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I've been away for a while due to a serious illness and subsequent health issues.


Favourite quotes of the moment:




The children of Israel wandered the desert for 40 years - Even in biblical times men wouldn't ask for directions!




Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. whatever we do to the thread, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect. - Chief Seattle.





We spend the first 12 months of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. We spend the next 12 years telling them to sit down and shut up!




As you slide down the bannisters of life, may the splinters never be pointing the wrong way.




May you be in Heaven half an hour before the devil knows you're dead.




I've been very happily married since August 1980 to a wonderful man and have beautiful twin girls, now aged 29. Both are married to wonderful young men. I studied geology with the Open University. I am retired from being a manager in a large UK based insurance company where I actually quite enjoyed it. (How sad is that?). I love anything to do with the environment and wildlife and try to do my bit for preservation and conservation. I would like there to be a decent world for our grandchildren to inherit. I also have CFS so find life a bit of a challenge at times but always hope for better health in the future.



I have a deep interest in the spiritual and the paranormal worlds, having experienced several incidents myself, and have been involved in meditation groups and groups that (safely) explore the paranormal. There is more to this life than we would normally credit, so an open mind is always the best option. You're not so likely to get caught by surprise!



I have a deep fascination for anything to do with Ancient Egypt, as you can probably tell by my name. I have statues and paintings all around the house. As my hubby has a similar interest in Native Americans, we tend to have a lot of unusual wall decorations, like a tomahawk.



I love cars, especially vintage ones, but my all time favourite has to be the Bugatti Veyron, what a car!



I have had a lot to do with animals over the years. I have fostered many, helped to set up a wildlife charitable hospital and raised a diverse range of young animals from bats to fox cubs and different species of birds, even a baby deer! I have had great pleasure in sharing my life and home with a number of animals over the years, most of them rescues. I am currently sponsoring an Amur Tiger, they are such beautiful cats and desperately need help, there are so few of them left. I was lucky enough a couple of years ago to meet some Aye-Aye's and Livingstone's Bats, a truly wonderful experience. We now have three cats, Oliver and Mollie, a brother and sister, he's a ginger and she's a tortoiseshell and a black and white called Daisy. She arrived in a taxi and was left on our doorstep in a cat carrier with the message that 'they knew we loved cats and would be good to her'. She has settled down well and gets on wonderfully with the other two.



If you have a pet that is showing ANY signs of illness or distress, please, please, please take it to a vet! Even if finance is an issue, work that out later. It is cruel to leave an animal suffering for any reason. Most animals do not show signs of illness until they have been ill for some time, basic instinct tells them it is a display of vulnerability, and certain death in the wild. Their instincts have not caught up with domesticity.




I do feel that we should all treat others as we would wish to be treated. Bad karma comes back to haunt us.

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I have two teenage daughters who have been blessed with musical talent and beautiful singing voices.There is a talent show at our county fair every year and they want to participate. I am almost certain one of them would win or place as a runner up. Therein lies the problem! They have a close loving relationship but they are extremely competitive with each other when it comes to music. So far I have never allowed them to compete against each other because I am afraid this could create a permanent rift between them. I have tried to encourage them to sing together as a duet but they refuse. Should I allow them to compete individually and possibly damage their relationship for life?

I can fully understand your dilemma as I am the mother of competitive twin girls. There is no easy answer to the problem though. You don't say how old they are so I don't know if hormones are playing any part in the difficulties at the moment.

At some point they are going to need to learn how to deal with their own feelings and their ongoing competition with each other. They have to start making their own decisions and accepting the consequences, whether it's refusing to sing together or anything else. You're not going to be able to shield them from it for ever and it's going to run you ragged trying. They're also going to come across others better or worse than them so they really do need to learn how to accept and respect the success of others, whether it's their own sister or not. Better to learn now while you still have some input in their lives.

If they both want to compete but individually, you could try talking to them, telling them about your concerns and asking them what they feel would be the best solution. You could also add that whilst one might beat the other on this occasion, it might not be the case the next time. At least that way they will have taken control of the situation and decided for themselves what to do.

I wish you the best of luck, it's not an easy one!

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can kissing and fingering causes late periods

Absolutely not! Things that affect your periods are excessive dieting or being overweight, stress, pregnancy, some illnesses, changes in medications, even changes in your schedule. You should also check you've just not miscalculated. It happens more often than you'd think. Please see a doctor if there is any cause for concern.

