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I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for years, until his family moved to Alabama. I chose to stay behind to take care of my grandparents. They raised me, I feel I owe them. Now Nick's back and pushing me to choose him over family again.

How do I tell him that while I do love him, I would be unhappy living far away from my family?

Unfortunately this will always be a dealbreaker for you. Let me ask you a question. Let's say you marry boy that's local and you set up housekeeping and a year or two down the road while your grandparents are still alive he's offered a job that's fantastic it offers him everything he wants and will put the two of you on easy street. There's only one problem you have to move cross country. What are you going to do then?You're married are you going to force him to give up that fantastic job? Or are you going to split up and have him live on one coast and you live where you are to take care of your grandparents.

I suggest you talk with your grandparents. See what they want maybe they don't want you hanging around anymore. Are they in good health do they need you to take care of him? Ask them then decide what the right thing for you to do is.

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1. The science club for boys in some town does robotics and engineering, girls science club in the town doesn't
2. In my school while boys do a wrestling unit us girls do a yoga unit
3. Dad's let their sons date whenever whoever but with girls,“you can't date anybody!!!!"
4. I've been in girls scouts, the only thing we really do is crafts and sell cookies, we hike once a year; my friend's brother is in boy scouts, they camp for weeks at a time, go places, etc
5. Their is no girl's football team
6. No world cup for women's soccer, and if their is it's not as popular and celebrated.
In other countries it's even worse. I'm gonna try and avoid violent ones:
1. In Arabiah women can't drive
2. In LOTS of places women can't be educated/ vote
3. There is a charity in Afghanistan where they have children perform acts an play games away from their war infested home,in some areas girls can't join
4. India and the whole child marriage thing
5. Men kidnap girls and have men pay to “do" them
And much more. Why?

Whoever comes up with the answer to your question will probably win the Nobel Prize for once we have an answer we will find a solution.

In some areas of the world it is this way because this is how the religion is interpreted. The Muslim religion is very strict on this. The Jewish Religion has three different sects The Orthodox religion is very strict about the separation of women and men. The other two not so much. Not being a student of any of the recognized religions I cannot give you an answer other than this is the interpretation men have derived.

As for everything else change came about because women raised their voice in this country and demanded change. If you want the things you named then you have to rise up and let the powers that be know so., That takes a great many voices so gather support and let be known. You must have the many speaking as one voice.

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Im not a virgin but when my boyfriend was fingering me & blood came out. My cherry has been poped already, & its not my period. He was going a little rough through. What is this blood than??

Popping your Cherry is an improper term used to express the loss of the HYMEN for women. Unless you have had your vagina penetrated by a boys penis. By today's definition you are still a virgin regardless of whether your HYMEN is in tact.

We are not doctors so we can not give you a diagnoses. Though two causes I know of for bleeding after being fingered are:

1. Your Hyman is only partially torn and when being fingered it is torn some more causing some bleeding.

2. The person fingering you has scratched you internally and this is the cause of the bleeding. IF you are going to let someone finger you make sure their fingernails are well trimmed and well cared for so as not to injure you.

If the bleeding does not stop after a day or two you may want to see a doctor. If you are over 14 a Federal law called HIPPA allows for you to do so without parental knowledge or permission. Parents cannot be told why you sought medical advice for any question or treatment relating to your reproductive system.

If you wish see a doctor or to visit any woman's clinic or planned parenthood center and you are over 14 you should be allowed to carry your health insurance card. This is all you will need to be treated by any doctor other than the doctors you usually visit. The women's clinics will most likely see you at no charge if you can't pay and don't have an insurance card.


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bleeding after sex is it normal?.. or can that be a sign of being pregnanat

Bleeding after sex is not a sign of being pregnant. If you were a virgin with your Hymen in place the bleeding could be normal. If your Hyman was not in place, meaning it was ruptured by other means such as Tampon usage or fingering, then the bleeding may not be normal.

Since none of us are doctors and we cannot examine you over the web in any case. It is best if the bleeding has not stopped,is not your period, by the third day that you see a doctor. If you are over 14 a Federal law called HIPPA allows for you to do so without parental knowledge or permission. Parents cannot be told why you sought medical advice for any question or treatment relating to your reproductive system.

