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I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together.
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance? (link)
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What is your situation like in regards to getting home from school? What about his? If you have the opportunity, your best bet would probably be to hang out with him while you're both waiting to be picked up. If you both have cars, maybe ask to hang out after school for a little bit before heading home? You don't have to jump right into asking him out, but you need to be able to spend some time alone with him.
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Now I'd like to start off that I have depression, for a few years now, I am 17/female. I don't know how this plays into this well enough or has little.
Anyways, for thepast month my depression has gotten hard on me, all the whileI've slowly detached myself from my boyfriend, and with trying to converse with him during those weeks has made him irritated from my lethargy and dealing with me, and soon I called myself off from him and became distant to him. My feelings just started to fade, feelings for him and also I couldn't very well identify my own emotions. It's gotten worse between us and before any of this problem I had made a new (male) friend. I had no intentions to have feelings for him but now they're starting to form little by little. It's all a bit too confusing. Now getting out of the hard hit of depression I had gotten now I'm trying to work it out, but I feel like I'm rejecting a bunch of things out of fear of what'll happen. My boyfriend is sweet, caring, and I'm completely comfortable with but then, sometimes he is just so messy and disrespectful to his parents, embarrassing and boring at times. And then with this other guy, through out my worst days, has managed to make me laugh, talking almost non-stop. While my boyfriend has made me feel pushed away, like what went on inside didn't matter, now all I can explain is "I don't know what's going on inside, I'm sorry" and its tearing me apart if its just depression dampening my emotions or if its legitimate, any of them. Thank you if you read all of this. (link)
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It sounds like you aren't really in a good headspace to make big life altering decisions right now. This other guy, he's making you laugh and feel better right now, while you are dating your boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with having a friend of the opposite sex (if your boyfriend tries to tell you otherwise then he's a jackass and has made the decision for you). You find yourself developing some feelings for this other guy? Fairly normal, we don't stop being attracted to other people just because we are in a relationship. Your feelings for your boyfriend waning at the same time? Slightly less normal. My advice would be to wait until your depression subsides a bit (either through treatment or through however you usually deal with it). When you are thinking a bit more clearly, you'll be able to analyze your feelings better, both for your boyfriend and for this other guy.
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I've been going through a recent complicated break-up. The thing is I kinda rejected him because I want to get my life back together first before being in a committed relationship. I wasn't able to offer my heart back in return to this guy who loved me so purely because I got scared that the moment I say 'yes' we'd be in a really serious relationship. And the thought of being in a serious relationship scared me. I got scared and I made a stupid mistake by talking to it with another guy friend. And it almost felt like I cheated on him, he felt like I cheated. And now he's not in love with me anymore and that it's impossible for us to be together again. Which hurt so bad.
I know all of that's kinda convoluted, but long story short, I'm hurt because I hurt the one guy who's never done anything but love me so purely and see the best in me by being a stupid and weak girl. What if he's the one for me, what if I blew the chance to be with my soulmate? What if I never meet anyone who will love me as much as he did? I can't get over the pain and the loneliness no matter what I do.
I know I've made a mistake too. But I'm not aiming to get back together with him, because he's already said it's impossible. Now he just wants to be friends with me because he knows we're really close and he doesn't want to lose that and he said that I don't deserve to be abandoned completely. What should I do to get over him and forgive myself? I'm really sorry it was really long. Thank you to anyone who will help. (link)
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So your fear was that as soon as you said yes, you would instantly be in a committed relationship. His response was to freak out and get jealous about you talking to another guy before you even said yes? Sounds like your fears were well placed. It doesn't sound like he loved you purely. It sounds like he was obsessed and possessive. If he "fell out of love" just because you talked to a guy friend, he never loved you in the first place, and to be perfectly honest he sounds like an asshole and you are better off without him.
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(Sorry, not sure which category this would fit into.)
I'm a 16 y/o (born) female.
So.. Yesterday on my 16th birthday, I decided to come out 100% to everyone in my family. Everything went well, but for the longest time, I've had problems about deciding what my sexual orientation.
