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General Sex Questions
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im really wondering if im supposed to shave my pussy or vagina area. im really hairy and i wear a 34B and i get really irrated cause i feel like im the only one with hair their
This question falls in the category of personal desire and satisfaction. There is no must do about it.
Some women shave for personal hygiene reasons, others do so because their husbands or boyfriends have asked them too. Most women trim their pubic hair to fit beneath their bathing suits. It is really a question of personal desire.
As for men. The feeling to day is that they would like their women to have a pubic bush and some even want a full pubic area of hair. Some though ask that their girlfriend or wife shave just their vagina for obvious reasons.
My personal opinion is I prefer a woman have a pubic bush and it does not bother me if she does not shave at all. To me a woman with no hair, especially young women look even younger when nude if they shave and look even younger and child like.
When I make love I make love to women not children. I desire my wife, previously my girlfriend not to shave. When we first met she shaved I asked her to stop. She was very relieved to not have to shave anymore.
In the end though the choice to shave or not to shave is a personal choice, not a requirement of any kind.
Me and my guy friend when we was 13 would give orel sex to each other. Now we are 21 in a relationship with girls and haven't spoke about it since we was prob 14. And we and would not want anyone to find out about it. How would I go about asking him if he would ever consider me giving him a blowjob again
Experimenting sexually with members of the same sex during your early teenage years is almost a rite of passage. Most boys and girls do so. It does not mean you're bisexual. Experimentation or exploring sexuality with a member of the same sex is safe; as in there is generally no embarrassment about being naked with each other or how to perform. It is for most boys and girls their first step into the adult world of sex.
While most men and women have participated in this type of sex play. Most would not want to admit it or relive it with the partner or partners they experimented with. For many it is something they want to forget about for they fear their present heterosexual partner will feel poorly about them if they learned about this time in their lives. That they may have latent homosexual tendencies. This of course is not true.
Some may come to enjoy sex with the same sex as well as the opposite sex. We call these people bisexual. Some people think this wrong, an affront to religious teachings. Frankly what goes on in the privacy of your own home and bedroom is now ones business but yours and your partners.
To answer your question; it would be very hard to bring up or to start a conversation with your teenage same sex partner, especially in mixed company. This would most definitely have to be a conversation that takes place in total privacy between just the two of you.
If you were to start a conversation that would lead to this question it would have to start indirectly. A conversation somewhat along the lines of the good old days back in high school and then lead the conversation in the direction that would come back to the time of the two of you bumbling with sexual experimentation between you.
The same would be true of a conversation with your girlfriend(s) if you wanted to find out is she or they have ever had a same sex sexual relationship. The chances are high that they have, will they or she admit to it is another story.
You never know where these conversations will lead too. If you were to ask you childhood friend if he would like to relieve that time with you? He could end up slugging you and you and he ending a great friendship. So be careful what you ask for.
Hey you guys, I'm a seventeen year old female and I want to know is it normal to bleed after being fingered?
My boyfriend has been fingering me recently, and I've noticed that I'd bleed afterwards. The first time was about three weeks ago, and after he finished, he pulled out his fingers and they were covered with blood. He claimed that he popped my cherry. I left it at that, figuring that I'd never truly popped it on my own.
The next time he did it, I was almost on my period, so I figured that it just came early.
However, the last time he fingered me, he pulled out his fingers and there was a lot of blood on them. And I mean by a LOT. I was worried that I had internal bleeding and I'd damaged something. It was truly embarrassing and worrisome. It didn't seem like normal period blood, but the bright "I've cut something" blood. It's been two days since he's fingered me, and I'm still seeing spotting, and gooey brown blood/vaginal discharge.
It doesn't hurt when he fingers me, except I may feel a quick, sharp pain if he goes too deep, too fast.
Before my boyfriend started fingering me, I wouldn't experience any type of bleed if I fingered myself, or even when I was with different partners and they did so for me. Now, when I finger myself, I experience slight bleeding.
There may be a couple of things going on here. He may have torn your Hymen but not ruptured or detached it. If so every time he fingers you he tears it a little more.
He may be scrapping or tearing your vaginal walls with a jagged fingernail or a rough callous. Check his nails and if they are long or jagged give him a manicure before he fingers you trimming back his nails and smoothing his callouses.