You may see any doctor you wish to or visit any woman's clinic or planned parenthood center. If you are over 14 you should be allowed to carry your health insurance card. This is all you will need to be treated by any doctor other than the doctors you usually visit. The women's clinics will most likely see you at no charge if you can't pay and don't have an insurance card.

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I am 15 years old and I might be bi. I never had sexual intercourse with a girl so i cant label myself as 'bisexual' yet. I dont know if its a ''phase'' but i do know that I am equally attracted to guys and girls. So, i have gone out with boys in the past but i have never kissed a girl. I think about it sometimes, and i really wanna kiss one but i dont know how to find one. I have no experience in kissing girls, or finding a lesbian or a bisexual girl etc. Another problem is im not the kind of girl that will go to partiess every weekend. I love staying at home but i will go out if i feel like it..
How will i find a girl who likes girls? How will i know if she is actually bisexual or lesbian? What should i do??

I believe I answered this question for you yesterday. The same answer still holds true. This is not a phase and at best I would say you may be bi-curious something that is completely normal for someone your age.

Yesterdays response to you

I do not believe you are Bi, if anything you MIGHT be bi-curious which is normal for people, both boys and girls, at your age. At your age with puberty in full swing this is the time for sexual experimentation. It is normal to want to know what it is like to be with someone of the same sex. Usually this happens with best friends. Usually the sexual experimentation takes the form of masturbation. Girls fingering each other and maybe oral sex. Guys giving each other HJ's and maybe oral sex.

One reason it is normal is it is available and parents do not question two people of the same sex in a room together with the door closed. Sleepovers are a time when this happen after the parents are also in bed.

Second: Label's; do not be so fast to stick a label on your self it will only get you hurt at this age. Your friends will not understand and you will be harassed for this type of labeling. As I did above you are not bi for the main reason that you have not experienced any type of sexual relation. Dating a boy and kissing him is far different than having sex. The same is true with kissing a girl; kissing is a prelude to sex. Being interested in or attracted to someone of the same sex does not make you bi not. until you actually experience sex with a same sex person should you even consider being bi or bi curious.

Now there is nothing wrong with being bi or bi-curious, gay or lesbian. The problem today is labeling and the harm it can do, your age and sexual inexperience. Sex is a wonderful thing no matter how your sexual orientation turns out. This is the time when you learn about who you are sexually. No it is not the time you have intercourse. There are other ways to enjoy a relationship with boys or girls without intercourse and explore your sexuality at the same time. This is what you should be doing not labeling yourself. Please don't do that. Just relax and give yourself time to learn and enjoy yourself.


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Im worried my father is 57 abd he has been pooping blood for a while off and on he wont go to doc.last week my mom sad he passed alot of blood and can out white as a ghost please help

Bright red blood does not mean he has cancer. Most of the time the reason for bright red blood means he my have a hemorrhoid that breaks when he passes stool or an anal fissure which is a tear in the anal tract.

Since the toilet bowl has water in it a tablespoon of blood looks like a lot more then it is and it can be scary. This not to say he should not see a doctor. He should if for no other reason but to find out the cause of the bleeding. For he could have an ulcer as well which does require immediate medical treatment.

If he did have something in his colon the blood would be in his stool making his stool dark black. This would be an indication of something wrong further up the colon requiring a colonoscopy.

Should it be a hemorrhoid or and anal fissure he can discuss with his doctor alternatives to surgery such as stool softeners and high fiber diet so soften his stool so as not to rupture the hemorrhoid or fissure.

Try educating your father so he knows that what is in play here is not always cancer and sticking his head in the sand is not going to make things better. The more he knows the better he can deal with it and on his own terms.

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I'm 16 and I've had a thing with a guy that's 8 years older than me, since I was 14. He's had the same girlfriend since we started. They have two kids together. He tells her all the time that he doesn't want to be with her though and he tells everyone close to him, including her and his own mother, that he's leaving her when I turn 18, to be with me, since it's technically illegal with me still being a minor. I've known him my whole life, and he's stuck to the same thing since we started this crazy thing. Do you think he'll really leave her to be with me? And if it affects anything, the kids aren't really his, but he raises them.

