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(Rating: 5) I am sorry I never said thank you. At the time I wrote this it felt like if I didn't "lose it" I was a loser, and I was mad at anyone who said I should wait, but somehow when the time came, I waited and I can't thank you enough! My friends got pregnant and I had something special to offer my now husband. You might say you saved my life. I was SO ignorant when I asked this!
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice
(Rating: 4) Yes I’m 20 years old I’ve tried asking the bank to remove her and they said they can’t without her signature and of course she won’t remove herself. Yes I have two checkings accounts and one savings account my mom doesn’t have access to the savings but like I said earlier she’s joint with one checking and found a way to access another. My last job my pay checks were sent via direct deposit but because my account was joint with my mom she knew exactly when money entered my account, do you know if there’s a way to get the money direct deposited into my savings? But thank you for the advice!
(Rating: 4) Alright thanks for the advice
(Rating: 1) I was asking for help on each school. Like important info and things that people think i need to take into consideration while i make this choice. this question is moe geared towards people IN college who go to these schools and have intell on how they work and if they’d fit me. i’m not asking anyone to make a decision for me. i’m asking for advice.
(Rating: 4) Yeah I guess you’re right!
(Rating: 5) thank you! that would actually be a great idea, except that I live in Miami, so that's ot really an option. Even the most suburb areas are half a million dollars because of the location. I'm planning on moving to the Carolina's next school year.
(Rating: 5) thanks for the great advice
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. You have given me such great advice that I know will be such a huge help to me in dealing with my problem. I will do as you have advised me to and I really appreciate you taking the time to read my question and help me with this problem. Thanks again.
(Rating: 3) ty
(Rating: 5) We can't just ignore her because she has a heart condition and yes that really is real. We can't call 911 anyway because she'll turn them away then she'll blame us for not listening and for costing her $. We end up being the bad guy. She does have depression (she says that to us, her kids, she is lower than a dog), but as a victim, she will not admit she has a problem and says the WE are the problem. I remember she did go to a shrink once. He must have told her that she needs to take responsibility for her behavior and happiness because she said she got criticized and attacked, (like she does with us). So she never went back. She'll only talk to priests (which always take her side). She's a doozy. Thanks for you input.
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice
(Rating: 4) Thank you for the advice
(Rating: 5) Thank you. This opened my eyes a great deal. We have spoke about moving out but lately with my getting upset or whatnot, I kind of put it off because, like I said I'd have doubts about marrying him, I had small doubts about being happy living with him. However, what you said about moving out, maybe, being a stepping stone to bettering things, I may bring it up again to him. But you're right, I definitely do need to talk to him. I just wouldn't know how to bring it up, without offending him. She is a single mom and with their family living in their country of origin and them being the only two living in the states, I know that he is definitely one of the only and most important things she has. So thank you again, I really appreciate this!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! These ideas are already kind of in place, though but that is totally my fault for not stating as such, I definitely should have put in there that he does sit with his neighbor that he plays with at home a lot and he does go into the classroom during recess when everybody else is outside. However, I should see if I can implement him going in for 3 minutes during math, maybe, because that is his favorite subject. Thank you, again!
(Rating: 5) adviceman49: Thank you so much for this supportive answer. We had a similar situation only a year ago. That time it was between me and my friend's sister--my friend supported both of us and helped us get back on track.(All via email and telephone) Because some of that also related to me missing my friend, she and I agreed to do just as you have suggested, but life got away from us and neither one of us initiated such a meeting. I truly hope we can do it in the coming year, at least once. We have a lot to share.
(Rating: 4) Yeah even before applying to schools I wanted to live on campus but my mom let her friends influence her saying “living on campus far away is lonely” meanwhile the school I wanted to go to was just an hour and half away compared to the school her friends daughter went to which was 5 hours away. There aren’t anymore available dorms and I don’t have enough money to live on campus housings anymore. So I’m stuck at home, my mom said I can move on campus when I’m doing my masters, so I should be lonely with no friends till then? Thanks for the advice anyways I’ll try to find a way to be able to stay late for clubs
(Rating: 5) Thanks. He hasn't been using my benefits. His parents say he hardly leaves the house. You're probably right about moving on. Thank you.
