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advice(Rating: 5) Thank you for finding this for me :) I'm glad I can talk with more like me, including online. Thanks again!
(Rating: 5) I understand people do not wake up gay. I am bisexual. I like women, my husband knows this, as far as the anal intercourse we tried it once months ago, he said he didn't like it, (obviously it feels different from vaginal sex) but a few days ago he attempted to do anal, I asked him last night why would he want to try something he said he didn't like and he said because we have lubrication this time. (I didn't tell him I thought he was lying) I nodded and said oh OK. I will test myself. For myself and my son. And no he doesn't look at gay porn. Its just a guy and women. I have looked in the browser and history. Nothing. I know everyone here is trying to help me, I have people saying he very well could be, and others saying I might be overlooking everything. I am stuck. I don't know what to do or say anymore. In the end I will get hurt anyway. Whether I stay or leave.
(Rating: 4) Hey, thank you for your input. I really appreciate it. I'll make sure to try that.
(Rating: 5) Thank you!
(Rating: 3) I do see some of your points but for me one hour out of my week to give them hope is stupid because of the fact they make fun of me because I don't beleived in their god. I am greatful for what my parents have done for me, but I would be more willing to participate in things that involve there religion of they respected mine. I don't disrespect there's and make fun of it.
(Rating: 5) even though i can't call the number you gave me beacuse am from way far from where you are and its really expencive thank you for the help anyways, i mean it!!!
(Rating: 5) Thank you for replying. I don’t have a primary care doctor. I did a walk in and saw a flyer about the annual physical. I figure I should do it since my mom was paying a lot of money for our insurance. It was a big clinic, with a lot of specialist and w/ MRI and radiology lab in the next floor, labs for other things are down the street. My mom went to it ten years ago. She said they were great and recommended them to me. They are all new people and doctors and have different schedules. She never asked me if I was comfortable with him being there, which didn’t sit right with me. I told the doctor I was having financial trouble and want to save as much as I can for hospital bills that I owe, but she disregard that too. I am so offended by this. I’m not going back to them ever again. I don't know about writing the complaint letter since my sister is going there too. I don't want them to treat her poorly b/c of me.
(Rating: 3) Thank you for your response. Her boyfriend has her cards with him, he manages her money. I don't want to overstep my boundaries with her and cause problems. From previous experience with her, I know that she would pick him over us and her kids no matter the situation. She might hurt us by not allowing us to see the kids like before. They just got the kids back from CS and we don't want to lose the kids again. My mom is trying to convince her to sign the kids over to us. She told me she allowed my sister and the kids to stay but not her boyfriend, that was the deal. My sister disregarded it now he is here and we are all upset. They are both 30+ and refuse to act like adults.
(Rating: 5) Thanks, I hadn't even thought about that. I'll take your advice.
(Rating: 5) I bought the vibrator and it is being shipped to me. I do live in a commune and is scared that I'll make embarrassing noises. Any advice how to discreetly masturbate?
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the help! You were correct! I double checked and still pregnant! Bout to tell Karens! Thanks again! :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your response. I really do appreciate it.
(Rating: 5) Thank you!!! That was kind of my thought but I've never had the bleeding so you know where your mind jumps haha!!
(Rating: 5) Thanks you for responding. But they dont know her drug history. I mean if you seen her you wouldnt even think she was and she has been doing it for 20 + years. I just have a lot to think about and make an important decision
(Rating: 5) Thank you for answering my question so sweetly and non-judgmentally. I agree with everything you said. They don't need to be deal-breakers, but it is just important to acknowledge differences. We've talked a little bit about it but the issue is that he can't respect any of my opinions. And I think I will check out one of those centers that can find me a good roomate!!! God bless!
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(Rating: 4) Thanks it's not just that tho I mean he works 2nd shift if he gets mandatory he'll work a double. He'll come home tires I get that but daughter is having trouble adjusting to her own room she'll fall asleep in her bed wake up and come in our bed this morning he mumbles under his breath all morning until I finally get up
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! I do have an anxiety med that does help calm my nerves,thank you!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! And happy anniversary! My man loves God too,he just doesnt do what I do.I pray it all works out! Thanks again and you give good advice here!!
(Rating: 4) Thank you for giving me so much to think about. I know Mr.Wonderful probably isn't going to be so wonderful but I'd still like to meet him
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I'm planning to go to the non-urgent clinic today to have them look at it.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much, the example of your son has really given me food for thought. I really appreciate the time you have taken to reply to me x
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(Rating: 4) I see what you're saying and I respect it. However. She has not been engaged that long and they have no money. She is a very selfish person. I'm having a talk with her and demanding that they push it back. I've had to push my wedding back due to medical issues. Thanks anyway.