So for now, I'm settling as bisexual. But bisexuality isn't just 50/50. I'm more of 80/20. Girls being the 80. I am staying at genderfluid.
I want top surgery because I want my breasts gone, BU I don't exactly have 10k lying around. I prefer she/Her pronouns, and I always go by my birth name, even though on my more masculine days, I would prefer Spencer.
So.. my problem is..
I can see myself dating a guy, but that's it. I can't picture myself having sexual relations, or settling down and having kids. I can however, see myself with a girlfriend, a wife, and I CAN see myself adopting kids and having a family with a woman.
I want my breasts gone, and I want to cut my hair.
I do not have a problem with having a vagina. I wouldn't want a penis.
(I don't ever plan to have kid through a sperm bank.) -I have a genetic disability that I do not want to pass down.-
So, would that make me trans, or not trans enough??
I'm considering asking my mom to let me take "T". (Testosterone.)
I'm just stuck wondering. (link)
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There are plenty of words out there for different identities that don't fit neatly into the more popular ones. First off, there is the Kinsey Scale, which goes 0-6, 0 being completely heterosexual and 6 being completely homosexual. Some people might lump everything between 1 and 5 into bisexual, but that's not really right. Secondly, there is homo,hetero, and biromantic. This is for who you can see yourself in a relationship with, but not necessarily sexually. It is entirely possible to be homosexual and biromantic, or for that matter homosexual and heteroromantic. As for your gender identity, I tend to just fallback on genderqueer, which is a catch all term for everything in between male and female. There is also intersex, but I honestly always forget what does and doesn't fall under that label.
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I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why? (link)
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It's the use of the word "privileged" that does it. If you tell a person they are privileged, they immediately start to think of all the shit that is wrong in their life. Some people have trouble separating that from their advantages. For example, you are privileged due to being white and cisgendered. This does not negate the persecution you face due to being a homosexual female. It means you have advantages some people don't. I'm a white, cisgendered, heterosexual male. But I'm poor. I have lots of advantages others don't, but I still have not led a happy life. I am able to understand that I have advantages others don't. Being a straight white male is not having everything handed on a golden platter with a silver spoon. It's playing life on easy mode. Some people will still lose the game on easy mode, and some people will win on hard mode. That's the other thing some people have a hard time grasping: averages. They'll point out single examples of successful people who fit various disadvantaged categories, or unsuccessful people who have all the advantages and think it proves them right.
Here is a fun article that gets better into how to talk to people about privilege: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gina-crosleycorcoran/explaining-white-privilege-to-a-broke-white-person_b_5269255.html
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I'm 12 year old female(?)...let me explain.
Ever since I was young, like in pre school I thought like a man. In pre school i bonded with females, but boys just seemed to get me more. I played with trucks, liked to destroy, never broke into my mom's make up, etc. In kindagarten, I didn't care about my appearance and I liked digging up worms. I didn't care about my looks and never felt I fit in with my gender. Girls, they like to be neat, I don't. And now, it just gets stronger. I'm constantly being reminded to "act like a girl". I've always tried but it was always awkward. I played with barbies but I tried my best to turn them male, and preferred making action figures fight. I liked video games that men were supposed to like. It's more than being a tomboy though. If you're a tomboy, you like sports and stuff, but you still think like a girl. Not me, my thought process, personality, interests...match a boy. I did like pink, but mainly because I noticed the difference between me and female counterparts and tried doing pink to fit in better. Now I prefer blue, and red. I'm sick of being treated like a girl when I don't feel like one. I always get handed the "girly" stuff when I want the manly stuff. I'm always watching myself to be a girl. And when I don't watch myself for a while, people laugh and point and get supprised. I look female, but I'm not. Once I wore boy clothed and I felt nicer than i ever have in female clothing. And ever since Caitlyn Jenner happened, idk, I finally had a name for it. I started a conversation on transgenders to my mom. Here's how it went:
Me: mom did you hear about Caitlyn Jenner?
Mom: yes.
Me: why do you think people change genders?