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My father-in-law wants to parole out of the pen to me and my husband. I want to know what the risks are for us? If he gets in trouble, do we get in trouble as well...? (We have two young kids by the way that I don't want to be in the middle of it) We don't want to take the risk of him paroling out to us if we have to jeopardize our children as well....

The answer has to depend entirely on the reason he's in there to start with and how comfortable you feel about having him in your home. Does he have a history of imprisonment or illegal activities? Have they ever caused harm to someone? Is there a chance he could adversely influence your kids? Would the conditions of his parole impact your family? The last one is something you would need to ask his parole officer, the other questions only you would know the answers to.

I understand that he's family and you could be feeling a sense of duty towards him because of this but you have to put yourselves and your children first. If what he did was a one off incident and it's extremely unlikely to be repeated you might decide that it's safe to go ahead, especially if it's for a short period. However, no one can really make up your minds for you as you're the ones who have to live with your decision. Think carefully, ask all the questions you need to, even make a list of them so that you don't forget anything when you talk to someone about it, then base your decision on the information you have and your gut feeling about it. It's not an easy one, I wish you good luck.

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My brother told me about water poisoning. I drink a LOT of water a day, a lot that it's probably unhealthy, and now I'm kind of worried. I'm pretty sure I drink more than 8 cups a day.

I'm going to start measuring 8 cups a day of water since that's how much I should have a day, but do I have water poisoning? How do I know if I have it? I googled it and read that it IS indeed true; It wasn't him trying to scare me.

It is possible to drink too much water but it isn't easy. The problem is not so much with the water but the imbalance it causes between fluids and electrolytes in your body. This then can cause other problems which could occasionally lead to death. However, and I stress this, it is VERY rare for this to happen, it certainly wouldn't by drinking that much, in fact it's good to keep hydrated. A simple test you can do to see if you're dehydrated is to pinch the skin on the back of your hand. If it goes back down straight away you're sufficiently hydrated. If it stays raised up for any length of time you need to drink some fluids.

So basically, I rather think your brother was trying to wind you up. You would have to drink an enormous quantity of water to harm yourself and you'd probably start feeling bloated before you got that far. Having said that, there are some illegal drugs, Ecstasy for example, which have been known to cause excessive thirst making the person drink too much, leading to severe health problems.

You carry on drinking the amount you usually do and I'm sure you're going to be just fine. Keep in mind that brothers do like to tease. :)

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I don't really think that my issue qualifies as an eating disorder which is why I feel like I can get advice from here, before immediately rushing to the doctor's office. Anyway, I've been stuck in this horrible cycle of starving my self and then binging, starving myself and then binging, over and over and over. It goes like this: I'll starve myself starting whenever I wake up and then around four o'clock I'll allow myself plain toast and water or an apple or something small like that. But then dinner time will come and I'll have to sit and eat with the family. The problem is when u start eating, I can't stop. For example, the other night my mom made mashed potatoes, meatloaf, gravy, corn, and carrots. I don't eat meatloaf but I went CRAZY with everything else. I had 2 large helpings of potatoes, a whole bunch of corn, and then later in the night I had a bunch of snacks at 3:00 am. Sometimes I won't binge at the end of the day though, I'll just starve all day or binge all day. I'm trying to lose weight (which my doctor said I need to do to be healthy) but this isn't the healthy way to do it. I can't seem fibre am this cycle though, how can I do it????

It sounds like you're heading down an eating disorder route possibly BED (Binge Eating Disorder) which isn't good! It most definitely counts as serious. I suggest you do rush to the doctor and get some help before it gets any worse. Continuing this behaviour is likely to ruin your long term health. You might be able to think of a trigger that started this cycle of starve/binge but sometimes it isn't that obvious. One thing is clear, you need a medical, help and dietary advice asap before this gets completely out of control. Don't worry about going to the doctor, you won't be the first person they have helped with this.

Good luck

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Here's a picture of me: http://i.imgur.com/e2uF7w6.jpg

I have a stupid haircut and i don't look good.

I have no idea what hairstyle would look good for me, but could someone tell me what hairstyle would look best with my face? Every time I've asked this, people have just made fun for how I look; I know I'm ugly, but I just want legitimate advice as to what would look good for me.

