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I'm the type of person that likes to help people when and if I can. I also believe the only stupid question is the one not asked.

The object of my column will be to help you help yourself by pointing you in the right direction, if I can or supplying you with WEB resources that will help you find the answers your looking for

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19/f Lately I feel like a total and utter loser. I'm nineteen years old, no license, no job, no car, and I'm not in college. I graduated over six months ago, and still have nothing. I feel like no one really cares. My grandparents keep telling me I need to join the military, and my parents keep reassuring me everything will be fine. I'm starting to think they don't know anything about me. All I do is sit around my house, reed books, see my boyfriend, watch movies, and play on the computer. I'm in over my head worried about health insurance, a place to live, etc. I've been trying to get my license but every time I take it I get nervous and I've already taken it 3 time. I know. Pathetic, right? My boyfriend has been driving with me, but my parents haven't been at all. I feel like I'm at his mercy and that I'm using him, and I don't like feeling that way. I always tell him I appreciate everything he does for me. I just wish I could SHOW him how much I appreciate him. But I don't have anything. What do I do? I don't want to live with my parents forever, what do I do? I hope to get my license but I always get so nervous. How can I make that so it's less? Please help!

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.

Self-defeating attitudes are not a help, so the first thing you have to do is find away to get a positive attitude for yourself. Not being able to find a job is not a reflection on you, it is a sign of the times. Nationally the unemployment rate is over 10% and this is not adjusted for High School Graduates who are unable to find jobs.

Compounding your inability to find work is your not having a license and reliable transportation. Employers look at this as a major part of their decision when selecting who they will hire. You may be the most qualified for the position; if you do not process, in the employers eyes, a reliable means of getting to work they will chose someone else. This means you must spend more time practicing for your driver’s test so that you are more comfortable driving. The more comfortable you are driving the less nervous you will be taking the test.

You did not say why you are not in College. There are two primary reasons for not going to College; you feel you are not college material or do not have the money. If it is the first reason, then I agree with your grandparents. The Military did wonders for my son whose teacher told me to teach him to remember to ask to super size that order for that was about all he was capable of. That teacher was very surprised when many years later he came to her rescue when she was involved in a car crash. He was the Firefighter/Paramedic assigned to the call. High School did not prepare him for this career, the Military did. They taught him how to learn, how to study and how to pass tests. Today he is, as I said, a Fire Fighter/Paramedic with a BS in Emergency Medical Care. As for money to get his Degree, well the Military took care of that as well. All it cost him was four years service and he took most of his college courses while he was serving.

Don’t want to join the Military but still have monetary problems. Start with your local Community College. Talk with the people in the Finance Department. There are a number of different grants you may qualify for as well as student loans. When money stands in the way to an education the local community college is the best place to start. They have the means to help you, all you have to do is ask. If you are deficient in some of your primary education they will help you there as well. It is really up to you.

If you want a better life you will need a better education. A better education is available to you if you ask for help in obtaining it. My suggestions to you are:
• Visit your local Military Recruiters and investigate a Military Career.
• Visit you local Community College and see what they can offer you as far as funding and testing to see what is needed to get you at the very least an AA Degree.
• Continue practicing for your driver’s license to gain confidence and skill in driving.
Once you have done this you can make an informed decision about your future.

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I have a little babysitting business with 60+ kids but durin the holiday season it certainly slows down so i was thinking of doing a holiday speacial of some sort. Except I don't know what to do. Should I do 1 hour free or 2 hours free? Also, should I have rules that go along with it? If its 2 hours free, I need to be there for 5 hours or if its 1 hour free I need to be there for at least 3.. or what?

Thanks, and all tips and advice is grealty appreciated.

Marketing is certainly the way to build your business. I would suggest you build a flier around this concept.

For Every 3 hours I sit for you get a fourth hour (or any part of it) free.

It is the same concept as some of the hotel chains use, were for every three nights you stay with them you get the fourth night free.

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Do blood tests usually hurt more than shots? Is there a lot of swelling like when I have had shots in the past? I have to have one done and I am like terrified of it! Help?