Given the age difference between you the "Knowing him all my life" is not significant as for much of this time you were a toddler growing into a child then a teenager. This does not equate to a relationship of the type I think you are looking for.

What is evident is he is using one or both of you. If he is not having sex with, which he should not be as it would make him a child molester. Then he is using the other women for sex and you as an excuse for not getting married to her.

I have my doubts he will marry either of you. In two years when you are of age he may want to take your relationship to the next level and have sex with you. Marriage though is something I do not see in the future for him with either one of you.

What I see at the moment is you being an enabling force in his ability to stay single and not marry the other women. There is really little you can do about this as she can provide what you legally cannot. What you can do is tell him that as long as he is living with this woman you do not is to see him or talk to him any longer and let it be known you two are no longer friends so it can get back to the other women. Then he does not have you as an excuse as to why he won't marry her. At that point his true colors will come out.

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Ok so im kinda very worried, well have been for about a week or two. So im 14 and i rhink i might be pregnant, but the problem is im still a virgin. I know its probably not posble but i read online on a different medical website its possible for sperm to be on a toilet seat and transfered that way and like 2-3 other possible answers. Im showing all the possible signs of early pregnancy and im pretty late on my period. I dont want to tell my parents yet because it might just be something else or nothing and i dont want to scare them so im seeking medical advice before i ask to take a pregnancy test.

I'll add my voice to the others; YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT. YOU CANNOT GET PREGNANT OF A TOILET SEAT. That is what is called an old wives tale mean to scare you. Sperm does not live long outside the body as it needs to be at body temperature. This is why for inve-tro fertilization the specimen has to be taken at the lab and the women's egg must be ready for immediate fertilization.

At your age your period can become very irregular for many reasons due to puberty. Also stress such as worry about being pregnant will cause your period to be late or missed altogether. As you get older and the stress of life build you can expect to be late or miss more periods.

Your overall health can cause you to miss periods. Health issues such as being underweight can cause your periods to cease altogether. If you have been on an antibiotic medication your period can be late or missed. These are things that unfortunately are not covered in health class or sex Ed.

What I suggest is you do talk with mom as there are also many other reasons for missing your period. Some may require a trip to the gynecologist for a checkup. Mom will know if that is needed. Your period has nothing to do with sex and is a normal function of a woman's body. Your body now functions just as you moms does and you should not be embarrassed to discuss any problems with her concerning your period.

Since logical conclusions for a parent to jump to if you start a conversation with, "Mom my period is late;" Is that your are pregnant. You can avoid that by saying; "Mom I'm a virgin and I have a problem with my period I need to talk to you about." Starting this way should keep mom from going ballistic and allowing for a quiet conversation. It is all in how you deliver a message as to how a person responds.




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Hi,
My name is Jacob. I recently ran into some difficult times. I left my wife (who was unfaithful) and we are now divorced. I lost a lot of my stuff, but I am now getting back on my feet. I am 30 yr old and live with my parents. But I have a great job! Just bought a 2012 hybrid. But I do not have a girlfriend. I really would like one, but I do not go out. I don't have time. I don't do the online dating thing either. How can I meet a girl. There are a few ladies I wouldn't mind asking out for coffee or dinner, but they work at the gas station or the barber shop. Would that be weird?
Help.
Thanks

Jacob

It is not weird to ask out someone who works at someplace you shop or at a business you frequent. My son and I were having lunch together one afternoon. Our server was cute and we could tell she was interested in him so he asked her out. She told him to call her and put her phone number on the back of our check. He put his on the back of the receipt.

Online dating sites are also a good way to meet women. There are many that are free. What is nice about these sites is you are matched with someone who is compatible and in the narrative section of your posting you can say why your recently divorced. Why you might be looking for friendship and not a relationship. There are others out there who are not looking for relationships which takes a lot of strain off the first meeting.