If there is nothing wrong with his fingers or nails then my first thoughts are possible. My suggestion then would be you see your GYN and let the GYN finish the removal of your HYMEN. The GYN will also upon examination find out the real cause of the problem and correct it for you.
I am not a doctor and even if I was without being able to examine you I can only make an educated guess at the problem. It is in your reproductive health's best interest to see a GYN and see what the problem is. There is no reason to be embarrassed with the doctor for he or she has seen this and more during their practice.
How do I have a clean pussy?
To clean your vagina, proper term for your sex organ, during your daily shower just plain soap and water is all you need to clean the exterior of your vagina. The interior does not need cleaning. If you do feel the need to rinse it out plain water is all you need unless your GYN tells you to use something else for some reason.
The interior of your vagina has a delicate ph. balance. Using over the counter douche's will upsets this balance, is not recommended by doctors as it can do more harm than good, unless they recommend you do so for medical reasons.
If you feel the need, which you should not, to rinse out your vagina. Then plain warm, not hot or cold, water will do.
Well me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday it's not our first time it's our third we are protected every time but for the first time I had a little bit of blood come out today and I don't know from what? I'm just confused did my cherry pop? Can that happen after the 3rd time of having sex? Or what else could it be?
There are a couple of reasons why you bled this time. Besides rough sex or not having enough lubrication it is possible if your Hymen was intact for your first intercourse some of it remained attached and for some reason during this intercourse it was torn away.
Another reason is if your boyfriend has a longer than average penis that he hit your cervix during intercourse causing it to bleed. You would know if he was as you would feel him hitting you and it could be anywhere from uncomfortable to painful for you.
If he is hitting your cervix during intercourse then he is going to need to be more careful and not fully penetrate you with his penis. Another words shorten his stroke so he does not fully lodge himself in you.
If you are properly lubricated, you can use lubricating gel, available at any drug store or supermarket, and is not hitting your cervix, and you belled again after sex with him. Then you need to see a GYN.
I'm a 20 year-old guy and I just started college at a university filled with hot girls, and I always think about girls, all day.
I am single and have been for a while, and I just always think about girls and sex and when I am in my house that is all I ever think about. Do I have a problem?
No, your normal.
how much time daily is minimum required for sex to get pregnent???
The amount of time spent having sex has very little to do with whether or not you will become pregnant. Getting pregnant is not as simple as just having sex. Rather it is more like an algebra problem. All the proper components must be in place and take place in the proper order in order for pregnancy to occur. Sex is the last part of the component.
TO get pregnant the female must be fertile at the time sex takes place. For 80% of women this takes place sometime between the 7th and 21st day of her menstrual cycle when the ovary ejects and egg for fertilization. This is the time of ovulation. Some women will know when this happens as she may experience some cramping when this happens others will not. There are ovulation test kits in drug stores that can be used to find out when you are most likely fertile. It is a three day period during this time of ovulation that you are most likely to become pregnant. If you wish to become pregnant you should have sex during this time period.
For the other 20% of women the can ovulate at anytime during their cycle including while having their period. Your GYN can help you track when you ovulate and when the best time for sex is to conceive a child.
Note: To much sex lowers the amount of sperm a man produces. So you may want to limit your sex during this period to once every other day to insure he produces the maximum amount of sperm to get the job done. Sperm if viable for 3 days with in your body.
I hope this helps.
Turning into an anal size queen. I go slow and use plenty lube. Is there long term risk of incontinence or other damage?
I have heard that many European women use anal sex as a way to protect their virginity until they marry. For this reason anal sex has been nicknamed the Greek way.
If you're careful there should be no long term effects from anal sex. You should though read up on it on the web as there are numerous articles on the subject. Of course there are certain precautions that should be taken. Your partner should wear a condom, this will protect against many of the germs that are in the anal canal. Note I said many but possible not all. Using a condom to protect against these germs will also help in the prevention and transmission of many but not all STDS. Use a generous amount of lube. Most importantly you need to learn to relax your sphincter muscle. This muscle is not use to invasion.
Even though your partner used a condom make sure you wash his penis and groin area with warm soapy water before having any other sexual acts. This will help prevent any germs from being transmitted from your anal canal to anywhere else on you or in you.
