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how should i show my boovs to a guy????
By asking this question I believe you may be to young to be showing your Boobs, not boovs, to anyone except your doctor. So wait a few years before doing so.
how to get girlfriend to blow your friends?
You don't; you let your friends find their own girlfriends to do that for them.
Try putting yourself in her place. Sex for a woman is much different than it is for a man. Be it oral, anal or regular vaginal sex it is the woman that is allowing a man to penetrate her body with his. This is a very intimate act one that requires trust and love on the part of the women. Now along comes her boyfriend a person she loves and says "Hey babe how about giving Johnny a blow job while I watch." How would you feel if you were in her place?
I know what I would say. I would tell you to get hosed and go find a new boyfriend. I'm not saying this isn't done; that people don't swap partners or there aren't people that don't enjoy threesomes or group sex. Those that do, do so because they want to not because someone wants them to do it.
So i'm 16 years old and my mom recently been asking me questions amif im still a virgin and stuff, could she actually take me to a doctor and could determine if i've been sexually active ? Even though I don't want to? Without my permission?
There are two things here that are in your favor as to what mom can and cannot do or what she may find out as to whether or not you’re a virgin.
A doctor cannot tell if you a virgin or not. All a doctor can tell is if your Hymen is intact. If there were semen in your vagina during an examination then the doctor would know if you were having sex. But your mother cannot force you to have this type of examination against your will.
If you live in the U.S.A. and given the fact that you are over 14 years of age, you are covered by a law Congress passed called HIPPA. In this law is a section covering young people 14 years and older giving them total medical confidentiality over their reproductive system.
What this means is no one including your parents can know anything related to any doctor visit, any examination or treatment that involves a young person’s reproduction system.
In your case this would mean if you did consent to going to the doctor. Once with the doctor all you need to say is, "I want my rights under HIPPA." The doctor would then ask your mother to leave the room if she is with you.
If you allowed the doctor to proceed with the examination, which would not be a bad idea if you have not had one in a year." Then the results of that examination remain confidential and can only be told to those people you give the doctor expressed permission in writing. Because of the language in the law you can also ask the doctor for birth control medication and the doctor, unless there is medical reason not too, must provide a prescription for it. The pharmacist may not release information about any medication that would be related to the treatment of conditions related to the reproductive system without permission so there is no way for mom to know.
Congress passed this law not to promote sex between young people but to give them a place to go to get answers to questions or treatment for something they might be too embarrassed to go to their parents with. This law gives you the right to make appointments and see doctors related to anything to do with your reproductive system without parental knowledge or permission.
My suggestion is that rather than get in a fight with mom. IF she is insistent you be seen by a doctor so she can know if you are still a virgin; then go with her. Read any papers the doctor’s office give you to sign carefully because among them will be the HIPPA consent form. Make sure moms name does not appear on it anywhere. WHEN IT IS YOUR TURN TO SEE THE DOCTOR TELL THE NURSE OR THE DOCTOR YOU WANT YOU RIGHTS UNDER HIPPA. Let them inform your mother of your rights to confidentiality and they will support those rights.
Hello Advicenators, First of all I would like to note that this is not my account. My friend is letting me use hers because she thought this website would help me figure this out.
I`m an 18 years old female. Three nights ago, my boyfriend came to sleep over my house. He came late at night and we had sex..lots of it and by that I mean it lasted a long time. In the morning, we had more sex..lots of it and at night again...also lots of it and then he left and went to his house. The following morning, my vagina had an irritation but I did`nt worry too much because it has happened before (where my vagina had an irritation after sex). This morning, I had a big, thick, white discharge on my vagina and I started to freak out. My vagina still has an irritation and the discharge keeps coming. Is this because we had too much or is there something wrong with me?
If you’re concerned about an STD they generally do not manifest themselves the next day. Discharges from your vagina can be normal and I think you would know a normal discharge from one that is not normal. This, "big, thick, white discharge," does not sound normal." If it happens again you should definitely see your GYN.
As to the irritation you are getting. This is very possibly from too much sexual activity. Your vagina may not be producing enough lubrication after the first or second intercourse. You might want to try a good lubricant like K-Y Jelly to keep you well lubricated during sex and to prevent irritation.
One other thing which you did not write about; did this discharge have any type of abnormal odor or scent to it. If it did this is a sign of some type of infection and you should see your doctor ASAP.
Can someone please explain to me what's abusive about Fifty Shades of Grey.
