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I really need help with this baby name. You see, I LOVE the name Krysten for one of my daughters, but one of my favorite boy names is Christian and I've liked it for longer. Would Krysten and Christian be alright for a brother and sister, or are they too close. I would also love the name Cassidy and like Jane and Kelsey.

At the end of the day, it's your decision but personally, I wouldn't want 2 very similar sounding names if I had 2 kids. If you decide against it, maybe have Krysten as the daughters middle name? Just a suggestion.

my friend just got a new boyfriend and he lives close to me ,so my friend wants to come to my house and go for a walk so she can meet up with him. But my mom always tells me before we go on walks to not run into any boys (I'm 13). So if we do go on the walk and my mom figures out what happened my mom will probably not trust me any more. but if I tell her before the walk she could say anything (she could maybe allow us to go but i don't know). So do you think i should tell my mom or keep it a secret.

You shouldn't need to lie to your mum - it's not your boyfriend anyway, so you shouldn't get in trouble for your friend.
Tell your mum. She will probably want to know the ins and outs but that's only because she cares and wants to know you are safe.

My boyfriends birthday's coming up soon and I don't know what to buy him! He doesn't like concerts or going to watch football,any idea's?

There's so many!

Clothes, CD's, a day trip somewhere, gadgets, aftershave, go for a meal (or cook it yourself) remote control toys, drinking gifts, wallet, games, books, something personalised.

I don't know how old he is or what your budget is, but hopefully you've got some ideas now. It's even better if you know his hobbies, like if he enjoys photography for example, get him something to do with it. It's always nice to make something yourself (which is why I suggested cooking something, or baking a cake/cookies.. or maybe even a photo collage of you both)

If you still get stuck, I'd be happy to help in more detail if you tell me a little bit about him.. or, you could Google it and something might pop up that would suit him perfectly.

I like this guy he has a girlfriend but asks to see me and asks me to kiss him and I won't..he says his relationship is complicated. I finally told him I am worth more than a secret and we have to stop talking he acted like he didn't even care. I do want to b around him. Should I ignore him.. Help.. I think he has feelings for me as well

You are completely right and I'm glad you are standing your ground with him! He can't have a girlfriend and a little bit on the side, too. No matter how complicated his current relationship is.
If he wants to kiss you, he needs to break up with his girlfriend. and if he isn't willing to, then you need to move on. Afterall, he's already showing you he is capable of being unfaithful.. so trust would certainly become an issue if you were to be an item.

What do you do when you're completely, utterly, blindingly, confusingly, mesmerizingly, and inexcusably in love with a man? Do you tell him? Is it a bad idea? What if it's the only person you have ever even had the smallest crush on? How would you get over it if they rudely rejected you? What about if they unexpectedly have admired you from afar forever and you never noticed because you were too busy thinking about when the perfect moment would be? How do you manage something like this? Someone please help, my heart hurts. He's too perfect for me. I want him to know but at the same time I can't get over it! This has been going on for the past 5 months. Please help my heart aches

Everyone is different - you get some people who aren't afraid to speak of their feelings and you get others who shy away.

Personally, I've learnt I prefer to tell people how I feel, I do think "what if I get rejected" but it's a part of life we will all face at some point and it will be a big learning step.

I'll give you an example. About 2 months ago my boyfriend and I broke up after almost 4 years and in that time, I realised I was beginning to develop feelings for a friend who I'd known since I was a young teen. Knowing I could either tell him with the possibility of him feeling the same outweighed the possibility of being rejected and making a good friendship awkward. and I'm glad I did because he's now my boyfriend.

If the man you have these feelings for is available and not in a relationship, I say go for it - the worst that could happen is he will say he doesn't feel the same. It sounds bad and it will hurt you knowing you can't have someone you're in love with but you can go away knowing that you tried and you don't have to think all the annoying "what if" questions. You can just get over it and move on to someone more suited to you.

I'm really interested to know whether you decide to tell him and what happens - let me know in feedback. Best of luck.

I live in an apartment and it is against the rules to paint the walls. I am going nits and would like to add some sort of color...What about wrapping paper? I know it sounds silly but my walls are white. I need some ideas! Something not messy and will not damage the wall.

