Can I get pregnant if my boyfriend left his cum during anal sex?

Sperm left in the anal tract cannot make you pregnant. In fact if you are having anal sex you should still be using condoms as that anal cavity is a feeding ground of bacterial could leave your BF with a urinary infection.

In fact the germs (bacteria) in the anal cavity are so inhospitable that sperm ejaculated in to your anal cavity would most likely die before leaking out of you. Even them it would have to flow into your vagina then swim up and make contact with an egg. This is very unlikely to happen.

If you are to continue to have anal sex make your partner use a condom for if he gets an infection he can pass it to you. If you get an anal cavity infection it will be very uncomfortable and be considered and STD.

Start practicing safe sex. You motto should be; "NO RUBBER, NO LOVER."


My husband is an ex crossdresser and had relationships with men before we met. I have seen pictures of him as a female and he was actually very pretty and looked the part. He has never to my knowledge crossdressed since we have been together these past 3 years. I would like to get him to crossdress for me as I find it so arousing. I almost wish he was living as a girl full time now. I am not sure how to bring this subject up and am looking for ideas

The key to any relationship be it work, friends or a marriage is communication. You don't say how you found out about your husband’s cross dressing. Your last sentence say he did not tell you so I would assume you found out through social media or a friend. We will come back to this in a moment.

When it comes to sex communications is important. The most important thing about sexual relations is that both parties must agree that No means no and stop means stop. As long as there is mutual consent to anything you want to try, sexually or anything else, then what happens in the privacy of your home or bedroom is not weird. Whether is something me and my partner would want to do is our concern not yours and you have no reason to share your sexual activities with anyone as they are your private activities if you want them to be.

No back to your question and communications which is your question. A simple way to approach it would depend on how you found out. You may want to have this conversation over dinner or in bed after making love. You know your husband best and should know when he would be most receptive to you asking about this.

You start by saying something to the affect that what you are about to say is not upsetting to you but quite the opposite as you find it sexually exciting. Then you go on to say I found out from or on that you use to cross dress. Reinforce this by saying I'm not upset that you once did this or that you could be bi-sexual. What would upset me is if you are suppressing this desire because we are married, this would be wrong. If you wish to or need to cross dress I am willing to even go shopping with you and help with this. We can even make love with you as a woman if you want."

If you would be willing to allow him bisexual activities or even willing to participate in them, say so; If not say that too. Anal sex with a dildo for him may be enough to satisfy him and allowing him anal sex with you may also satisfy him. Just make sure condoms are used for both activities.

Just be straight forward, use your own words. Make sure he understands you are not upset and are actually sexually excited by this discover. Going straight at any problem is most always the best and shortest route to a solution. It's when you start beating around the bush is when things get complicated. If someone told you about his cross dressing I will bet it is someone he had an affair with prior to your marriage. His or her reasons I'm sure were not honorable so there is no reason to keep their confidence so tell him who told you if asked.

I believe your openness to his fetish, which is what this may be, is going to make you a great wife. If there were more wives like you there would be less divorces’ in this world


i don't want to do sex with my boy friend because i am always so scare about sex.

Whatever your reasons are for fearing to have sex with your boyfriend they are justified. While there is no reason to fear having sex as it is a natural act for all of us there is reason not to want to have sex before you are ready.

If you are a teenager the things to fear about sex is of course an unwanted pregnancy which in itself is a reason not to have sex. Then there is the pain of the first sex which is always going to be more painful the younger you are. The reason for this has to do with the muscles in your vagina not being ready to be stretched when your younger. As you get older towards the end of puberty the hormones that allow these muscles to relax and stretch are released making the first time you have sex more enjoyable and less painful provided you are able to relax.

I say this to you as there is really nothing to fear from sex if you take the proper precautions against pregnancy and Sexually transmitted disease. This means you need to be on some sort of birth control and the guy must always wear a condom as well. Never have sex before marriage without the guy using a condom.

That being said and I say it only for informational purposes only and not to convince you to have sex now with your boyfriend. You will someday decide when you are ready, that someday is not now.

If your boyfriend is harassing you or begging you to have sex with him. He is breaking the law ones you have said NO. No means no and for him to continue to push you to have sex with him is sexual harassment which is illegal and he can be charged with a crime regardless of his age if he doesn't stop.

If he says to you something to the effect; "If you love me you will have sex with me." He dose not love you in the same definition of the word love that you have. He lusts for you and is not really in love with you. TO the teenage male lust and love have the same meaning.