I'm a soon to be 24 year-old woman who is highly turned on by the type of material in the book. Although I have never engaged in BDSM, I love it when my boyfriend dominates me, and I fantasize about engaging in the activity.
Is BDSM abusive? Is there something wrong with me thinking so highly in allowing my boyfriend who I trust to dominate me?
Will I allow my relationship to become dangerous if I tell him to engage in this kind of behavior?
Everybody's views on BDSM are different. There is also varying Degrees of BDSM. One type of BDSM is the rape fantasy that many women are supposed to have. Another is being tied to the bed and letting him have his way with you. BDSM could also include him allowing others to use you.
Then there is BDSM that includes pain this is the "D" of BDSM and could be simply allowing him to spank you or maybe canning or whipping you. These are fairly standard forms of pain inducing parts of BDSM. There are harsher forms such as nipple and clit clamps. It gets worse from here.
I am quite liberal in my views on sex. I believe that nothing done in the privacy of one’s home or bedroom between consenting adults is weird. The operative words here are CONSENTING and ADULTS. No one should be forced to do anything they are not comfortable with; be it a sexual position or type of sex act.
If you wish to explore the world of BDSM I see nothing wrong with this provided you and your boyfriend sit down and discuss it first with your clothes on. Make up safe words so you each know when the other has reached their limit. Decide what and how you both wish to explore this world for it can be quite dark. Wherever this leads you should never leave permanent scars or injuries for that is going too far.
Together explore the world of BDSM, and what it really means before you actually participate. Make up your rules and know your limitations. When you are both in agreement then go ahead and explore and I hope you find what you’re looking for. If anyone thinks you’re weird for doing so they are just closed minded.
Can I get pregnant if my boyfriend left his cum during anal sex?
Sperm left in the anal tract cannot make you pregnant. In fact if you are having anal sex you should still be using condoms as that anal cavity is a feeding ground of bacterial could leave your BF with a urinary infection.
In fact the germs (bacteria) in the anal cavity are so inhospitable that sperm ejaculated in to your anal cavity would most likely die before leaking out of you. Even them it would have to flow into your vagina then swim up and make contact with an egg. This is very unlikely to happen.
If you are to continue to have anal sex make your partner use a condom for if he gets an infection he can pass it to you. If you get an anal cavity infection it will be very uncomfortable and be considered and STD.
Start practicing safe sex. You motto should be; "NO RUBBER, NO LOVER."
My husband is an ex crossdresser and had relationships with men before we met. I have seen pictures of him as a female and he was actually very pretty and looked the part. He has never to my knowledge crossdressed since we have been together these past 3 years. I would like to get him to crossdress for me as I find it so arousing. I almost wish he was living as a girl full time now. I am not sure how to bring this subject up and am looking for ideas
The key to any relationship be it work, friends or a marriage is communication. You don't say how you found out about your husband’s cross dressing. Your last sentence say he did not tell you so I would assume you found out through social media or a friend. We will come back to this in a moment.
When it comes to sex communications is important. The most important thing about sexual relations is that both parties must agree that No means no and stop means stop. As long as there is mutual consent to anything you want to try, sexually or anything else, then what happens in the privacy of your home or bedroom is not weird. Whether is something me and my partner would want to do is our concern not yours and you have no reason to share your sexual activities with anyone as they are your private activities if you want them to be.
No back to your question and communications which is your question. A simple way to approach it would depend on how you found out. You may want to have this conversation over dinner or in bed after making love. You know your husband best and should know when he would be most receptive to you asking about this.
You start by saying something to the affect that what you are about to say is not upsetting to you but quite the opposite as you find it sexually exciting. Then you go on to say I found out from or on that you use to cross dress. Reinforce this by saying I'm not upset that you once did this or that you could be bi-sexual. What would upset me is if you are suppressing this desire because we are married, this would be wrong. If you wish to or need to cross dress I am willing to even go shopping with you and help with this. We can even make love with you as a woman if you want."
If you would be willing to allow him bisexual activities or even willing to participate in them, say so; If not say that too. Anal sex with a dildo for him may be enough to satisfy him and allowing him anal sex with you may also satisfy him. Just make sure condoms are used for both activities.
Just be straight forward, use your own words. Make sure he understands you are not upset and are actually sexually excited by this discover. Going straight at any problem is most always the best and shortest route to a solution. It's when you start beating around the bush is when things get complicated. If someone told you about his cross dressing I will bet it is someone he had an affair with prior to your marriage. His or her reasons I'm sure were not honorable so there is no reason to keep their confidence so tell him who told you if asked.
