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This question is mainly for the females I guess. So my GF asked me if I fantasized about blow jobs or hand jobs since we are not having sex for moral reasons on her religion which I respect. I admitted yes I fantasize about that stuff but then I saw she was like freaked out about it when I admitted that and I said she did not have to do that if she did not want to do it just because I fantasized about it because I would be okay if that never happened but she got so upset she was not doing anything to help me out with being good and she knows I like her that way and am trying to hide my erections. I tried to make a joke and said I help myself out as needed. She did not think it was funny like she feels like she is not a good girlfriend because I guess other girls say what they do for their guys or whatever which could be lies you know. I think they are just saying things to upset her like she is not being a good girlfriend leaving me all frustrated or whatever because they do not like her religion maybe. Obviously I would like to have sex or a blow job or a hand job or really anything she is in the mood to do but I can also chill and do nothing. I was already a virgin with no experience before we got together. It is not like I did not know she was a good girl when we started dating I totally knew that and like that about her even if I am not the same religion as her. I honestly did not expect much more than holding hands, hugging, and kissing and those things are great. She says I am lying to her to make her feel better which is not true. I admitted I fantasize okay that is like unavoidable but it is also true I can handle it if we just wait on the big stuff. I just don’t want her to cry over it you know. That kills me so bad when she cries about anything. Honestly if someone else was dating her I feel like they could guilt her into doing more but I could not live with it doing something like that to her. She is so sweet. She cannot help it if she is hot also. My dad and I got this boxing heavy bag and boxing gloves and we are doing this workout thing in our garage with it so he can lose weight and not die of blood pressure and he likes boxing and if I do it with him he thinks he will stick with it and it is fun also. These girls told her I was doing it because boys exercise because they are sexually frustrated. I told her that was total crap and does not even help with that in my opinion. I know it is wrong but I want to box the hell out of these girls for making her feel this way. What do I need to do to reassure her that I can wait as long as she wants to wait and not be mad about it? My mom suggested I give her a purety ring which you can get and we both wear one and like we are in it together like not all the pressure on her. What do you think? I need ideas please. (link)
First of all "HI" to Ammo. Glad to see you answering!

Questioner, Have you ever asked your GF if she is frustrated, or having trouble with waiting? If not, why not try asking. I mean she seems to be talking to girlfriends about the situation. Encourage her to talk to you about it instead. You would probably both feel better it.

Just because her religion doesn't approve of her having sex before marriage, doesn't mean that it isn't perfectly normal for her to have those feelings. The same for you. Take her focus off of you and put it on her.

As for rings, that is up to you. It isn't going to stop either of you from having feelings though. Good luck


So I've been friends with benefits with this guy for a bout a month now. Everytime we try to make plans to hook up he asks me to try to bring a friend, and if I have any friends that would be up for 3somes. I honestly don't mind him asking here and there, but it's gotten to a point where I feel like he's only interested if my one of my friends join us. I know that we are only using each other to benefit ourselves, but I can't help getting annoyed that I'm not enough in this situation. What should I do? (link)
If you want a real relationship then you need to get out of this one. He will use you (and your friends) until he moves on to someone else. I realize that is the whole concept of friends with benefits, but it really isn't a good place to be. My advice is to find a guy who wants you and only you. Even if it is just a temporary thing. Have some respect for yourself. You deserve that.


So, I'm asexual but my boyfriend is not. I've already told him about it, and we're both fine with it, but we haven't actually talked about the sex part of our relationship yet. I'm not interested in having sex at all, but I'm wondering what I can do instead in case if he still needs SOMETHING?

And also, how should I bring it up to him to talk about?

-Cas, 26 (link)
If you are really not interested at all then you do need to discuss it. If he still needs something, and most will, then you'll probably have to understand that he will not be around forever. You can be besties, but if he wants more, he will find someone who feels the same. He may currently believe he can change your mind. Good friends are hard to find though so hope you remain friends.