I don't know if you are religious and if you are looking for a woman of your religion or not but some religions run a free online match site. Both the Catholics and the Jewish religions have online sites that I know of. Any of these dating sites are a good non threatening way to get back in the game as you get to meet the person over the Internet first through an exchange of emails then by phone.

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19, male. So over the past few months I've changed my perspective on many things. A few months ago I would have never behaved how I am now. It just seems like everything around me is fake. I've been planning on bringing an escort to my house as soon as my visiting family guests leave. I don't see the point in having a normal relationship at my age. I don't have the time for it anyway. My last relationship ended because I was always at work. Every time I see couples, they seem so fake and generic. Like everyone follows a made up standard of how a relationship should be. To add to it, I no longer see the point in being all emotional. Once you fall for it, if anything goes wrong, you get hurt. I let that happen to me before. I ended up ruining a friendship and slowing down my own progress with my life goal endeavours. So why should I put myself in that situation again? I'll actually save money and time by seeing escorts. No one gets hurt and I help the economy, along with gaining experience. A few months ago I would have disagreed with myself. I just don't want my friends and family to find out.Ironically, a lot of people think highly of me. But they're not going to understand, everyone's view on what's right and whats wrong is different. I bet if there were a guaranteed no judgment setting where nobody could judge them , they'd do things they would never do now , cause there'd be nobody around to tell them they're wrong. And I know the risks of STD's. The dilemma there is that someone you love and trust can give you one too. So there's no way to be completely safe from it. I honestly see more pros than cons, the cons are mostly universal in the fact that they can be found in normal relationships anyway. But the pros seem to heavily outweigh the cons, I get to stay working, I could focus on my goals, I get what I want, and I save time and money.How am I wrong for this??And I know it's selfish,but you need to be selfish to succeed, I'm not living and working for other people so. Just can't let my family and friends know.

Though somewhat understandable given the circumstance written you are way so young to have the outlook on life that you have. While it appears you have a great work ethic I am left wondering why with such a work ethic you are not in college Such a strong work ethic backed by a college degree will go far and may just change your outlook on life.

As for hiring Escorts; unless you live in Nevada it is illegal and then only in one of the legal brothels for which you must be 21. They say prostitution is a victimless crime, but is it. Many of the girls in it are victims controlled by pimps who take their money and beat them when they don't produce enough. High price call girls are not all that different. It is called the oldest profession for a reason as it is a profession of last resort for those that practice it. A means to an end that never comes. Those that use these services are contributing to those reasons and problems.

In many states the Johns are now targeted and prosecuted by police. Something to think about, one hours pleasure can do you a lifetime of harm and I am not talking about and STD. A police record for any type of sexual offence. which this would be, would disqualify you for any job requiring a security clearance and some bonding companies could refuse to offer a bond for jobs that require bonding. Something to think about.

I also agree you should take some time off from dating. Give yourself some time to heal and put things in their proper perspective, Take time to look at your goals and see how a college education may enhance those goals. If money is an issue start by attending your local community college where the courses are less expensive. You can complete your degree online. It will take longer, it will be worth it and with your work ethic I see no reason why you will not be successful.

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I am 15 years old and im bi. I am 100% sure and it's not a ''phase''. I am equally attracted to guys and girls. So, i have gone out with boys in the past but i have never kissed a girl. I think about it sometimes, and i really wanna kiss one but i dont know how to find one. I have no experience in kissing girls, or finding a lesbian or a bisexual girl etc. Another problem is im not the kind of girl that will go to partiess every weekend. I love staying at home but i will go out if i feel like it..
How will i find a girl who likes girls? How will i know if she is actually bisexual or lesbian? What should i do??

Two things.

First: I do not believe you are Bi, if anything you MIGHT be bi-curious which is normal for people, both boys and girls, at your age. At your age with puberty in full swing this is the time for sexual experimentation. It is normal to want to know what it is like to be with someone of the same sex. Usually this happens with best friends. Usually the sexual experimentation takes the form of masturbation. Girls fingering each other and maybe oral sex. Guys giving each other HJ's and maybe oral sex.