Teenage sex is not away of proving your love for someone. Sex is the result of a long term loving ADULT relationship. When your maturity is such that you understand the consequences of your actions.

You need not be afraid of sex. Being scared right now is your bodies way of telling you that you are not ready for sex. Do not let your boyfriend in any way try to convince or force you to give into him. JUST SAY NO.


How could i no tht i am virgen??

Are you asking; "How do you know if you are a virgin?

If this is your question, just how old are you? Most people know this answer by the time they reach puberty and have had sex education in school.

If you masturbate and have an orgasm (girl) or ejaculate (boy) you are still a virgin as you have not had sexual intercourse.

Todays definition of virgin for a girl is one who has not had her vagina penetrated by a penis.

For a boy it is someone whose penis has not penetrated a girls vagina.

I hope this answers your question.


I am 38. I have two children born via c-section. I've been a dancer for 35 years, and as a result of lower extremity strength and flexibility, I've maintained an unbelievable amount of "tightness." Of course, with previous partners, I was always told I was small but sex was not impossible. Two years ago, I had a full hysterectomy, and have been too nervous to have an intimate relationship with anyone.

I finally have found someone who is amazing. He's about a foot and a half taller than I am, and, although he is not the largest of my previous partners, he is definitely NOT the smallest. We have found that penetration is impossible. Lubrication was not an issue, foreplay not an issue either. Just won't fit. We finally were able to do partial penetration, but because I was so small, he wasn't able to maintain his erection, because it actually hurt him as well.

Please help. He's nervous about hurting me, and yes, it does hurt a bit, I know that once it works, the pain will ease up a bit. I'm just at a loss on how to make it work. I feel like a virgin again, I haven't had this level of difficulty since the day I lost my virginity.

Please help. The level of sexual inadequacy is disheartening.

There are two things I can think of to offer you in the way of suggestions.

1. Talk to your GYN. There may be something he or she can do surgically or even with something like Botox to release those muscles a bit so you can have successful intercourse.

2. This is going to sound a little strange but it can also be fun for the two of you if you want it to be; especially if surgery is not an option.

Go to an adult toy store or look some up online. Purchase some dildo's and vibrators starting with the smallest ones working up gradually to the size of your boyfriends penis. Use these to get your vaginal muscles to stretch and get use to accommodating your boyfriends penis. If you want run this suggestion by your GYN and see what he or she thinks of it.

It may take a combination of a relaxation medication injected into the muscles and my suggestion to stretch your muscles to allow for easier penetration.

If you go for my suggestion make it a lovers game part of a mutual masturbation session. He uses the vibrators on you with plenty of lubrication starting with the smallest while you masturbate him. Hopefully you both climax and have fun while stretching your muscles.


I'm 16/f. I have a boyfriend and I really do love him but I wouldn't go as far as sex for a long time because I want to be super mature about it and make sure he's the one I wanna lose my virginity to. Although, I want to go as far as third base with him. But I'm just wondering if it'll be awkward? What does it feel like? Will I reach an orgasm? I just want to be very educated!

I found the following website, found at bottom of this page, while answering a very similar question for another young lady. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”

On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than your partner is at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman must always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.

What I mean is boys confuse love and lust. To them love and lust have the same meaning where as for women or girls they have separate definitions. Make sure he loves you not just lusts for you.

The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, comfortable, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.

As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent; I believe at 16 you are s little young to be engaging in sexual intercourse. I am sure your parents have already given you this advice and it is good advice. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is general apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. These forms of sex should be adequate for now to satisfy both you and your boyfriend without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.

Before you make your decision review the website I have included below:



(late teens female.)So I've been dating my current boyfriend for about a year and 2 months. We love and care for each other very much.
So we've done some exploring (no sex or oral) but we like to sext as a way to just let it out, and we come up with different situations etc.so my boyfriend really likes dragons. Which was okay, he likes dragons just like he likes music. No big deal.

But recently... he's asked if i'd like to pretend to be dragons and we do it. Or if he and i could please different dragons... I love him to death but this makes me feel uncomfortable. He says they don't turn him on UNLESS he thinks about them doing sexual acts... IS this a fetish? I thought it was just a horny teenage boy who finds anything doing it giving him the ability to get hard. I'm not sure.

