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I'm being blackmailed
I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything?
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Hello. I think you should definitely go to and speak to the police about this. I am assuming you are an adult in which case taking and sending him the pictures would have been just fine but blackmailing you IS illegal and against the law and this is something that you should not have to tolerate from this person.
If you are someone who is not an adult then firstly I will say please, please don't send pictures like these to ANYONE because you honestly just never know what they will do with them and they can end up being a big source of embarrassment for you if they do get out. Also, in this case, if he accepted the pictures knowing full well you were a minor then he is breaking the law - regardless how old he is. So I would advise that you speak to the police about this and see what they can advise and see what they say. At the very least they will have a chat with him about him trying to blackmail you. If you have the messages he has been sending you threatening you then keep those so you can present them to the police as evidence. No matter what he threatens you with DO NOT give into his threats because once you do he will just continue to blackmail you, having more and more material with which to blackmail you with and soon after you will find you are stuck without a way out. So before it gets to that point you should seek out advice from the police and see if there is something they can directly do (I would think they must be able to do something about this given he is openly blackmailing you.
Good luck, please let me know if I can help any further as well.
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Hi, first off, I want to say that I am sorry this happened to you and I am happy to see how many people have already responded trying to help you. As many of the others have said, this is a tough call because the law does vary between different places. I would suggest contacting the police (or a lawyer) to at least see what your options might be. You may be able to report him for blackmail, at the very least.
If you're underage, then you should tell your parents so that they can help you or at least support you in this difficult situation - you might want to do that even if you are of age (or at least a friend).
Anyway, I hope I helped in some way...I also answered your question in video form if you would like to watch it's at [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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If you call the police they can arrest him because blackmailing is illegal
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If you are under 18,it is considered child pornography if I have the term right,and he could get jail time for that. But it still is something the police could do.
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Unfortunately with the Internet, it is much harder to regulate what people post. But hope is not lost! The guy must feel like since he gave you money, he is entitled to your body; that is NOT the case. Yes, you cannot help what you've already done, but DO NOT send him any more photos. You can definitely call the police (try to speak with a woman) and just ask if there is anything they can do to track the perv and possibly stop him. For now, just breathe. Many people are all talk and no show, so hopefully he's just some schmuck with a power-trip craving. Please update soon.
Your friend, Holly.
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I would try to talk to the police and see what can be done.
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Honestly this is really a tough place to be in.. but I believe it would hard to report this, simply because most people would consider sending nudes to be apart of "sexting" and in most places it isn't legal. And being the fact that he paid you for them, makes it that much difficult Because the cops might look at him giving money as some type of agreement or exchange for them. My question(s) is because he gave you money, that's why you took the nudes ?how old are you? If you are under age and he is in fact older than you, then in this case he can get reported because if you are underage ( not legal) then in this case he could get arrested for several things.(laws vary from different states) Also is there anyway that you can prove that the "nudes " are you (by a birth mark, tattoo , scar, or are you showing your face ) if there's no way he can prove its you. I think it would be best to delete every contact that he has from you. Also I would put a restraining order out (because he may know your address) also please be careful next time talking to his online and be careful of who or what you put online. I hope everything works out and that I've helped in some way. Be safe!
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Are the nudes clips such that one can identify you from them?? if no, then I dont think you are under threat..and if yes, then only cops can save you... better you specifically complain to the cyber cell.. because it involves a cyber crime...
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well im not really sure here, you sure did get yourself in a tough spot though. if you call the police youll have to tell them and they may never even catch him if you dont know him well enough for the police to track him down.
Was your face in these pics as well?? if so idk what to tell you honestly. you might try to just ignore him and never talk to him again and see if that will soften him over time and give up.
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It's doubtful - are you underage?
If so, they can arrest him for buying child porn - but you may be arrested for selling it also.
If you aren't, and you have some kind of proof that he has threatened you, they may be able to stop him.
I don't think there is anything illegal about selling nude pics of yourself, if you are an adult - but I don't know that for a fact.
Talking to a lawyer would be your best bet for a next step. Whether you are underage or not, I think... I am not sure if a lawyer can turn you in if you go to him for advice and admit to engaging in illegal activities.
It's a really rough spot you're in, and I hope you aren't hurt too badly either way... good luck, I really wish you the best. I am sorry I could not help too much.
