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(Rating: 5) Thank you. It's hard to see myself separated from them when I graduate. I know they care for me and we have lots of fun times together but it's always in the back of their minds that I'm still some kind of disappointment when it comes to serious matters. Thank you for your advice though, it really helped.(Rating: 5) She is on social security and doesn't work. She has never veen arrested (how?) Beats me. I will be going to police as soon as I gather enough proof as this is ridiculous.
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(Rating: 5) Thank you :)
(Rating: 5) thank you!!
(Rating: 5) Thanks for your advice. Thankfully she hasn't tried dragging me into the divorce since then- I told her that I am here to support her emotionally, but am in no position to deal with the divorce directly. I made it clear that I have a lot going on in my life right now, and love her, but really need to focus my attention on other things. I will keep your advice in mind the next time she crosses my boundaries.
(Rating: 5) Very helpful! Thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thankyou!
(Rating: 5) Thanks alot.....
(Rating: 5) I was hoping you would answer that one, I love your advice. Thank you very much.
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice! The reason I waited so long, was because I had training yesterday with my colleagues. I was so close to calling my manager and telling him that I was unavailable to come in today because I was sick. But I went, and I was asked to introduce myself first (isn't it always the way?!) and just before, my heart was pounding. When I got going though, I was fine. I did it all completely without fail. I was relaxed, cool, composed – thanks to your advice. Instead of going to a Carnegie course, I settled on buying the book he wrote about public speaking (apparently one of the text books on the course). It’s been a good read so far! I’ve read quite a bit, and will go into it much deeper when I get time, every now and again. I’ve read “How to fin friends and influence people”, and so no doubt that this will be great too! Thanks again!
(Rating: 5) Thank you, you put that very thoughtfully and it's quite insightful. I just have to see if I can broach this topic, I have tried a few times but they always end up in the same way. I live in Canada, and I am 19 turning 20. I just put a random date when I registered a few years ago. Anyways, I was going to say my Dad usually ends up ranting about how he "knows what I'm really up to" and what I'm really doing when I try to discuss the topic about my personal freedom as an adult. But quite honestly, I think that often people will try and look for the faults in others that they themselves have in themselves. For example, when my Dad was younger and when his and his family immigrated to Canada, he was in his late teens and from what I hear hung out with quite the crowd. He did everything I've never done such as: drinking, clubbing, smoking, dating girls, and etcetera. I think he feels that because he was that way, or was easily pressured to do things against his morals or values that I might do the same which is completely false assumption. I also feel he thinks that every teenager or young adult is the same way like the way he was. I think this is a little worse than if my Dad was.. simply an immigrant that was only accustomed to the culture back home. He feels like he knows some big secret or insight into how every teenager or adult functions in our society and has them jammed into one category and one box; only out of his own.. personal experience. I just feel like I'm walking around eggshells. And by the way: Thanks for the heads up, my parents may be many things but they would never force me into an arranged marriage. And even if they tried, I'm not the type of person to sit still and just LET something happen to me.
(Rating: 4) I wear thongs tho.
(Rating: 5) thank you!
(Rating: 5) Fair enough. Better keep my stomach empty for restaurant nights :P thank you!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for this thorough answer! It is very much appreciated :) Although I've done research online, as you might imagine it is always nice to receive suggestions from someone who has actually lived in a place!
(Rating: 5) Oh, okay! Thank you, but is there any way to stop these dreams? It kind of bothers me when I go to school.
(Rating: 5) We do make very good efforts both ways to see each other every single week. we do have part time jobs each but always figure out a day he can come up here or i go visit him. our relationship has been a pretty good effort both ways.
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(Rating: 5) Thank you. I think you're right that I am jealous of C. I had a problem properly identifying that emotion, perhaps because the feeling is not as intense or powerful as the feelings of jealousy that I experienced while we were an official couple. He is college educated; I'm sure that's why he asserted that he didn't want to try again until I finished. Thank you for backing him up. He told me, when we broke up, that I had changed significantly since he met me... That was difficult for me to believe because, even though I feel many of those changes internally, I did not realize how obvious those changes were on the outside. I suspected that he was engaging in some passive-aggressive finger-pointing, now I realize that I was largely ignorant of the change college can induce because I am one of the few people in both my family and circle of friends to have attended university. I think our relationship is hard to match because it is more emotionally and mentally satisfying. Sexually, I'm not sure if we're compatible sometimes. It's actually gotten better since we broke up, but I'm not sure if it's because of the newly found emotional intensity. My college offers all students five free counselor visits per year. I will make an appointment soon. Thank you for all your help and time. You really did make a difference.