I am 27 my BF 27.
I am in a long distance relationship for five years. We see each other 2/3 times a year. My boyfriend is very caring and nice. And off course I trust him a lot.
A few months back a saw a girl commenting on few of his post. and by her comment it seems like they chat sometimes. She always reacts with love react to his post. and sometimes comments praising his singing.
Now my BF has other female friends, they are his classmates and colleagues. And I am not insecure about them at all. But this girl is not his classmate or colleague.
Now I am not saying that he is having something with her. Like I said earlier I trust him completely. But I don't know why I have this weird feeling that the girl has a crush on my BF and she is trying to impress him. Should I do something about it? It is bothering me a lot. I didn't ask my bf about the girl yet. Should I ask him? How can I ask him? or should I just ignore it?
BTW we don't share our couple picture online or post anything about our relationship online. As me and my BF both are very private person. Our close friends and family members know about our relationship. But we don't showoff online. (link)
Its good that you trust your bf. That said, something is making you question his relationship
with this other female. I will tell you up front that I am not a fan of tthe long distance relationships. You will have to ask him about it. Its the only way to find out. Listen to your intuition. It is usually pretty correct.


I live in a house with an 85-year-old who had cancer surgery in March and a 64-year-old mother, a brother in his 30's and a small child. I have been very careful to wear a mask and gloves and obey for the past 5 months every health stipulation to do with Covid-19.

Not to get political because the disease is not a political thing but in the U.S. they've rushed things in some states and the president hasn't helped by denying the existance of it at first and not trusting the experts like Fauci.

One of the things that has led to surge of cases is reopening bars, night clubs and virtually every other business you can think of in some areas. Doing so has resulted in spike of cases and some deaths.

Meanwhile, I live in Canada where they've closed the border and until recently you couldn't even gather with more than 5 people at a time. What has happened here is that there's 4 stages of reopening. We just entered Stage 3 which allows nearly all attractions, movie theaters and bars to reopen.

I have ZERO interest in bars, nightclubs, performance venues, indoor restaurant dining or any establishment that could be a breading ground for the disease.

I would just like to go downtown to the aquarium or even to the park, a museum or anything having been holed up here for 5 months with the same people.

My mother refuses to let me go anywhere but Wal-Mart or the corner store and always asks me where I'm going or if I want to kill my father and everyone else in the house by dragging Covid-19 in. It's an enormous guilt trip and I would like to have my freedom back. I get that she's paranoid and the reason for it and that she thinks things will end up like America. We've taken months to reach where we are and health experts have got us here.

I'm not trying to be selfish but I think if health experts have required businesses and attractions to submit a proposal for opening and are adhering to strict rules that it's not an issue to visit these places if you have a mask, gloves and are being bloody careful.

The only indoor venue I would want to go to that is iffy is a movie theater but not until I knew nobody who went to one here became ill. They have limited occupancy to 50 people per screen and blocked off seats and entire sections in the theaters and it's all reserved. You have to wear mask and gloves the entire time you are there.

I'm hoping you will have ideas on what I can do to get her to see that while nothing is 100% safe that this is as good as it gets and public health can shut businesses down for non-compliance with rules.

She also doesn't want me to go to parks for exercise or large ones downtown with a zoo or take public transit anywhere. I can understand the transit part but being outdoors is important.

I'm more concerned for my own mental health than anything else because these are the only 5 people I have interacted with other than my aunt for months and have been holed up in my room otherwise. I need to get out of this place.

Before Covid-19 I was going to theater, comedy clubs, major attractions and movies. It was incredibly difficult for me when that ceased and I had to find other outlets and things to do from home. You can't stay sheltered in one place for too long. (link)
answered on the public one. :)


I live in a house with an 85-year-old who had cancer surgery in March and a 64-year-old mother, a brother in his 30's and a small child. I have been very careful to wear a mask and gloves and obey for the past 5 months every health stipulation to do with Covid-19.

Not to get political because the disease is not a political thing but in the U.S. they've rushed things in some states and the president hasn't helped by denying the existance of it at first and not trusting the experts like Fauci.

One of the things that has led to surge of cases is reopening bars, night clubs and virtually every other business you can think of in some areas. Doing so has resulted in spike of cases and some deaths.

Meanwhile, I live in Canada where they've closed the border and until recently you couldn't even gather with more than 5 people at a time. What has happened here is that there's 4 stages of reopening. We just entered Stage 3 which allows nearly all attractions, movie theaters and bars to reopen.