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the police could do something but it depends on your age and where you are like whats the law... this happen to me before and i told the person i sent pics to that i was under age which made then think twice even though i was 18 at that time but they dont know that... other than that next time try taking pics with your face excluded and maybe results could differ.. by the way everyone makes mistakes its not your falt we all done it who ever has something negitive to say could kiss yours and my ass because its a lot of us who been in your shoes
goodluck xoxoxoxoxo
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Look , first of all , you cant trust anyone especially online.According to my knowledge , i advice you to contact someone who could track down his IP address.Once its with you , call the police , the IT department in the police are the ones who will deal with it. Thats all what you can do.
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From what I know the police should be able to track his number or find. Do contact the police!!
is your face in the pictures??
If you absolutely MUST send nudes because you want to i recommend sending ones without your face in the picture.
Please look at this as a lesson not to do it again. I hoped i helped to some degree.
DO CAll the police!
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Absolutely, the police can help. I'm not sure what else to tell you. I would definitely talk to someone at the police department to see what they can do. Hope it goes well for you! :(
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Hi there! Don't call the police yet. You will get in more trouble than him because it's against the law to do that. My friend did this once with her boyfriend. He blackmailed her and for hours she cried about this until I told her to tell him to stop and if he really loves her, he shouldn't threaten her for this. It worked, only because they love each other. You on the other hand, I have no idea. Don't send him anything else. But, the only way to solve this is to get help from the authorities. I won't lie, you will get in trouble. But sadly this is the only way to save yourself. There is no way out of sending nudes to people. I wish you the best of luck. Please ask me ANYTHING else you need on my advice column. Good luck and please keep me updated on this.
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I'm not a lawyer, so none of my advice should be taken as gospel, but yes. Blackmail is a crime, as is sexual harrassment. Keep all his emails and texts, and report him to the police. If he's in another state, he may face federal charges. Even if he does post the photos, you can force the site to take them down under the Digital Millenium Copyright Act (DMCA). You can send them a DMCA takedown notice, claiming copyright over the photos and stating that you did not authorize their distribution. (This has been used successfully against a number of revenge porn sites.)
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The police can't do much, unless you have the message saved in a way that easily ties to his identity. The "send me more nudes or I post what you have" will just give him more to post, and they'll end up online either way. Sadly there is most likely nothing you can do to stop him if he wants to post what he has sent you. Once they are posted, you can request a DMCA takedown, but people will save them and in the end that will just make the pics more popular.
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To be honest their isn't much you can do in this situation, you could try and contact the police but it may not work, simply because you sold your nudes online for money, that can be consider prostitution and whether he is blackmailing you or not, the police have full right to arrest you as well as him because you did sell your nudes, whether hes a stranger or not.
I suggest you just try to not talk to him for a while, or try to persuade him to not put the nudes online, if that doesn't work, then theirs sadly not much more you can do.
Sorry :/
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Considering that I work with models in my photography ventures, I might have some insight that I hope will help.
Clearly the guy is a sleaze and and jerk. But that in and of itself has no impact in the legal system. However, you should very much have the law on your side.
While I don't know where you are located and the specific laws in your region, I can give you some general advice on the subject.
First off, you or the photographer (if there was one) who took the pictures own the copyright. This is even the case with him buying the pics from you. You only give up copyright through a specific contract. Therefore, to publish them on the Internet without your or the photographer's permission would be copyright infringement for which he can be sued.
In another note, blackmail itself is illegal in most places. That being the case you can probably contact the police. You can give them all the info you have on the guy. If you have his real name great, if not, usernames, phone number, email address and a record of your online correspondence may be very helpful.
Good luck.
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Uh oh. : / I'm terribly sorry this has happened. This is becoming more common these days. I strongly suggest you get the police involved. If your pics go viral, this can put you in a lot of danger psychologically, socially, and personally. If your face is hidden in your pics, then you are less in danger. But still, go to the police.
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Well you should probably contact the police about this but how helpful they will be kind of depends on your age. You really shouldnt be sending random people anything like that but everyone makes mistakes and so take this as a learning experience. Tell your parents or an adult you trust and let them handle this.
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If you have the messages you can report them to the police or a school counselor as evidence. The police can reverse search his number and find him.
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Dont do it anymore and he is maybe bluffing.
If you can send some form to say someone is blackmailing you maybe if you sent it trough skype send the form to them.
NIck
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Yep, you're being blackmailed, go to the police. Never put your face in a nude and don't send pics you don't want out. Best of luck, this guy sounds like an jerk.
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Yes you have to tell the police-blackmailing is a strict liability offence meaning it can go to court.
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Just ignore him and stop responding to his messages.
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I wont go over what others have said (you absolutely should go to the police) but do want to correct some of the bad information you've been given.
What you described is a crime. Period. Always. End of story.