(Rating: 5) No i never got professional help with my depression and i didn't get properly diagnosed either because my parents thought it was a phase but clearly im still the same way and my mom didnt want me to go on any medications when she found out i suffer from anxiety but since im an adult now i think i might go to therapy now thanks for the advice
(Rating: 5) Thank you. He is a really good man and could do great things for my life. I think i fell so hard for him because he is so much like my father the greatest man I've ever known. I am definitely going to take your advice
(Rating: 5) I think you gave me a lot of good insight into this issue. Knowing who he is as a person this makes so much more sense to me now. He is the type of person who would rather just go it alone. I think for him, it's not even the danger that he is considering, even though he will be an army officer in a combat branch (field artillery). I just know from what he has said about basic, being alone and single made it so much easier to get through. I think he has been trying to create distance for some time to make that adjustment easier. It still disappoints me. I still wish he would try and make it work, I wish he didn't feel like I am asking so much of him. But I suppose it is time to move on. Thank you for your insight!!
(Rating: 5) I don't have a drivers license yet thanks to my mom but I do have health card with a photo ID would that work?
(Rating: 5) Thank you for taking the time to answer, and thank you for the hopeful response. Its good to know that there is a way out of this.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for this I plan on trying to grow thicker skin. That's the reason I got this job because my parents want me to be stronger and be able to handle rude people. Hopefully it gets better and thank you for sharing your situation!
(Rating: 5) I guess what concerned me before is what the "right thing" I should do is. I was concerned that if I didn't speak up, she and I would regret it later. But I think you're right. Normally she asks for my opinion- but not this time. Thanks for the advice.
(Rating: 5) Super helpful, thank you very much <3
(Rating: 5) Thankyou so much! That was very helpful:)
(Rating: 5) Thank you!! I have talked with her and now she is filling better she has actually smiled at me and hugged me for rhe first time in a long time!!!!
(Rating: 4) The vex was 330ml if that helps but thanks for the info
(Rating: 3) I never said I was fourteen, nor did I ask about HIPPA. I'm fully aware of these laws. In fact, I'm eighteen. Almost all of your advice was totally unasked for, unhelpful, and had nothing to do with my question. *Rating changed by moderator. The advice given was in no way abusive.
(Rating: 5) Thank you! Unfortunately, it wound up not working out as he was too self conscious about it all to keep in touch with me after. His loss I guess. :/
(Rating: 4) Yes i live in Canada and if i dont overcome this myself i think i may have to find help. Yeah the only way i can see a psychiatrist here is through a referal and the wait to see one is super long. Also thank you for sharing your story!
(Rating: 5) I usually need to eat salads without any dressing. I find myself throwing up or having runs after eating a salad and nothing but the salad be it Caesar or something else.
(Rating: 5) Thanks, I'll message you
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I'll send you a message.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I'll look into getting a therapist maybe at my campus. I indirectly asked my psychology teacher the same question and she referred me to the counseling on campus. I don't know if I want to have him charged bc I don't know if that's the right thing to do. I don't know if there is even any evidence other than my word; although when I was examined after being placed in care, they had suspected such. I wouldn't tell anyone as a child bc I was a select mute. My name here is xxn123
(Rating: 5) thanks for your insights- I'mrelieved to hear it's normal
(Rating: 5) That you for your insight. You're right.
(Rating: 5) Yes thank you for the advice, when i get a job this spring (school year is over in april i wouldve worked during the school year but the course load was crazy) i plan on changing my look i already have a couple of makeup products like lipsticks and eyeshadows but i still need a few more (for example eyeshadows dont really stay long if you dont have a primer,which is something im investing in next) i was supposed to change my wardrobe before university started but long story short i couldnt find a job in order to save money to get new clothes. Hopefully this is the year it can all happen and thank you for the advice it has given me more motivation and hope!
