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General Sex Questions
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I an a 14year old male vergin and i want to lose my verginity badly with another woman! If there is any girl out there willing enough to "do it" despite my looks, i will reward you with whatever i got being $20+! I am not circumsized just to let you know! My address will be given to you only by email!!
I am also Canadian! I will not lose my verginity to a chubby! Or men!!!
Two things: This is not a dating site. This site is dedicated to answering questions in a semi-confidential anonymous manner. Offering money to a girl to have sex with you is illegal at least in this country with the exception of the legalized brothels in certain counties of Nevada.
It is very possible that your offer of $20.00 + reward could be construed as an solicitation of prostitution by wire. This would be an act investigated by our FBI and most likely the Canadian Mounted Police or the FBI equivalent in Canada.
I suggest you don't make any more such offers in the future. Given your age you probably won't be in all that much trouble with the law. I'm not sure how much trouble you will be in with your parents when the Mounties come knocking at your door if they were to investigate this.
I tell you this for your own well-being. I am not going to alert the webmaster about this message. That does not mean he won't see it nor does it mean he will not do anything. Fact is if it were to be reported it is quite easy to trace this message or any message sent via computer back to the computer of origin. So be careful of what you put out into cyber space.
As to losing your virginity; you’re way too young for that. Try making out with a girl first and masturbating to relieve your sexual tension. When you’re old enough to support a child then you can try your hand at sex for that is the result of what can happen if you get a girl pregnant. At your age it is the end of any dreams you have for as soon as you come of age you have to go to work to support that child and its mother.
okay so im a virgin and my bf isn't.... I want to have sex with him but I don't know what to do.... I am not scared im very excited.... I just need tips on what to do? any advice please???????!???!!???!!!!??? (im 19 btw)
The best thing to do is to tell your boyfriend you’re a virgin. The reasons for this are two.
First and foremost you want him to be gentle and to make this special for you. If he is of your same age he is most likely not all that skilled himself and sex is somewhat of wham bam affair.
Second; be he your first and only sexual partner or the first of a few. In order to have a good relationship with anyone communication is important. Communication in a sexual relationship is also important for sex to successful for both of you. You both need to communicate your sexual needs to each other. At this point for you, your need is to be gently taken into the world of adult sex. Later once you are comfortable having him inside you. You can them explore different avenues of sexual needs but this takes being open with each other as to your preferences and desires.
IF you do this both in and out of bed you will have a successful relationship. Most relationships fail because they are built on poor foundations. If you build a relationship strictly on chemistry sexual needs. One day you’re going to wake up and find you have nothing in common and the relationship flounders.
Before you have sex with him you should see your doctor and be on the contraceptive pill and wait until it is affective. You're and adult know you do not need parental permission.
Your doctor will tell you when the pill has taken effect. Also NEVER have sex with anyone unless he wears a condom. This not only provides extra protection against pregnancy but provides protect against the transmission of many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus. Remember when you have unprotect sex with someone you are having sex with everyone he has had unprotected sex within the past. IF he will not wear a condom for you then he does not have the proper respect for you and you should not have se with him.
When I was your age the girls had a saying; "No rubber, no lover." It was just that simple. No condom they kept their legs closed.
I hope your first sexual experience is everything you hoped it to be.
Im 15 going on 16 soon, I had dry sex with my boyfriend. I was wondering if there was any way I could get pregnant?
1. I got off of my period 3 days before so chances are I wasn't fertile.
2. He hasn't ejaculated in a week previous and I heard urination could take care of extra sperm.
3. We were sort of naked but he didn't go in he sort of just rubbed against the clit.
4. He didn't cum but he was pre-cumming a lot.
5. I wiped right after, when I got back to the house, then AGAIN when I took a shower. Then I used a homemade spermicide with aloe and lemon juice.
You can get pregnant from precum if any of it enter your vagina. Wiping the exterior of your vagina hours after would be too late as the semen could have already entered your vagina if any got on your clit and was able to get down and into you. Homemade spermicides are a Myth most all of them don't work, especially after the fact.
The good news is you are correct in thinking you were probably not fertile. The best thing to do is go to the store and by a test kit. Find one that allows there earliest testing after possible conception and take the test just to confirm you’re not pregnant.
