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I have been dating my boyfriend for one and a half years now. He was in the same college, two years elder. Passed out the year we started dating and started working. We haven't ever had major problems except for once when he couldn't clear a major exam and his parents blamed it on his distraction because of me but we eventually got back because he got a good job and he loved me.

We just spent the last ten days together on a holiday with his friends and a couple of mine and then at his place alone for a couple of days.
We got into a petty fight two days back and he told me he really thinks we should see new people. He feels since I'm just 19 and he's 22 there is a lot more in life then getting serious for each other.

I let him be for a day and when we met next to talk this out he said he doesn't want to see new people. He was just saying that to make me angry. But he feels like we should break up because he thinks relationships are restrictive and he feels bound and he can't be himself. He told me he wants to still be with me and do all the things we used to do like go out for dinners, watch movies etc but he can't be physical with me. He feels when we do he gets too emotionally attached to me and he doesn't want that .We are too into each other.

He accepted that he still loves me and will because I'm a huge part of his life and he doesn't want to feel this way for any other girl. But right now he feels like he isn't fit for relationships and he can't see himself in one ever, even in the future. He knows i'd wait for this to work out but he said he didnt want to give me false hopes. He would try to make this work out too but right now he cant.

He feels now that we are bound by a relationship he would be able to express his feelings better in front of me. He loves me as much as he loves him mom and best friends and he wants me to be there but he said he can live without the sex.

We agreed on neither breaking up or dating. And I couldn't accept calling this a friendship so we just agreed on not defining it till he clears his head. But I can't stop feeling hurt and insecure.

I love him. But I can't understand what happened to him suddenly. What am I supposed to do? I'm in a delimma because I want him and this relationship back. Is there a chance ? Is this just a phase and should I just play along by giving him time?

He is breaking up with you but he is doing it the long way round because he doesn't want to hurt you. Which is sweet of him, but the end result will be the same.

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I feel scared to ask my parents for a snapchat facebook Kris even an instagram because of how over protective they are what should I do

Set it up yourself? What's stopping you? If you are old enough to create your own accounts on social media, then there is no reason why you can't do it without asking their permission.

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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything?

Just ignore him and stop responding to his messages.

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can kissing and fingering causes late periods

No

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Do your calories "reset" each day? For example: Say that I ate 2,500 calories today. 1,500 of them are burnt off, are the other 1,000 are stored as fat? Are the leftover 1,00 still there the next day for me to burn off or do I just have more fat? I'm trying to lose weight so this is really important, thanks!!!!

People block off calorie intake and output into daily chunks because it makes things easier to calculate, but your body doesn't really care about any of that as it is an organic entity, not a machine! Some people break it down into weeks so they have say 14,000 calories for the week and then they "save" calories for the weekend if they know they are going to a party or something.

Saving calories to spend at the weekend is ok to do but don't starve yourself just so you can binge at the weekend.

I would advise against trying to make back a deficit the day after you overeat (i.e. you ate too much one day so you eat less the next day) because this will soon trap you in a horrible cycle of bingeing and starving that is difficult to get out of.

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hi i m rachel from china. when i and my twin sister was 7 months old my parents divorced and my mom left soon for europe. I stayed with my maternal grandparents but my mothers brothers never liked it, and took my grandmother away when i was 16, and my grandfather died when i was 13. I had a tough childhood and then i and my sister were thrown out of the house at the age of 16. We lived in a rented apartment. My mothers asks for money from her brothers and she pays the fees, she is very rude and always gets her way. She never listens to me and my sister and always says that she wont send any money for university . I always try to have a bond but she is too strict . She is emotionally and physically abusive. I have just stayed with her for a year. she is a narcissist . I feel lonely and sad. And my family is very traditional and non supportive, she blames me for her divorce and says she never wanted kids, i just keep quiet. whenever she calls she shouts. I just feel i had good parents and a good family.

You mother is the problem here so it's probably best to avoid contacting her where possible. Don't listen to anything she says about the choices she made when she was younger - you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Can you speak to your uncles directly about the financial support you need? Remember that you and your sister are a team, and you will always be there for each other. Look to each other for emotional support when things get tough. Remember there is always pleasure and peace to be had, even if it is simply going for a walk outside.