I believe your openness to his fetish, which is what this may be, is going to make you a great wife. If there were more wives like you there would be less divorces’ in this world
i don't want to do sex with my boy friend because i am always so scare about sex.
Whatever your reasons are for fearing to have sex with your boyfriend they are justified. While there is no reason to fear having sex as it is a natural act for all of us there is reason not to want to have sex before you are ready.
If you are a teenager the things to fear about sex is of course an unwanted pregnancy which in itself is a reason not to have sex. Then there is the pain of the first sex which is always going to be more painful the younger you are. The reason for this has to do with the muscles in your vagina not being ready to be stretched when your younger. As you get older towards the end of puberty the hormones that allow these muscles to relax and stretch are released making the first time you have sex more enjoyable and less painful provided you are able to relax.
I say this to you as there is really nothing to fear from sex if you take the proper precautions against pregnancy and Sexually transmitted disease. This means you need to be on some sort of birth control and the guy must always wear a condom as well. Never have sex before marriage without the guy using a condom.
That being said and I say it only for informational purposes only and not to convince you to have sex now with your boyfriend. You will someday decide when you are ready, that someday is not now.
If your boyfriend is harassing you or begging you to have sex with him. He is breaking the law ones you have said NO. No means no and for him to continue to push you to have sex with him is sexual harassment which is illegal and he can be charged with a crime regardless of his age if he doesn't stop.
If he says to you something to the effect; "If you love me you will have sex with me." He dose not love you in the same definition of the word love that you have. He lusts for you and is not really in love with you. TO the teenage male lust and love have the same meaning.
Teenage sex is not away of proving your love for someone. Sex is the result of a long term loving ADULT relationship. When your maturity is such that you understand the consequences of your actions.
You need not be afraid of sex. Being scared right now is your bodies way of telling you that you are not ready for sex. Do not let your boyfriend in any way try to convince or force you to give into him. JUST SAY NO.
How could i no tht i am virgen??
Are you asking; "How do you know if you are a virgin?
If this is your question, just how old are you? Most people know this answer by the time they reach puberty and have had sex education in school.
If you masturbate and have an orgasm (girl) or ejaculate (boy) you are still a virgin as you have not had sexual intercourse.
Todays definition of virgin for a girl is one who has not had her vagina penetrated by a penis.
For a boy it is someone whose penis has not penetrated a girls vagina.
I hope this answers your question.
I am 38. I have two children born via c-section. I've been a dancer for 35 years, and as a result of lower extremity strength and flexibility, I've maintained an unbelievable amount of "tightness." Of course, with previous partners, I was always told I was small but sex was not impossible. Two years ago, I had a full hysterectomy, and have been too nervous to have an intimate relationship with anyone.
I finally have found someone who is amazing. He's about a foot and a half taller than I am, and, although he is not the largest of my previous partners, he is definitely NOT the smallest. We have found that penetration is impossible. Lubrication was not an issue, foreplay not an issue either. Just won't fit. We finally were able to do partial penetration, but because I was so small, he wasn't able to maintain his erection, because it actually hurt him as well.
Please help. He's nervous about hurting me, and yes, it does hurt a bit, I know that once it works, the pain will ease up a bit. I'm just at a loss on how to make it work. I feel like a virgin again, I haven't had this level of difficulty since the day I lost my virginity.
Please help. The level of sexual inadequacy is disheartening.
There are two things I can think of to offer you in the way of suggestions.
1. Talk to your GYN. There may be something he or she can do surgically or even with something like Botox to release those muscles a bit so you can have successful intercourse.
2. This is going to sound a little strange but it can also be fun for the two of you if you want it to be; especially if surgery is not an option.
Go to an adult toy store or look some up online. Purchase some dildo's and vibrators starting with the smallest ones working up gradually to the size of your boyfriends penis. Use these to get your vaginal muscles to stretch and get use to accommodating your boyfriends penis. If you want run this suggestion by your GYN and see what he or she thinks of it.
It may take a combination of a relaxation medication injected into the muscles and my suggestion to stretch your muscles to allow for easier penetration.
If you go for my suggestion make it a lovers game part of a mutual masturbation session. He uses the vibrators on you with plenty of lubrication starting with the smallest while you masturbate him. Hopefully you both climax and have fun while stretching your muscles.