I need help!! This makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable and now he's upset and... I need answers. Please! (This is not a laughing matter right now so please answer respectfully...) Thank you

Yes this is a Fetish a role play type Fetish. When it comes to sex of any type which would includes making out or going all the way to intercourse there is one firm rule you should follow. That rule is; BOTH PARTNERS MUST BE WILLING TO DO WHATEVER IT IS OR IT DOES NOT HAPPEN.

You are not comfortable with his role play fetish, you say NO. That is the end of it. Any further begging, pleading or even attempting to force you is sexual harassment or rape depending on what or how he does. No means NO and Stop means STOP these are the rules of sex between sexual partners in any type of sex play.

For sake of discussion; most girls have limits on what they will allow a boy to do. Lets say yours are he can touch your breasts over your bra. The second he tries to go under your bra you say stop. If he does not stop he is guilty of rape in a lower degree of the charge. The same goes for a guy if he allows a girl to feel his penis over his pants. The second she goes for his zipper if he says no or stop she is guilty of rape.

Sex of any type is a consensual act on the part of both parties. If either one say no or stop that is the end of whatever is happening. Explain this to your boyfriend. If he does not want to abide by these rules then you may want to find a boyfriend who has more respect for you.


Can a octor tell if you've ben fingered?

Doctors cannot tell if you have been fingered. If your Hymen is intact then they will believe you are a virgin as it is almost impossible to have sexual intercourse and have your Hyman remain intact. I say almost impossible as some women have Hymens that are elastic enough and have a hole large enough that an average sized penis may not tear them. This though is extremely rare.

Today many women end up tearing or detaching their Hymen when using Tampons. So today’s definition of a virgin is not so much a women with an intact Hymen But one whose vagina has never been penetrated by a penis.

While there are people who say a gynecologist can tell if a woman has had sexual intercourse. It is really not possible for this type of doctor to say for certain unless there happened to be semen in the vagina during a female examination.

NOTE: If you are 14 or over and you are being forced to have a female exam to see if you are sexually active you can refuse by law. You parents cannot force you to have this exam.

Under a Federal Law none as HIPPA anyone 14 or over has complete medical confidentiality over their reproductive system. What this means is parent cannot force anyone 14 or over to have an examination of this type. A parent cannot be in the exam room if your reproductive system is being examined and parents do not have the right to see your medical records or speak with your doctor concerning anything to do with the examination or treatment of your reproductive system.

Congress passed this law so young people with seek medical treatment when needed for questions or things they may be too embarrassed to go to a parent with. Your doctor or anyone in the doctors employ can be jailed for up to 5 years if they release any information without your expressed written permission to the doctor.

Should you be writing because you are being forced to go to the doctor for this type of exam? My advice is not to make a scene or fight with mom. There is a better way especially if you are sexually active in any way.

Go to the doctor, when you enter the exam room say to the nurse or doctor; "I invoke my rights under HIPPA I am ____" and state your age. The doctor or nurse will take it from there. If mom is with you she will be asked to leave the room. Then you can speak freely with the nurse and doctor about anything and everything related to your reproductive system, your sexual activity and request birth control if you want.


suppose if I remove sperm daily will it effect me after my marriage while I am doing sex with my wife.

I think you're asking if you masturbate delay will it affect your sex life with your wife and your ability to have children.

As far as having children how often you masturbate in your youth or even as an adult will not affect your ability to have children. Your body constantly makes sperm and you will be able to father children well into you eighties and nineties should you want to. The amount of sperm your body produces does decrease with age and any decline in your health.

Will masturbating daily affect you marital sex life. This is a maybe as it depends on some different factors. The biggest factor is that daily masturbation, according to some theories, could cause you to become less sensitive to regular sex and make it harder to ejaculate during sex.

If this is what you are asking I hope this is helpful.


I don't think so u gave me the right answer was it comfortable to you to understand my question. By the way I don't know how to ask a question regarding sexual health problems. Thanks for helping me/giving advice to me. Bye.

There are few questions any of us would find uncomfortable answering. If there ever is a question we are uncomfortable with we would just not answer it.

IF you do wish to ask more question I would hope you would work on your English grammar. That was the biggest problem I had with your question, understanding exactly what your question was. Take your time, think your question through and then type in your question. Take all the space you need and then make sure we can understand what you are asking. Also spell out all the words do not use twitter shorthand.


How do I get over the anxiety of thinking always thinking I'm going to get pregnant after I have sex? I'm not on the pill but he wears a condom every time. I'm twenty and I know it sounds silly but there's always that chance. I just want to know how I can get over this and actually enjoy it all.

