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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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E-mail: karenrickel@gmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: KANSAS
Occupation: Homemaker,EMT, ER worker, Medical assistant
Member Since: March 4, 2005
Answers: 10132
Last Update: July 29, 2022
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My thanks to you sorry so late!


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Thank you! That really helped a lot and things are better for me now.


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This made me smile. Thank you greatly. This really helps!


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Good Positive Answer- Thanks 😊


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Thank you and the app is called okcupid it's pretty popular and I've seen some people I do know in real life on that dating app


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It's been a year since I posted this, I didn't have time to reply. Thanks by the way! Btw I haven't cut anything other than my hair. :3 <3


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Thnx but I heard other people have completely white and when they are going to cum they feel it coming and its like they're going to explode.


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Although I don't like the overall make distance for a while, I do thank you for your more fair answer that you gave me. And yes, the picture you imaged is more correct than I would like to admit.


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Thanks..:)


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thank you


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I did ask, but they just said a loose fitting bra, and I don't own one, and can't afford to go out and get one. ):


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I've told him today already! Thank you for the help!


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Thank you!


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thank you for taking the time to help me!


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That makes a great deal of sense! Thank you so much for answering.


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Thank you for replying to my post it's lovely to have someone to talk to I feel so alone. Your advice gave me strength I keep reading it over and over to try and get a perspective on this dreadful situation. If you want to can I update you on how things go in case I need your help again?


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Thank you! I never thought of farm stores that way. I guess I thought they sold stuff more for livestock and, well, tractors for TSC. LOL!


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Thanks!


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thanks!


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I can't understand the dictionary so...


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Thanks, This all really started that day and it's so weird... Especially 'E'... Thank you :)


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I had what looked like blood but I wasn't sure. Is that a sign of having a period?


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thank you very much (:


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Thank you!


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Hahaha, your answer cracked me up. xD! You are right, it shouldn't hurt to ask him. And even if he says no, at least I know! Thank you very much for reading and for your feedback. :DDD


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I definitely think you're right. I hope I grow the actual courage to leave though


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thanks


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I always thought of him to be cold, disinterested etc. etc. However, my psychiatrist wants me to work with him for some damn reason. He did resolve a problem for me though. I have a follow up appointment for something else Feb 4th. If I need to see him sooner I will. After that appointment I'll find someone else. I have that flexibility in Canada to dump someone easily if not comfortable and everything is covered for free.


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The only thing is, I didn't mention. We have to get her out of that guys home. He has started shooting at him and my brother, was arrested and put in jail. I do understand that she will drink no matter where we go but that's the reason why we can't stay here. But thanks anyways.


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thanks sooo much :)


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thanks :) i'm so confused. he is such a good guy and good guys are really hard to find these days :/ so i really don't wanna lose him!:(


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thanks :)


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that didn't help. but i guess nothing is going to help so here is your 5


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how do i ask him though? i think my prob is i never give guys any vibe more than friends and so, even if i ask him to go to a movie it wont feel like a date (if that makes sense). and i read that for the first date, the guy pays if he offers, but the girl has to at least show an effort to want to pay.


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Thank you! You really helped me save myself from a bad relationship!


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Thanx for the great advice.


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I apologize, I meant a victim of domestic violence. I got confused. I have been to many doctors in the past yes.


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Thank you(:


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thanks :)


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I do indeed follow up on all my applications and see if there are any positions at all, sometimes it just doesnt work. I had an interview not too long ago, but then someone else got hired instead. I'm just at a loss of what to do.


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thanks karen! :)


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Great advice! Thanks. (:


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thank you.


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Thank you Karen. This was really helpful.


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thank you :) i feel better with your advice.


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yeah i didn't want it to be anyone elses business... my ex told everyone about it after we broke up...


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thank you! i got a blood test and im not pregnant!


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you being a mom, should understand that YOUR kids come before your boyfriend! I should be her number one priority, then him. That's my only problem, she puts her boyfriend before me & my sister. He told me that when him & my mom go out that she isn't my mom, that she's HIS (emphasize his) girlfriend it kinda hurt my feelings because she will always be my mom no matter what. I understand if I was grown up, but i'm still living with my parents i'm 15, i'm still kinda dependent on them. I'm not selfish either, 95% of kids DON'T like their parents new significant other after their parents get a divorce. My dad used to be best friends with my moms boyfriend, now they don't even talk, my dad feels kind of betrayed that his bestfriend would get with his ex wife. you may not realize it, but it's wrong, and it's kind of hard getting along with a guy that one of your family members hate.and Actually she did want to go on a walk with me, because SHE asked me, I started to get my shoes on and then he asked her to stay for the rest of the movie, that's my fault I should have added that. If you were here you'd understand, I talk to my neighbor about this she's 61, she sees what goes on and she understands. it's their lives, yeah I know, but i'm living with them, so don't I have a say so in what happens? The whole smoking thing, scares me, theres people that have never smoked a cigarette in there life they just breathe in 2nd hand smoke that die of lung cancer. I also worry about my mom, she smokes about a pack a day along with her boyfriend, i'm sorry but I don't want to be around that. for some reason, cigarette smoke nauseates me. About the whole prom picture he said that they looked half normal that night, meaning they DON'T look normal in reality, which is saying that they're ugly. i'm not rude to him, I still talk to him, but what I said in my question is how I feel. I don't show it, I keep my emotions bottled up, I mostly just stay in my room when he's here. Also, I don't hog my mom to myself when he's home, I give her all the alone time she wants with him, and I still let them go out without saying anything. I changed your answer to a five, because i'm not going to fight with you, you're like 20-30 years older than me, I appreciate you taking the time to answer my question, and it was wrong of me to rate you a 2 for your opinion


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Thank you, this was a lot better than the lecture I got from the other "advice"


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thanks!