Mom: well, it's just- you're not thinking about that are you?
Me: no (lie)
Mom: phew. I could NOT handle that.
Fastforward for a few months, on vacation while I was trying to go to sleep I heard her on the phone saying something like "ugh. He was the greatest athlete in the world and now he's a women. He's wearing dresses and got implants. It's disgusting, I mean come on! You're a man, you should know better than that.
I'm scared to come out. But I want to be a boy! It's simple, it's who I am. I just know it. How should I go about this? (link)
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Transgenderism is a complicated issue... On the one hand, you are young and may well be mistaken about what's going on inside your body as it's going through changes, on the other hand the more you wait to start the process the harder it is. The thing is, everything you've listed sounds like you are rejecting gender norms, not your own female gender. The whole pink vs blue thing is an archaic distinction... actually scratch that, it wasn't that long ago that pink was considered a manly color. Toy preferences are likewise needlessly gendered, and there is currently a movement to do away with that, target no longer has boy sections or girl sections labeled in the toy aisle, because really, everyone has different preferences toy wise and they have nothing to do with gender. I'm a guy, and my favorite color is purple, which many do consider as feminine as pink. I was also never into sports, or most other stereotypically male interests. I liked chick flicks more than action movies, and love songs more than hip hop. Throughout all that, I considered (and still consider) myself male, I just have different interests than most. I'm just one example though, and wanted to give you that to think about. Whether you are transgendered or not is something only you can know, and something you should talk to a doctor about. It sucks that your mom will be an obstacle throughout all this, but it's your life, hopefully she will come to accept you.
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I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again? (link)
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I can tell you that there are plenty of guys that want a girl that will call them out on their bullshit. It doesn't seem full on that he was using you, just that you two wanted different things and had different expectations from the relationship. Yes the first love is special, and we never forget them, and I guess he is using that as an excuse, which is wrong, because really, every love is special. The heart wants what it wants. Your emotions won't care that he is a jerk. You have to use the logical part of your brain to keep reminding yourself that he is a jerk. Don't let one bad experience make you think that you aren't good enough. He isn't good enough for you. What you can do is be yourself. Don't let a guy push you into crossing your limits unless you are comfortable doing so. You went above and beyond, and it seems like he didn't put in much effort, and is now just looking for someone who won't make him put in any effort at all. That's not what you want. You can find a guy who will put effort into the relationship too. Who will appreciate you trying to help him become a better man.
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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything? (link)
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The police can't do much, unless you have the message saved in a way that easily ties to his identity. The "send me more nudes or I post what you have" will just give him more to post, and they'll end up online either way. Sadly there is most likely nothing you can do to stop him if he wants to post what he has sent you. Once they are posted, you can request a DMCA takedown, but people will save them and in the end that will just make the pics more popular.
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Honestly,I'm really frustrated because of my looks. I'm 162 cm tall,65 kg,blonde hair,blue eyes. I am a bit chubby but I'm not fat. I tried dieting,exercising,Herbalife products but nothing helped. Yet I feel like I don't stand a chance next to all those pretty girls out there. I see them always having a boyfriend and nobody notices me. Recently I confessed to a guy on college and he said he likes me too but treats me as just a friend. He is a shy person and he said he needs time but I think that if you like someone you don't need time and excuses such as that. I think he is put off by my body. I have a good face,I dress nice,I know what suits me but I still have no one who likes me in a romantic way. I wish some guy would eventually look beyond my unflattering body. Are there still guys in the world who care about personality? I am caring,reliable,compassionate,funny,smart,helpful and many other good things but it seems it simply doesn't matter. (link)
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Of course you have a chance. Judging from you using metric and the term "confessed" I'm guessing you aren't in the United States, so it's hard to give advice based on cultural norms here. The guy says he likes you but he's shy. Why not take the initiative?