No posters please....I am an adult

Go to a store which sells wallpapers and take the samples. Cut them to the desired size, then put them in frames. I've seen it done and I think it looks pretty snazzy! You can change the theme whenever you get bored, too.

Okay so for a couple of days now my vagina has been itching and burning... I don't have sex so i dont think its an STD...Can I get anything from the store to stop it?

Could be an infection of some sort - noone can diagnose you over the internet, so you will need to visit your doc to get a thorough diagnosis and the right treatment.
Hope you feel better soon!

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ok, to start off, im not sure if it was sex or rape.
i said yes to my boyfriend. he did NOT pressure me into it. later before it, i changed my mind, but i forgot to tell him. so we did and now i feel violated.

was it sex or rape????

You said yes. It's sex. Not rape.
I'm not entirely sure how you "forgot" to tell him, but he's not psychic, so if you change your mind, you need to tell him.

i've been talking to this boy for 2 weeks now. i'm starting to really like him, and i think he really likes me also. the only problem is he is still in love with his ex girlfriend. he brought up a couple times already comments regarding his ex. i think he was unaware of it though.

so i went on his facebook today and saw the pictures of them still up. updated only a month ago. i know they're not still seeing each other. i'm afraid if i continue to see him i might really fall for him and get hurt in the long run. what would you do in my situation?

You need to give it some time and don't rush into anything. You want him to like you for you and not because he misses the attention he got from having a girlfriend.
If I were in your position, I wouldn't stop talking to him because I could trust myself to not fall for him and keep it strictly as friends.. but seeing as you're already developing feelings towards him, it's probably best to get the idea of dating him out of your head and stop talking to him as much. 2 weeks is early days, if anything is meant to blossom from this, it will, given time.

Good luck.

I know it's kind of personal but how did you know when you were in love? What things did you notice? Do you feel good knowing you were in love? How old were you the first time you were in love?

I am using these answers to help figure out my own feelings. Thank you!

When I was 20, I was in love - I'd had boyfriends before which I felt strongly about but they didn't come close to how I felt later.
I knew I was in love when he was all I could think about. I didn't see other guys in the same way any more and when I pictured my future, I could see him in it. I remember thinking to myself if I had to give my own life to save his, I'd do it.. I would have given him my world - everything I could possibly offer..
It was an amazing feeling knowing I cared for and felt so deeply for someone and the feelings being mutual. With every kiss and cuddle, always feeling that spark and such a strong connection.. and the fact we were always on the same wavelength.. It really did make days worthwhile. Just a shame for me, it didn't have the perfect ending!

I have a boyfriend, and we've been going out for 3 months. We started really nice and everything was lovely. Recently he's been under pressure due to stuff going on at home, even though he won't talk to me about it much. We were at his house and he got really upset. I tried to hug him but he pushed me down onto the floor, it didnt hurt much but it was a shock. Numerous occasions after this he's hit me or shoved me when he's got annoyed. I know he's stressed, but he doesnt apologise. He just pretends it never happens. Im beinning to bruise and im scared. What should I do? (17, girl.)

Please break up with him - you're in what's turning out to be an abusive relationship. Don't give him the benefit of the doubt because he's "stressed" - we all get stressed. It doesn't mean you can take it out on your partner and harm them physically or mentally.
You do not deserve this. You've been together for 3 months - it should be the happiest time.. not where you're scared of the next time he will lash out at you.

I said "fuck you" to my boyfriend but i didn't mean it, it just slipped out. I apologized a minute later but he said he can't be with me anymore. Is there anything i can do to make it better?

Everyone says things they don't mean in the heat of the moment without thinking of the consequences.
He's clearly shocked by your actions so just give him a bit of time to cool off - let him know you're deeply sorry and hope he can forgive you for your silly mistake.
Hopefully you mean more to him than accidentally blurting out 2 silly words and he will come to terms with it soon.

hey, i'm having a few (2) friends over after school on monday (submitted on saturday) i really wanna no some good stuff to do! its due to rain so we cant go outside, and my room is really small!! we are all 12 and girrllzz! they cant have facepacks, and they cant wear makeup.. and i dont have a tv! what CAN WE DO! (i live in a quite coldisack and we have no parks or anywear intresting to go! my mum cant drive so im really stuck!) PLEASE HELP! THANKYOU FOR READING, GIVE ME ADVIS SOOOOONNnn!!!!! XXX

Get some of your favourite food and drinks and have an indoor picnic. Put on some music, have girly chats, play games like "truth or dare" or board games. Do you have your own personal computer to stream movies on? If they don't do face packs or makeup, what about painting each others nails.. or doing each others hair?
You shouldn't worry about it too much - I never used to plan this sort of thing - things will fall into place. :) Have a good day!

do a virgin get pregnant at first sexual intercourse?