In the future if you’re going to mess around like that have your boyfriend wear a condom. Yes, even while dry humping. If sperm can't get in no baby will come out or as when I was your age the girls said. "No rubber no lover."
how to kiss
Kissing is something that is both natural and a learned experience. We all know how to kiss we have been doing so since we were infants and is the natural part of kissing.
The learned experience part is the part you are asking about. That comes from falling in love with someone. You're in the 6th grade and will have many lovers between this grade and finishing college. You and different partners will learn to kiss as you get older and get more experience at kissing each other. You will learn from each other.
Kissing on the lips is not much different than kissing someone on the cheek. The difference is learning what is called French kissing; this when you and your partner allow your tongues to explore each other’s mouth. It may sound kind of gross at the moment, though when the moment is right it is a very intimate experience. It will also come very naturally and will get better with practice with your lover at the time.
My advice is relax enjoy being a pre-teen and the kissing will come just as naturally as anything else you have learned to do as you have gotten older and needed.
So me and my boyfriend are both 18 and we have been dating for 11 moths.I would like to do more than making out,hand jobs, blow jobs and fingering.but I honestly don't know I just wanna try some thing new WITHOUT HAVING SEX.Any ideas are appreciated thank you.
I'm not quite sure what you're asking. Though if you're asking what two people can do together other than stay home and have sex, that does not cost a lot of money. Then there are many things you can do together.
Depending on the time of the year and where you live. There could be free concerts in the park put on by your department of parks and recreation. Where I live they have a movie night three nights a week. Okay, the movies are not first run but they are free they are safe as they are well protected by County Police. No glass containers are allowed or alcoholic beverages. That does not stop you from packing a picnic basket with snacks or a late cold dinner and lounge on the lawn, watch a good movie and snack or eat dinner. Your local department of Parks & Recreation should have a number of things you may enjoy doing listed on their website.
Pack a picnic lunch and take a ride in the country. Find a nice spot and sit back enjoy lunch and the scenery. Go to museums, many of which are free or low cost. All government funded museums are generally free of charge. IF you live near a lake rent a boat and go for a ride.
For the most part explore where you live. Most of us ignore the places of interest where we live; mostly because they have become like wall paper to us. I grew up just outside of New York City. With the exception of a class trip to the UN and our annual Christmas trip to Radio City Music Hall I never visited the City as a tourist. Thirty years after I moved away I took my son on a visit as a tourist and I know there are things we did not have time to see. So explore your own home town and state.
To find places of interest in your state and which are free or have a cost. Visit the state tourism web site.
Hey iam 17year old and form india, i want to have sex with my girlfriend can i control my sperm as i don't want to use condom and get her pregnant, i don't wanna use pill to stop pregnancy.
There are two reasons to use a condom. The first is pregnancy protection. The second is to prevent the transmission of STDs. Condoms do not stop all STDs but it does stop many of them and is effective in stopping the transmission of the HIV/AID virus which is quite high in certain parts of your country.
You may not have any symptoms but could be a carrier if you have had unprotected sex with anyone infected with an STD or the HIV/AIDs virus. The same is true for her is she has had unprotected sex with anyone who has had sex with any person infected. Condom use protects the health of both of you.
As for controlling your sperm; there is no way to do so. You might be able to withdraw before you ejaculate. During intercourse you emit a tiny amount of lubricant. This lubricant has enough sperm in it to impregnate a woman. You do not feel this emission so you cannot control it. This is why condoms are rated high as pregnancy prevention.
IF you do not wish to become a father at 17 or possibly become infected with some STD or the AIDS virus, use a condom when having sex.
I'm a 16 year old girl anf there really is never a time where I don't want to have sex with someone...is this normal? Or am I just an odd kid?
Unfortunately this is normal for all teenagers both boys and girls. It is the effect of the hormones that are developed and released into your body by puberty. To act on them and have sex with anyone at your age would be wrong.
Yes you have developed the body of a young woman, yet your body and you have not matured enough to the point you are ready for sex or sexual intercourse. For one thing you are still growing into a woman. Your breast are still developing as is your vagina. The hormones that are making you horny are sending or bringing the signals needed for the different muscles to cause the development of different parts of you to continue. Every bit of you is changing from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. This will continue for several more years.
The best way to relieve the sexual tension brought on by puberty is to masturbate, I know of no woman who ever got pregnant from masturbating. Masturbation is the safest form of sexual relief for young women and for young men as no baby can be produced as a result.