You look ok actually so maybe the people you're asking are making fun of you because they're embarrassed you are asking and don't know how to handle it sensibly. You're not ugly though, get that straight in your head right now!

You've a slightly longer face than wide so maybe the added height of that hairstyle is emphasizing it. You could look at a hairstyle which is flatter at the top to bring out other features. A hairstylist should be able to show you various styles that would suit your face shape. Good luck.

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My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).

Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.

I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).

My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.

She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.

My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).

Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).

So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own.

Firstly, the financial situation you're in. I'm not from the US so I'm not sure how your welfare system works but are you able to find out if there are any benefits/help you would be entitled to if you find yourself on your own. Research all possibilities that do not involve you borrowing money as that is going to make things worse for you. I'm sure there must be some sort of assistance available to keep you off the streets.

Secondly, your family. Your mother does seem to have some quite serious issues going on there and she's dragging you and your sister into them. She sounds rather bitter about life so I'm guessing she's feeling very let down by it and is taking out her internal rage on you both. However, you do need to understand that regardless of what life throws at us it is up to us how we deal with it. Your mother and sister are not dealing with it in a positive way but you sound as though you're smart, tough and resourceful. I think you really can make it on your own and do well. I'm not saying it's going to be easy but I think you're up to the challenge. It actually sounds as though taking some time away from both of them will do you the world of good, enabling you to build up your battered self esteem and show yourself and everyone else just what you're made of. Bear in mind that there are people who make themselves feel better by making those around them feel worse about themselves, you do not need that negativity.

It has to be your decision as it's your life, no one should be telling you how to live it so decide what it is that you want and go for it. In time you'll meet people who will appreciate you for who you are rather than knocking you all the time. The same goes for your mother and sister, it's their lives and they have to make their own decisions, good or bad, but you don't have to be involved in it.

Before you do anything though, find out what help you can get and then make your choice. I wish you the best of luck.

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Me and my younger sister are always fighting. Sometimes it is jut verbal but other times it get physical. My mum says that we don't even act like we are sister because we are constantly bickering.

My question is
How do I get my sister to stop making us argue?

You don't say how old you both are or how much of an age gap there is. However, in my experience it is actually quite unusual for siblings to not fight. We tend to take out our frustrations more on family as we know that it is 'safer' to do so as they are less likely than friends to sever all connections with us. It could be that you are both so different you don't even think in the same way and so can't find a way to connect except by fighting.

You need to take note of what type of things are the most common cause for your arguments and how it makes you both feel. If you can understand what your triggers are you might start to recognise when something is about to get out of control and stop it before it gets that far. You could both maybe think of a word (not rude) that you can say to each other when you notice this happening, like a time out.

The other thing you need to look at is your question. You want to know how to stop your sister making you argue. It takes two to argue so if you don't respond and just walk away, there is no one left for her to argue with. Unless, of course, you're doing something that is deliberating provoking her?

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How long will my cat stay in season?

Non-spayed females usually go into oestrus twice a year, in the Spring and the Autumn. During this time they can go into heat several times, lasting between three and fourteen days with around a week being the most common. She will continue this until she is either spayed or mated successfully. The healthier and most sensible option is to have her spayed. :)

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my cat has never used a litter box she has a cat door and has always done her business outside for the past week we have smelled an odor in the house
found it under my husbands desk had to cut the carpet and pad out. she must be pooping outside havent found any inside. shes about 12 years old. whats wrong with her

There could be a few reasons for her change in behaviour. She could have been scared whilst toileting outside and now associates that fright with what she was doing and where. Another cat could even have come in through the cat door and scared her.

Something could have changed in the home that has made her feel insecure, so marking her territory is her way of trying to make herself feel better by changing the smell. It could be new furniture, carpets, people or even an emotional upset.

She could have a UTI. This should be obvious as she would be squatting a lot trying to go with little success. She could be more vocal, restless, licking the area almost constantly etc. If she is doing this, she'll need to see a vet and have antibiotics to clear it up, otherwise she could get very ill. She could even have kidney problems, so seeing a vet would be the sensible thing to do at this point. If she gets a clean bill of health you can look at the other options and the vet may be able to give some guidance.

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How long will my cat stay in season?