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My entire life everything was the media's fault. TV is “dumbing down" our children, horror/slasher movies and video games cause violent behaviors, slutty celebrities influence children. This isn't true. That's your own fault for not making them get off it, and I watch TV, but my grades are perfectly fine. Also, what annoys me is They got rid of cookie monster, because parents blame child obesity on it. Here's a fucking idea, stop buying your kids so much crap, and they won't be fat. I play violent killing games and despite what my mom thinks will happen, I don't go and trash offices, torture people, and stick knifes through peoples back. I listen to Miley Cyrus, but I don't take sex videos, or ride naked on wrecking balls. Songs don't influence me to “bight that" or “patron shots can I get a refil" so why to people do this? (link)
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It's a human thing. I don't remember exactly how the quote goes, but basically states that "anything invented before you were born is old and quaint, anything invented in the first third of your life is a mainstay, everything inveted in the second third is a novelty, and everything invented in the last third is an abomination that is corrupting our youth." This goes back a very long way, Aristotle hated writing of all things, he felt it would make people stupid because they didn't have to remember things anymore. People hated phones, the printing press, and really most thing when they were invented.
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Someone is blackmailing on kik. I sent him nude photo of mine, he want me to send again if I will not he said that he will post it online website wherein all country can see it. I dont know what to do. He said that he will spread it and all my friends can see it. Im afraid Im fron Hungary. Need help (link)
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Don't send anything else. Yes one photo might get out, but if you send more they will all get out, as well as people making fun of you for sending more.
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i want to do sex wth my virgin girl with out condom is it safe. (link)
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No. Being a virgin does nothing to increase safety of having sex without a condom.
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can you get pregeant from having humping your pillow (link)
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No, not unless a guy has ejaculated all over it right before you do.
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We're really sure that we didn't do other sexual activity aside from dry humping. I'm just confused because the hpt we took got a faint positive and appeared beyond the recommended time indicated in it's package. Do you think it is a false positive? (link)
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It's technically possible, but highly unlikely to get pregnant that way. Wait a few days and then buy and take a higher quality test.
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Difference between the Bypass Surgery and Angioplasty? (link)
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Angioplasty is using a small tool to go into arteries and clear away the plaque that is causing a problem.
Bypass surgery is taking a healthy vein or artery from somewhere it isn't needed very mush like the leg, and inserting it near where the problem is, to connect around it and bypass the problem area.
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Ok, I'm 19 and a very feisty girl. I love to have sex a lot but when it comes to threesomes or more, ppl say its weird. Is it weird? (link)
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Some people like them and some people don't. There is nothing weird either way.
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How does U.S. Government keep a check on its employees, like the politicians, the officers etc ? How does it curb corruption? The officials will always try to make more money and for that they might join hands with corruption. How does the government keep a tab on them and ensure that the rules are being followed? How does it ensure that what's written on official papers has actually taken place, like schemes and offers for public? How does it ensure that the power given to the officials is not misused?
Credentials:
Indian-Male-18 (link)
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It doesn't.
More seriously, there systems in place to at least limit corruption, but in the end, the country is far too large for everything to be kept track of. And everything in place to limit corruption is still kept track of by people, and people are flawed, so there will always be corruption. There is transparency for most government operations, so the citizens know what the government is up to, but the only recourse is usually to vote against them in the next election.
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My little sis has been posting wierd questions on facebook other sites this one ect and usin my phone how do i put a password on my samsung galaxy europa so she cant do it aint had my phone very long so im not sure (link)
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Assuming it's like every other Samsung phone I've ever seen, while on the homescreen push the menu button, select settings, and select location and security. From there you can choose a password.
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Why does California have so many wildfires? (link)
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Because most of California is a desert. Very little rainfall, and lots of dry vegetation, lots of forests as well. The weather is also warm enough for campfires and bonfires pretty much all year round.
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Hi
How can you find websites that google hides? I tried using other search engines (like Duckduckgo) but that didn't help. (No I am not looking up anything bad, google just hides stuff.) (link)
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The only way to find sites search engines won't show you is to know the exact address (sometimes a regular URL, sometimes a straight IP address) of the site you want to visit. In some cases you even need a special client to visit them because regular web browsers wont display them.
Check out this article for more information:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deep_Web
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