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.

Blood test in general do not hurt or hurt very little. On a scale from 1 to 10 with 1 being no pain and ten being the worst pain you have ever felt; a blood test should be no more than a 2 or 3. The amount of pain you feel depends a lot on the skill of the technician drawing the blood and how easy it is to find a vein. Some veins roll away from the needle. For a good technician this is not a problem.

The reason shots cause pain and swelling is they are generally given into a muscle. Blood is drawn directly from a vein that is just under the surface of the skin. About the only thing you should feel is the initial puncture of the skin by the needle. Most technicians use a relatively small bore needle to minimize any pain. So relax the only thing you should fear is the fear itself. Blood drawing is not a big deal. If you are really fearful do not watch, turn your head away while they draw the blood. The whole process takes less time that it took you to read this, maybe a minute longer.

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i want to travel to england, get a job and live there for about a year in my gap year but dont know where to start, anyone know anything about trav3elling and visas??!

I would start by contacting the British Embassy. To visit England a Visa has not been a requirement only a passport for U.S. Citizens. To go there and work might require a work Visa and a host of other requirements which probably includes an open dated return paid airline ticket.

I am not sure what information you are looking for as to traveling, you’re a little vague in your question. Traveling in Great Britain and Europe has been made much easier since the coming of the European Union. There are no longer any border crossings to go through. Once you enter one Country you can travel to another without any problem. Should you have any questions along this line I would include them in your questions to the Embassy.

As for travel itself; they have a great network of rail travel, which is a great way to see the Country’s. They also sell something called a EuroRail pass. They are sold in different amounts covering different periods from days to months for unlimited travel. The Embassy will supply you with more information if you ask them.

While I hate to be redundant the British Embassy will be your best source of information for your questions. Their web address is: http://ukinusa.fco.gov.uk/en.

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How can I make my breast smaller? There not terribly big but I still hate them! I'm a dancer and I HATE it when my breast "jiggle" on stage. I really want to make my breast smaller. I will work out 24/7 if I have to. To tell you the truth I want the breasts of a nine year old (thats not relistic I know). Please tell me! I'll stop eating, I'll work out 24/7, I'll eat my dog!!! (well that last one was a joke haha) PLEASE HELP!!!

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others

At your present age your body is still developing and may continue to do so up to age 21. I know this is not what you want to hear, but this is the reality of life. For at least the next 5 years you will have to live with what you receive and try and control your shape through diet and exercise. The only way a doctor would consider breast reduction surgery before age 17 would be if your breast were as large as to endanger your health.

Once you reach age 17, if you are still not happy with the size of your breasts, you and your parents can discuss breast reduction surgery with a competent plastic surgeon. In the mean time you can start searching the WEB for a surgeon who specializes in adolescent breast surgery.

As I said earlier; this is not the answer you are looking for but it is the best answer you can get given your age. Your body will change over the next 5 years, wait and see what these changes are before you do something you can’t reverse or might harm you.

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Recently, my friend has been talking about how hot he thinks his teacher his. He keeps saying he fantasizes about her and he worships her. He said he likes walking past her room having excuses just to walk by her and at the end of the day waiting to see her leave, he said he wants to buy the yearbook and school newsaper just to oogle and at any pictures of her in them, saying "pictures of my hot teacher are like what pornography is to other people. Worst of all, he said he wishes she was a pedophile and if she wanted to rape him he'd be all for it, and he also said he hopes her boyfriend dies. This sounds kind of funny but also weird to me. I guess you could find a teacher hot, but still. Is this normal, or has he gone too far?

friend is 16 teacher is about 26

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others

It is normal for a boy going through puberty to have the hots for a teacher he admires. I remember two teachers one in particular I was deeply in love with. She was my middle school Chemistry teacher. I did everything I could to get her attention including failing tests to cause her to keep me after school for extra attention. Then there was a teacher in High School that every senior boy was after. She had been a senior when we were all freshmen and was now a freshman English teacher. She even rode to and from school with one of the seniors until the Principal put a stop to it. I do not think there was a boy in school that could walk down the hall without holding their books in front of them when she was in the hallway. This all came to an abrupt stop when her boyfriend came to school. He was a Marine Gunnery Sergeant. Now when I think back on it; it is funny how even though she was just as pretty she no longer turned any of us on.