You have every right to be anxious as the condom used for birth control is only 85% effective when worn correctly. The condom used with another form of birth control such as the pill is almost 100% effective.

The condom is also very effective in preventing the transfer of the HIV/Aids virus as well as many of the STDS. This is why it is promoted as the only way to have safe sex.

There are other female birth control options other than a hysterectomy that are just as effective as the pill. You should discuss these option with your gynecologist to see which is right for you.

Sex between to consenting adults should not cause you anxiety. It should be as much pleasure for you as it is for your partner. I would say if you're having sex just to provide your partner with sexual pleasure you are not only missing out on the fun and intimacy it provides. You are having sex for all the wrong reasons.

The pill has several unpleasant side effect and I can understand your reluctance to go on the pill. There is also the IUD and several different types of implants that do not have the side effects of the Pill. The IUD has the least side effect and you do not have to have had a child to have one. My wife had an IUD before we had our first Child.


I am a girl and I am 23. I have PCOD sine I was 15. Me n my boyfriend we are having sex since 4years. But I can't reach orgasm during my periods. Why so? And recently I was having intolerable pain in my lower abdomen while having sex. In these 3years I never had this kind of pain. I am worried. Please help.

From what I was able to quickly review on the WEB about PCOD. THe pain in the lower abdomen could be and most likely is a symptom of the PCOD. Not being able to orgasm when on your period is not something to be concerned about to my mind. Many women can't orgasm during that time it is a hormonal thing that is present during your period. I would not be surprised, again based on what I read, that your PCOD is more bothersome at this time.

I'm not a doctor none of us. According to what I read the doctors now believe the are any different reason behind PCOD since the problem is still or can be present even if the Ovaries are removed.

I spent only a few minutes researching on the web to get some insight. There are volumes of information to review to better acquaint yourself with this illness. what I suggest is Start reviewing this information to find out what other doctors are treating this illness as it is cot considered strictly a GYN illness.

IF you need immediate help schedule a visit with your GYN or which ever doctor is currently treating you. But continue to research what doctors are doing to treat this illness. There are many that believe this is hormonal and even some that believes this problem dates all the way back to the womb.

The better informed you are on this illness the more positive of an outcome you will have. Family doctors and even you GYN may only treat the symptoms. You need to educate yourself and advocate for youself with this kind of illness.

I did not see this as being something to be overly worried about, though I can see were it would be painful. For this reason you have to advocate for yourself.


First off, I love my boyfriend (I'm female), he loves me (I think) we've been together 3 years. I was his first, he was my first (we're both 20). We started having sex after 1 year together. Even though neither of us knew what we were really doing, it was great, trying new things, seeing what worked. I used to always like being on top.

Then something changed. I was using my hands to stimulate him and it wasn't working. Tried my mouth a different time, he stopped me. My confidence dropped, I thought I was doing something wrong, he said no I wasn't. I thought he was just shy so I took it as a challenge.

Over time, he doesn't like me doing anything to him anymore. I've asked him to show me how in case I was doing it wrong but he won't. He just makes me orgasm all the time. And sex, I can't help but breathe harder, get hot, moan a bit, you know and genuinely orgasm but his face never changes, he never makes a sound. I never know if he orgasms or not - he occasionally ejaculates but does that mean he orgasms? I stopped going on top cause it was like having sex with someone asleep but he insists he wants me on top.

I want to take control, be sexy. I fantasize about strutting into the room in a skimpy outfit, doing a little dance or something, pushing him back on the bed, straddling him, kissing him all over his body, feeling him with my hands (not even my mouth if he doesn't want me to) and actually see physical signs that he's enjoying it. Am I doing something wrong? I'm so upset, I feel totally useless.

It is not you that I am confident of from what you have written. If a man ejaculates he has orgasmed. Now it is possible for a man to orgasm and not ejaculate. It is something like a mini orgasm you might have.

As to why the change in him I can't say. There are many different things I can think of that might be in play here. Since you were both virgins when you met it is possible that the so called seven year itch has come early. In other worlds he might be wondering what it is like to have sex with someone else. That would be normal and it would not mean his love for you has changed.

He may have sexual fantasies that he may feel you would not approve of. To this You need to talk to him and explain to him you are open to hearing about any fantasy he may have. That anything that takes place in the privacy of the bedroom between the two of you is not weird as long as he does not force you to do something you do not want to do. This is where good communication comes in between you two. Tell him about your fantasy and see how he reacts.