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(Rating: 5) You're completely right. We've had our differences, my dad and I, but I still love him and I should let him know by doing such a simple little gesture like calling him. Thanks for answering :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thank you for your well considered advice.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your response. I truly appreciate from the bottom of my heart
(Rating: 5) I get your point. Problem is,where I live there are hardly any kinds of clubs. But I could try someone from college,there's bound to be someone with a common interest.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your advice, it truly helped and made me realize things I didn't see before. I'm still sitting on the fence, but you've made it a bit easier for me so I'll figure it out soon. I really appreciate the time you've taken to answer my questions, it's good to know there's still people out there willing to blindly help others(:
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. Your advice was wonderful and your sensitivity and compassion are greatly appreciated. You sound like a very wise and intelligent person and I'm so thankful that there are good people like you in this world. Your advice was so perfect and God Bless you for it. Once again, thank you so much.
(Rating: 5) Thank you! I came clean to my parents and everything is okay!
(Rating: 5) This made me tear up a little while reading but you're right. Maybe I am looking for validation. Deep down, I know I would want to fix my future for myself before I can settle with anyone else. And we aren't focused on the same goals in life, not now at least. I wouldn't want him to base any decision to come back for me because, I dont tho k I would throw away any opportunity for a relationship I'm not too confident that will even work out in the long run.
(Rating: 5) Thank you
(Rating: 4) Thanks for the advice. I love to cook so that shouldn't be an issue. I really like your menu idea. I will most likely use it.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for your response
(Rating: 5) Thank you so very much. I truly appreciate your effort in putting this together. Thank you
(Rating: 5) I always love your advice. We are going with option 2. (And the blog is 100% because it was being written contemporaneously with exact quotes happening in our house)
(Rating: 3) Rating changed from a 1 by L2 moderator. DO NOT rate anyone a 1 unless you file an abuse report! The advice you ere given was in no way abusive.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your response. I very much appreciate it.
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much.
(Rating: 4) I have decided to give the bikini to my parents and let them take the necessary action, it is really my sisters mess so she should have to take the consequences for it and also my parents need to know what she was doing
(Rating: 5) Thank you :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your response.
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for that. I have taken into consideration what you have shared with me and I believe I will ace this project. Thanks again!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for the wonderful advice. I really appreciate you taking the time to read and respond to my question. I'll look into everything you've told me about and I'm glad you have such good ideas to help me with this. God bless you.
(Rating: 5) Hello, I want to thank you for your advice. I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart!
(Rating: 5) I want to thank you for taking the time to reply to my problem in such a prompt manner. You really opened my eyes. I have read what you wrote over and over. I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart! I am taking your thoughts into consideration.
(Rating: 5) Thank you! You helped me a lot!
(Rating: 5) Thank you, you have managed to put it in a term I understand thank you again for reminding me that I have a provocative to change my mind on things such as preferences
(Rating: 5) I cant believe I didn't think of videos myself!! That's an excellent idea! Thank you! and about the choking, its never to the point where I can't breathe but if I can't.. then instead of a "safeword" I pinch and twist his skin. That way he knows to stop and it never goes to far or becomes unsafe. I've practiced on him so he knows what it will feel like and he would never pretend not to feel it. I appreciate your concern there and you are definitely right. I believe pain is going to far but to each their own. I just like it rough but not painful :p haha. Thank you so much for the advice though. I feel a lot better about it thanks to your suggestion! :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for your advice sir... And I'm sorry about your injuries... I will definitely look into a career in sales for a change. (:
(Rating: 5) Wow thank you! This is just the kind of site I was looking for, but did not manage to find.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for all of that awesome advice. Most people would just give me a sentence or two and leave it as that. You really opened my eyes and I am taking your thoughts into consideration. Now I have a pretty clear reason to why I think that way. You kind of made sense to me
(Rating: 5) This was most helpful. The fact that you have been through something similar added to your wisdom. I'll try to learn from my situation with the hope that I might help someone someday too.
(Rating: 5) I have taken your advice into consideration, you were very right about "that it is the thought that counts and not the value of the gift that counts". I cooked dinner and bought him a few soccer equipment and he loved that I took the time to cook dinner for him. I do thank you with all my heart for sharing such wonderful words with me
(Rating: 5) I just wanted to thank you for taking the time to reply in such a prompt manner. Most people would just give me a sentence or two and leave it as that. I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart!
(Rating: 5) Wow! Thank you for helping me! :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks, I have talked to him before about our poor sex life and he has said he is afraid to get me pregnant again. Our baby was unplanned and I'm formula feeding and I just started on the depo shot yesterday so let's hope this works. I know he will not go for couples counseling at all.
(Rating: 3) It was literally a one night thing. I've always found him attractive and he asked a mate for my number earlier this year so he must have felt the same. But she has no idea about any of that. I'm of the mind set where I have no secrets as I get very stressed and prefer not to have things gathered in the back of my head.
(Rating: 5) Whoa my gosh it really is rape..thats just. Ah. Well thank you, and yes I feel so stupid for falling for all that when I know better, but now ik what not to do again. Thank you again!