Estrus (heat) can last 7-10 days, if she does not become pregnant this will be repeated around every 14-21 days until she does become pregnant. If your cat has already entered this stage you will be fully aware of some of the more unpleasant symptoms. The best way to stop this is to have her spayed as soon as possible. Not only does this mean there will be less unwanted cats around, it stops her being vulnerable to various cancers and transmitted diseases. For every kitten your cat has and you home to friends or family, it's one less in a shelter that will find a loving home. There are a huge number of unwanted cats these days.

She can be spayed whilst in estrus although most vets prefer to catch them between cycles. You may also find that you have 'gentlemen callers' who could spray around your house to stake their claim. Until she is spayed there will be little respite from the symptoms and if you do allow her to have kittens, she can go into estrus whilst she is still nursing, starting the whole thing again.

You really will be doing her a favour by having her spayed and it's the responsible thing to do.

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Hey, I saw your entry about finding a list of Inuit Names. Will you post the location?

It was a long time ago and I can't find the link now. However, if you are looking for an Inuit name there are lots on the internet. So, here are some more. The first link is for the correct pronunciation of Inuit names.

http://www.mythome.org/inuitnames.html



http://www.lowchensaustralia.com/names/eskimonames.htm

http://omalmalamutes.com/omal/naming.htm (This one even has a translator that will tell you the Inuit name, where possible, for a name you may already know).

http://www.squidoo.com/eskimo-husky-names

I hope this helps.

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My brothers dog lost all of its hair?
My brother took my dog to the vet and the doctor told my brother that the dog has a skin disease that it was born with. The dogs hair is gone now and she has a lot of bumps and sores from scratching. Her skin is just pink. My brother has been buying medicine that the vet recommended for him to buy at the store and it finally started working and her skin has improved a lot and my mom thinks the hair is growing back.
My brother wants to take the dog to the pound now, but wont the people at the pound kill it?
I hear stories all the time of them killing dogs.

What kind of disease do you think the dog has?

The dog does NOT have cancer. If it did the vet would have said at the time. It is more likely to be some form of birth defect e.g. congenital hypotrichosis. The medicine the vet advised is possibly hormonal or some other substance to either treat or ease the symptoms. The hair does not always grow back, it depends on the severity of the condition. There are other reasons for hair loss, stress, allergies (food included), fleas, as well as various skin conditions of which congenital hypotrichosis is just one. The vet would be the best person to ask for the diagnosis as he was the one who saw the dog.

If your brother wants to take her to the pound just because of this unfortunate condition, would it be possible for you to take her over or to find someone responsible who can? Some pounds have a no kill policy but sadly, a lot of them do not.

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About 2 weeks ago, I had surgery on my bum. It's all stitched up and I'm on antibiotics.

My mom however, was sick with a virus or something like a cold a couple days ago.

I was fine this morning but like all of a sudden I feel nauseus. I made some toast which always helps when my stomach is upset. But I can't eat it. I feel like if I eat it, I'll get sick.

I started thinking, wait I'm on Cipro antibiotics so technically I shouldn't really be sick. I've been on Cipro before and never had a problem. I already have an appointment to get my stitches out on Tuesday.

Could it be I caught the cold or whatever my mom had or could it be the anitbiotics making me sick? I'm puzzled, if I still feel sick by the time my next dose. I'm going to stop taking them.

Don't stop taking the antibiotics, you're on them for a very good reason. Call your doctor for advice, explaining what has happened.
Good luck

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Hey everyone! I have a beautiful black short haired cat who's turning 3 in two weeks. She's very happy, very healthy, very loved, and I brush her fur almost daily, and pet and scritch and cuddle her, like, constantly. She's kind of really spoiled...but it's just me and her here, so we're both okay with that. ^_^
Anyway.
As the subject says, she keeps getting these flakes of dry skin all over her back, like a human with dandruff. Her hair is slightly coarser there. The rest of her is, like, ridiculously soft (hence all the cuddling). I have eczema, so my brain automatically goes, "Is there some kind of cat-zema?"
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Is there?
Has anyone else's cat has this problem? How did you treat/fix the flakiness?

Daniel55 is quite right about this, the only thing I would add is that it could also be due to a food intolerance. Beef and chicken are the main culprits but you would need to experiment by cutting out one thing for several weeks and if it's not that, going on to the next thing. You can also buy hypoallergenic foods to try.