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Yea, he had his phone on him when we exchanged numbers... saw him put it in right in front of me. Thanks!


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i typically have bad choices in relationships though, he seems like my match for once


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thank you very much


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Thank you so much i appreciate the advice..i needed it :D....


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Thanks, I wish I read this before our relationship ended. :((((


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thanks but why aren't girls honest enough to tell you they aren't interested instead of just "moving on" without a word?


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i found out that he is telling at least 3 girls i know the same thing and he has had sex with at least those 3 so he just uses that "line" to get with as many girls as he can. if a guy ever says this to you it is a lie he would break up with her if he loved you otherwise he is using both girls to get sex like this guy is doing with me cuz i had sex with him then i found out from my brother about all his girls. :(


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thankyou so much


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guess i should ask before i do stuff huh? nothing bad happened the 1st time but i am too scared to rty again!


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thank you! the other answer made me laugh!


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Thank you :) I'll start doing that


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I'm sorry to hear about your father, As far as my situation goes I've tried to visit my father one on one and tried to ignore her but it just never worked...It was always about her no matter how respectful I was.


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Thankyou =] You put my mind at ease x


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They had been having sex for weeks. Turns out he was having sex with her before he was having sex with me! :-( I dumped him and I dumped her as my friend. This has kind of screwed up my life and I have some trust issues now, but if you hadn't encouraged me to do the right thing I might have forgiven him and stayed in that relationship! That probably would've killed me by now. Thank you!


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You were right I was only putting off what had to happen sooner or later. Thank you!


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you were so right about this. I broke off all contact in my life when in a completely different direction. Thank you!


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Thanks! (:


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Thanks man, really comprehensive. Thanks for reading and understanding my whole post. :)


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Thank you(:


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Thank you, that helped a lot!


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thanks


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Thanks so much i figured that was a good idea but i needed to hear it from someone else


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Yes I will no go in a restaraunt alone either lol :) thanks


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thanks, this is the kind of convinceing i need


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I wanted a guess. If i wanted to know how to measure myself I would have asked that. Thanks


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thanks .


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thanks for the advice :) it's greatly appreciated <3


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Thank you that makes sense now!


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ahh thank you!


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he brings it to concerts and always played with it lol


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Thank you sooo much :) you've helped me realize he's just not the guy for me :)


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yeah baby! Thanks! I'm excited, I already got the juicer!


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thanks


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Thank you! I really screwed myself. :(


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Thank you so much. I guess it's easy to read this situation, because it happens to so many of us. I actually was in a relationship with someone that I was very much in love with, and he cheated on me one of my closest cousins. (He didn't know I would find out, because he didn't know she was related to me. I never blamed her, because she didn't know we were together) But anyway. Therapy has been in talks for awhile. I just feel like I might be emotionally devastated from what has already happened to me, and I risk ruining my perfect relationship based on how others have treated me. I am so scared that this too will turn out just as the others did. I am going to take the necessary steps to correcting it, though. If I keep letting my insecurities get the best of me, I will probably NEVER have a healthy relationship with anyone. I just need to keep telling myself that I'm too STRONG to hurt the love of my life simply because an ex hurt me. Thank you and Rahzie for your responses. I am very appreciative!


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I just said I did that. Gah, no one ever reads the question thoroughly.


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Thank you


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Thank you for the nice answer!


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I really like that one but I would probably get beat up. ;)


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thanks


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thank you so much you helped alot


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Yeah he doesn't really make any attempt to see me. Sometimes I feel like he thinks it's a chore. Thanks for the advice.


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Thank you!


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thanks :)


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thanks


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Actually, according to a CDC pamphlet on HIV/AIDS: "...that drying of even these high concentrations of HIV reduces the number of infectious viruses by 90 to 99 percent within several hours." Which would mean that it takes more than 20 seconds for the cells to dry and die. As long as the cells are alive, the virus is alive is what I have been reading. Our cells can live outside of the human body for several days even. I have no idea if it was 1 minute, 1 hour, 1 day, etc. from the time someone else had used the toilet paper. HOURS of drying the cells before you get the 90 to 99 percent chance of no HIV/AIDS? Sounds extremely risky to me based on these facts... Why would you tell me to risk my life by skipping the STD test? I mean, you know what else may be on that toilet paper and who may have used it... Wouldn't it be the wisest thing to get the test even if you THINK there MIGHT not be a possibility of infection? This is my health and my life...that's all I'm saying...


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Thank you


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thanks! :D




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