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Unable to Wean Away
I love my family very much, but for some readon, I am unable to stay away from my grandmother. Nothing bad is going on at home, it's just that I can't stay away from her. Is there something wrong with me?
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Grandparents and grandchildren sometimes enjoy a special bond. If you are one of those grandchildren that have a special bond with your grandmother you are one of the lucky ones. I had a special bond with my grandfather who unfortunately passed away while I was still in my teens and I was devastated by the loss.
Unless grandma has asked you to stay way or your parents have asked you to stay away for reasons that are not obvious in your writing. Then enjoy the time you have with your grandmother. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you or the relationship you have with your grandmother.
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Has anyone asked you to stay away from her, or asked you to spend less time there?
If you are drawn to spend time with grandma, thats a good thing and there is nothing wrong with it. If grandma is happy seeing you often then theres no problem. If she asked for a break to have some time to herself, give her that. Otherwise enjoy it. Grandma won't be around forever.
It may be that you both have similar personalities or things in common. Its natural that we are drawn to people who compliment our personality.
There may be some needs that subconsciously are being met in you that you're not even aware of. Maybe she is a bit more easy going and at peace than your family due to having a different set of circumstances at this point in life to deal with than your parents.
There's something reassuring about someone who has lived longer, has more life experience and wisdom, is in no hurry, easy going, relaxed and content, knows what they want, etc. It is very calming to be around someone like that. While you spend this time with her, ask her to share stories of when she was young. Our long term memories are usually better than short term and she probably remembers well and would be tickled pink to share them with you if you haven't already done this. You might also think about capturing her stories on tape to have for the future when she is no longer around. Or if you like to write, put what she shares and your experiences with her into a journal you keep in save that file on line. Someday, you may have a book that could be printed up for all the family to remember her by.
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Forgive me, but I guess I'm not seeing the problem exactly. I feel like it is perfectly normal if you want to spend lots of time with your grandmother. My best friend would spend time with his grandmother every single day and when she passed away it comforted him knowing that he got to spend as much time with her as he did. If the time you share with your grandmother makes you both happy, then why is it bad? I envy that you get to spend so much time with your grandmother. I keep in touch with mine, however she lives too far for me to visit like many people can. I would honestly cherish the time you share with those you love and not worry about if something is wrong with you :)
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