I would say your friend has not yet crossed the line from youthful admirer to stalker, but he could be very close. It would be a reasonable and cautious thing to do, to advise this teacher that your friend is developing an unhealthy admiration for her. Even better it would be best to tell your parents what you have observed and let them decide how to approach the situation. In fact that is probably the better idea as it takes you out of the middle and leaves it to the adults to handle.

My advice then is to talk to your parents about what you have observed and what you feel. Then follow their advice.

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My wife at 32 years old has severe pain in the lower back, pressure from hands seems to cause relief. is it the kidneys or something else?

None of us on this website are doctors and should not be offering medical advice or diagnosis.

From personal experience I can say that lower back pain can be caused by a variety of problems. Relief from pain can also come from a variety of things such as applying heat, cold packs, pressure, bending and stretching. The problem here is that not knowing exactly what the problems are you can do more harm than good.

Only your doctor through the use of some non-invasive testing can tell you exactly where the problem lies. While waiting for these test, such as X-rays, CAT scans or MRI’s your doctor may prescribe medication that will make your wife more comfortable.

If your wife is in terrible pain I would suggest taking her to a hospital emergency room or a local urgent care center. If she can wait to see your family doctor, call and ask for an appointment at their earliest possible time.

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My wife at 32 years old has severe pain in the lower back, pressure from hands seems to cause relief. is it the kidneys or something else?

None of us on this website are doctors and should not be offering medical advice or diagnosis.

From personal experience I can say that lower back pain can be caused by a variety of problems. Relief from pain can also come from a variety of things such as applying heat, cold packs, pressure, bending and stretching. The problem here is that not knowing exactly what the problems are you can do more harm than good.

Only your doctor through the use of some non-invasive testing can tell you exactly where the problem lies. While waiting for these test, such as X-rays, CAT scans or MRI’s your doctor may prescribe medication that will make your wife more comfortable.

If your wife is in terrible pain I would suggest taking her to a hospital emergency room or a local urgent care center. If she can wait to see your family doctor, call and ask for an appointment at their earliest possible time.

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Hi! i'm 16 and i'm still a virgin and i think im ready for sex but i want to know if there is anything important i need to know about before my boyfriend and i do it, just to prepare myself

he's told me that its going to hurt more than when he fingers me, but thats it.

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.

I found the following website while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”

On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than fore the boy. At 16 you are more emotionally mature than your partner is at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always must have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.

The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.

As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you the t advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is general apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. These forms of sex should be adequate for now to satisfy both you and your boyfriend without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.

Before you make your decision please review the following website.

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.

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She wont let me tell an adult. And I'm not going to abuse her trust. Like how can I help her solve it herself?

In this instance you have no choice but to go to an adult. Who else is there you can turn to for help? Her father is not going to listen to you if you went to him, which you should not. You have to find a trusted adult and let the adult authorities look into this and find out just what is going on.

By keeping her trust you are not helping her. If your intention is to help her then you must go to a trust adult for help. It is just possible that she has come to you and confided in you because she realizes that you are smart enough to do what she herself is not able to do. Asking you to keep her trust may be just her way of allowing herself to tell you what she had to tell you.

I think at the very least you should discuss this with your parents and let them help you with decide how best to help your friend. If your friend is not in life threatening imminent danger your parents will be the ones who will best help keep the trust your friend has placed in you.

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Hi everyone!

I have a problem. My grandma is really nice and I want to get her something nice for christmas but I don't know how to say this so I will just say it: She is an old lady! What do old ladies like for christmas?!? I don't want o be rude seriously and I want it to be something that she will really like because she has always been really wonderful to me.

Can anyone give me some starter ideas on what to get my grandma for christmas?

Thank YOU!

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.