One reason it is normal is it is available and parents do not question two people of the same sex in a room together with the door closed. Sleepovers are a time when this happen after the parents are also in bed.

Second: Label's; do not be so fast to stick a label on your self it will only get you hurt at this age. Your friends will not understand and you will be harassed for this type of labeling. As I did above you are not bi for the main reason that you have not experienced any type of sexual relation. Dating a boy and kissing him is far different than having sex. The same is true with kissing a girl; kissing is a prelude to sex. Being interested in or attracted to someone of the same sex does not make you bi not. until you actually experience sex with a same sex person should you even consider being bi or bi curious.

Now there is nothing wrong with being bi or bi-curious, gay or lesbian. The problem today is labeling and the harm it can do, your age and sexual inexperience. Sex is a wonderful thing no matter how your sexual orientation turns out. This is the time when you learn about who you are sexually. No it is not the time you have intercourse. There are other ways to enjoy a relationship with boys or girls without intercourse and explore your sexuality at the same time. This is what you should be doing not labeling yourself. Please don't do that. Just relax and give yourself time to learn and enjoy yourself.

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One of my friends self harms, I am the only one who knows about it. I too used to self harm so I know how hard it is. I want to be there for her but she annoys me so much. She is clingy and she always insults me. The worst thing is she guilt trips me into everything she wants me to do saying "do my homework or I will cut myself and it will be your fault" or "if you don't give me the money I will cut myself and we don't want that". I tried to stand up for myself but she just guilt tripped me in to shutting up. I know she is a toxic person but I feel guilty if I cut her out of my life, what shall I do? I am only 14 and I can't handle it, I just want to focus on getting my GCSES please help.

In a manner of speaking you are enabling her cutting by allowing her to use the threat of self harm to control you. This is not good for you or her. The only thing you can do is stop enabling her.

What you should do is tell your parents what is happening and let them go to her parents take care of her. What she needs is counseling. Both for the cutting and using it to control people. Should your parents tell you not to be her friend that they do not want to be involved. Then go to a trusted teacher or your school principal take care of this. Once informed of something like this by law they must act for the safety and welfare of the student.

By going to your parents or teacher you are not informing on her. You may be just saving her life. Cutting is dangerous. Cutting in the wrong place or too deep and a person can bleed out before help can arrive.

If she gets made at you for say anything just say to her; "I hope it is a long hatred for I rather you be mad at me then I attend your funeral." If she gets the proper help one day she will come to you and thank you.

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how much cum do you need to get pg

Don't they tell you about this in Sex Ed any more?

It is not the volume of sperm that is needed to make you pregnant as it takes only one sperm to make you pregnant. What the volume of sperm ejaculated does is insures enough sperm survive the trip from the vagina to the fallopian tube to meet up with the egg.

One drop of ejaculate has thousands of sperm in it, more than enough, if all are healthy, to make the journey. A full ejaculation has millions of sperm in it and thousands of sperm will end up in the fallopian tube. The first to make it to the egg and penetrate the egg wins the race an you are then pregnant if all else goes right.

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For us to lose virginity through fingering does our finger has to go really deep
is it possible that you bleed while rubbing your pussy? And if you do bleed while rubbing what does that mean?please tell I'm really worried

First: You do not lose your virginity through fingering not by today's definition of virginity. By today's definition of virginity one loses their virginity when a penis penetrates a vagina. Whichever partner is a virgin prior to penetration they are no longer a virgin once penetration happens.

At one time several generations ago for a women it was the tearing of her Hymen that meant she was no longer a virgin and it was expected she would be a virgin on her wedding night. In the really old days the wedding night was spent at the girls parents house and it was expected that there would be blood on the sheets. In the morning mom would hang the sheets out the bedroom window to show the neighbors that indeed her daughter was pure when she married.

Today women are more athletic and more experimental with sex. It is very possible that when she does lose her virginity that through exercise, dance or sexual experimentation such as fingering she will have already lost or torn her Hyman. For this reason the definition of virgins has changed to what I first wrote.

