My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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Okay, so someone i know has an Tooth abscess/ wisdom tooth and it hurts like hell. he's had it for like 1 month now and painkillers just arent working well. He was told that he now has to wait another 12 months to get it fixed, due to some waiting list(which is stupidddd). Is there ANY way he can get rid of the pain? Im worried he's going to end up overdosing, and the doctors/hospital said theres nothin they can do for 12 months, except give him painkillers. Any suggestions?? (link)
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Gargle with warm salty water several times a day. Sleep on extra pillows because laying down puts extra pressure on the area, and if possible they will need some antibiotics to clear up the infection. It is not a good idea to let an abscess grow because it can cause further problems with breathing if the swelling causes the throat to close. An abscess should ideally be dealt with at the beginning of the infection and should certainly not be left for several weeks or months. I suggest getting a second opinion from an emergency dentist or hospital a&e.
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I heard that people take a concoction of drink and drugs to commit suicide, any ideas as to best 'mix'?
Don't waste yout time and mine saying stuff like 'think about people who care' knowone does! from the day my brother used to spit at me accross the bedroom when we were growing up, to todays vain, bitching two faced slags. And if you give me any religious crap, maybe i'll take you with me. (link)
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There is a lot of bitterness inside of you and you sound extremely angry about your life. No-one on this sight will give you what you are looking for because we do not condone suicide at all. The fact that you are talking about it suggests to me that you are looking for help to live rather than help to die. If that is the case please ask.
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So a long time ago, I asked my friend why her father's face was all cratery, full of holes [like crater face in the movie Grease], and she told me he had said it was because he used to pop all of his pimples when he was younger. I'd never given it much thought, until I noticed recently that I was getting small, tiny little holes in my face, not a lot, maybe 2 or 3. They look like a collapsed zit, with the skin curving inward instead of out. It's really bugging me, because even though I'm not sure if they're appearing in the exact spot where the pimples once were, but I do pop a lot of them. I'm worried sick. Does this mean I'll eventually have a crater face? Will it just stop if I stop popping, or is it something else altogether? Are they irreversible? Help! (link)
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Please don't pop your spots because that could cause infections and scarring. I suggest you treat your spots with some acne cream recommended by the pharmicist. If you do find you are left with some scarring you can use Bio Oil to help with this once you have treated the acne. All the best.
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my boyfriend doesn make much noise during sex im wondering if he enjoys it. its not complete silence but deep breathing panting rarely moans is that a problem. (link)
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Some people are noisy lovers and others like your boyfriend appear to be quiet lovers. Everyone is different but I would assume that he is enjoying himself otherwise he would make excuses not to be with you. If you like your men to make noises why not tell him it turns you on even more if he expresses himself. Otherwise accept that he may be a little embarrassed to make too much noise.
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What are some of your favorite movies? I would like a bunch. The genre doesn't matter, just tell me your favorites!! Please tell me good christmas ones too pleasee!!! (link)
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Love Actually
White Christmas
Any Harry Potter movie (I know, a bit childish but good fantasy).
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I have a party in 10 days, two people that want to do my hair, and i've recently discovered a problem. i thought it was dandruff... but no, it isn't. and i need to loosen the eggs up a LOT...because there are 2 people that want to do my hair, and the white eggs are very visible.
please DO NOT tell me how gross/disgusting it is that i have it, i'm not shaving my head, and i can't cut it really short cuz i don't want it short. (link)
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My young daughter suffered a lot with this problem through school and I found that the easiest way of dealing with it was:
Buy a comb called the Nitty Gritty (available on the internet or at a chemist) and apply a liberal amount of conditioner to the hair. Spend a lot of time thoroughly combing through the hair to loosen the eggs and then as the previous person said before, using the finger nails, pull the eggs off the hair. It is not gross or disgusting to find yourself with this problem because lice actually like clean hair. Good luck.
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Can breast cancer be caused by getting hit/punched/pinched/bruised in the breast area? My mom had breast cancer and had a breast removed some years ago from the cancer, and when I got hit in the chest with a tennis ball a few days ago I bruised. My mom started going on and on about my likelihood at developing cancer. She kept saying that my chance of developing breast cancer was very, very high now since they were high to begin with from my mom having cancer previously.