I have ZERO interest in bars, nightclubs, performance venues, indoor restaurant dining or any establishment that could be a breading ground for the disease.

I would just like to go downtown to the aquarium or even to the park, a museum or anything having been holed up here for 5 months with the same people.

My mother refuses to let me go anywhere but Wal-Mart or the corner store and always asks me where I'm going or if I want to kill my father and everyone else in the house by dragging Covid-19 in. It's an enormous guilt trip and I would like to have my freedom back. I get that she's paranoid and the reason for it and that she thinks things will end up like America. We've taken months to reach where we are and health experts have got us here.

I'm not trying to be selfish but I think if health experts have required businesses and attractions to submit a proposal for opening and are adhering to strict rules that it's not an issue to visit these places if you have a mask, gloves and are being bloody careful.

The only indoor venue I would want to go to that is iffy is a movie theater but not until I knew nobody who went to one here became ill. They have limited occupancy to 50 people per screen and blocked off seats and entire sections in the theaters and it's all reserved. You have to wear mask and gloves the entire time you are there.

I'm hoping you will have ideas on what I can do to get her to see that while nothing is 100% safe that this is as good as it gets and public health can shut businesses down for non-compliance with rules.

She also doesn't want me to go to parks for exercise or large ones downtown with a zoo or take public transit anywhere. I can understand the transit part but being outdoors is important.

I'm more concerned for my own mental health than anything else because these are the only 5 people I have interacted with other than my aunt for months and have been holed up in my room otherwise. I need to get out of this place.

Before Covid-19 I was going to theater, comedy clubs, major attractions and movies. It was incredibly difficult for me when that ceased and I had to find other outlets and things to do from home. You can't stay sheltered in one place for too long. (link)
I'm probably not the one to answer this. I have diabetes and asthma and am a "high risk" person.
I did just get over the flu though and am doing just fine. Wear a mask. I guess that's what they want everyone to do. Here in the states it is what they are now mandating almost everywhere. I refuse to wear one myself, then again I don't go out.

You might point out to mom that there is probably little difference in weather you go to a comedy show or go to Walmart. To be safe you can wear a mask. Other than that the only choice is to stay home. I'm sorry about that. I think its being blown out of proportion myself, but I'm nobody. :)

Lets hope it goes away soon.


I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about

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It sounds like you need to do some things that have you meeting some people. People who can be friends and maybe even meet a new guy.

Many women date a lot of different men before finding the right one. Don't even worry about that.
Take a class at a college, volunteer to help somewhere that interests you, you will meet someone.

I do understand the anxiety.Its not at all unusual.
If it continues, you might want to consider telling your doctor about it and see what he/she can do for you. Hang in there though. You will meet someone even better for you out there!


We both work at an office supply store. I think she is so cute and she makes me really horny. I am not proud of it but I couldn’t help it and grabbed or patted her ass several times and made all sorts of sexual comments to her. However she doesn’t seem to care. She scowled at me or said hey but hasn’t reported me and even still talks to me normally. I wonder why she seems ok with it (link)
I don't know why she hasn't turned you in. Someone else could see you and turn you in though, so I wouldn't advise you to continue the behavior. If you like her, ask her out. Treat her with respect. You know better than to do the things you are doing. You may also want to seek some help for this continued behavior before you lose your job. Something like that will follow you around and you will never have a good job. Seriously, find someone to talk to in person about this.



I work full-time for a healthcare agency. I am 26 years old and I have a boss that is 34. This guy is cute, close to me in age, and has a really laid back/sweet personality. I am sort of attracted to him. I do know, however, that he is my boss first and foremost so I know that he is off-limits and I can accept that. The thing is, though, that he seems to flirt. Quite often. From what I have observed he does not act the same way towards other female coworkers. Sometimes in between the flirting, though, he becomes very formal/distant so it just leaves me feeling confused or like I did something wrong. Not saying that he should necessarily be flirting in the first place, but why would he do a complete 180 like that?

The other day he had to train me on a shift, he literally flirted and then acted distant within the same day and I actually was paranoid that he was angry about something. The whole shift he flirted and then when he was about to leave, he acted 100% different with me. Do you think he's just trying to act more like a boss or did I actually do something wrong? (Though if I did, I don't know what because I never flirt back and I perform well at my job.)