Now it is possible to bleed while fingering yourself or being fingered by someone else. You could tear or scratch your Hyman causing you to bleed or if you or your partner have long fingernails you may cut an inner wall of your vagina causing some bleeding.

Now if you are really penetrating yourself or being penetrated deeply by someone it might be possible that you injured your womb. If the bleeding does not stop on its own you should see a gynecologist for help, especially if you want to have children in later life.

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Hi all, I'm looking for a book on sexual pleasure/technique that is very aware/sensitive to issues of consent, age, and gender. I was in a relationship for a very long time and feel sort of...out of the loop? Thanks for any help!

I'm not sure exactly what you are looking for so I am not going to make a specific recommendation. I first used a search engine typing in your question title. This did not return anything useful. Then I typed in SEX IN THE MODERN AGE. This returned a host of titles with subject matter close to what I believe you are looking for. Try typing in to what ever search engine you use "SEX IN THE MODERN AGE" AND LOOK AT THE RETURNS.

Dating and sex has not changed much over the years. What has changed is consent and sexual harassment. When someone says no it is NO any further discussion or pushing, pleading or in any way trying to get that person to comply is considered sexual harassment. Depending on the degree of Harassment you could be charged with a felony.

Age of consent has changed as well. Many states has raised the age of consent to 18 and eliminated the grace years period, which varied from 2 to 4 years. If you are over 18 years of age make sure you know the laws in your state and you know the true age of your partner. If you are in doubt of your partners true age; my advice is to keep it in your pants.

Since you have not given your age there is one other law you need to be aware of. That is the Federal Mann act. Under this act it is a Federal Felony punishable for up to life in prison for taking a minor across state line for the purpose of sex. If you are an adult with a minor and you are charged with statutory rape of a minor having crossed state lines the Mann acat would apply.

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does semen die on contact with water

Please be more specific with your question. How is the water coming in contact with the semen and in what manner?

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My Grandpa and I have never had a relationship. I don't dislike him or anything but we've just never bonded or had anything to talk about. Recently I found out he has stage 4 lung cancer. My mother has been guilt tripping me about how I haven't called him (he lives in Georgia and I am in California). I do not want to make him feel weird or awkward or anything because we have never spoke on the phone. We haven't spoke in years actually. Am I wrong for not calling? I feel it is a bit of a selfish act but at the same time don't want him to realize I am calling just because he is dying. This sounds so awful. Words of advice please.

I would never advise you to call someone just because someone else is guilt tripping you into it. You are an adult now and you know what feels right and what feels wrong.

Calling your grandfather who is aware of his medical condition gives you an opportunity to say good bye to him and let him know you are thinking of him. It is not weird or awkward for someone in his condition to receive calls from people he has not spoken to in years and may even lift his spirits to hear from his long lost granddaughter. This phone call from you also gives him the opportunity to say goodbye to you.

IF there was bad blood between you then my advice would be different. You would have every right not to call. Since it is just a matter of you two never bonding the phone call is your choice to make without reservation or guilt trip.

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State Pennsylvania

My friend had gotten primary custody of his daughter due to his wife ( they are in the process of divorce ) was on drugs , cheating , ran out of the court house before they even got in front of a judge. She filed for modification some time later and he still has primary custody but she was awarded every other weekend visitation. She does not work lives off a boyfriend. He works full time 3rd shift he is living with a sister who helps him with his daughter while he works in return he helps with bills and house work. She has child abuse allegations against her because the child told her teacher her mom abuses her the teacher had to report it. Cys says case will remain open for a year but they don't see any abuse at this time. The little is a bit hyper active father doesn't want he Ron medication mother does. Mother took her to see a doctor and the doctor said we can't even speak to you because of the custody order. She flipped filing a 3rd modification. In which the judge determined to leave as is for now but they have to come back in 6 months well they want him to get different hour job? How can they even consider giving her custody just because she says she doesn't want someone else watching her child. Punish him for being a provider ?

The court will most always support the custodial parent when it comes to things such as health care and education. The reason for this is to remove these two very important segments of the child's life from being an instrument that the parents can quarrel over that is not in the best interest of the child.