I really want to make myself (as a guy) squirt. I heard it feels REALLY GOOD.
If you have not entered puberty you may not be physically able to shoot yet. IF you have entered puberty and are masturbating you should be able to ejaculate.
Go on the web and type into a search engine "Male Masturbation and or how do males masturbate." These will return information on how to masturbate properly. Find a site that gives you the information that you can follow then follow the information given. I would suggest you do so in the privacy of your bedroom with the door closed and locked if possible so that you are not disturbed or intruded upon.
Masturbation is normal and according to recent surveys 85% of us do so. In a family of 4 this means 3.4 of those in the household masturbate. This could mean you and your parents as well as possibly your sibling.
As a parent we tell our children not to masturbate, that its dirty to do so. We are being hypercritical for saying so as most of us do so as part of foreplay prior to sex. The reason we say this to our children is that we feel masturbation leads to wanting the real thing. At your age having sex with a girl can lead to a pregnancy that should not be and you are not prepared for. The flip side of this is that masturbation is also a good substitute for the real thing so go ahead and masturbate. Just do so in private where you cannot be intruded upon.
Now if you are going through puberty, are masturbating properly and still cannot ejaculate. Then you may have a problem that needs a doctors attention. Don't panic, if you are over 14 there is a federal law that gives you absolute medical confidentiality concerning your reproductive system. This law is called HIPPA.
Under this law as long as you are 14 years of age or older you do not need parental permission to see a doctor for anything related to your reproductive system. This problem would qualify under HIPPA.
You could make an appointment, see the doctor, be examined and treated; ask any questions you may have, all without your parents knowledge or consent. You parents cannot see these medical records without you written consent to the doctor nor can the doctor or any of the staff tell you parents why you saw or were treated by the doctor. Your parents can no longer be in the examination room with you without your permission under this law. All you need to say to the doctor if a parent is with you is you invoke your rights under HIPPA.
Congress passed this law was written not to give teenagers license to have sex. They passed this law so that teenagers would seek medical attention for problems with their reproductive system they may be too embarrassed to go to their parents with and so you can be totally open with the doctor so the doctor can properly treat you.
Under this law you have total control of the confidentiality of the medical records for any doctors visit having anything to do with your reproductive health.
So if for some reason you are old enough to be ejaculating, and at 14 you should be. If after finding out how to properly masturbate you still do not ejaculate. My advice is to see a Urologist as this is the doctor that specializes in this area of medicine.
is it possible that i can get pregnant aft having sex with my undergarments on and where at same time my boyfriend has removed his boxers in the middle of it and then we continued ..... and all these happend just one night before of expected day of menstruation. I want to know. .is there any chance that i can get pregnant bcz its been 6 days late, i dint my period.previouslymy periods were quite regular.. Should i worry?should i contact a doc for this?
Doctors say that 80% of women are most fertile during the time from the 7th to 21st day of their cycle on a 28 day cycle. The other 20% can be fertile at any time during their cycle including while theY have their periods.
With the above in mind the answer to your question is: It is possible depending on when during your cycle you ovulate and become fertile. Just how likely it is that you are pregnant is slim but possible. I would suggest you go to the pharmacy and find a home test kit that allows you to test as soon as possible after you have had sex.
How likely is it that your boyfriends sperm swam through your undergarment and all the way to your fallopian tube to fertilize an egg. This would depend on where on your panties he ejaculated. How close to your vagina, what type of material the panties were made out of.
While it is possible the fact that you missed your period is higher for other factors than being pregnant. The only way to know for sure is with a home test. IF THE TEST IS POSITIVE DON'T FREAK OUT. There are more false positive then negatives. wait ten days and test again with a different kit. IF that test is positive then you are probably pregnant and need to see a doctor.
In the future if you are going to fool around in this manner with your boyfriend. When his penis is outside his pants make sure he covers it with a condom if it is going to be anywhere near your vagina, regardless if your vagina is clothed or not.
My boyfriend and i have had our intimate moments but i notice that the last time he fingered me we were being rough so he practically pumped it. So it kinda hurted but i didnt mind it much. But now my area down there has been hurting. Is that bad? What should i do?