Also, there is another woman in the office that's in management and she hates me because this man likes me. She expresses this to other people, even our clients, which is unprofessional and she also insults me. She tells clients that he "has a thing for me" bc he says I'm beautiful. I don't work in the office. I only go there if i need to. I travel doing healthcare but they still monitor me.

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It sounds like he probably does like you. He has also probably been warned by someone about his behavior being unprofessional.

Is he married? Thats the first thing you need worry about. It could also leave him feeling guilty for flirting.

I don't think you have done anything wrong, so don't feel that way. He is battling his own feelings is all. If he likes you, he should invite you out and away from work. As for the office gossipers, ignore them. So long as your behavior is appropriate, they should leave you alone. If they don't, then talk to someone in human resources about their behavior.


I’m 15 and I was born with nub toes on my right foot.They are literally tiny, and barely have toenails that I could probably peel completely off. I have the crushing hatred and insecurity of them(which I should), and for the last few years with the development of shows like Botched By Nature On E!, I have hope that there is a possibility of a operation when I am older that will put bones in my toes to make them normal and want to know if that is even possible, and if not how to manage beyond that? (link)
I think toe surgery to make toes shorter is actually pretty popular. That being said, I am sure they can do plastic surgery on your toes! You will probably have to wait until you stop growing first, but after that, you can have it done.


Hi I don’t know so much about my desire to be under 90 lbs for the remainder of my life and I’m concerned I might be anorexic or worse and wanted to seek your advice on what could I possibly be facing. (link)
You certainly could be anorexic if you weigh 90 pounds. It depends on your body & age.

If you are that concerned about your weight, you should really talk to a doctor. A doctor can tell you how much someone of your age & build should be weighing. If you are overweight, a doctor can help you with information on safe ways to loss the extra pounds. If you are underweight, a doctor can also help you get to a normal weight in a safe and healthy way.

Anorexia can lead to many health problems & even death. Do some research and reading on Karen Carpenter. She died of complications of anorexia.
Please contact an doctor & stay healthy.


I decided to go on my own mini strike, and not wear a bra until I have something to put in them and want to know what what impact this could have on me, and if I could possibly prevent possible future sagging if I’m not choosing to wear a bra for a chosen amount of time. (link)
It won't do you any harm. Large breasts are the ones more likely to sag one day. So go on strike!


How do I even say this😞. I’m 15, and I saw an old friend and and couldn’t quite grasp how I envy how she has the perfect curvy body. Among teen girls in school whether a friend or some girl I don’t even like,I have noticed and mildly accepted how much less of a voluminous body I have than them,every girl is more better than me if she is 1. perfectly skinny, with no breast or butt, 2. Has a little belly with big everything / and or perfect in all three areas.I already have low self esteem and won’t ever find myself settling for the body that I have (which I take as settling for less). I am even desperately trying to self diagnose myself as malnourished or some other explanation as to why I am so under developed, and am fully prepared to make money over the summer to order breast and butt growth pills. To which I don’t know how will impact my body, but I will dive headfirst into ingredients or impacts and whatever it takes to get where I want to. So what I’m asking is what do I do to myself should I go after what I want or find another path I need suggestions? I would much rather growth pills than plastic surgery in the future but I just need a second opinion. I also exhibit the passion to stay under 100 pounds for the rest of my life, and have intended to for no little than over a year. I did some digging online digging that wasn’t very helpful and don’t feel comfortable discussing it with anyone I know can offer up some other helpful advice without them becoming too worrisome about me. What could it be? (link)
Growth pills or other supposed pills or whatever you would find do not work. So don't waste money on anything like that. Plastic surgery would be an option when you are older, if needed. They won't do that until you are of legal age.

Your options right now are to just stop worrying about it. You will develop more as you get older.
Stay away from extreme dieting or taking anything sold over the counter.

My advice would be for you to get an appointment and discuss all of this with a doctor. They can tell you if there is a problem & then help you with it. I am going to guess though, that you are fine & will fill out & be a beautiful girl. Just have patience. Everyone develops at their own pace.