The problem could also be physical and in need of a doctor's intervention. If he is unable to ejaculate each time you make love this could be a problem for him. This could be a physical problem, a problem related to stress or caused by depression. Whatever the reason it is something a doctor can help with. He should not be embarrassed to speak with his doctor about this. Doctors have heard this before and more than what he may be suffering from. Offer to go with him to see his doctor.

If he has trouble getting erect, this something that is very embarrassing for a young man. Erectile dysfunction knows no age boundaries and if almost always correctable. High blood pressure is a general cause or rather the medication for high blood pressure is the biggest cause for erectile dysfunction in otherwise healthy males. If he is on blood pressure medication and this is the problem it is simply a matter of talking to his doctor. Here again he should not be embarrassed as sex is a very large part of our lives.

I hope I have offered some help.


I love this girl nd m finding it difficult to lure her into my bedroom

The word lure sounds abit like you are conspiring to get her in bed with you. If you love someone you don't conspire to do something they either are not ready to do or do not want to do. You say you love her; are you sure you love her and not just lust for her. If you love someone you would not try to lure or conspire to have her do something she does not want to do.

When it comes to sex you have to be very careful about how you try to have sex with someone. Once they say no, or any other negative response to your attempts to have any type of sex with them. If you continue to try and lure or convince them to have sex with you, then you cross the line into the legal definition of sexual harassment. If this girl is under the age of consent she or her parents can bring charges against you. If you are both of school age and you are doing so at school the school authorities can bring charges as well.

Sexual harassment is todays slippery slope as it is very much on the radar of everyone. What was once tolerated as jut hormonal overcharged teenaged males is todays sexual harassment. The line which is crossed is also very fluid. What is acceptable today may not be acceptable tomorrow. Frankly I would not want to be a teenage male today.

If your girlfriend loves you she will let you know when she is ready to have sex with you. When she is you need to have condoms and use them. Not just for pregnancy protection but for protection against STDs and the HIV/AIDS virus. Even if you are both virgins starting with condoms is a good habit to start with.

Next, make sure wherever you are going to make love is comfortable and secure from intrusion. Take your time and make sure she is ready. Foreplay is important. Have some lubrication Gel so as to make sure when you do penetrate her you don't hurt her. If she is a virgin take you time and make it as nice as possible for her. Virgin or not remember every time you have sex with a women you are penetrating there body. There is a small trauma associated with the penetration so make sure she is ready and well lubricated.


My balls are really big do girls like really big balls or smaller balls?

I really do not think it matters to the majority of women. As long as they can cup them in their hand or hands, wrap their lips around one or both of your nuts the majority of women will be happy. That is not to say there are not a few women who are hung up on size. These women either want big everything, Penis and Scrotums or small Penis and scrotums.

Most women especially young teenage women are like young teenage men. They are happy with whatever their partner has to offer. Later on in life when you are looking for a life mate you may have s preference though when love comes into play preferences are blinded by your love for your partner. Their sexual equipment becomes secondary to their love for that person and adjustments are made as needed just as long as the sex is compatible.


how i convience to my girlfriend doing sex with me..??

I'm going to tell it to you straight so pay attention!!!

You cannot and should not even try to convince anyone to have sex with you. TO do so is seual harrasment. Once someone tells you no then the answer is NO and you must stop asking or in anyway trying to convince that person to have sex with you or do anything sexual with you. That includes Petting, Oral Sex, Handjobs or Fingering. If you do continue you are committing SEXUAL HARASSMENT A FELONY IN MOST STATES.

Sexual Harrassment is on the very top of the watch list in all states followed by Bullying. If you were to be reported to the police, which we would recommend if she was to write to us. You would be prosecuted, very possible in adult court. Meaning you could get jail time. This is how seriously this is taken.

Where I live two 16 year old boys were just sent to prison for 10 years for sexual harassment and rape. They will do 5 years in Juvenile detention and 6 years in state prison. They were charged with harassment and when she finally gave in they were charged with rape for it was forced consent. Read the papers this is happeing in every state.

YOU DO NOT FORCE OR TRY TO CONVINCE SOMEONE TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU. The courts are dealing out harsh punishments to those that are prosecuted because the public in general are tired of teenagers thinking they can get away with this type of thing that there age will protect them. It won't, times have changed. If you are prosecuted and fortunate enough to go to juvenile court then besides what ever punishment juvenile court hands down you will be expelled from school. All this plus your parents will incur thousands of dollars in legal fees.