It doesn't matter how many times you've had sex. Penis + vagina can always result in possible pregnancy.

Ok so about a week ago I broke up with a guy because he isolated me from my friends, but I still love him so much. He told me last night that he wants to kiss me one last time on Monday when we see each other at school. I want to kiss him more than anything in the world, Im scared though. We've kissed before but we arent dating now and I dont want people to think we're back together. He told me early this morning that he loves my best friend. I was so hurt. I mean, your not supposed to go for your ex's bestie. Like seriously I was pretty pissed off. I told him I love him and he said he loves my best friend. Well isnt this great. Then, he appologized for everything and I dont know what to say. I love him and I want to kiss him on Monday. Should I?

You broke up, he tells you he wants to give you a final kiss and then tells you he's in love with your best friend..
If I were in your position, I wouldn't even be talking to him, let alone considering kissing him.
Sad thing is though, no matter what anyone on here tells you, you're gonna follow how YOU feel.. before you make any rash decisions, think about this: What will kissing him "one last time" actually achieve? It's not gonna help you get over it, it's gonna create more feelings. Sounds to me like you're setting yourself up for heartbreak.
The best thing to do in this situation is give yourself some time - figure out what you both actually want. If you should be together, then eventually, you will be.
Let me know what you decide to do and what happens in feedback.

what would you do if you found out something awful? like something they did. & they were someone you really looked up to. i don't know how to react, because i don't think i can ever look at the person the same again.

to make matters worse, i cannot not even type out to you, you random strangers whom i'll never meet & who don't know me at all. isn't that awful?

i'm just so sad, and don't know how to even behave..

To be honest, without a rough idea on what it is, it's rather hard to help you through it and tell you how/where to seek help.
I guess at the end of the day, you have to remember they are people too.. and sometimes, people make stupid mistaks.
If you feel like you want to talk more in depth about the situation, i'm only a message away.

How can i make my girl cum fast?

Communication and practice!
Each girl is different and enjoys certain things more than others.
Keep an eye out to how she responds when you're doing physical things.
Another fun way would be for her to guide you and show/tell you what she wants and how she wants it as you're doing it.

13/f
ok so my dad hacked my Fb account & saw a message of me asking a boy for some weed. but i don't use it i was just asking for another friend.
but he doesnt believe me & i dont really care but i regret asking that boy for it cause i wasnt gonna buy some i was just curious & my friend also wanted me to found out if he still sells it.
but IM CLEAN. so monday im supposely getting a urine test thingy. idk. so what should i do to convince my dad i wasnt gonna do it, or buy it. i was just curious.
P.S he doesnt believe me cause i get in trouble A LOT at school (not paying attention, yelling at my teacher, cutting myself.) & he doesnt believe me but i stopped. & i never took the weed or anything. Ughh. ohh well what are the consquences for this?

Well let's face it - it wasn't the smartest move asking for weed. and whether you were going to smoke it or not, the fact you were even TALKING about it at 13 years old is enough to automatically lose trust for you.
Just take the urine test and prove you aren't on drugs.
It's not gonna make him trust you again straight away, but it sure as hell will help!
Take the test, prove him wrong and start putting more effort into excelling in school, not causing trouble.
He's just doing what any dad would do. You'll understand this more and more as you get older.
Let me know how it all goes - good luck!

I want to die tidaty pls sujjest me the painless way

Seek help. Noone here will offer you any advice which is harmful to others.

im no treall sure if you are supposed to shave or trim your pubic hair. my sister asked me one day and i didnt know whT TO TELL HER. any advice??

You do whatever you want to it, whether it's trimming, shaving, waxing, leaving it as it is.. there's no right or wrong things to do, it's whatever YOU prefer. :)

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