Your boyfriend probably got too rough when fingering you and bruised you a bit, (something like punching you in the arm to hard). Nothing to worry about unless it continues to bother you after a few days of no sexual contact, fingering.
If it continues to bother you after 2 or 3 days then a trip to your GYN may be in order. This may sound strange but if you are bruised and ice pack will help reduce the swelling it has caused. Yea, I know do you really want to put an ice pack down there?
Okay I'm a female & I'm 14 turning 15 in a few months. Don't even start talking about my age cause I already know y'all are gonna be telling me I'm too young but I feel like I'm ready, so keep your hate to yourselves! My boyfriend is 17. We've been on and off a lot but lately things have been good. We both want to have sex. He's not a virgin but I am. We've done stuff before like fingering , hand jobs , blow jobs ( sorry to describe ) and whenever he does too deep with the fingering I usually bleed a bit. I feel like its because he's tearing my hymen a bit. Well we were going to have sex but I'm kind of scared to bleed a lot. He's gonna have a condom so I don't care if it goes on him but I don't wanna bleed a lot. Is there any way I won't have to bleed a lot? Also I'm embarrassed about my body. I have stretch marks in my thighs, sides, and my lower back kind of on my butt. He says he's gonna love me no matter what but some of those scars are from self harm. Also my inner thighs are a grayish blue color & I feel like he'd be disgusted. Any way to hide that? Or what might it be and is there treatment? Thanks.
First no matter what you say your not ready for sex and there are two reasons for this. The first and regardless of not wanting to hear this is you are too young and not mature enough for sex. Which leads to reason two. If you were mature enough for sex then you would not be embarrassed by showing your naked body to your lover.
You would know and your lover would be making love to you. Your body is just a vessel that allows him to make love to you. I'm sure you do not understand what I'm saying and it is hard to explain this.
I think I can explain it this way. When selling cars they sell the sizzle. They sell the looks, the comfort, the speed and accessories. What they don't tell you is what's under the hood, what it is going to take to keep that car on the road. What your saying is your body is lacking the sizzle you think you need to keep him interested as a lover and you would be correct if all he is lusting for you.
Boys and girls at your age have entirely different definitions of love. To most boys love is the same as lust. If they lust then they feel they are in love. If a guy says if you love me you will sleep with me. Then he doesn't love you he lusts for you.
A 17 year old boy should be dating a 16,17 or 18 year old girl, not a 14 or 15 year old girl. Boys that do date so for below their age do so because the find it easier to get them to have sex with them. This is because the girls dating maturity is not equal to his and she wants to please him to keep him.
I could be wrong but as a parent and a grandparent I have been around long enough to know I am probably right. In fact I was once a 17 year old boy myself so I think I just may know how a 17 year old boy might think.
Me and my boyfriend just had sex and he nutted right on myvagina..im freaking out! I wiped it off as soon as he gave me something to wipe it off.. what are my chances ?!
Your chances depend on three things being present.
First: Most important are you fertile at this time. For most women about 80% are most fertile during the middle 2 weeks of their menstrual cycle, form the 7th to the 21st day. It is during this period that your ovary expels an egg into your fallopian tube where it can be fertilized by the boy’s sperm. Sperm lives in the body for 3 days if there is no eggs present you cannot get pregnant.
Second: It takes just one sperm to fertilize the egg out of the millions the male ejaculates. Depending how much actually made it past your lips of your vagina if any plays a big part in whether you will be pregnant.
Third: How high is the boy’s sperm count? While most males ejaculate millions of sperm there are males whose sperm ore not alive, or who have low sperm counts. These men would be considered infertile unable to get a woman pregnant.
Statistically speaking I would say your chances of being or getting pregnant from what occurred, if he never entered you is between 1 and 3 out of 10 or between 70 and 90 percent you are not pregnant.
Now if you did have intercourse and he pulled out those statistics change because of the precum he emitted during the intercourse. Then the chances of you being pregnant are closer to 70 to 90 present as the precum is loaded with enough sperm to fertilize and egg if one is pregnant.
It is too early for a home test but not too early to find a test kit which will allow the earliest test after intercourse. Find a test kit and test as soon as it allows. This is the only way to know for sure if you are pregnant or not.
In the future if you are going to have sex with a boy make sure his penis is capped with a condom.
Im a virgin.. my boyfriend inserted is penis but only a little bit.. and only for a few seconds.. is it possible to be pregnant?