Is all of this worth it for something you can take care of with the same satisfaction in the privacy of your bedroom. If your girlfriend is unwilling then masturbate. The relief you get is the same, and it is safer for both of you. When she is ready she will let you know. I'm positive she knows what you want and when she is ready she will let you know, no harassment is needed.


Does anyone know what i can make at home to get me off? I want to try anything new other than my hand.

It would help to know if you're male or female. Since you left that out the following is for both.

I think you will find your hand is truly the best way to masturbate though there are some ways to enhance what your hand is doing.

Female: Clitoral stimulation while inserting a slightly unripe Banana or appropriately sized Cucumber in your vagina will give you more pleasure. In the bath if you have a hand held shower head that can be set on pulse; this held under your vagina and moved back and forth towards you anus is also very pleasant for some. An electric toothbrush holding the base on your clitoris or at the lips of your vagina should have you seeing stars as you climax.

You only have two hands and neglecting your nipples while masturbating would be a real shame as they are a source of real pleasure. This is going to sound weird but try it. Since you are probably too young to buy nipple clamps make your own with clothes pins. All you need to do is lighten the tension on the spring or replace the spring with a lighter tensioned spring. All you want the clothespin to do is pinch your nipples as if you were doing it yourself. It should not be painful for you unless of course you are in to pain.

Males: The shower thing works well for you as well. As your penis gets sensitive point the pulsing towards the head of your penis as well while you masturbate. If you want to use an electric toothbrush start by holding it under the base of your scrotum and masturbate. Once again as your penis becomes more sensitive move the toothbrush between your scrotum and the head of your penis. You should see fireworks as you climax and I suggest you be relaaxing in bed when you do this so as not to collapse on the floor.


I really want to have sex with my boyfriend and at dsame tym he wants to finger and suck me....but I hvnt been sucked and fingered before.... am just scared cox he might say I get wet easily and maybe when he sucks me he might not like the taste of my Varginia.wat f he ends up sucking me and doesn't like the way my pussy tastes or feels

Dragonflymagic is correct. We are a humane animals. Unlike animals we don't go around sniffing at each others privates. Though when we are attracted to someone we give off a scent. If the person we are attract to likes the scent you are giving off they will be attracted to you. The funny thing about this scent is initially you won't smell it, but the person you are attracted to will though it has no real smell to it. When and if things get to the point of being down and dirty you will both be able to inhale the scent of sex as it escapes through your sweat glands on onto your close and the sheets if things progress that far.

Oral sex is an acquired taste. If you are healthy and bath regularly he should not have a problem with your taste or scent. The same with you giving him oral sex. His semen is all protein and could be a bit salty. It could also taste a bit strong if he has had say a meal with a great deal of spices. Other than that it should not have much of a taste.

My advice is to allow him to go as far as you are comfortable with. Just remember your pants and panties are your best defense against getting pregnant. Once they come off it is just a short jump to intercourse easily made in the throes of sexual passion.


if im horny and a girl what do i do about it?

Since you did not supply you age I will assume you are a teenage girl between 14 and 18 years of age. If so sexual intercourse is not the answer to you being horny. The reason for feeling this way is the hormones of puberty.

The best and safest way to deal with this is by masturbating also called playing with yourself. Now mom, when she had "THE TALK WITH YOU," may have said this was something that was bad or dirty and not to do this. This is not true and very much hypocritical of parents who say this to their children. Why? Well for one thing masturbation or mutual masturbation is part of foreplay prior to intercourse and very likely something your parents partake in when they have sex. According to a research survey 85% of us masturbate including married adults.

As I said this is a safe and pleasant way to release the sexual tension you are feeling. As far as I know, no young lady has ever gotten pregnant from masturbating. Also contrary to what you may have been told none of the recognized religions consider it a sin, though most will not condone it. Mainly because it is pleasurable and most adults feel it will lead to wanting to have intercourse. It does not have to, it is entirely up to you; your morals and your will power to hold off until you’re older and mature enough to have sex. I generally recommend for both sexes to hold off until their 18th birthday when by law they are old enough to have a sex life regardless of whether they live at home or not as they are adults and legally entitled to all pleasures of an adult.

As to how and where to masturbate I recommend as to where the following: Either in the privacy of your bedroom with the door closed and locked so you are not intruded upon or in the bathroom while bathing or showering.