I'm 16/f. I have a boyfriend and I really do love him but I wouldn't go as far as sex for a long time because I want to be super mature about it and make sure he's the one I wanna lose my virginity to. Although, I want to go as far as third base with him. But I'm just wondering if it'll be awkward? What does it feel like? Will I reach an orgasm? I just want to be very educated!
I found the following website, found at bottom of this page, while answering a very similar question for another young lady. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than your partner is at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman must always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
What I mean is boys confuse love and lust. To them love and lust have the same meaning where as for women or girls they have separate definitions. Make sure he loves you not just lusts for you.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, comfortable, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent; I believe at 16 you are s little young to be engaging in sexual intercourse. I am sure your parents have already given you this advice and it is good advice. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is general apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. These forms of sex should be adequate for now to satisfy both you and your boyfriend without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
Before you make your decision review the website I have included below:
(late teens female.)So I've been dating my current boyfriend for about a year and 2 months. We love and care for each other very much.
So we've done some exploring (no sex or oral) but we like to sext as a way to just let it out, and we come up with different situations etc.so my boyfriend really likes dragons. Which was okay, he likes dragons just like he likes music. No big deal.
But recently... he's asked if i'd like to pretend to be dragons and we do it. Or if he and i could please different dragons... I love him to death but this makes me feel uncomfortable. He says they don't turn him on UNLESS he thinks about them doing sexual acts... IS this a fetish? I thought it was just a horny teenage boy who finds anything doing it giving him the ability to get hard. I'm not sure.
I need help!! This makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable and now he's upset and... I need answers. Please! (This is not a laughing matter right now so please answer respectfully...) Thank you
Yes this is a Fetish a role play type Fetish. When it comes to sex of any type which would includes making out or going all the way to intercourse there is one firm rule you should follow. That rule is; BOTH PARTNERS MUST BE WILLING TO DO WHATEVER IT IS OR IT DOES NOT HAPPEN.
You are not comfortable with his role play fetish, you say NO. That is the end of it. Any further begging, pleading or even attempting to force you is sexual harassment or rape depending on what or how he does. No means NO and Stop means STOP these are the rules of sex between sexual partners in any type of sex play.
For sake of discussion; most girls have limits on what they will allow a boy to do. Lets say yours are he can touch your breasts over your bra. The second he tries to go under your bra you say stop. If he does not stop he is guilty of rape in a lower degree of the charge. The same goes for a guy if he allows a girl to feel his penis over his pants. The second she goes for his zipper if he says no or stop she is guilty of rape.
Sex of any type is a consensual act on the part of both parties. If either one say no or stop that is the end of whatever is happening. Explain this to your boyfriend. If he does not want to abide by these rules then you may want to find a boyfriend who has more respect for you.
Can a octor tell if you've ben fingered?
Doctors cannot tell if you have been fingered. If your Hymen is intact then they will believe you are a virgin as it is almost impossible to have sexual intercourse and have your Hyman remain intact. I say almost impossible as some women have Hymens that are elastic enough and have a hole large enough that an average sized penis may not tear them. This though is extremely rare.
Today many women end up tearing or detaching their Hymen when using Tampons. So today’s definition of a virgin is not so much a women with an intact Hymen But one whose vagina has never been penetrated by a penis.
While there are people who say a gynecologist can tell if a woman has had sexual intercourse. It is really not possible for this type of doctor to say for certain unless there happened to be semen in the vagina during a female examination.
NOTE: If you are 14 or over and you are being forced to have a female exam to see if you are sexually active you can refuse by law. You parents cannot force you to have this exam.
Under a Federal Law none as HIPPA anyone 14 or over has complete medical confidentiality over their reproductive system. What this means is parent cannot force anyone 14 or over to have an examination of this type. A parent cannot be in the exam room if your reproductive system is being examined and parents do not have the right to see your medical records or speak with your doctor concerning anything to do with the examination or treatment of your reproductive system.
Congress passed this law so young people with seek medical treatment when needed for questions or things they may be too embarrassed to go to a parent with. Your doctor or anyone in the doctors employ can be jailed for up to 5 years if they release any information without your expressed written permission to the doctor.
Should you be writing because you are being forced to go to the doctor for this type of exam? My advice is not to make a scene or fight with mom. There is a better way especially if you are sexually active in any way.
Go to the doctor, when you enter the exam room say to the nurse or doctor; "I invoke my rights under HIPPA I am ____" and state your age. The doctor or nurse will take it from there. If mom is with you she will be asked to leave the room. Then you can speak freely with the nurse and doctor about anything and everything related to your reproductive system, your sexual activity and request birth control if you want.
suppose if I remove sperm daily will it effect me after my marriage while I am doing sex with my wife.