Should the non-custodial parent think that the custodial parent is not providing proper child care or seeing to it that the child is sent to school. Then the non custodial parent can file an emergency request for a hearing on these items in front of a judge. The judge has the right to ask for Child Protective Services (CPS) to investigate and report to the court their findings. It is extremely rare if ever that CPS or the court would request or order a custodial adult to change jobs or work hours.

What the court would do in the case where the custodial parents work hours are seen to be a problem. The court could make a change in custody. This does not mean the other parent would get custody. The child could be come a ward of the court and placed in a foster home, a blood relative such as Aunt, Uncle or grandparent, in this case paternal, would be granted temporary custody.

IF your friend is properly providing for his father the court will not punish him based solely on the word of the mother.

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So I'm on the pill, but I have missed quite a few days, I started my period the 10th an got off the 16th, I had unprotected sex the 18th, an after a day or so I was bleeding slightly.
I looked on an ovulating calendar an it said the 18th I was fertile. Is any of the slight bleeding or anything a strong sign of me actually being pregnant, or is there a higher chance then the normal risk?
Please help

Most women are not fertile until sometime between the 7th and 21st day of their period cycle. While it is possible for you to become pregnant on the 18th it is not the most fertile time of the month for most women.

None of us are doctors and even if we were your question does not have an easy answer. Because you were in your fertile time pregnancy is possible. It is also highly possible you are not. The only way to know for sure is on the or after the 3rd of November take a home pregnancy test. IF it is positive don't panic. Wait 10 more days and test again. It is more likely to get false positives than false negatives and is the reason you always double check before panicking.

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My entire life, I've been lazy. I'm not stupid, but unmotivated. There were times when I was focused and driven-- but, it was for a mere, temporary moment. I was never consistently passionate. EVER. I've done all activities when I was younger -- martial arts, ballet, and piano. Yet, I disliked them. I had played piano for nearly 8 years, but I wasn't good. Because I hated it. No one pushed me. Grade school to middle school, I've earned average grades-- with a couple C's there. High School, I took challenging courses freshman year, received 2 final average D's. Sophomore year, I took two honors and rest regulars -- hence, I received mostly A's. This year, I stacked up my schedule. Currently, I have 3 C's (the marking period didn't end yet). Honestly, when I attempt to focus, it just dies later on. I feel I could've achieved so much if i were not lazy. I attempted to change myself, but it did not work out. I want to become a marketing/advertising major, I'm creative, but I'm scared whether or not I have the capability to. I'm currently in marching band, but I force myself to do it. I despise it. What is wrong with me? If I were more driven, I could've been more successful than I am today. I'm so angry and bitter.

I can't say if you're lazy or just overwhelmed. You don't get A's in regular course's unless you apply some effort so to say you're lazy doesn't fit. When you are forced to do things you don't like it is hard to put in the effort to do it well such as piano.

This is a mistake we parents make be forcing our children to do things because we feel they need to be exposed to certain things. Even when they do not do well at them we may still force them hoping that they will do better over time. It is unfortunate for the child as we parents to different degrees all make this mistake.

Once a child becomes overwhelmed it becomes harder for them to focus and as you are seeing they find it hard to rise to certain challenges. They are then seen as lazy, which is not the case. What you have written about attempting new challenges only to have your efforts die out is a symptom of someone who has been overwhelmed with in the past and present.

Whose idea was it to take the advanced courses, yours or mom and dads? You say this year you have stacked your schedule. I'm not sure what that means. What I can be sure of is you may not be, especially at this time, is an honors student. Don't worry you can still get into a good college without honors courses.

It is probably too late to withdraw or drop a course that you may have selected as an honors course. What you might be able to do is move from that course to a regular course if your guidance counselor approves. I once had my entire schedule changed in mid semester, by the assistant principal so I could take advantage o a program he was running that he wanted me to be a part of. So it can be done if they want to do it for you.

Thinking as you are right know has also given you self-esteem problems. This is something you need to improve as improving your self-esteem will improve you overall. TO do so may require the help of a therapist. Someone you can talk to knowing that everything you say goes no further.

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