You have asked a really hard question in that we do not know the person you wish to purchase a gift for. You say she is an old lady; old to you may not be that old in chronological age or in the way she spends her days.

That being said here is what I suggest: Look at how your grandmother spends her day. Does she belong to any clubs? If so find out which of the clubs she gets the most enjoyment from. If she is a member of say a book club you could buy her some gift cards from her favorite book store. In this case a gift card would be the right gift as book selection is a very personal thing. If grandmother is on a fixed income a gift card would allow her to purchase extra books. She may be into arts and crafts, if she is talk to her find out what she likes to do then go to a craft store and ask someone there what would go along with what she likes to do. Does grandmother like to travel, if so travel accessories are always welcome.

I think you see the point I am getting at. You need to visit with your grandmother, which in and of itself will be a gift grandmother will enjoy. Find out through subtle questions what grandmother enjoys doing with her days and then find a gift you can afford.

Being of the grandparent age myself I can tell you that just spending some quality time alone with you would be a welcome gift. If you are old enough to be out on your own consider taking your grandmother out to dinner, just the two of you, to her favorite restaurant if it’s affordable. Frankly that’s a gift I would enjoy more than any tangible gift you could give me, again that is if you are of the age you can do so. If you are still in your teen years; coming to my house and having dinner with me just the two of us would be just as nice.

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19/female. i'm still a virgin, but i do have a few questions for when im READY to have sex. i've heard that some girls bleed, and if your really wet that you'll get the bed/sheets wet, correct? I think i'm going to be very embarassed when this happens, even when i'm with the right guy. especially if we're on his bed, which will probably be the case? how can i overcome being embarassed about it, even though it's basically natural. did anyone else have this problem? what did you do? and what is your preference to do after you have sex with a guy? just like opinions, thats all:)

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.

Found the website listed below for another young lady with a very similar question to yours. I believe if you look this website over most of your questions will be answered.

As I say in my opening statement; I am older than most advisors. Actually I am old enough to be your grandparent. You are of legal age to give consent to have sex so I am not going to go down the waiting to you are older road. Sex between two people who love each other is a wonderful thing. Sex as a recreational sport is not love. Make sure to use condoms as well as proper birth control. Never ever allow a man to go bare back (as the saying goes) until you are in a monogamous relationship and have had HIV tests.

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/disappointments.html.

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I had this conversation with my friend where she said her boyfriend had a total "boner" when she was making out with him the other night. I just kind of nodded and agreed with her about it and stuff because I don't want to sound really stupid. What is a boner?

A boner is another name for when a male has an erection.

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ok so im almost 14/m and i am in pretty good shape, cuz iv been workin out for a year. i have big arms for my age, muscular, and a pretty good body. on the bus today, this 7th grder, whos small but pretty strong for his age, as always messes with me. he was slapping me and i was just like " dude stop"tryin to block it. one of my frans said, dude hit him back, and i was like no man . eventually he stopped. i overheard my friend telling other ppl on the bus, thatim strong, i just dont know howto fight. help?

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.

I think you did the right thing by not being goaded into a fight. You were on a school bus would have meant both of you would have ended up being punished had the driver reported you as most schools today have a zero tolerance policy against fighting.

The fact that you could not be goaded into a fight and could in essence walk away from the fight shows you are the better man. Anyone can fight someone, when fight someone will win and someone will lose. Hopefully that is the worst that will happen and no one is seriously injured. If anyone is injured then there is a host of other problems that arise; medical, legal and police involvement.

Continue to be the better man and walk away from a fight. If you feel you need to know how to defend yourself then learn to do so. But remember you only want to defend yourself if attacked, never be goaded into fight.

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This girl has been my bestfriend for 2 years and I found out about 2 months ago that her dad abuses her. We're both 15. I'm a freshman, she's a sophomore. I have been through a lot, but I can't seem to help her with this. She refuses to tell anyone-adult or one of those hotlines-because she thinks they'll send her dad away, which will ruin her family. She's told her other 4 siblings, they don't believe her because he doesn't do it to them. She says they only believe what they see but she doesn't want them to see. How can I help her!!?