Well right now I am fairly new and inexperienced with sex. But I have this situation where I go limp whenever I apply a condom. This has happened twice with the girl i'm with and it has been frustrating and embarassing for me. I have been practicing on how to put the condom on with ease and less focus from the sensation but I still can not keep the erection with it on. It's able to get right back up once I'm stimulated again, but when the condom comes i lose the moment. So I was wondering if using Libido max is safe and will help me with my situation?
I'm confused; in your opening line it says "young 21 year old male," but your profile says you are 14? Are you 21 or 14?
My advice to anyone on this type of product is that they are a waste of money and don't work. If you are 14 then you are still in the throws of puberty and taking something like this will most likely do you more harm then good.
If you are 14 you should not be having sexual intercourse in the first place. The loss of your erection could very well have more to do with psychosomatic guilt then the condom.
Regardless of why; erectile dysfunction is an embarrassing problem for all males regardless of age. Over the counter products will not correct this problem. To correct this problem you need to seek the help of a urologist or one of the clinics that advertise in the specialty of erectile dysfunction.
If your between 14 and 18 your saying, how do I tell mom or dad I need to see a doctor because I can't maintain an erection? You don't have to tell your parents if your under 18. As long as your over 14 there is a law called HIPPA that covers this type of problem.
Within the Federal HIPPA law there is a section covering young people age 14 and older for the health and well being of their reproductive system. When it comes to their reproductive system the are granted total medical confidentiality. Meaning they do not need parental permission to seek medical advice or treatment for anything related to their reproductive system. Erectile dysfunction would fall under this category.
You start by going to your family doctor, you do not need parental permission. Tell the doctor you invoke your rights under HIPPA for this visit. You are still covered under your parents medical insurance. Your doctor is not allowed to tell your parents why you are there, what you are being treated for or anything else about this visit without your written consent. To do so without your consent could put the doctor or any one in the doctors employ in jail for up to 5 years.
Then you do as the doctor tells you. If that means you are referred to another doctor make an appointment to see the other doctor. All you need is your health insurance card, which as a teenager you should be carrying on you at all time now in any case.
If you are 21 follow the same instructions on seeing your family doctor first. You are still covered under HIPPA as that is the law of the land know for all adult patients. As far as anyone seeing your medical records, your parents lost that ability when you turned 18. Under the affordable Care act (Obama Care) you could still be covered under your parents insurance. This does not give them the right to see your medical records or make medical decisions, or speak to your doctors to get medical information about you without your written permission to the doctor
my boyfrined cummed in my mouth and then wanted to finger me I said no he washed his hands and then like a half hour later he fingerd me he washed them in hot water could there be a possibility I'm pregnat. I haven't had my period yet I think I'm late . is there a chance it was under his finger nails
I really wish schools would do a better job at teaching sex education. It seems to me that today's generation of teenagers are less informed about sex then the generation before sex education was introduced in school. Sorry I needed to vent.
Your not pregnant, between washing his hands and the time between then and the time he fingered you any sperm that might have been on his fingers were either washed away or died.
If you want to proof that to yourself. Take some of your boyfriends sperm, put it on a slide and look at it under a microscope. The microscope does not have be very powerful. One of the ones that come in a children's toy science set is powerful enough to see what I am saying. The sperm will stop trying to swim in short order.
There are many different reasons for missing your period and this will not be the last time you miss a period during your menstrual life. The most common reason is stress. Stress causes a great disruption with in us. This disruption very easily disrupts the delicate balance of your cycle. If you are concerned about being pregnant, which you must be to write us. This is just enough stress to throw your cycle off.
Illness is the next big cause of missing a period followed by the taking of antibiotics. Then there is exercise. If you have had a change in your exercise routine or increase your exercise routine, this could throw of your periods.
If you are truly concerned and want to relieve your own stress take a home pregnancy test. If you are over 14 the drug store cannot refuse to sell it to you and you do not need parental permission. This is granted under a federal law known as HIPPA. You can also buy condoms under this same law.