My best friend said it isn't true that you can get cancer from having your breast bruised. She was in a car wreck not too long ago and had her chest all bruised up from it and never developed cancer. My mom told my best friend that her chances of developing breast cancer was much higher now.
I just want to know if it's true that you can get cancer after being bruised. I am really afraid of getting cancer and want to do everything I can to prevent it from developing in my body so I need to know if I am at a higher risk of cancer now. (link)
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There is no reason for you to worry about being bruised and having it cause cancer. You are at slightly higher risk of developing breast cancer later in life if only because your mother has had it. I suggest that you talk to your doctor about breast care and what to look out for in the future. Also, look into the health history of your female relatives and hopefully that will help you put this all into perspective. If caught really early, breast cancer, as you know because of your Mom, can be dealt with. You should be breast aware, but please don't let it blight your younger years. Just to reiterate, the chances of developing breast cancer by being hit in the breast are almost negligible otherwise every woman would develop it. I hope this helps you a little, but please get professional advice just to put your mind at rest. Good luck.
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ok if guys get addacted to video games. and start drinking they get addacted to drinking? (link)
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If the person has an addictive nature to begin with, then yes they could quite possibly get addicted to alcohol. I know that video games stimulate certain areas of the brain to make people want to continue using them. Alcohol numbs feelings if used to excess, making the person drinking unable to control their actions. It does not necessarily follow that if a person gets addicted to video games, they will also get addicted to alcohol. Everybody is different and addictions come in all different guises. So the short answer is generally no, but with the proviso that we are all different and have different levels of control.
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Iam 19 years old female and i just graduated high school last year and i moved out ot my mom 's house and into my cousins house and iam much happier at my cousins house than i was when i was living with my mom in high school and i have a much more structured envorment at my cousins house than there was at my mom's and now i've realied iam a lot happier in a structured enviornment. I might better explain to you what it's like at my mom's and what it's like at my cousins.
when iam at my mom's house my mom and i always get into fights last weekend she got so mad at me she through a chair on the kitchen floor and broke it into 4 big pieces and when i tried to call my cousin to come and get me she snatched the phone from me and somehow i managed to get the phone from her and got my cousin to come and pick me up.I also did anything i wanted to and ran wild even if my mom begged me no to do something i did it anyway. Iam going to give you some examples.
1I smoked
2 I had oral sex with a guy and a girl
3I tried drinking and i drank untill i got drunk
4. I tried pot
5 whenever i got pissed off at my mom i ran off no matter what time it or how late it was at night.
but now at my cousins i've settled down and iam not as wild and i don't do those things anymore or even want to do those things anymore and i don't want to go back to my mom's anymore becouse iam afraid of getting into trouble but i don't want to hurt my mom's feelings either what should i do? (link)
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You seem to understand yourself more now that you are settled into your cousin's house. Do you need to go back to your Mum's house or can you stay with your cousin indefinitely? If you do need to go back, reflect on how much better you feel in a structured environment and continue with that structure yourself. You don't have to have rows with your Mom if you can back off and give yourself some space if she starts anything. You can help yourself by remembering how it felt to be out of your head on drugs or drink, and stop yourself before it happens again. Your Mom sounds like she has a lot of issues in her life and they are for her to deal with. If you can stay with your cousin for a while, she may come to understand herself what she is like and may really miss having you around. If she is willing to improve her temper you could have a really great relationship with her. Good luck with whatever decision you make. Take care.
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k ive been in a long ditance relationship for 1 year and i really love my boyfriend. but lately he's been working and sometimes he's had alot of homework that we don't even talk at all. and it feels like i don't even have a boyfriend any more. please help me deal with this. all i want is more time with him. i'm not old enough to fly and see him any time i want. i really miss him and i don't want to break up with him that's not an option so dont suggest it. how do i tell my boyfriend this so he understands better. how do i explain to him that it's either his job or me. please help me. (link)
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It would be extremely foolish of you to make your boyfriend choose between you and his job. He will need to have a job in order for him to pay any fares to come and see you. Sometimes, life can be hard and you have to play a waiting game for what you want. If you are really serious about him, you need to give him the space to get through what appears to be a busy time for him. In all honesty, long distance relationships rarely work out at such a young age because of all the nitty gritty bits of life that get in the way. If you really feel the need to make an ultimatum, I suggest writing him a letter putting down what you want from your relationship and giving him a little time to work out how he feels and what he wants. I wish you all the best with this very difficult situation. Good luck.