I have bad news and worse news for you. The bad news is that yes it is possible for you to get pregnant if sperm emitted from him. The worse news is you can no longer call yourself a virgin.
By todays definition of virginity; "A female is a Virgin until her vagina is penetrated by a Penis. It does not matter how far or for how long he was in you. Once his penis passes the lips of your vagina, even if your Hymen remains intact, by definition, you are no longer a virgin.
The possibility you are pregnant are slim. It is possible due to the stress of worrying about being pregnant that your period will be late or missed all together. Stress is the biggest killer of a woman's period.
Since you probably cannot avoid the worry I suggest you go to a pharmacy and find a test. Find one that allows you to test as soon as possible from the date your boyfriend put his penis in you. . Follow the instructions as to when to test and if the results are negative relax you’re not pregnant. If by chance you get a positive result don't panic. Early testing returns more false positives than false negatives. Wait ten days and test again.
In the future when playing around with a guy. Consider his penis a loaded gun. If his pants come off cap his penis with a condom. That way you can relax and not worry. Just make sure he knows how to wear it.
*̩ lost my verginity this weekend. He weared a condom. And *̩ think *̩ have efection now*! *̩ have a high body tempreature and if *̩ pee it burns. *̩ can't tell my mom because se will kill me! Please help...
You're having sex for the first time and the symptoms you have now are most likely not related. As the others have said you most likely have a UTI (urinary tract infection.)
Being 16 years of age a federal law called HIPPA does give you the right to see a doctor any time you experience problems with your reproductive health, without parental permission or Knowledge.
Since the urinary tract is part of your vagina you can see a doctor, any doctor including a free clinic without parental permission.
Since this is most likely a urinary tract infect, women get them all the time, there is really no reason not to tell your mom. If you were to tell her she can be made to stay in the waiting room while you see the doctor by you simply saying to the doctors nurse or receptionist. I want to see the doctor under my rights under HIPPA. The doctors staff will take it from there and tell mom she must wait in the waiting room.
Since you are now sexually active. This same law says you can ask the doctor for birth control medication and the doctor has to prescribe it unless there is a medical reason not to.
How to musterbet
First you need to know how to spell the word correctly. The word is "Masturbate." Now using a search engine Type in "How do I Masturbate." Look for a return from a site called From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. This site will give you the best answer to your question. Also some where on the first page there will be a place for either male or female techniques for you to click on.
Does back hole fucking cause pregnancy
Short answer is NO! IF you look at human anatomy you will see there is no connection between the anal tract and the reproductive tract of the vagina.
Now the other writer is correct in that if any live sperm from you intercourse were to come in contact with the vaginal tract. Then there is the possibility of a pregnancy. This contact would have to be pre-coitus in the anus. For I believe once sperm comes in contact with the anal tract it will shortly die due to all the germs and bacteria living in the anal tract.
One reason I believe this to be true is once a penis enters the anus it should not enter a vagina until it is thoroughly washed in warm soapy water, from tip to groin area. For going from anus to vagina without washing will bring bacteria from the anus to the vagina which can cause an infection.
The male should wear a condom when having anal sex to protect himself from various infections that can arise from anal sex. Even when wearing a condom complete washing of his penis is still required.
Anal sex can be fun and it can be painful for the girl so caution is advised when entering the anus. Protection is a must as is proper hygiene.
im really wondering if im supposed to shave my pussy or vagina area. im really hairy and i wear a 34B and i get really irrated cause i feel like im the only one with hair their
This question falls in the category of personal desire and satisfaction. There is no must do about it.
Some women shave for personal hygiene reasons, others do so because their husbands or boyfriends have asked them too. Most women trim their pubic hair to fit beneath their bathing suits. It is really a question of personal desire.
As for men. The feeling to day is that they would like their women to have a pubic bush and some even want a full pubic area of hair. Some though ask that their girlfriend or wife shave just their vagina for obvious reasons.
My personal opinion is I prefer a woman have a pubic bush and it does not bother me if she does not shave at all. To me a woman with no hair, especially young women look even younger when nude if they shave and look even younger and child like.
When I make love I make love to women not children. I desire my wife, previously my girlfriend not to shave. When we first met she shaved I asked her to stop. She was very relieved to not have to shave anymore.