(Rating: 4) Thank you
(Rating: 2) This was not a rude question i wanted to know what was going on or if the site was having problems as most of the time ive always had fast replies. I didnt need your sarcastic answer :)
(Rating: 4) Yeah you're right I do have self-esteem issues I don't really know how to gain more confidence and I think when I'm older I may try online dating again but thanks for the advice
(Rating: 5) Thank you!
(Rating: 3) Yeah nothing happened to me when I was a child, but I did suffer from undiagnosed depression and anxiety if that helps and I do love my parents it's just awkward for me to tell them or show any signs of affection
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I have been to a psychologist who understood,and gave helpful advice.I ended up not being able to pay for that twice a month visit so had to cut it. After reading your response, and looking more into the Guard. I do feel thats exactly what i need to be disciplined, and possibly help my self-esteem. Thanks again i am not just saying that i do mean it. Right now time is just being wasted by me being lazy. National Guard feels like a good way to start my life.
(Rating: 4) Okay thank you
(Rating: 4) Sorry for the confusion. My question is not really based on the factor of dating him. Rather, I want to know how I should go about finding out whether things are okay... after my really weird comment.
(Rating: 5) Thank you I will give it a try that k you so much
(Rating: 3) Lol turning 18 means nothing in my family, my parents are still gonna act the same. Also I live in Canada and I'm not on financial aid, I'm pretty sure our debt doesn't get that high though as it is in the states
(Rating: 5) Hi, First of all thank you so much for your advice it meant so much to me. You do have some points right there :-). My only follow-up question is how can I talk to her? She is now avoiding g me for lunch and I already tried texting her and still to no avail. But rather she will just ignore replying me. Although I am pretty sure that she might already got the idea that some of the things I said have meant something that I like her. That could have triggered the way she is acting cold. I really want to talk to her straight but I just can't connnect her properly. Which is causing me so much stress. Yes I do have feelings for her.but I never say it but rather just show it in action. Maybe that could have caused the shipwrecked. :-(
(Rating: 4) Thank you for all of that extra information, I didnt actually know that! They aren't blood blisters though. Theyre probably pea sized, round like a ball, and a little deeper than a blood blister would be. Thank you, though, for responding!
(Rating: 5) Thanks for your advice. I just don't know how to bring up the possibility/idea of his circumcision to him, or how to get him to see an ED specialist/Urologist... As for the lambskin being thinner, wouldn't that run a higher risk of breaking? Given that we've already broken thicker condoms having sex?
(Rating: 5) thank you so much, this has really helped me out and has really changed my perception on how i should handle this situation
(Rating: 5) Wow,I'm really sorry about your situation, I wish there were less unsupportive parents. But thank you for your advice. As you suggested, I will make rules and if she won't abide by them, she's out for good. Thank you very much.
(Rating: 5) You're the only one who came back with straight forward answers and reasons. Thank you.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for the encouragement.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for sharing your story, I know that's not easy to do. And thank you for all the advice,information, and encouragement, I am truly so grateful!
(Rating: 5) Thanks! I am a Canadian so every medical procedure and appointment we have is free. We only pay dental.
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for the advice.
(Rating: 5) Thank you, she's going to come live with me in a couple weeks she hasn't told me if he continued to try and ask her but she did say no to him and ever sense she said no to him he has been very mean. Situations like this especially being a couple years ago there's no right way of dealing with it unless he is continuing to make these gestures I'll be sure to let him know
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for your help and advice :) I actually have contacted CPS a couple months back, unfortunately once they spoke with my mother she convinced them otherwise and nothing more was done. I very much appreciate your help!!
(Rating: 4) Thank you very much for the advice! I appreciate everything you have to say and will certainly keep it all in mind.