(Rating: 5) Thank you i will bare that in mind
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I do know that some medications interact with contraceptives because I am a nursing student. However I am not taking any that interact (such as the penicillins or tricyclines). My bloating went down alot after I uh went to the bathroom haha. So im probably just freaking myself out. But thanks again!
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(Rating: 5) Thank you very much!
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(Rating: 5) Thank you! I was actually supposed to start birth control this week but my doctor never called it in and we do use condoms every time :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your advice
(Rating: 5) Thank you!! I'mgoing to do that (:!
(Rating: 5) Hey I appreciate it sir. A few months back I actually had some mushroom trips in my room alone and they have completely saved my social and well being . I am finally almost completely back to being open and myself again. Thanks alot for your response
(Rating: 3) My dad doesn't abuse me, and I don't take it as abuse either.
(Rating: 5) Thank you, that was very helpful.
(Rating: 5) It turned out to be nothing serious at all- th area was swollen due to irritation/trauma from yeast infection and recent Pap test. Thanks for the advice, I do agree that the gyn is the only one who can diagnose or give accurate info.
(Rating: 5) Thank you! My career and school are my priority in my life right now. And I'm nowhere thinking of marriage. But, I would be happy knowing that there actually IS someone out there waiting for me. That's all. But thank you again for your reassuring words.
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much!
(Rating: 5) Thank you! I will try what you suggested. Our situation can definitely relate to what you said!
(Rating: 4) Ok thanks.
(Rating: 3) RATING CHANGED BY L2 moderator. IF YOU RATE SOMEONE A 1 you must also send an abuse report. The answer you were given was NOT abusive in any way. I'm not 14, I'm 17. Hes over 18? I'm not dumb I know when a guys pressuring you, I've been with him for 2 years, we're fine. I was just wondering if being pregnant was a possibility thats it.
(Rating: 5) oh no, too bad but good for you! take care and thank you, i will try... cant really do normal stuff for long like a JOB! i just cant stand work!
(Rating: 5) Thanks!!! You helped a lot and your right About everything sorry I didnt put that much information.
(Rating: 5) It wasn't the comments that made him gay to me. It was his voice and the way he said it. Also I was right I looked him up on facebook and he has been in a relationship with a dude for 20 years. And I am just going to grin and bear it. As long as he mentions nothing of him being gay or of his partner I can deal with it. And I appreciate that he is going out of his way to get me home. I just am uncomfortable with the fact that at night he goes home to another man. I find his lifestyle choice, yes choice. (THere is no proof they were born this way.) to be repulsive. As long as long as he mentions nothing of his nasty ways we will not have an issue.
(Rating: 5) Thanks! You're right!
(Rating: 3) Thanks for your words of advice,but it's useless coz I'm a man. I know it's my fault though since I didn't mention it. And I'm not that young. *************Rating changed to a 3 by L2 mod. Do not rate a 1 without filing an abuse report*********
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much, this is very helpful. My therapist is willing to write a note on my behalf, so I think that should help. I can also indicate that my supervisor acknowledged, in writing, that I was dealing with personal issues that have impacted my performance, and that i would benefit from taking time to remediate. I am hoping this process will be face-to-face, so I can get my story out in person, rather than on paper. Plan B is to look for jobs in case things fall through (and hopefully they won't!).
(Rating: 5) I don't have a car anymore so I won't be driving anywhere, I always ride my bike. But I can always tell when I feel like I am going to pass out and stuff, I start feeling really dizzy a few minutes prior. The problem with telling my doctor is that he is a family friend, he talks to my parents all the time. I know he isn't allowed to tell them but asking him to keep it secret would be putting him in an awkward place. Thank you for your feedback though, it was definitely helpful!