I know you don't want you mom finding the test kit. I as a general rule do not suggest lying or hiding things from parents. This is the one exception. Find the test kit you want to use. Purchase it the night before you are going to use it. Make sure it is a school night. Put it in your purse and take it home. In the morning take it into the bathroom for you morning shower. Carefully open the kit and follow the instructions. When done put everything back in the kit and back in your purse. Dispose of the kit at school. I'm positive from what you have written the test will be negative.
If it is not don't freak out, there are more false positive then negatives. Purchase a different kit and test again. There is no way from what you have written that you should be pregnant.
Lately,my mother has been flirting with me!!! She is 42,and im 21. We have always been very close,but now I see her in a new way!! As soon as my.stepdad leaves for work,she changes clothes!!! She will wear tiny shorts,low cut tops etc. and acts normal!! My cock betrays me and gets huge everytime!!! She sees how hard I am and just smiles !!! My mom looks alot.like Sharon Osbourn,and has big full british tits!!! She loves showing them off,almost completly!!!! What should I do??
Take cold showers, masturbate if you need to but do not consider having sex with your mother. While I realize there are numerous stories on the web about boys having sex with their mothers. They are for the most part just that; stories.
Having sex with a close relative, mother, father, sister, brother, first cousin and even grandparents is consider incest and is not only wrong in the eyes if god. It is also illegal in all western countries and all states in the U.S.
Talk with your mother about the way she dresses around you. Tell her you find it provocative and would like to know why she must dress like that when it is only you and her at home. Make sure mom understands that while you find her manner of dress provocative nothing will come of it between you. That if need be you will take care of yourself with Miss thumb and her four sisters. Yes, I would be that blunt.
Should your mother say anything about wanting to fulfill a fantasy of having sex with her son. Suggest to her she find a therapist to work this out with for it is wrong to have these thoughts.
Your also 21 if you cannot work this out with your mother there is no reason, other than monetary, why you can't move out. If this is the only reasonable solution then the most cost effective solution is to find a room to rent in someone's house.
alright so i know this question might be a little immasure and a little dumb, but i always get this feeling that im pregnant, i get scared, nervous and stress... it has happens a lot and im honestly tired. so yesterday i was over my boyfriends house and we were making out, things got a little bit hot and he had an erection, he got on top on me and his penis was touching my vagina for an amount of 10-15 seconds the most (maybe less) of course i was wearing clothe, he was wearing boxers and jean like pants, just a tiny bit thinner than jeans, like school pants. and i was wearing leggings, shorts(n0t jean shorts)incase my leggings were to thin so my underwear wont show and my underwear. i know about pre-cum and that it comes out, and that you cant get pregnant if sperm makes direct contact with virginal fluid and penetration. anyways i decided to touch his pants and i felt a cold spot, i checked and it appeared to be something like a small drop of water but then there was nothing there.then he decided to check his boxers and there was nothing there, when he pulled the skin of his private part back, a clear thing came out(pre`cum)of his penis.(the whole. not the side of his penis) but only when he was pulling it back(it happen twice.... I've been told not sure of its right, the whiter your semen is the more sperm it contains........ well is it possible that i can get pregnant with clothe on, and can you please give me advice on how i can stop this thought.( please dont say yes just to get me scare or just to say it, theres people who do that) its really sad how this issue takes a huge amount of my life, and im going cray if i keep stressing it.
While anything is possible it is highly unlikely that a sperm could swim through all that clothing and reach your vagina and still make the swim to impregnate you if you were fertile. What you are feeling is stress over the possibility.
If you continue to stress out over this I can almost guarantee you will miss your period. Stress is the number 1 reason women miss their periods, both teenagers and adult women, followed of course by being pregnant. Most girls like you though miss their periods do to stress more than being pregnant.
I should tell you to stop whatever it is you and your BF are doing. I won't as it would be hypocritical of almost all adult to say that as we were young once ourselves. In the future if your BF and you are going to continue to dry hump, which is what you are doing, then make sure he keeps his penis on your leg well down on your thigh away from your vagina.
While it is about impossible for sperm to swim through the amount of clothing you two had on; the next time you may have less clothing on. If you follow my advice and he does ejaculate or emit some precum it is on your thigh well away from your vagina.
is it bad to have sex with ur broher..