I am a 16 year-old girl from Brazil and I need your help please. Basically, it all started in 2018: a new student arrived at my school and as we had a few classes in common we started talking. Even though we were never really friend we used to flirt with each other jokingly. But then, I caught feeling for him. Therefore, I told a friend we had in common that I liked him and I asked her to ask him if he would date me. He said no. Besides a couple days later, during a party, he asked one of my closest friend if she wanted to make out with him. Because of all this,I got extremely sad and decided I wanted to forget about him. But he would still talk and text me, even though he wouldn’t flirt anymore and it became hard to forget him (at this point I thought he knew I liked him but he didn’t want to loose our friendship). During vacation I stopped talking to him and we drifted away. When classes begun (already in 2019) I realized I wasn’t completely over him. During that year he almost dated two girls and I almost dated one guy (and while me and the other dude were talking I new I was completely over the first guy). But in the end of 2019, I noticed that guy1 was interested in me. But nothing happened between us, because I was too afraid: I thought he was using me as backup and that he never really liked me. In the beginning of this year (2020) I thought he still wanted something with me. But I started to ignore him and haven’t talked to him properly since last year (so I guess he just gave up but I don’t know). Now, he is talking to some other girl and I think they will start dating sooner or later. Therefore, I feel that I need to solve things between us before that happens. Also, as I decided to get over him for real now, I feel like I need to confess everything I felt during those years and just put an end in everything we ever had. I feel like I need to do that in order to feel good and get over it. My friends disagree. But I have already confessed old feelings for other guys and it helped to get over them. I feel like I need a confirmation, this time directly from him that he’s never felt the same way as me, even though it might hurt. But I still don’t know what to do. I’m worried about how he’s going to react. Can you please help me? (link)
If you don't intend to pursue a relationship with him then I see no reason to confess past feelings.
Do you want him to feel bad that he didn't feel the same all these years? People crush on each other all the time & nothing ever comes of it. Its just the way it is. If nothing ever becomes of it, then we just move on. Doesn't mean you can't remain friends if you feel like it.

If you still want to consider a relationship with the guy, then speak up. He can always say he isn't interested in that kind of relationship with you. If that's the case, then you move on. At least then you will know where you stand.


My wife was a whore when I married her. The way she let me know was by reading her diary and of stories of going out with one to four guys at a time. In the diary she told about being fingered on the school bus on the way home from school and that every boy on the bus took turns fingering her. She also said in the diary that she would go out with her girlfriend and her boy friend and they would go parking and they would fuck and she would get so honey from listing to them. She said that one night they were all out together and that her girlfriend passed out from having sex and her boyfriend put his hand on her knee and she didn't stop him, he ran his hand up her skirt and stated finger her, then he crawled over the back seat and took her panties off and fucked her. Her girlfriend woke up and caught them fucking. From then on her girlfriend would let her boyfriend fuck her every time they all went out together. We are friends with this couple and they come over sometimes. I told my wife that I think Sherman want's to get in her panties again, my wife said that would be okay and that she would like for me to watch them fuck.After we got married, my wife came home from work and she wanted to go to bed,after we got in bed I noticed how wet she was and she told me she wanted to fuck all the guys at her work and that she was noting but a whore. She said that she came back from lunch and the guys were playing cards and she ask them what they were playing and they told her strip poker and ask her if she wanted to play, she told them that she didn't know how to play and besides if she lost they would not have time to do anything else. I told her that there was noting wrong with sex and that there was noting wrong with having sex. I told my wife if she had sex with them to let me know about it, I'm sure she would let me know. I took some nude pictures of her and had them with me at a beer joint one time and showed them to this guy. When I got home that evening and told my wife about it when we went to bed, and that the guy said he would give $50.00 for some of that. My wife said she wouldn't mind making $50.00 dollars. We got to talking about having some pictures of us having sex. We talked about who we would get to take the pictures and we knew this couple who were married and I said why don't we get Sharron to do it and my wife said hell no, get Bill to do it. I said well Bill would probably want to fuck her, my wife said that would be okay with her. Should I let my wife follow though with what she wants to do and if I don't she will probably cheat behind my back. I guess by going along with her I could learn to enjoy it. (link)
Well, she is a slut not a whore. whores get paid.