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Okay, so I'm not saying I hate my best friend "Nora?" It's just that she can be really mean to me and to our other friends.
Ex.) On this one site were I posted a story she also did and my story was more successful than hers and she wrote a bad comment about me in my guestbook ,but it was annomonsye[sp?] well i found it was her because her IP addresses matched. Well I was upset about this ,but I got over it.
Ex.) She constantly says she "hates" me and she knows that upsets me. Even thought she might or might not mean it.
Ex.) She constatly offendes me.
Ex.) We both had this friend named "Laura" but one day "Nora" decided to not like and hate "Laura" so she turned on "Laura" while I didn't .
Ex.) She talks about our friend "Michelle" behind her back and tells me how much she hates "Michelle" while I sit there an listen.
Ex.)She tells me she'll never like my type of music/style and then like it. Hiprocritic[sp?] Which strangly makes me mad.
And we are slowely drifting away. I don't know if I should go with the flow considering she's been mean. Or try to remain bestfriends with her [and try to get over all this]
So please tell me what you think of the situation. Sorry it's alot and that it whatever else I could be sorry for.
Thanks in advance. :) (link)
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She is not the sort of 'best friend' I would have around me. A best friend would not bad mouth off about other people, or tell you she hates you, or any one of the horrible things that you describe. You would be better off without her in your life, or at very best, a friend on the outside of your close circle of friends. It sounds to me like she is the one trying to distance herself from everyone else by making you all feel bad, whereas she is the one doing the dirty. You don't need to exclude her, but I do feel that you need to keep her at a short distance. I hope that my advice helps you make up your mind about her. Good luck.
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I am a sophomore in highschool and I am sort of in a relationship with a 22 year old. Do you think this is strange or perfectly fine? Any advice/comments are appreciated :] (link)
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If your relationship is purely platonic, then that is fine. However, a 14 year old going out with a 22 year is not. He will want more from you than you should give at your age and you have school to think about as well. If you feel the need to hide this relationship from your parents, then you know it is wrong. Have they met him yet and what is their opinion? I hope that your decision, whatever you decide, will make you happy. Good luck.
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my dad gave me access to his account so we get to see whats happenin... now he and my mum retired and have no real source of income... and over 3 years it has gone down sooooo much!!! i mean we use 10 grands minimum each months for house expenses and stuff! i am no accountant but i want to help out ... i mean we already get 5% for it each months and all but is there anyway i could increase it say some sort of investment or something?!?! my parents are use to living comfortable and things aren't going to be soon. and my dad can't say no and my mum doesn't comprehend anything!!!! what should i do???? no one listens to me because i am the youngest and so there is no use in talking them into cutting expenses!!! help i am so worried... (link)
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The best advice I can give you is for you to make an appointment with an accountant or the bank and explain the situation to them (with your parents consent). They are the ones in the best position to be able to talk you through the many options that are available. If your parents do not give their agreement to talking about them with professionals, then I suggest that you talk to them about your situation and find the best way to help your Mum and Dad out financially yourself. I hope that everything works out well for you all. Good luck.
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So, not too long ago, I was watching a movie in the local theater called American Gangster (stars Denzel Washington and Russell Crowe, just for reference). I know there are plenty of movies about the mafia, gangsters, and mobsters but one question really hit me during the movie:
Is the mafia actually real?
I mean, seriously, does the mafia exist?
Was the mafia made up for television and movies by Hollywood?
In some movies you hear about the Russian mafia, the Italian mafia, etc. I even know there are also television series based on the mafia like The Sopranos. So, IF the mafia is real--they must be lots of different kinds, right? Would that mean that the Russian mafia is located in Russia, the Italian mafia is located in Italy, and so forth?
Any information is appreciated because I'm pretty clueless. Thanks! (link)
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Yes the Mafia are real. Google 'Mafia Gangs' and you can read about the history of the Mafia.
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My exboyfriend and I were in a very close relationship. I thought it was perfect. Seriously. Long story short, he eventually told me that he wanted a break. When I changed my status on myspace to "Single" a week later, he told me that he was shocked that I did that.
