study! Whatever gets you out of your normal path of thinking and takes you into being. Also, ask for guidance from a 'higher source'. You can call this God, Higher Self, Love, anything you like. Ask for this guidance and allow yourself to feel you being guided and then take steps which make you feel good. Use your intuition and above all, take action and try not to think as much! This will only make things much worst. If you need further advice, please contact me again. I am always here to help and I can give you further guidance. Like I said, the best advice I can give you is to stop thinking so much and to start doing! There is a solution, but right now your mind can not perceive of it properly. Keep hope and have faith in yourself.
Love and light,
Amber
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NO! You should NOT resort to killing yourself! I refuse to give you advice on painless death. Losing someone you love is hard and I have no idea what your going through. But you have to think about what this would do to the people you leave behind!! Imagine what she would think. She would never forgive yourself! Use the memories of her to keeping on living. You never know you might be reunited again! If you truly love her like you say you would NEVER think about doing this, this is not a last act of love, your being selfish and taking the easy way out. She would want to you live your life. Death IS NOT A SOLUTION!
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Sir.....first off it's never wise to kill yourself over a lady. We have all experienced what you are going through. I'll share a story of mine with you. I fell in love with a man while I was in the military. We loved each other very much. We were always together. He got me pregnant. At first everything was ok. I was excited to start a family with this man I deeply deeply loved. One day he tells me he doesn't want the baby, a family, anything to do with me and to get rid of it. Long story short I have no children but we are friends to this day. And it took a lot of therapy for me to deal with everything and a lot of time me and him took to apologize and forgive each other. People are complex creatures. We have so many emotions going at one time and it gets very overwhelming. And love is a very complicated thing. But don't end your life because of this one situation. Everything happens for a reason. One thing that has always stuck with me is that god..or whomever you believe in...is testing you when he throws hardships your way. You want to give up at the first bump? Or do you want to concur the trial and learn from it and come out a better stronger person? You focus on what you need to to finish school, in school correct? You think she feels the same or do you think she's moved on with her life?! Toughen up !
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I don't think that death is the right answer for your problem, perhaps writing a book with all the memories that you have of her could act as a form of closure for you and help you cope with your feeling of loss, I have no experience if this kind of pain and I know that it is very difficult for you but the best thing to do is keep on fighting treasure those memories you have of her because they are so precious and if you die they will be lost forever. Remember that you are not alone, there are people who have been through the same thing as you and trained professionals who can help with your feeling of loss. If I were you I would try and book counselling sessions or you can keep messaging me, I don't mind helping you.
I wish you the best and hope you can pull through this. If you do write that book about your memoirs then I look forward to reading it. Stay strong and good luck xx
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