You can check for fleas by using a flea comb and having a damp piece of kitchen roll to hand. Comb the cat and then wipe the comb on the damp paper. If any spots of red develop, she has fleas as that's flea dirt. If you notice any 'salt and pepper' droppings the 'pepper' is the flea droppings and the 'salt' is the flea eggs. When the flea eggs hatch they eat the droppings, gross isn't it? If you find evidence of this you will need to treat the whole house as they get everywhere, along the edges of skirting boards and carpet, in the soft furnishings. They're born survivors and getting more so every year.

Good luck

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I have 3 two week old kittens, and they are molting alot, so much they are going bald. :( I've had kittens this young before, and they never losed their fur. Their mum sadly died when they were one week old, so we've been feeding them special milk that we got from the pet store? Would this cause them to lose fur? If not, any idead what is? Thanks

It could be stress from losing their mother, you need to take them to the vet's and get them checked out properly. You don't say what caused the mother to die but if it was from infection etc she could have passed it on to the kittens. In either case they need to see a vet.

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My cat just had kittens, they're about a week old now. I have them in this big cage with a bunch of towels and its covered so it's dark inside. Mama kitty had been ok with it until the last two nights, i keep waking up and she's under my bed with her kittens. Why is she moving them? I don't want her to move them to somewhere i cant find them, what do I do?

A cat's natural instincts is to move her kittens around to keep them safe from predators. As this is a primeval instinct there really isn't anything you can do about it except ensure that wherever she takes them is safe. If there is a chance she could take them somewhere you won't find them, keep the door shut when you're not around or asleep and try to provide some additional 'bolt holes' in your room. When their eyes open and they start moving around independently it won't be such a problem, well not for you. It will drive her mad keeping track of them but she'll cope with that.

Good luck

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my dog is still peeing on my carpet how do i discipline him

Never, ever rub a dog's nose in it's pee! It won't work as it will not associate your actions with what it's done. All you're likely to achieve is to make it scared of you.

You don't say how old the dog is, so if it's a puppy it needs training, if it's an older dog it needs retraining. An older dog will quite often do this if it's been upset and feels the need to mark it's territory. It may be worth taking him to the vets just to check out that there's nothing wrong, something like cystitis can cause this, even males can get this.

Take the dog outside regularly so his 'tank' is emptied often. Praise him every time he does his business outside. Clean the carpet with either a preparation bought from a pet store or you could try undiluted white vinegar, bicarbonate of soda or a clear alcohol. Blot up the excess first and as fast as you can after the 'accident'. If your dog keeps returning to the same place to pee, after cleaning it, put something in way whilst it dries, then either put a bowl of dog food there, (they don't like eating in a toilet any more than we do), or spray the area with citronella. They hate the smell.

Remember to always treat an animal as you would like to be treated. Good luck.

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I'm 16 and have had a yeast infection since I was at least 7 or 8. I've tried monistat,creams, and a prescribed medication. I wan to know how rare this is. How else an I treat it? Can it cause infertility? Does it reduce sexual simulation? Any additional information.

Yeast infections, Candida, are quite common and can usually be treated with over the counter medications or prescriptions; however, occasionally there will be a persistent one that is hard to shift or you can develop a recurring one. It may also affect different parts of the body and occurs when the natural 'bad' bacteria we all have overwhelms the 'good' bacteria. It affects men as well as women and can be passed during sexual contact, and so, can be passed back and forth. I'm assuming, due to your references, that it is vaginal in nature. These infections love the dark, moist environment provided here.

Firstly, you need to ensure that you are extremely careful with hygiene 'down below'. Always wipe your bottom front to back to avoid fecal transference. Secondly, whenever possible, wash the area after every time you've had a bowel movement, again, front to back. Wear cotton undies, not man made fibres, as cotton allows the area to breathe. Wear trousers and tights (pantyhose) as little as possible for the same reason. You need to get as much air to the area as you can.

Diet is also a big contributor to persistent Candida. The general rule is you need to stay on a special diet one month for every year you've had the problem. ANY slip-ups and you set yourself back. It is a very hard diet to follow and needs a strong sense of willpower to follow as there are always temptations out there. The benefits from following it though will hopefully outweigh the hardships.

There are various acidophilus preparations you can try. These reintroduce healthy bacteria to your body and help with rebalancing. Candida is acidic in nature so all foods that are also acidic make things worse. Avoiding sugar as much as possible should help as it feeds the bad bacteria, you could even find yourself craving sugary products. Now, if you're ready for the list, here goes.