In the end though the choice to shave or not to shave is a personal choice, not a requirement of any kind.
Me and my guy friend when we was 13 would give orel sex to each other. Now we are 21 in a relationship with girls and haven't spoke about it since we was prob 14. And we and would not want anyone to find out about it. How would I go about asking him if he would ever consider me giving him a blowjob again
Experimenting sexually with members of the same sex during your early teenage years is almost a rite of passage. Most boys and girls do so. It does not mean you're bisexual. Experimentation or exploring sexuality with a member of the same sex is safe; as in there is generally no embarrassment about being naked with each other or how to perform. It is for most boys and girls their first step into the adult world of sex.
While most men and women have participated in this type of sex play. Most would not want to admit it or relive it with the partner or partners they experimented with. For many it is something they want to forget about for they fear their present heterosexual partner will feel poorly about them if they learned about this time in their lives. That they may have latent homosexual tendencies. This of course is not true.
Some may come to enjoy sex with the same sex as well as the opposite sex. We call these people bisexual. Some people think this wrong, an affront to religious teachings. Frankly what goes on in the privacy of your own home and bedroom is now ones business but yours and your partners.
To answer your question; it would be very hard to bring up or to start a conversation with your teenage same sex partner, especially in mixed company. This would most definitely have to be a conversation that takes place in total privacy between just the two of you.
If you were to start a conversation that would lead to this question it would have to start indirectly. A conversation somewhat along the lines of the good old days back in high school and then lead the conversation in the direction that would come back to the time of the two of you bumbling with sexual experimentation between you.
The same would be true of a conversation with your girlfriend(s) if you wanted to find out is she or they have ever had a same sex sexual relationship. The chances are high that they have, will they or she admit to it is another story.
You never know where these conversations will lead too. If you were to ask you childhood friend if he would like to relieve that time with you? He could end up slugging you and you and he ending a great friendship. So be careful what you ask for.
Hey you guys, I'm a seventeen year old female and I want to know is it normal to bleed after being fingered?
My boyfriend has been fingering me recently, and I've noticed that I'd bleed afterwards. The first time was about three weeks ago, and after he finished, he pulled out his fingers and they were covered with blood. He claimed that he popped my cherry. I left it at that, figuring that I'd never truly popped it on my own.
The next time he did it, I was almost on my period, so I figured that it just came early.
However, the last time he fingered me, he pulled out his fingers and there was a lot of blood on them. And I mean by a LOT. I was worried that I had internal bleeding and I'd damaged something. It was truly embarrassing and worrisome. It didn't seem like normal period blood, but the bright "I've cut something" blood. It's been two days since he's fingered me, and I'm still seeing spotting, and gooey brown blood/vaginal discharge.
It doesn't hurt when he fingers me, except I may feel a quick, sharp pain if he goes too deep, too fast.
Before my boyfriend started fingering me, I wouldn't experience any type of bleed if I fingered myself, or even when I was with different partners and they did so for me. Now, when I finger myself, I experience slight bleeding.
There may be a couple of things going on here. He may have torn your Hymen but not ruptured or detached it. If so every time he fingers you he tears it a little more.
He may be scrapping or tearing your vaginal walls with a jagged fingernail or a rough callous. Check his nails and if they are long or jagged give him a manicure before he fingers you trimming back his nails and smoothing his callouses.
If there is nothing wrong with his fingers or nails then my first thoughts are possible. My suggestion then would be you see your GYN and let the GYN finish the removal of your HYMEN. The GYN will also upon examination find out the real cause of the problem and correct it for you.
I am not a doctor and even if I was without being able to examine you I can only make an educated guess at the problem. It is in your reproductive health's best interest to see a GYN and see what the problem is. There is no reason to be embarrassed with the doctor for he or she has seen this and more during their practice.
How do I have a clean pussy?
To clean your vagina, proper term for your sex organ, during your daily shower just plain soap and water is all you need to clean the exterior of your vagina. The interior does not need cleaning. If you do feel the need to rinse it out plain water is all you need unless your GYN tells you to use something else for some reason.
The interior of your vagina has a delicate ph. balance. Using over the counter douche's will upsets this balance, is not recommended by doctors as it can do more harm than good, unless they recommend you do so for medical reasons.
If you feel the need, which you should not, to rinse out your vagina. Then plain warm, not hot or cold, water will do.