Sounds to me like you are both kinda guilty. She tells you about all the sex she's had like its no big deal. You don't seem very upset about it & also feel the need to show nude pictures of her in bars.

If you don't like it go your separate ways. I question weather or not this isn't all made up.

Charging money will land you both in jail by the way. I wouldn't advise pimping her out.



I went to the emergency room after the accident and they did a cat scan and said everything was ok. I got prescribed some muscle relaxer and ibuprofen. I take it but my head still hurts. I also can't miss too many days from my job (link)
You do need to see your doctor. Go back to the ER if you have to, but I have worked in an ER and I will tell you that your own doctor is better for an ongoing problem.

If you don't have a doctor of your own, they should have given you one to follow up with. The ER is just not usually equipped or staffed to spend a lot of time on one person. Especially if they are having a busy day. Not to mention you may need to see more than one specialist before its over with.

I will also tell you that any head injury an come back to haunt you, even years from now. You really shouldn't hesitate to get a doctor & follow up for any head injury.

Your health is everything. Talk to your boss & work something out.


Hi,
I am 18 and from the UK. I have decided to take a gap year so I could retake my A level exams. I always have worked well when I have competition (a challenge) and I sort of get this adrenaline rush. My mind and focus will always be on trying to do better than that person. For my GCSE exams, that was the strategy I used and I did really well but for my A levels, the person I studied competitively moved schools and I had no motivation at all. This person was actually a good friend of mine but she did not know I used her in a way to motivate myself. For sixth form, when we do our A level exams, she moved schools. I struggled for two years to get motivated but nothing worked. The teachers were not good either. I failed my a levels miserably and have not even applied to university because my predicted grades were not good enough. I am taking a gap year to retake my a levels; same subjects, biology, chemistry and maths.
However, I am still struggling with the same problem and I just do not know what to do. (link)
Oh boy, all the hardest ones!

It sounds like you need to find yourself a challenge. Do some research & see what national
averages were scored on each of your tests & strive to be among the top ones?

Maybe you could find someone who has already taken these classes and have them help you study. You can do it. Come back after you take your tests and tell us how you did. We want to see some great scores! Even some not so great scores are ok. Just try your best.


the company is Roseart in 2012 i discovered blanked figures that looked like people by them and i bought them and made celebirties out of them but last year they foolishly did away with them so i would like for them to discontinue all of their products and shut down their company for good how can you get it done ? (link)
I'm afraid you have no say in weather or not a business is shut down. If they were making money on the figures you liked, they would have kept selling them. Thats kinda how business works. :)


My recent boyfriend has been the best person I’ve ever dated , I have never felt so connected to someone . But we are 5 years apart. I’m turning 18 in two months but we’ve been dating for 5 months now. We’ve had our ups and downs but we really love each other. My parents are the only problem. Sadly it unfair for my boyfriend to be treated like a teen even though I am technically still one . I love him but I feel so bad that he has to be treated like a teen and have to sleep in a different bed than me when he comes over or that I can’t just have a dinner at his house cause my parents are strict in that way as my mom fell pregnant with my sister young she doesn’t want me to make the same mistake. I really love him but I see it takes a toll on him ...what should I do? (link)
Actually it sounds like they are treating you like the teen, not him. :)

They don't want you to have dinner at his house because he is an adult, and technically, you are not.

I know you have probably heard it said before, as long as you live at home, your parents rules need to be followed. If your boyfriend feels he is being treated unfairly, then he should just go home & not stay overnight.

Once you are 18, you can always move out with your boyfriend. But as long as you are under their roof, you will have to abide by their rules.


Thank you for reading my question.

I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….

I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.

For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.

Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.

This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.

Thank you so very much. (link)
I think most normal people are a combination of things. Today's society just seems to want to label everybody. Maybe uoung people feel the need to be one thing only...I'm not sure at all.

I know I am a girl. Sometimes I feel girly and want to dress that way. Most of the time I just want to be me and wear jeans and a t-shirt and go work on the car with my husband. I love getting dirty! So just be yourself. Whatever you want to be today is just great. Don't worry what society thinks. :)




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