AVOID All sweets including hidden sweeteners in processed foods, such as soups, all fruit and fruit juice. Avoid grains such as prepared flake cereals sprouted grain cereals such as: Amaranth, Buckwheat, Corn, Millet, Rice, Rye, Spelt, Wheat.
Avoid Granola, Pearl barley, Instant oats, Cornmeal, degerminated Hominy grits, degerminated Microwave popcorn Blue corn meal
Pasta Pasta is flour and water, the flour may be white bread flour and it may be durum flour made from semolina. All types of noodles are made from the same base and they should all be cut out of the diet, with Bufin, the Japanese noodles, Ramen instant noodles, farina, semolina and white flour noodles and pastas.
Baked goods and Breads Avoid all cakes, pastries, cookies doughnuts or other processed baked food containing sugar. This list includes white bread, or any bread containing wheat, which includes parathas, nanas bread, pita bread, white flour tortillas, wheat dough tortillas, sourdough, or any other ethnic bread made from wheat. Mochi the sweet unleavened bread made from brown rice should be avoided.
Legumes Avoid beans and peas with sweeteners, bean sprouts, tempeh which a type of fermented tofu, tofu and textured vegetable protein.
Nuts & Seeds Coconut, Peanuts, Pistachios, Walnuts
Dairy Products Buttermilk, Soymilk (sweetened), All kinds of cheeses, Cottage cheese, Kefir, Milk, Sour cream Creme fraiche Sweetened yogurt.
Fruit Never eat dried fruit, and when you start the Candida cleanse diet it is best to avoid all fruit because of the fructose the sugar it contains. Once you have eliminated the current Candida infection then eat fruit with a moderate amount of sugar. Low sugar fruits are apples, grapefruit, melon, and strawberries.
Beverages Alcohol, Cereal beverages, Coffee both regular and decaffeinated Fruit juices Soft drinks including the diet soft drinks. Processed tea drinks such as lemon tea. All fruit teas, Black tea
Condiments and Sauces: No Ketchup or catsup or any type of tomato sauce Cream sauces such as Alfredo Steak sauce, NO Capers, Dried or powdered garlic, Miso, Dried or powdered onion, Pickles or chutneys, which include anything made with sugar and distilled vinegar. Spices, Distilled vinegar Sauerkraut.
Proteins: Meat products such as beef chicken or pork have added antibiotics and hormones and they should be avoided if you want to eat meat then eat free-range organic products. Smoked meats such as bacon, sausages and salami products such as pepperoni have added sugar and should be cut out of your diet.
Vegetables:
Avoid - Beetroot Canned tomatoes Carrots Cucumber skins, Mushrooms (all types), Potato skins, Prepared soups, Canned tomatoes.

Now the good news on what you can eat.

Beans, Broccoli, Brussels sprouts Cabbage, Cauliflower, Celery, Cucumbers Green pepper, Kale, Lettuce Onion, radishes, Parsley, Peas, Rocket or arugulla Spinach, Tomatoes.

Foods you should definitely eat when you have Candida:

GRAINS in moderation Whole Amaranth and flour; Whole Barley, Flour and hatomugi; Buckwheat flour and groats; Undegerminated Corn meal (fine or coarse grind); Masa Harina; Popcorn (air popper), Whole Millet and flour; Oat bran, flour, Groats, Quick; whole Quinoa and flour; Wild Rice; Brown Rice (long, med. or short grains), Brown Basmati Rice, Texmati Brown Rice, Wehani Brown Rice Rye flour, Groats, Cream of rye cereal; Whole Spelt and flour; Whole Teff and flour; Wheat Berries, Unprocessed or miller's wheat bran, Bulgur, cracked, Durum, Graham wheat flour, Whole wheat flour. Corn, Quinoa, Saifun (Japanese noodles), Soba (buckwheat), Udon (Japanese noodles), Whole wheat.
Acceptable BAKED/PREPARED PRODUCTS:
Any whole grain unsweetened, unyeasted bread product such as chapatis, whole wheat flour, corn chips, quick breads, unsweetened rice cakes or crackers, tortillas made from brown, corn or whole wheat. Ryvita contains no yeast.
LEGUMES: Dried or frozen Black-eyed peas, Chickpeas or garbanzo beans, Lentils, Soybeans, Soy flakes, Split peas
Acceptable dairy: Unsweetened soymilk. Almond milk Plain yogurt with added acidophilus culture.
NUTS & SEEDS: Almonds, Brazil, Cashews, Hazel, Macadamia, Pecans, Pine nuts, Poppy, Pumpkin, Sesame (tahini), Sunflower.
Small occasional amounts of fresh lemon, lime, tomato, and aubergine (eggplant).
Eat Vegetables: Beans, Broccoli, Brussels sprouts Cabbage, Cauliflower, Celery, Cucumbers, Green pepper, Kale, Lettuce, Onion, radishes, Parsley, Peas, Rocket or arugulla Spinach, Tomatoes,
BEVERAGES: Almond milk Mugicha, Toasted whole barley, Coffee substitute (without malt), Unsweetened soymilk, Unsweetened Taheebo Pau d'Arco tea, Water (plain).
CONDIMENTS AND SEASONINGS: Chicken broth without sweetener, Fresh garlic, Fresh ginger, Fresh herbs, Fresh onion, Pepper, Salt, Tamari (unfermented soy sauce), Raw organic apple cider vinegar
ANIMAL PROTEINS: Beef, buffalo, caribou, chicken, deer, duck, eggs, elk, all types of fish, frog legs, game hen, goat, goose, grouse (partridge), guinea fowl, moose, mutton, peafowl, pheasant, pigeon (squab), pork, quail, and turkey.

I have included American foods as well as I don't know where you live.

Antibiotics are bad news for Candida sufferers. So if you have any conditions that really necessitate you taking them on a regular basis, you need to try to balance out the effect on the yeast infection as quickly as possible when the course has finished. Talk to your doctor to see if there is a lower dose you could take or an alternative. If you have a compromised immune system this can also promote the growth of 'bad' bacteria. Eat unsweetened, plain yoghurt and you can also apply it to the affected area. Exercise will boost your immune system.

Pure garlic or garlic capsules are great for fighting Candida, swallowing it or inserting a garlic clove every few hours, probably when you're not going anywhere for a while would be best! It's a natural antibiotic and it hates Candida. You can also try apple cider vinegar, one cup in a bath of hot water. Don't apply directly to the skin, it will hurt more than you could imagine! Do not use any other type of vinegar. Drink LOTS of water, non chlorinated and preferably use a filtration system. You may need to take multi-vitamins whilst on this diet to ensure you are fully covered, but check that there are no added sugars.

Birth control tablets can keep the problem going, so if you are sexually active, talk to your doctor about alternatives. Don't douch or use feminine deodorants, these make it worse.

If this problem has caused you to develop vaginitis, a thick white or yellowish odourless discharge, it can cause itching in the area and burning or pain during intercourse, so yes, it can be a problem here.

The really bad news is that left untreated it has been indicated in causing infertility and female related problems. Your doctor will be able to talk you through all this. If you do have a sexual partner, it is very important that he is treated at the same time or you will never be rid of it.

I hope this has helped, a rather longer answer than I suspect you expected, but it is a complex issue.

Good luck with this problem and I do hope you successfully rid yourself of it permanently.

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Months ago my best friend confided in me that his marriage was not going as planned. I felt bad for this because he's really a good guy. I decided to keep my eyes opened when it came to their relationship to try and figure out what the fuss was all about because he was very confused. I know that since then he has talked about his wife coming home really upset after work, staying out much later than expected, not having sex with him for weeks, and other clues to her possibly cheating.

A week ago I was out and actually saw his wife. My girlfriend was actually the one that pointed her out to me as we were dining. His wife was all over another man, kissing on him and everything. I didn't recognize the man at all.

I actually went outside and grabbed a camera that we keep in the car for road trip moments and took a few photos of them kissing and leaving together hand in hand. The photos are surprisingly clear and I am still shocked that we bumped into this scene.

Should I tell my best friend?

It's quite possible that neither of them would thank you for interfering and you could end up being blamed for maybe ending a marriage, however unfair that may sound.

If, however, you feel you do need to say something, talk to the wife about it. Tell her what you saw and ask her to talk about it. There is always a chance it wasn't what it appeared to be. Or there could be severe problems at home of which you are totally unaware. Even if she is having an affair, it is up to her and her alone to tell her husband. You can only be supportive and wait.

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