(Rating: 5) Thanks
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much...just so you know i decided to make a collage of all the pictures i have of us (we take a LOT) and put them in a frame..thanks again :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks :) my doctor explains the whole shebang somewhat differently. Was the spinal fusion for scoliosis? I'd like to hear more about it. My email is not_tina_fey@hushmail.com Thanks again :)
(Rating: 5) That is very true, thank you.
(Rating: 5) Great advice. I am puzzled on the possibility if someone did say something about me though. I have always been friendly and kept too myself and never caused trouble. Yes, I will write her that letter. Thank you very much
(Rating: 5) Thanks! I certainly wouldn't want him to get into trouble! I'll look into it.(:
(Rating: 4) Thx 4 the advice but uhm you haven't really answered my question :)
(Rating: 5) thank you this was very helpful. seeing him tonight so I will most definitely use this approach.
(Rating: 3) Hi and thanx... This subject scares me a lot and I fear for my younger brother and sister. I've stood up for them many a times and I'll do it again. My father loves them to much to hurt them, so does my mom. Once again thank you SOOO much, you have no idea how good it felt to get this off my chest. Thank you.
(Rating: 5) thank you! thanks makes SO much sense now!!
(Rating: 5) thank you for being honest! i was really mad at my mom and i thought if we gt engaged then i could live with him instead of my stupid mom! i know it was dumb but i was ready to run away so you really helped me alot! THANK YOU!
(Rating: 5) Thank you!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much adviceman, you hit the nail on the head in the last paragraph I think that's exactly what is going on. Thank you you really helped me <3
(Rating: 5) Your story is very touching to me. Unfortunately I decided to break off the wedding because I finally faced the facts of his infidelity. In my heart I still feel like he was my soul mate. I don't know what went wrong or why I couldn't be enough to him. I know I am a good woman and I did more then just show that to him, I shared it with him. But I really appreciate your story because for a moment I was able to re-live my dream in my heart and my imagination. Thank you.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much
(Rating: 5) thnaks, yeah my parents know they saw a cut on my wrist last summer im getting help and am now medicated but it hasnt helped much yet
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. You really helped put things in perspective. I just felt like I had cheated because it wasn't a quick peck, it was one of those longer "MWAH" Kisses. If you understand me. Thank you again.
(Rating: 5) :)thank you for helpng me
(Rating: 5) lolhel love that!(not)
(Rating: 5) Great advice! I like the idea of having forms for the employees to fill out when requesting time off!!
(Rating: 5) Thank you for all the info. (: appreciate it.
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much! :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks a lot this advice helps though the other thing is since I'm so shy I dnt really have a lot of guys looking from Wat I know bc I'm 5 ft 9 1/2 in. (Taller than most guys I meet) and sorta over weight. But I'm athletic and non shy with my friends and since I'm Irish I get red at anything very easily. Though I'm not ready for sex I'm just wanting to go slow kissing the progressing like we've discussed. Not saying that I won't have sex but I feel to soon like I shouldn't give it away soo soon Thanks again
(Rating: 3) I got sexually abused by a doctor that's why.
(Rating: 5) Thanks you so much for your advice and it comforts me to learn that I am still normal. I will find someone to talk to.
(Rating: 5) Thanks. I understand that porn is legal and whatnot, I used to think that there's nothing wrong with porn, but now, I think that it really does have an effect on people outside of the digital realm. It changes the brain, and from my experience and hearing from others, porn seems to have some kind of desensitizing effect, and it can be reversed. That's what It seems to me right now. hopefully I do get out of this. thanks man
(Rating: 5) Thankyou so much this is the perfect advice I was looking for he told me to not call if I was just gunna be angry he sees he hasn't done anything wrong maybe I need some space from him for a while :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. This was not only a beautiful answer, but very, very helpful! Thank you!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your concern and your well thought-out answer. That's a good idea, I might just get myself checked out or something. I need to know if something's really wrong, being in denial will only hurt worse in the end. I appreciate your honesty and your time. Thanks again. :DDD
(Rating: 5) thanks for the advice :) It's true that it'll happen when he wants to in the long run. Oddly enough, the smoke itself doesn't bother me, like the smell, I just worry about his health and let's face it, cigarettes aren't getting any cheaper. I'll keep on it :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for your kind advise and i really appreciate it but unfortunately my situation has gone to far and nothing can change it at this point.I still believe there must be a way to take your own life by taking the right stuff.I,m not 100% sure how did Michael Jackson died but i want to die in the same way as i dont think he went through any pain or suffering and as far as i know he died peacefully and thats exactly what i want,i wish i can get some kind of stuff from my doctor to inject myself and never wake up again but this will be ofcoarse totally imposible.I just have to get through with all of this and i just cant stop thinking of what to take.As i have mentioned i want something which will guarantee that i will die without any pain or suffering. Thanks again for the info and take care.