It doesn't matter that you accepted money for the images. That doesn't mean he owns them and can do whatever he wants with them. That is not how that works. Unless you explicitly sign away your rights - you still own those images and they cannot legally be shared publicly without your consent.
What he is doing is a crime. No question about it. Anyone who says otherwise is simply confused and incorrect.
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Tell the police immediately no matter age once pics am out there out for good...!!! Dont let him ruin your life by a mistake you made. Were all human and need to learn hopefully you wont do it again but tell the police for your own sake!!!
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Well, this all depends on your age. If you are a minor you and him would both be charged for child pornography. Unfortunately, there is not much that you can do to stop him other than talk to him and ask him not to. If he is a stranger; most likely he is not going to care or listen to what you say. I am sorry and I hope that these do not end up on the internet. My advice for the future would be to not send nudes to anyone, especially for money. You never know where they are going to end up and who is going to see them. Good luck and let me know if you need anything else!
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if you are under age yes you can tell the police.
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Cyber police will help you in this regards.
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Hi sweetheart! Im so sorry about this!
How dare he! Yes! Go to the police and file a complaint or file a harrasment suit/or file for hrrasment
Make sure you have a copy of any texts of what he has sent to you and show them.Make sure you completely honest
Shame on him for taking advantage of you! He should be ashamed!
Please don't be scared and know it will all work in the end.
He is threatening you and that is wrong.
Make sure,if you can you are able,if possible to get those photos back.
Always be careful to what you post online also.
If you have any more info on him,give it to the Police
Be blessed and be safe and thanks for writing to me!
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Well, how old are you and how old is the man you sent the photos to? I believe the police can get involved regardless however if you are a minor, I feel they would get involved ten fold. Unfortunately if you don't try explaining your situation to the police you will never know what will happen. Everyone makes mistakes and hopefully you can learn from yours. Good luck!
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I'm in the USA and if you live there then yes it's illegal. I don't know about other places though, so if you're somewhere else then look it up. If your under 18 you may get in a little trouble, but tell the cops anyway.
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You shouldn't send nudity you get what you deserve
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I'm assuming you live in the USA. Yes, the police can do something about it. You may get into some trouble if you're a minor but besides that the police is your best option.
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No, nothing can really be done. However, that dies not mean you should send more. He will likely not part them. If he is going to pay them, he will whether you send more or not. As far as legal action is concerned, he bought the pictures and can do what he wants. What you need to do is cut off all communication with him and never send nudes. It can only cause trouble.
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Are you recognizable in the photo's? For the future, when you send picks over the internet make sure the pic does not show your face or any identifying marks that you may have on your body. Also don't tell these guys your real name. Use your middle name or just a fake name until enough time has passed and these guys have really proved to you that you can trust them.
What he is doing is definitely harassment. Weather it's enough to be against the law where you live would depend on your state laws. Here is a website where you can lookup your state and read about the laws for cyber harassment where you live.
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You can always play the blackmail game with him which would mean. You say "go ahead and do it, I'm filing a police report against you for making threats and cyber harassment." There is a chance he will get scared and just stop but, you obviously run the risk of him posting the pictures. If your not easily identifiable in the photos it shouldn't matter that much. It's also not that big of a deal if he doesn't know your real name.
Where would he be posting them? If he is posting them on FB you can block him, so it's impossible for him to tag you in anything. On face book you can also report photo's as abusive or harassment and Facebook will take them down. Similar mechanisms should be in place on all social media. There should always be an option to report a photo or select help and write to them about your problem.
If your worried that he is going to be posting them on pornography sites, they are not going to be so generous about taking them down. However if you report to the site that your underage in the photo (under 18) it's technically illegal child pornography and they have to take it down.
Does he know your real name? Could he attach your photo with your face and your name all together? In other words... If someone (like a potential employer) googles your name could he find the photos?
If this is the case, your a bit more screwed. If your really young right now and your name is fairly common don't worry about it. I have never had any dirty photo's of me posted on the internet and pornography still comes up when my name is typed into google. Just because I have a common name and so there are bound to be people sharing it that are doing porn. When my employers research me on the internet they don't even look at that stuff. They look for things related to my work or they look at my face book act or something like that.
The worse case scenario is the pictures get posted (and it's actually not that big of a deal). This happens to many people!! It's fairly common in the adult world to have pictures your not comfortable with floating around the internet. It happens to many people and only rarely comes back to bite you in the ass later.
Whatever you do, don't let this guy blackmail you!!! It's better to spend a couple nights searching for your photos on the internet and reporting them to get them taken down one by one. It's a slow process but you can probably get most of them. From now on, BE SMART when sexting strangers. You are cute and beautiful and they are lucky that you would even consider sending them your photo's. That means its your way or the highway. Any photos' with your face in them cannot be sexually incriminating. and sexy photos cannot include your face. If they don't like identity safe photo's they don't deserve to get them. Tell them that your name is blake or chad or something made up. And avoid ever having to deal with this again.