(Rating: 5) Regarding teaching assistantships, my school offers these very, very sparingly - and no scholarships of which to speak. They also don't offer a part time doc program. >< BUT, good ideas about the part time and the interviews... Thank you. :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I'm usually quite good at overruling my fears with logic, but it's been on my mind recently. Communication IS paramount for a good relationship, you're right about that. :)
(Rating: 4) No everyone in my family uses scented soaps and deoaderants if we dont my mom would get pissed off.yes you are right the hairstylist was out of line because we barely know her, i would understand if she was a family friend, or a family member but shes not. My mom is going to call her and ask her why she felt the need to call my sister. anyways thanks for the opinion!
(Rating: 5) Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. I reached out to him and just got back a positive response today. I'm so happy for you and your wife and thank you for spreading the advice to me. We can only hope for as good a result.
(Rating: 5) What is happened? by law they must intervene you? I am worry about that I will be at mental hospital. And thank you for your answer it is helping me a lot.
(Rating: 5) Great advice. However, I am sorry if I confused you, but I never mentioned my married best friend being in love with me... I meant to imply that he thinks that this guy who I am interested in is starting to like me. If I thought that he had feelings for me like that, where he was starting to think about cheating on his wife, I would probably distance myself from him.
(Rating: 4) Thanks for your feedback. I appreciate it. Your advice was good. Although I would like to point out that when I said poly, I was referring to polysexual/romantic which means being attracted to many, but not necessarily all genders. I'm aware that it's commonly mistaken for polyamory. It's simply one of the lesser known sexualities. Anyway, as for my being young and enjoying my childhood, I just find it frustrating in this world, society divides you in two groups. You're either gay, or straight, and there's nothing else, according to them. And I'm certainly neither of those. And unfortunately, until I have a label if my own, I have no "real authority" in the little battle. It's confusing. As if I'm automatically an outcast. I'm already strange enough as it is. Figuring out my sexuality would solve a mystery that I've been trying to work out for over a year. It would explain my previous experiences and unlock a whole new world. It's hard to be questioning for so long. So many other people my age have already figured it out. Anyway, thanks again.
(Rating: 5) I believe you answered the wrong question here but I'm sure whomever asked the question that needed your answer is much appreciative :)
(Rating: 1) I never let any guy enter me. I am a virgin. My question is not asking whether or not I'm a virgin or pregnant.
(Rating: 4) Thanks for taking out time n reading..really helped me..actualy dis was d first time n i have been posting the same question since 16th feb again n again..
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your answer! You brought up a lot of good points and definitely reassured me a little. How would you recommend any action from here on? Do I let her make the first move in terms of reconciliation should she ever want it? I feel that after my apology and refusal to stop seeing him, I have really nothing else to say...
(Rating: 5) DSS actually did remove my daughter from my custody and granted her father custody until I complete some domestic violence classes which I have already started and can continue once I move. I believe once that is finished and my boyfriend completes the required classes they asked of him I will be allowed to file for joint custody and see my daughter over the summer and things like that. I'm just a little scared to put so much faith in one person and move away from my family because I worry if my boyfriend does something to hurt me then I will be stuck far away with no one to really turn to. I do not think he will I just have issues I suppose putting so much faith into one person because of fear I will be let down. I've just been praying all day everyday and I am sincerely hoping for the best.
(Rating: 5) Thank you!!
(Rating: 5) Thank you!
(Rating: 5) Thank you! :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice man :D I appreciate it
(Rating: 2) I really don't think you understood my question, therefore your answer is not very helpful...
(Rating: 5) Thank you, I really appreciate your reply and advice!
(Rating: 5) I have done exactly that. Still,thank you for your advice :)
(Rating: 3) Thanks for trying to help. I've felt this way for years that's the problem. It's not just these two people but lately it's been them. I used to do all of this since I was 6. And FYI I'm 16. Sophomores are 15-16 you were thinking of freshmen.