I think you're asking if you masturbate delay will it affect your sex life with your wife and your ability to have children.
As far as having children how often you masturbate in your youth or even as an adult will not affect your ability to have children. Your body constantly makes sperm and you will be able to father children well into you eighties and nineties should you want to. The amount of sperm your body produces does decrease with age and any decline in your health.
Will masturbating daily affect you marital sex life. This is a maybe as it depends on some different factors. The biggest factor is that daily masturbation, according to some theories, could cause you to become less sensitive to regular sex and make it harder to ejaculate during sex.
If this is what you are asking I hope this is helpful.
I don't think so u gave me the right answer was it comfortable to you to understand my question. By the way I don't know how to ask a question regarding sexual health problems. Thanks for helping me/giving advice to me. Bye.
There are few questions any of us would find uncomfortable answering. If there ever is a question we are uncomfortable with we would just not answer it.
IF you do wish to ask more question I would hope you would work on your English grammar. That was the biggest problem I had with your question, understanding exactly what your question was. Take your time, think your question through and then type in your question. Take all the space you need and then make sure we can understand what you are asking. Also spell out all the words do not use twitter shorthand.
How do I get over the anxiety of thinking always thinking I'm going to get pregnant after I have sex? I'm not on the pill but he wears a condom every time. I'm twenty and I know it sounds silly but there's always that chance. I just want to know how I can get over this and actually enjoy it all.
You have every right to be anxious as the condom used for birth control is only 85% effective when worn correctly. The condom used with another form of birth control such as the pill is almost 100% effective.
The condom is also very effective in preventing the transfer of the HIV/Aids virus as well as many of the STDS. This is why it is promoted as the only way to have safe sex.
There are other female birth control options other than a hysterectomy that are just as effective as the pill. You should discuss these option with your gynecologist to see which is right for you.
Sex between to consenting adults should not cause you anxiety. It should be as much pleasure for you as it is for your partner. I would say if you're having sex just to provide your partner with sexual pleasure you are not only missing out on the fun and intimacy it provides. You are having sex for all the wrong reasons.
The pill has several unpleasant side effect and I can understand your reluctance to go on the pill. There is also the IUD and several different types of implants that do not have the side effects of the Pill. The IUD has the least side effect and you do not have to have had a child to have one. My wife had an IUD before we had our first Child.
I am a girl and I am 23. I have PCOD sine I was 15. Me n my boyfriend we are having sex since 4years. But I can't reach orgasm during my periods. Why so? And recently I was having intolerable pain in my lower abdomen while having sex. In these 3years I never had this kind of pain. I am worried. Please help.
From what I was able to quickly review on the WEB about PCOD. THe pain in the lower abdomen could be and most likely is a symptom of the PCOD. Not being able to orgasm when on your period is not something to be concerned about to my mind. Many women can't orgasm during that time it is a hormonal thing that is present during your period. I would not be surprised, again based on what I read, that your PCOD is more bothersome at this time.
I'm not a doctor none of us. According to what I read the doctors now believe the are any different reason behind PCOD since the problem is still or can be present even if the Ovaries are removed.
I spent only a few minutes researching on the web to get some insight. There are volumes of information to review to better acquaint yourself with this illness. what I suggest is Start reviewing this information to find out what other doctors are treating this illness as it is cot considered strictly a GYN illness.
IF you need immediate help schedule a visit with your GYN or which ever doctor is currently treating you. But continue to research what doctors are doing to treat this illness. There are many that believe this is hormonal and even some that believes this problem dates all the way back to the womb.
The better informed you are on this illness the more positive of an outcome you will have. Family doctors and even you GYN may only treat the symptoms. You need to educate yourself and advocate for youself with this kind of illness.
I did not see this as being something to be overly worried about, though I can see were it would be painful. For this reason you have to advocate for yourself.
First off, I love my boyfriend (I'm female), he loves me (I think) we've been together 3 years. I was his first, he was my first (we're both 20). We started having sex after 1 year together. Even though neither of us knew what we were really doing, it was great, trying new things, seeing what worked. I used to always like being on top.
Then something changed. I was using my hands to stimulate him and it wasn't working. Tried my mouth a different time, he stopped me. My confidence dropped, I thought I was doing something wrong, he said no I wasn't. I thought he was just shy so I took it as a challenge.