It is not only bad it is illegal in all states and all western countries of the world.
my boyfriend had sperms on his hands but then he wiped it off with a hanky and then he fingered me, is there a chance of me being pregnant
As xenolan said the chances are extremely small about 1 in 100,000 I would venture to say. TO put your mind at rest and relieve the stress you are putting yourself under take a home pregnancy test.
Why are we recommending you do so? Primarily because if you do not you will continue to stress out over this. Stress does strange things to us. In women it is the biggest killer of your period. If you do not take a home pregnancy test and find out you are not pregnant I can almost guarantee you will miss your next period.
The volume of letter received over missed periods are the result, about 99%, of stress not pregnancy. A simple home pregnancy test will set your mind at ease.
I know your thinking what if my mom finds the test kit. Go to a drug store and find a kit you want. Read the instructions on when you should test. How long you should wait before taking the test and when to test when you do test.
Buy the kit the night before and put it in your purse or book bag. Then in the morning when you go to take your shower take it into the bathroom with you. Open the package carefully because you will want to repackage the kit when done. Take the test. When you have the results are shown repackage the kit, take it back in your bedroom and place it back in your course or backpack and dispose of it at school.
Now if you get a positive test don't freak out. There are more false positives than false negative especially with the more inexpensive kits. Wait 5 days and test again. If you get a negative you are not pregnant.
As I said again the chances are minimal if his fingers were dry that you are not pregnant.
Do the female in the porn videos get orgasms or they just fake it
Based on the interviews I have read most of the time they fake the orgasm. Not because they are not enjoying themselves. Many times with some of their partners they are. Technical problems with the shoot have them starting and stopping. While the camera is repositioned or other technical problems are corrected. What is seen in the finished film is a spliced compilation of the different scenes.
Sometimes the male actor will lose his erection and another actress needs to help him reestablish his erection before the shooting can begin again. All this interferes with the females ability to orgasm and when the director tells her to orgasm she just fakes it. If there are no stopping of the filming and the male actor is good at what he is doing then it is possible for the female star not to have to fake her orgasm.
I've been using the two months injection then changed to a pill because my husband was complaining about it. He said that the reason why he doesn't want to have sex more often is because of the injection im using. Can the injection causes my husband to have low sex drive if im the one using it and not him?
Since you have not given your ages it is somewhat harder to understand your question. I do though agree with Dragonflymagic in that this is a question better posed to a doctor.
One thing I am thinking about is psychosomatic reaction on the part of your husband. The mind can and does play horrible tricks on us from time to time. Perception is also a possibility in that if he perceives this to be then it is. For how we perceive things is real to us. I can also be totally wrong and this is just an excuse your husband is using for he has no other acceptable answer and no I do not think he is cheating on you.
It is very possible that there are other things causing your husbands sex drive to be off. Stress is a primary cause for many things including a loss of sex drive. Have you noticed signs of your husband being under more than a normal amount of stress either at work or home? An example would be if someone in his family was ill.
If you cannot identify any outside influences such as stress, a change in daily medication he may be taking or other things maybe a new job or position at work. Then I suggest you arrange for a complete physical for him. Here again not knowing your age, but if you are on birth control for birth control reasons I will assume you two are young. Then a yearly physical is something you two should both be having.
When you set up the appointment ask his doctor to screen him both for low testosterone and for depression. Screening for depressions is nothing more then questions the doctor asks during the physical. Depression is caused by stress. From these questions the doctor can tell if your husband is depressed or under a lot of stress. The screening for low-T as it is called is just part of the blood tests the doctor can order as part of each physical. Based on the results the doctor will be better able to treat you husband if there is a physical reason for the problem.
As your husbands wife you have a right to inform his doctor if you think something is wrong and that he may not say something to his doctor. My doctor has my wife monitoring me though there is a reason for it. I was disabled in a car accident. If my wife notices a change in me our doctor wants to know about it. Since changes happen slowly over time I may not notice it. The same is and could be true for your husband.
how to ask my best girlfreind to have sex with me
The best way to ruin a friendship is to ask a friend to loan you money or to have sex with them. Think long and hard about what you want. What is more important? Having sex with this friend or keeping them as a friend.
My feeling is that friends, good friends, are hard to find. Sex on the other hand can be rather easy to find.
iv taken the morning after pill straight after I had sex the next morning and well it's been 3 weeks and my period hasn't come so today I brought a pregnancy test and it was negative , so periods usually delay for a long time?