As to how to masturbate is something you will have to self-explore. When it comes to sexually exciting women there are women that are excited through clitoral stimulation, vaginal stimulation or both.

You can go on the web and use a search engine type in "Female Masturbation Techniques." You will get a host of returns to look at. Being a male and being married for 43 years I know how to stimulate my wife. As to how to stimulate you is something you need to find out by yourself. Yes I am old enough to be your grandfather and after raising my own family I now find that it is important to be blunt and straight forward when it comes to questions like yours.

You only have one virginity to give to someone; don't give it to a high school sweetheart who does not know the difference between love and lust. To teenage boys love and lust are the same. “I am not saying you should wait until you find the man you wish to marry as that to would be hypocritical. What I am saying is to wait for someone who is mature enough to understand the gift you are giving him and to make the first time as pleasurable for you as he can.


Im 16/f. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I'm confident that I love him. I need to know the details of sex. What does it feel like? Should it be prepared or spontaneous? I need to know everything teachers don't tell you in sex ed

I'm old enough to be your grandfather. As such I will tell you the way it is not how your parents will tell you, or your teachers and possibly not even how your own grandfather would tell you. Why? Simple, the more knowledge you have the better decisions you can make and this is one of the biggest decisions you can make.

Lets start with protection. At age 16 under a federal law, called HIPPA, you have the right to medical confidentiality over your reproductive system. These means you and not your parents have the only say as to how your reproductive system is treated by a doctor. It means when having a female exam only you, the doctor and the nurse can be in the exam room. Mom must wait outside. The reason is so you can speak to the doctor in confidence about any problem or concern you may have. This includes asking for birth control medication. Being 16 the only reason not to prescribe is if there is a medical reason not too. Parental permission is not required.

This law was passed so that young people, girls and boys would seek medical help or advice they may not want to ask parents about. Under this law you do not need parental permission to see a doctor. You can see any doctor you wish or seek treatment at any of the free clinics.

So if you are considering starting a sex life the first thing you need to do is to see a doctor and get birth control medication. It is the responcible thing to do. Next is to get condoms and have your boyfriend practice properly putting them on. You can use a banana or cucumber for this.

A condon only works if properly worn. Together they provide 99.99% protection against pregnacy. Start now on insisting your partner use a condom even if he is a virgin as well. The condom protects against most STD's and the HIV/AIDS virus. Never have sex with anyone who refuses to wear a condom. Those who refuse are only out for themselves and not looking out for you. That should tell you they lust only for you and not in love with you.

We have covered the protection. Next we need to talk about waiting. This boy is most likely not the boy you will marry. He is for the most part a high school romance who may be in love with you but also lusts for you. To a teenage male love and lust are the same.

In 2 or 3 years most likely you two will go your seperate ways to college or he may or you may join the military. This happens in almost every high school romance they breakup and go their seperate ways at graduation. When this happens if you have had sex with him you have given him the most precious posesion a women has; your virginity. There is more to sex than intecourse and ther is no chance of an unwanted pregnacy with if there is no intercourse.

Oral sex, fingering and handobs will bring about a climax for both of you which is the object of sex; to reach a climax. Oral sex, fingering and hand jobs are used as foreplay to excite your partners before intercourse. What I'm suggesting is you bring the foreplay to conclusion with a climax rather then intercourse, The sexual tension you both have will be relieved and your virginity remains intact to give to a man that may possibly be the man to whom you wed.

As for intercourse itself that is someting that is both a learned experience and something we all know the basics of as they are in grown so to speak. He is going to get an erection and push his penis into your vagina. Yes it will hurt the first few times. Mostly because the muscles of your vagina are still locked and will not want to expand to accept him. The hurt is suppose to stop you. As you get older and closer to the end of puberty the last of the hormones are released which will unlock those muscles and the hurt will be far less. Mostly from the tearing of your Hymen if it is still intact.

When your ready to have intercourse, now or in the future make sure it is someplace you will be comfortable, secure and will not be disturbed. The back seat of his car where grandma probably lost hers is not the right place.

As for the rest of sex it is a learned experiece done through communication with our partner telling him what you like and where and how you like to be touched. He needs to tell you the same.

My best advice though is to hold off on having intercourse. If you have gone through the heavy petting stage then the next stage is to move to mutual masturbation which is what I discribed above. Fingering, oral sex and hand jobs.Yes get on birth control ust in case as at this stage it is easy to go to far.

Good luck


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