Good luck honey, I hope it goes well.
Good luck honey,
Let me know how it goes.
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Hi! First of all how old are you and you should NOT be sending nudes to guys. And I'm not sure if the police can do anything. Do your parents now about this?
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Probably not.
Here's the thing. You voluntarily sold him naked pictures of yourself. He is allowed to do whatever he wants with them.
You could, maybe call the police on grounds of extortion. I mean... he's kind of blackmailing you, but I'm not sure they would really care. Maybe the cybercrimes division? You can always see what they can do, and at worst you'd be no better off than right now.
I say you bite the bullet and let him post it. Yes... it will be on the internet forever, but it will fade off into the millions of naked people on the internet and the chances someone you know will find it are slim. But that's just me.
What's important is NOT TO SEND THIS GUY ANYTHING ELSE.
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Yes the police could help
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What is the worst that happen if he posts them? A lot of celebs have had nudes pics splashed all over the internet and it wasn't even their real bodies. This happens a lot and honestly if it was me(and believe me at my age you never want this to happen) I would call his bluff. It does sound like he has quite a racket going so I believe I would turn him in before he hurts anyone else.If they search him and find others or God forbid underage photos he will be arrested and prosecuted. I know this seems awful but there are far worse things than being seen naked. Fess up to friends and family if they find out and then consider it a lesson learned. Everyone makes mistakes,it is part of the growing process. No one has a right to judge you and you have the right to tell them so!
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You should tell the police. Don't be bashful in front of them,tell them what the issue is. Although it's unnecessary for me to say you did a very reckless thing.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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If you're under 18 he will be arrested for child pornography. If you are 18 or over I'm pretty sure the police wouldn't be able to do anything because you are considered an adult and fully aware of your actions. What led you to stop sending nudes to him all of a sudden? Nevertheless, this is a lesson learned & I wish you the best. <3
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This isn't a criminal matter. Do not go to the police. You sold him pictures, so what are the police going to do? Break into his house and take them back? They can't do that. The pictures are his property because you sold them to him. He can legally do whatever he wants with them now. It's not blackmail at all.
Unless you have a contract in writing with him that a condition of him purchasing the pictures is that he will not share them, there's absolutely nothing that you can do about it, ever. Him saying "yeah, okay" in a chat isn't enough. Even if you do have a legal contract, it might not matter. If and once he does post them online, they're there forever. At that point, it would be a civil matter and you could try going after him for money, but there's little chance that you'd win. You don't need me to tell you that you did something really stupid. You know that it was. A judge would know too.
Are you a minor? If so, contacting the police would be a horrific idea because you could get into trouble for selling child pornography, which is rather serious. Besides the fact that they wouldn't legally be able to get involved, the police have much more serious issues to deal with than someone being upset over the very foreseeable consequences to a really stupid decision.
I am very sorry that this is happening to you. We often don't realize or we choose to ignore the possible consequences of our actions when we're in the moment. Unfortunately, you're not alone. This happens to a lot of people. The laws need to catch up to the times. They haven't yet.
There's a good chance that the guy is bluffing and isn't going to do anything. He's getting off on the power that he thinks he has over you. Take that power away by refusing to send him anything else. If he's really going to put them online, he's going to do it whether you send him more pictures or not. It would be best if there were fewer. Rather than saying "no", come up with a bunch of fake excuses. My camera isn't working, my Internet connection is acting up, I can't get a minute alone, I have the flu, I dropped my phone in the toilet and can't afford a new one for a month, etc. He might lose interest on his own. There's a small chance that you're the only person that he's doing this to and he'll focus his efforts on the others if it starts to be too much effort to get anything from you. Good luck.
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Yes, the police can handle it. I suggest contacting the police before he does anything worse.
Good luck and take care,
Christina.
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Yes you can report him to the police and you should. It is quite possible your pictures are not the only ones he has. It may be also possible that the some of pictures he has are of girls or children under 18. IF so he will be arrested for having or being in the possession of child pornography as well as blackmail.
To prove blackmail you will need to have, hopefully, emails he sent you. If he did send emails hopefully he saved them. If you haven't maybe the police will find a way to help you get the proof they need.
Whatever you do don't send him any money or any more pictures. By sending him money he has you hooked to send him more and greater amounts of money and nothing says he won't distribute your pictures anyway,
File a police complaint today is the best way to handle this.
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