(Rating: 4) Yes thank you, youre exactly right. I do realize the dressing to impress for work and special occasions but the being into fashion and clothes all the time really just confuses me, ya know? Like I spend time with these few girls who are like oh what am i gonna wear tomorrow or what color looks best and im just sitting there like uhh im gonna wear jeans and a t shit cause i dont really care. And i can get a guys attention just dressed like that without doing much. And thats not even that important to me because guys are stupid at this age and relationships would just be about sex or something else shallow. So it just doesnt matter to me..what matters to me is when yeah I do look nice and feel good about myself, but then what? Am I focusing on the wrong thing? I have to be doing something else thats more important than just looking nice and yeah. Idk..thank you for the advice though and for reading this long reply lol
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(Rating: 3) i'd like to respond to this question with a: actuallyyyy her mother controlled the phones in the house for a long time. stealing working bits of the phone so she couldnt call anyone. her mother is also a master brainwasher if she can isolate you in the house, which she can do because the homes there are far and few between and she does not drive. i am well aware that you dont have to keep in touch everyday to be someones friend. im 27 and im grown so thank you but i can go months without talking t a friend but we always pick back up right where we started off as if no time had passed at all. i do not have juvenile friendships where i expect to stay in touch even WEEKLY. lol. im a married woman with a family to care for. if anyone should have more free time its my friend.
(Rating: 5) Thank you, this was very helpful. My parents are starting to come around, and I have been living as a man for the past several months, wearing men's clothes and using the men's bathroom. I'm definitely a lot happier now too. Thanks so much! =)
(Rating: 5) I cried and cried after reading your advice. I want to thank you so much for opening my eyes. Sometimes it just takes someone else to see if for you.
(Rating: 3) Thanks for the advice, it was useful! The only thing I would say is that I think you focused too much on the sex side of things. It was probably my fault for mentioning it (to me it was just another symptom of the problems we're having) but above all else we are best friends, and have always been very open and honest with each other and able to talk about and share everything. It wasn't a case of 'the sex is great, let's move in!'
(Rating: 4) In my understanding, cheating is a verbal act in as much as it is a physical act, just that maybe my definition of it in this scenario was not the best. In this age of social media, I tend to think that certain conversations create the opportunity for cheating to take place, say in my boyfriends case. He did confide in someone. No problem. I do that too alot. The potential to cheat comes about when: 1.One begins to feel like their partner does not meet their level of adventure and maybe there could be someone out there who can. 2.One begins to feel constrained by being 'held-down' in a relationship. I think of it like, why should I have to ask when I can be free and do it with whomever I want?
(Rating: 5) you make a great point! Thank you for the link. I really like how you described it as the lifeboat. That is exactly how I feel, but, I just didn't know how to describe it.
(Rating: 5) Helped a lot. And the age of consent is 16. I live in Ontario Canada
(Rating: 5) Thanks for your great advice. I really appreciate it and I feel better now knowing that I'm not a bad person if I quit trying with them. Thanks again.
(Rating: 5) Thanks. Sorry it took so long to get back to you. I really appreciate your help. Thank you so much.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for the response! It really was helpful!
(Rating: 5) Thank you for your time in answer my question.
(Rating: 5) Thank you, this is helpful!
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(Rating: 5) Well i think you're right I'm going to enjoy the crush because eventually it will go away :) Thank you and i will make sure all my showers are cold :D
(Rating: 5) The list thing really helps! Thank you!
(Rating: 4) Thank you or the advice although you assume his father doesn't know his father isn't my ex husband his father knows and just says let me no what they tell you that's it.
(Rating: 5) You hit so many points that I needed to hear. Thank you!
(Rating: 4) Thank you.
(Rating: 5) Thank you, it actually ended up not being an issue
(Rating: 5) Thank you for the wonderful advice!
(Rating: 4) I am 20 years old haha :) but thanks so much.
(Rating: 5) Wow you know a LOT about stuff! Thanks for all the advices!
(Rating: 5) Thank you!
(Rating: 5) thank you for the great help, and not making me feel stupider than I already did! :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you for the easy to understand answer. I am afraid they will be mad at me if I call 911, but I will say something when I see the doctor for sure. Thank you again!
(Rating: 5) very straight up, thanks!
(Rating: 5) I'm sure you're right.. thank you.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. Shes just waiting for her green card so thats why she cant work yet. I would feel so guilty leaving her homeless but I just feel unapreciated.
(Rating: 5) Due to me moving out of state I had to wait 6 months to file for divorce. I just filed last week and papers are drawn up I hired an attorney I filed child support but still hasn't even been processed
(Rating: 5) Thanks, I've been taking your advice and its going great. I really appreciate it and am glad that you pointed out those things about depression.
(Rating: 5) thank you!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so so much for all the information and advice. I highly appreciate it and it was very much needed. I also appreciate the support and not judging me. Thank you so much!
(Rating: 2) Hi, I appreciate your answer but she does not supply more than 50% of my maintenance and did not help me pay for books, tuition, or any of the sort.
(Rating: 2) The advice was interesting, but it wasn't my question... (I'm not saying I want to achieve orgasm, I want to feel aroused in general when being in bed with him)