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My Bestfiends a B****?
Okay, so I'm not saying I hate my best friend "Nora?" It's just that she can be really mean to me and to our other friends.
Ex.) On this one site were I posted a story she also did and my story was more successful than hers and she wrote a bad comment about me in my guestbook ,but it was annomonsye[sp?] well i found it was her because her IP addresses matched. Well I was upset about this ,but I got over it.
Ex.) She constantly says she "hates" me and she knows that upsets me. Even thought she might or might not mean it.
Ex.) She constatly offendes me.
Ex.) We both had this friend named "Laura" but one day "Nora" decided to not like and hate "Laura" so she turned on "Laura" while I didn't .
Ex.) She talks about our friend "Michelle" behind her back and tells me how much she hates "Michelle" while I sit there an listen.
Ex.)She tells me she'll never like my type of music/style and then like it. Hiprocritic[sp?] Which strangly makes me mad.
And we are slowely drifting away. I don't know if I should go with the flow considering she's been mean. Or try to remain bestfriends with her [and try to get over all this]
So please tell me what you think of the situation. Sorry it's alot and that it whatever else I could be sorry for.
Thanks in advance. :)
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I'm also in the same exact situation that you're facing now and I understand the feeling you get everytime a friend who you trusted most of your life, is treating you in a cruel way as if friendship doesn't mean a thing to her anymore. Anyway, all I can say is that it's best to let yourself and your friend drift off. You don't have to constantly feel yourself growing in pain everytime your friend is continuously hurting your feelings. Take a stand and let her know what you really think of her personality and how's she has been treating your friendship. And if she just brushes it off, don't feel any regrets and move on.
Maybe also in a way, you both needs some space from each other, I'm sure she'll understand that even if she's trying to hide it. There's always some place in time of your life where you just have to say goodbye to old friends and say hello to new ones~
I hope I was of some help and good luck! =3
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I'll keep this short and straight to the point, because deep down, I think you know what everyone else is thinking.
It's a good job you're drifting away. I wouldn't want a friend like that and I can speak for the rest of the world.
Friends are supposed to be loyal, not hurtful.
She has some serious growing up to do if she wants people to like her.
My advice to you is to TELL HER how you're feeling. Make it crystal clear you will no longer be friends with her if she doesn't stop her ways.
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My advice, is to take a good hard look at that list you wrote. How upset do these things make you? Is there more you could have typed, but didn't? What is your reaction to her when she does these things?
Best friends will come and go your entire life. This girl sounds jealous, insecure, selfish, and aggressive. What part of you deserves one bit of that?
Don't be passive about any of this. If you think there's any redemption here, then talk to her. Tell her everything you here. That she makes you feel like crap and obviously doesn't appreciate you. The fact that she fell low enough to anonymously insult something you were proud of, is NOT friend.
Was she ever a good friend to you? If so, is there a chance she'll return to that person? If not, then why take one more day of your life and put it to waste?
Know that if confronting her doesn't work, and your friendship fails.. that your friendship was drifting because a good person and a bad person will never stay together.
If you do stay friends, make sure you don't get caught in the same rut. EX: Agreeing when she makes these rude comments about friends.. or backing down when she insult your interests.
And PLEASE remember.. if she's talking about other people, she's probably talking about you.
Ditch the chick.
Good luck.
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She is not the sort of 'best friend' I would have around me. A best friend would not bad mouth off about other people, or tell you she hates you, or any one of the horrible things that you describe. You would be better off without her in your life, or at very best, a friend on the outside of your close circle of friends. It sounds to me like she is the one trying to distance herself from everyone else by making you all feel bad, whereas she is the one doing the dirty. You don't need to exclude her, but I do feel that you need to keep her at a short distance. I hope that my advice helps you make up your mind about her. Good luck.
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