(Rating: 4) This is her first live in boy friend. and other boy friends she did have did not want to change my life like this. thanks
(Rating: 3) I think you misunderstood my problem here. He knows how old she is and she doesn't want a relationship with him. I'm just concerned that he talks to her more and when it comes to me I don't exist. He's the one making all the first moves with her but I had to on my end. I don't want him to think she's easy while I'm someone to watch out for.
(Rating: 5) Hey, it works! Your answer provides a lot of insight into some male psyche questions in general, and still answers mine. Thank you
(Rating: 5) Thanks, I will apologize to my parents. I know now that thinking my parents would rather something happen to me was wrong. I won't listen to the people who told me that before, only my parents and other good parents who know what they're talking about like you.
(Rating: 5) Thanks, I'll do as you say and worry only about what my husband and I want and not what everyone else does.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your time to help me I will try my best to get better soon
(Rating: 5) Sounds good enough. I was considering buying a very cheap basic phone for the trip anyway, although I have an iPhone, I know that it is probably impossible to get a prepaid card for it in the States, and I would really not like to get a contract as it would not work with a month or two of traveling. I've looked up the services which my current provider offers abroad, but it would still amount to HUGE amounts of money which I would not want to pay. My best shot will be a basic phone with any sort of prepaid card that I have to top up.
(Rating: 5) Wow!! That's a good idea. I'll definately try this and let you know how is goes. I have had a few therapy sessions but we mostly worked on the marriage stuff and the acting out sexually. We had to work thru some sexual issues from my childhood too. After the divorce I was taken off my ex husbands insurance which he works for the federal prison system and my insurance doesn't cover psychological issues.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. :)
(Rating: 5) thanks (:
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your time and help!
(Rating: 5) Thanks I agree
(Rating: 5) She was not at the party with him because she goes to another college. Thank you.
(Rating: 5) Thanks for that. That advice really assisted me to reset the database in my mind.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I always respect and look forward to your advice.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. I'm very grateful for my parents offer, which as you can see I am not complaining! I guess my boyfriend just didn't want to over ride his stay? Because it was 6 months, firm; and than it ended up being a year; but now that he knows that he is welcome; it makes it easier for him to stay here. He pays the water bill, and we both pay for our own groceries. Yes, we sleep in the same room, there isn't a lock on my door; but besides that, I wished you would have answered my other questions because like you say, you are old enough to be my grandfather, and any helpful tips or advice for future reference would've been greatly appreciated; but I always love your advice! Thank you so much!
(Rating: 5) thank you, i actually requested for an earlier time and im going to see a therapist this monday. i find your advice and wordings very comforting, thank you.
(Rating: 4) yes i understand,andi m not trying to label myself.i dont wish to at all.it isnt as alabel to me,but a wayto describe how i feel
(Rating: 5) Thanks! I did email them asking if they would be willing to give me some feedback, because this is common place. So I'm waiting for this feedback, before I thank them. But yes, thank you!
(Rating: 5) your right /.\ ima have to go to a therapist but I don't wanna :/
(Rating: 5) Thanks, yeah, I see, like how I'm willing to sell the games I wanted so bad a few years back.
(Rating: 5) Thanks :)
(Rating: 5) It was rent :p but that advice was perfect. Thank you!!! :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for your thoughtful and informed answer! :DD