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.

There is a fine line between punishment and abuse. The fact that your friends’ siblings are not hit by their father lends me to believe the father may have crossed the line.

This is a problem that you cannot resolve yourself as it requires an adult to intervene.
I would suggest you do the following

• Talk to your parents and tell them what you believe is happening or what your friend is telling you. If your friend is show signs of being hit make sure you parents see this. Then let your parents handle this from there.

• Speak with your school Principal or Guidance Counselor. School authorities are legally required to report suspected child abuse.

Without actual fact or being an eye witness to her being hit by her father, there is not much else you can do. You are being a good friend to her by trying to look out for her well being. While she may not believe this at the moment, she will eventually see that you have her best interest at heart

Should you have the time write back and let me know what you did and what the outcome was

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last night i was in my room after school and I started to masterbate. I don't masturbate too often so I guess I didn't think about locking my door. Well, my mom walked in on me! She left pretty quickly but I don't want to just leave it at that. At dinner she was pretty quiet and didn't seem too happy. I know I should say something to her, right? What do I say? Or do I just let this blow over?

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.

First; let me say that there is nothing wrong with masturbation. Contrary to what some mothers tell their children you will not go blind and you will not grow hair in the palm of your hand. I read somewhere that as many as 90% of the people they surveyed said they indulged in masturbation. Mutual masturbation is part of most people’s sexual foreplay. The simplest definition of masturbation I can think of is: the manual stimulation of one’s sex organ. To me this would include BJ’s, HJ’s Fingering and Cullingus.

As to what happened; you mother is probably just as embarrassed for walking in on you as you were by having your mom walk in on you while you were masturbating. If you have been masturbating for any length of time your mother was most likely already aware of it. No matter how well you cleaned up after yourself there are always tell tale signs left on the sheets or your shorts. I think you and your mom are really in the same place not knowing what to say to each other.

You did not say how old you are or if you are male or female. I am assuming you are male. I would prefer a young teenage male to take care of his sexual needs through masturbation , which are brought on by the fast changing hormonal changes of puberty, then he be looking for sex with some young girl and take the chance of getting her pregnant or worse catching a STD. I’m fairly certain your mother feels the same way.

My suggestion: Wait a few days and see if things between you and your mother return to normal or if your mother approaches you about what happened. If things do not get better between you and your mother then you should approach her. You start by saying; Mom I’m sorry you caught me masturbating the other day but I am not apologizing for what I was doing, only for not locking my door and protecting my privacy. You may wish to add that there is nothing wrong with what you were doing and most religions condone masturbation, including Judeo/Christian religions. This will give your mother the opportunity to say something to you or even apologize for not knocking before entering your room.

There is quite a lot of good information on the web about masturbation. It would be a good idea if you went online and did some research to show you mother if needed.

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18/f
Alright, I don't know how appropriate this questions is but im gonna ask anyway. So I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I was a virgin, he wasnt. I know this sounds kind of stupid but what am i supposed to do. I kind of just laid there a took it lol. I really love him and want to make it as enjoyable as possible for him. Any advice or links as to what i should do? Thank you

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.

The first website I have listed below is written more for the male, but there is no reason you and your boyfriend cannot look at it together and find positions you would like to try. The second website listed is one you might have looked at before having sex the first time. It might not be a bad idea to look through this website as it covers things such as condom usage, birth control and why it is important finding a comfortable place to have sex where you won’t be interrupted or discovered.

As I say in my opening statement; I am older than most advisors. Actually I am old enough to be your grandparent. You are of legal age to give consent to have sex so I am not going to go down the waiting to you are older road. Sex between two people who love each other is a wonderful thing. Sex as a recreational sport is not love. Make sure to use condoms as well as proper birth control. Never ever allow a man to go bare back (as the saying goes) until you are in a monogamous relationship and have had HIV tests.

http://www.menshealth.com/sexpositionmaster/forher.html

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/disappointments.html.