I think iv been feeling stressed cause it hasn't come and I know I ain't pregnant cause I don't have signs or anything plus the result was negative so I'm 99 percent sure its true .. I'm just worried because I'm scared it's going to take ages to come is this normal ? help !!
Normal is sometimes hard to define. What is normal for one person may not be normal for another. What is normal in your case is that you are stressing out over this. Stress is the biggest killer of a woman's period. Just why this is I can't say for no one really knows other than stress upsets the normal and delicate balance of a women.
You know you are not pregnant. If you want to make certain take another home test. If this one comes up negative stop worrying about the missed period. Consider it normal for you. Your next period should arrive on time if and that is the big question mark, if you stop stressing out over whether or not you're pregnant.
According to the information I can see you are 18 an adult. You do not need anyone's permission to get birth control pills. As an adult you now have total medical privacy. Mom and dad no longer can see your medical records under a law known as HIPPA.
Upon your next visit to your doctors ask to see who the doctor has on file as having right to see you medical information. If those people on file are people you do not want having the right to see your medical records you can rescind that right.
It makes no difference that you may be on your parents health insurance. I could be paying for your health care. It does not give me the right to see your medical records. Only you now can determine who sees your medical information.
So if you want birth control medication ask your GYN for it.
Hello, i took a Morning after pill the day after i had unprotected sex which was about 3 weeks ago, well i got the normal symptons such as spotting and bleeding, however that did stop..
But i keep feeling fatigue in me, like constantly i don't feel ill or nauseous or anything its just that and sometimes i get abdominal pains. Why am i still getting these?
And how long can your period be delayed for? normally i would be getting signs that my period is going to come around this time and nothing has happened? the more i think about it the more i stress, because the person i had sex with is not my boyfriend we were seeing each other and that..
I'm thinking to do a pregnancy test tomorrow, however a lot of girls said that their period was delayed by 2 weeks or something, im really scared i don't want to be pregnant.
My fatigue comes and goes, are these symptoms normal since its been 3 weeks since i took the pill!? please im really confused.. by the way im 19.
You have one sign of pregnancy. In and of itself that does not mean you are pregnant. Taking a home pregnancy test should put your mind at ease. should it be positive wait a few days, about 5 and take it again. These test give more false positives than negatives. If both tests are positive then you need to see a doctor for a medical pregnancy test and exam to confirm the home test.
Chances are the stress you have put yourself under are the cause of the fatigue and missed period. Stress is the biggest killer of periods. This is followed by changes in exercise patterns, medications such as antibiotics you might be taking and diet. Though stress is the biggest is the biggest problem to overcome. It not only can delay your period it can also cause depression. Depression can cause other medical problems including temporary cessation of of your period.
My advice is to try and relax. Take the home pregnancy test and see what the results are. Make sure to follow the directions on the box. If you took morning after pill on time, which you did, then the odds favor you not being pregnant
I think I started my period but, I'm 2 months late if I did. I haven't had sex or anything like that I'm just scared and confused.
There is really not enough information here to answer your question. What I will say is relax the chances are that there is nothing wrong. When a young lady first starts her period they are very irregular. So to get a period one month then skip a month or so can be quite normal.
Now for some grandfatherly advice. Since I am of that age I will offer you some.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about when it comes to a bodily function such as your period. It is as normal for a woman as just about any other bodily function you have. Yes, the first thought most parents are going to ask is if you're pregnant or if you could be pregnant. It is sort of natural for them to think that way.
If as you say you are a virgin, then very calmly answer your mother or father with, no I am not pregnant I am still a virgin. I say this to you for mom or dad in the event mom is not available, is the best person to answer these questions.
Remember you and mom are built exactly alike. Sure on the exterior you may be different but inside you have the same parts and they operate the same way. Mom will know, once you put her at ease about the pregnancy thing, what the best to do in certain situations.
In your present situation I believe mom will agree with me that nothing is wrong and that you are normal. That a wait and see attitude here is best. If you are really upset you can ask mom to make an appointment with her gynecologist to examine you and put your mind at rest. This is something given what I believe may be your age that does require you talking with mom or dad as they are the ones, until you are 14, that have to make the doctors appointment.