Over time, he doesn't like me doing anything to him anymore. I've asked him to show me how in case I was doing it wrong but he won't. He just makes me orgasm all the time. And sex, I can't help but breathe harder, get hot, moan a bit, you know and genuinely orgasm but his face never changes, he never makes a sound. I never know if he orgasms or not - he occasionally ejaculates but does that mean he orgasms? I stopped going on top cause it was like having sex with someone asleep but he insists he wants me on top.
I want to take control, be sexy. I fantasize about strutting into the room in a skimpy outfit, doing a little dance or something, pushing him back on the bed, straddling him, kissing him all over his body, feeling him with my hands (not even my mouth if he doesn't want me to) and actually see physical signs that he's enjoying it. Am I doing something wrong? I'm so upset, I feel totally useless.
It is not you that I am confident of from what you have written. If a man ejaculates he has orgasmed. Now it is possible for a man to orgasm and not ejaculate. It is something like a mini orgasm you might have.
As to why the change in him I can't say. There are many different things I can think of that might be in play here. Since you were both virgins when you met it is possible that the so called seven year itch has come early. In other worlds he might be wondering what it is like to have sex with someone else. That would be normal and it would not mean his love for you has changed.
He may have sexual fantasies that he may feel you would not approve of. To this You need to talk to him and explain to him you are open to hearing about any fantasy he may have. That anything that takes place in the privacy of the bedroom between the two of you is not weird as long as he does not force you to do something you do not want to do. This is where good communication comes in between you two. Tell him about your fantasy and see how he reacts.
The problem could also be physical and in need of a doctor's intervention. If he is unable to ejaculate each time you make love this could be a problem for him. This could be a physical problem, a problem related to stress or caused by depression. Whatever the reason it is something a doctor can help with. He should not be embarrassed to speak with his doctor about this. Doctors have heard this before and more than what he may be suffering from. Offer to go with him to see his doctor.
If he has trouble getting erect, this something that is very embarrassing for a young man. Erectile dysfunction knows no age boundaries and if almost always correctable. High blood pressure is a general cause or rather the medication for high blood pressure is the biggest cause for erectile dysfunction in otherwise healthy males. If he is on blood pressure medication and this is the problem it is simply a matter of talking to his doctor. Here again he should not be embarrassed as sex is a very large part of our lives.
I hope I have offered some help.
I love this girl nd m finding it difficult to lure her into my bedroom
The word lure sounds abit like you are conspiring to get her in bed with you. If you love someone you don't conspire to do something they either are not ready to do or do not want to do. You say you love her; are you sure you love her and not just lust for her. If you love someone you would not try to lure or conspire to have her do something she does not want to do.
When it comes to sex you have to be very careful about how you try to have sex with someone. Once they say no, or any other negative response to your attempts to have any type of sex with them. If you continue to try and lure or convince them to have sex with you, then you cross the line into the legal definition of sexual harassment. If this girl is under the age of consent she or her parents can bring charges against you. If you are both of school age and you are doing so at school the school authorities can bring charges as well.
Sexual harassment is todays slippery slope as it is very much on the radar of everyone. What was once tolerated as jut hormonal overcharged teenaged males is todays sexual harassment. The line which is crossed is also very fluid. What is acceptable today may not be acceptable tomorrow. Frankly I would not want to be a teenage male today.
If your girlfriend loves you she will let you know when she is ready to have sex with you. When she is you need to have condoms and use them. Not just for pregnancy protection but for protection against STDs and the HIV/AIDS virus. Even if you are both virgins starting with condoms is a good habit to start with.
Next, make sure wherever you are going to make love is comfortable and secure from intrusion. Take your time and make sure she is ready. Foreplay is important. Have some lubrication Gel so as to make sure when you do penetrate her you don't hurt her. If she is a virgin take you time and make it as nice as possible for her. Virgin or not remember every time you have sex with a women you are penetrating there body. There is a small trauma associated with the penetration so make sure she is ready and well lubricated.
My balls are really big do girls like really big balls or smaller balls?
I really do not think it matters to the majority of women. As long as they can cup them in their hand or hands, wrap their lips around one or both of your nuts the majority of women will be happy. That is not to say there are not a few women who are hung up on size. These women either want big everything, Penis and Scrotums or small Penis and scrotums.
Most women especially young teenage women are like young teenage men. They are happy with whatever their partner has to offer. Later on in life when you are looking for a life mate you may have s preference though when love comes into play preferences are blinded by your love for your partner. Their sexual equipment becomes secondary to their love for that person and adjustments are made as needed just as long as the sex is compatible.