That happened a month ago. I still love him so much. I miss him. I haven't seen him since he told me he wanted a break. I want to get together and talk to him, and tell him how much of a mistake I think the break was. We were so close. I thought he loved me.
Should I ask him to meet me somewhere? If yes, what do I say? I love him. (link)
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He just may need some space to work out what he really wants. However, that doesn't help the way you feel right now. What I suggest is that you write down in a letter what you are feeling and going through at the moment (without any recriminations) and tell him that you thought the break up was a mistake. Don't pile on any pressure or guilt trips, but do explain that you need some answers when he is ready to talk to you. For you to move on, if that should turn out to be the case, you need to know where you stand. Send the letter and give him some time to read it through, but if you don't get an answer within a reasonable amount of time, forget him and start living for yourself. Good luck.
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i don't know what it is i fell so lost, like i don't know what i want or what i need or anything. i fell like I've been left in the dark for no reason. i feel weak, pushed away and unwanted, but no one has been treating me any different. i feel as if i am trapped in this world and i don't know how to end that feeling. Any one know? one day is good and i am happy the next day i wake up and i feel it, i feel the different as if everything i done yesterday doesn't exist and doesn't matter. how do i put this feel to rest forever? (link)
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That's life I'm afraid. Everyone feels like you do at some point in their lives. I can certainly relate to those days when all you want to do is pull the duvet over your head and ask the world to leave you alone. You are the only one that can get rid of that feeling and to do that you need to put yourself into a positive frame of mind. Not easy I know but you have to start by telling yourself that you are ready to face the world. Keep telling yourself that you are feeling fine and on top of things and eventually your brain will allow you feel that way. It's called a 'positive mental attitude' or PMA for short.
When you have a moment to sit down and think, write a list of all the positive things going on for you in your life, and all those things that you are really grateful for. That way, when you are on a downer, get the list out and read it over several times.
Another thing is to smile even if you really don't feel like it. Smile at the person passing you on the street, or the shop keeper or anyone else that looks like they might need a smile to cheer them up.
Once you have conquered those feelings of not being wanted or pushed aside etc., you will begin to fit in again every day. Keep your chin up and keep smiling. Good luck.
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Ok so ive never been to the gyno..... im scared idk what to do or to expect..... I havent had a period in over a year and well i just dont know what to do... mine is a guy and I DONT TRUST GUYS so any advice...
Thnx Military45 (link)
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My first suggestion is to ask to see a female gynaecologist if it worries you a lot. Secondly, they have seen it all before a million times and you will be no different so please don't be embarrassed. I know that you are worried about what might happen, but they should talk you through any procedures they will do and explain what will happen. If they do not, don't be afraid to ask. I would also suggest asking your Mum to go along with you for moral support. She does not need to be a the 'working' end or even in the room, but just knowing she is there will be a help. She will also know what is going on having been through it all herself. I hope that it all goes well with you. Good luck.
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okay so me and my sister ( were twins ) wanted to get matching tattoos for our 16th birthday in a few weeks but we have no clue what to get... something small but cute and also means something, anybody have any ideas? im open to anything at this point ( also probably getting it on my hip )
Thanks so much (: (link)
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Matching angels
Ying on you and Yang on the your sister
Draw a diagram together and split it
a Gemini symbol or your birth symbol
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what does it mean by having a one sided love or a two sided love? i never understood that.
please&thanks! (link)
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My understanding of this is that a one-sided love is when you love a person that does not return the feeling. Two-sided is when you both love each other. Hope that answers your question.
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i'm 15 yrs. old and i still haven't had a boyfriend or been kissed. I KNOW whoever answers this will say something like " don't worry it'll happen someday" or "when the time it'll happen". I'm not saying i WANT it to happen. but i just want to wonder why it hasn't happened. you know what i mean? please give me your honest opinions. (link)
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It's possible that you are giving out the wrong signals - as in 'don't come near me you scare me' or something similar.
If your self esteem is low you can project this out and guys can pick up on it.
My best advice is to start believing in yourself and telling yourself every day that you are a lovely, kind, approachable person. Once you start giving off signals that you are a happy person comfortable with themselves, guys are more likely to want to get to know you.
I hope that this helps you. Good luck.
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