(Rating: 3) Thank you so much, still haven't gotten my period yet tho it's about 5 or 6 days Late know. I usually know when I'm gonna get it I get acne the week before and get a bit of tender breasts and I did get both (last week) and a I had a bit of tender breasts this week too. so I thought oh I should be getting my period soon but it didn't come yet. Still kinda worried but not that much. Could it maybe be because we're going into a new year?? Like it feels like I got my period but like Thiers no blood.
(Rating: 5) Thanks for this great advice
(Rating: 5) We used two different condoms, he and I both know 110% to not use a condom more than one time.Thank you, though. If I'm following my birth control schedule, I start my sugar pills tomorrow so I should be getting my period then.
(Rating: 5) Thanks you are right...she is already on her period again and she does a lot of house chores...still no pregnancy symptoms
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for your great advice. I really appreciate the help and am glad that you've helped me find more effective ways of handling these problems. Thanks again and God Bless.
(Rating: 5) Thanks for your help.
(Rating: 5) I appreciate the advice. I think my question may have been taken differently than I intended. I just wanted to know if it was possibly that I was still pregnant even though the test said negative which after reading online I found out that it takes about 10 days after ovulation for you to get an accurate pregnancy test and that is at the very earliest time. Which since we hadn't even been having unprotected sex for ten days it would be impossible to tell. But I appreciate the advice. Thank you :)
(Rating: 2) It has nothing to do with a psychological problem? It's not that I'm afraid to be touch, sometimes its just too much that he needs to calm it down. Nothing deeper
(Rating: 5) Thanks. :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. This is really hard. I have already a few dates scheduled to go back home. This thanksgiving, Christmas, in March for my cousin's wedding, and in June. It's just so hard to choose between what makes me happy and what would make him happy..
(Rating: 5) He is 100% depressed and stressed. He went from living in another state and being a personal trainer that only worked when he wanted to because his grandparents supported him and having no children or a wife. Now he has a wife, two step-kids, owning a home and working as an electrician in a chemical plant. He is very stressed and depressed but part of the depression is his weight. And he has always struggled with depression so he is already on meds but I cannot get him to seek therapy. I am just worried that if he doesn't change soon his weight gain is going to be so far gone that it's going to take a lot you were in order to get back into shape I know this because I weighed 245 pounds 4 years ago and it took a major change in my life to be 120 pounds as I am now. It's always easier to start when the problem begins not when it's at its worst. I just love him to the moon and back and want him to be happy.
(Rating: 5) Thank you!!
(Rating: 1) You did not give me any coping skills like I asked. The reason I asked for coping skills is because I cannot afford medication or professional help. I have no job and no source of income. This is new information since I just had to lose it due to my depression. If you are going to continue to be rude about things and still say I need professional help, please let me know and I will give you my information and you can send me some help. Otherwise thanks but no thanks for your criticism.
(Rating: 5) Yes he did know I had a boyfriend. it was the first topic of conversation actually. Thank you so much for your advice.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I will look into it.
(Rating: 2) I appreciate you answering but I'd have to disagree, considering I've felt this way (genderfluid) for over 4 years I'm sure this isn't going to change. And again I'm 100% sure about my sexuality, because your sexual preference is something you're born with not something you choose to be. Also I've recently turned 14 so I'm not 13. And I'm completely open and everyone has been nothing but nice to me, I am fortunate enough to have not encountered anyone who has been horrible regarding my gender or sexual preference. Lots of people at my school have come out as non-straight and not their born gender. And what if I'm asexual? What if I never want to engage in sexual acts but am still happy to be in a romantic relationship, who you're interested in doesn't have to be based off of having sex with them- when I asked this question I asked if I had a shot with her, and how to make her like me more or drop hints about what I'm feeling- not wether it's dangerous to come out or wether I'm wrong about my gender and sexuality- so again thank you for answering and taking some of your time to try and help me, I do appreciate that- I just have a strong opinion about this and disagree with your response.
(Rating: 5) Thanks alot
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I'll take this slow
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