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About 5 hours ago i was laying in bed and I had to get up to do number two. I was dripped in sweat but my body was really could and my stomach was hurting so bad i could not breathe. After i layed back down for a while it went away but I still had some stomach pains. About an hour ago I had to go again and this time I only pooped blood, this has happened three more times. Should I go to the emergency room right now or wait for the doctor in the morning?

I am a member of a Fire Department Rescue Squad. You need to see a doctor know. You should not drive yourself to the doctors or a hospital ER. If ther is no one to drive you call 911 and ask for an ambulance. They will ask whats wron, Tell them you are passing blood when you bowel movement.

Do not be surprise if a fire truck shows first before the ambulance. This is standard practice in most fire departments to dispatch the closest piece of fire equipment to care for you until the ambulance arrives.

Please do not wait, pick up the phone and dial 911 now.

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Okay, I'm fourteen(female) and I'm a freshman in highschool. So here's the deal. There's this sophomore(male) (almost sixteen) Ive been "talking" to for the past few months, and I realllllly like him. He knows I like him, and he likes me too and I guess you could say we date a little but it's nothing exclusive and we agreed to take it very slow. Well then there is this junior boy... I do not like him, at all. In fact, he creeps me out a little and he's been trying to ask me out lately. He's asked me to go on like three dates and I've said no each time. I've told him everything; that I'm kind of involved with someone else, I'm not interested, my parents won't let me... (all of those things are true by the way. And since I'm like young for my grade, he's like three years older than me) He doesn't seem to get the point. I could just totally bitch him out and turn him down cold but he's like a popular junior guy. Really popular. And if he got mad at me, he could definitely make my life hell... So now I don't know what to do. Oh and by the way, this junior guy only wants "to f*** me" as he's basically told me... So what should I do about the junior and how should I handle the sophomore who is starting to get really jelous and angry... What should I do???

I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.

You have told this boy on more than one occasion NO. I would suggest the next time he asks you out that you tell him straight out you have no interest in dating him and would he please stop harassing you for a date. Hopefully you will have some friends around to hear this.

Schools have a zero tolerance when it comes to sexual harassment. So make sure the next time he asks you for a date you say no and THAT YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN DATING HIM AND HE SHOULD STOP HARRASING YOU. Make sure you use the word HARRASSING.

If he continues to ask you for dates you should report him to the proper authority within the school and let them handle from there. You should also inform your parents so that they can see to it that the school authorities handle this properly.

Please remember one thing about this situation; you are at no fault here and you have done nothing to bring this on yourself. The fault for this is all on the young man who has not learned how to take no for an answer. By reporting him now you may be saving other girls/women from him from something far more serious. The sooner he learns no means no the safer you and other girls/women will be from him.

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ok im 16 and a female
on saturday i had a ATV accident i ran straight into a tree and smashed the front end of my parents quad with my neighbour on the back now i feel useless and pathetic i had stitches in my nose and i still have 6 in my leg and i cant walk so im on crutches and i keep getting the impression that their absoloutly pissed about me not being able to help out even though i mostly still do my chores and i think their pised about the quad but they keep saying it doesnt matter that im lucky and they arent mad at all.. are they mad or what im so confused andi dont know what to think...Please help...
-sleepiesheep-

As a member of a fire department Rescue Squad I can tell you that you and your friend are lucky to be alive.

Your parents are probably feeling a great deal of emotions. They are probably trying to get over the fear they had when they were called about the accident; the fear that your neighbor may sue them for their injuries. They are probably upset that you took the ATV out, possibly without their permission; their relief that your injuries are not serious.

As a 16 year old you may have a part-time job; if so you could offer to help pay for the repairs. If the ATV had some type of Insurance coverage you could offer to reimburse your parents the deductable they have to pay toward the repairs or replacement. This would be the adult thing to do. If you have not already done so an apology would probably go along way as well.

I have only one other suggestion for you before you get back on an ATV. That is that you take a safe operators course. If you do not know where one is offered ask the dealership you purchased it from, or any dealership that sells ATV’s for that matter, as they should know where the course is offered. One other thing always wear a safety helmet when riding an ATV.

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