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Hi I'm gabi, I'm 19 years old and a fairly healthy young adult. the only problem I have is ulcerative colitis.. if you don't know what that is, I basically have to restrict dairy and white flour because those are my "irritants." which basically means if I eat food containing milk or white flour I will poop JUST blood. it makes me VERY faintish so I try to avoid those foods as much as possible.. but I'm kinda scared because sometimes I'll give in and eat something that I know will cause me bleeding (it's sooo hard to resist foods that contain these things because so many yummy things contain them) and instead of dealing with the bloody consequence I've made myself get sick. now I'm not bulimic and I actually think I'm too thin now but like I make myself vomit only lonce a week or once every two weeks and it's been happening since May... depending on when I binge into the foods that contain milk and white flour. it's just that the consequence (bloody stool) is THAT disturbing that id rather make myself vomit than have bright red blood spew out of my sphincter. I'm worried I'm gonna develop a heart problem? is that possible for the amount of times I've made myself sick ? I'm so mad at myself. I don't want to die and I'm scared I won't wake up one morning. idk I think I read too many things on the internet. whenever I google the dangers of vomitting it always says "heart problems." like I don't want that!? I have a history of anxiety and I feel like ever since I read the frightening information on the internet about how vomitting causes heart problems I've been starting to give myself ACTUAL palpitations & symptoms of heart problems which I think are from the anxiety.. the only thing that gets me is that what if I'm thinking it's "just my anxiety" when in fact I actually gave myself heart problems..? btw I got an EKG in March after suffering bad palpitations for this same reason ( I was making myself vomit bc of my milk and white flour contaminated food binges) and everything turned out 100% fine even though I felt like I was dying. the vomitting died down in April and some of May but picked up again towards the end of May til now. I already made a promise with myself that I won't do it again but do you think I could have given myself a heart problem that wasn't there in march? PLEASE help.

Throwing up will give you many more problems than heart palpitations. On top of what has been mentioned by adviceman, the stomach acid from throwing will erode your teeth - how do you think that will look? Throwing up could also reduce your fertility and therefore your ability to have children one day, and it can increase your anxiety too! It seems like a lot of negative consequences from bingeing on dairy and white flour, doesn't it?

When you avoid dairy and white flour you are not being deprived - you are in fact making sure that your body is happy and healthy! Would you drink poison? No, of course you wouldn't. But that is effectively what you are doing when you binge on these foods.

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last few day me and my girlfriend doing sex but i did not us condoms because i fuck only her back hole so not pussy and do oral sex so she get pregnent or not

No, your girlfriend can't get pregnant from anal or oral sex.

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So I haven't been taking my birth control faithfully. I haven't took it the last 5 days, & in these past 5 days I've been ovulating. & my boyfriend came over & we had sex & he ejaculated in me. So? The fact I'm just getting off my birth control and I'm ovulating are my chances high? Late it out flat to me. I like honesty lol. I won't be scared by it! But also I just woke up today bleeding is it because I haven't been taking my pills? Cus my period doesn't come until the 20th. & even if I'm bleeding does that mean I can still can get pregnant during the bleeding. Like can the egg & sperm still survive because he came in me just last night.

Sperm can survive in your body for 2-3 days. Bleeding could be your period, or it could be general bleeding from having sex (if skin inside you has torn during sex).

If you don't want to have a baby then you should get some morning after pills ASAP, but you will know in a few weeks if you are or you aren't pregnant. If you aren't, let this be a lesson to you to take your birth control regularly!

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I am female, of 18 years of age. I am of average height, 5'4" with a naturally thin body and weighing 113lbs. I have always stayed from 112-114, never went up or down like at all. Recently I started college and I wasn't able to eat much. A lot of people kept asking me if I was anorexic and it made me feel really bad. I AM NOT. I love food! I make weird mixes and everything. Whenever I get anxious or nervous though my appettite is very low. It's not my fault. It's not like I tell my body to do such things. Is there any way for me to gain my appettite even when I'm nervous? I have to walk a lot and that coupled with low nutrition will end up killing me, I need some help with this problem while I get used to my new life.

Start by eliminating anything that reduces appetite, like coffee and cigarettes etc. If you drink a lot of fluid during the day then reduce that as well. Then, aim to eat a lot of smaller meals and increase your carbohydrate intake (potatoes, rice, fruit etc).

Try that for a few weeks and see if it helps.

If not, then the next thing to do would be to "disguise" extra calories in the food you are eating, so if you are eating low fat versions of things then switch to full fat, add olive oil and dressings to your dishes, aim to eat more calorie-dense food such as salmon instead of tuna, choose fattier cuts of meat, use cheese as a garnish etc.

Then of course you will need to work on your anxieties - these will be particular to your situation but think about working on confidence by having more social interactions, reframing situations in a more positive light, identifying those things that make you anxious and confronting them or practising being around them so they don't make you as nervous.

Hope this helps :)

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I currently got into college (haven't taken my first classes yet though) and went for the Geology Department because finding a job with this major is easy and pays good, plus I think its a bit interesting. However I originally wanted to go for an English Major, perhaps making a double major in the future in plastic arts and making a small certificate in cinematography. I have a lot of insecurities and one of them is my future. Could I find a good job with my actual passion? Should I just follow my heart like a lot of cheesy commercials say? My parents are neck deep with debts and I want to be a good daughter to them - they raised me, I think its only fair that in the future I repay them by helping them pay their debts too. Also, my best friend is going for a physics major and I recall my father various times saying how I should go for what she went because in the future I could get a good job and get well payed. I suppose some of my inferiority complexes come from having such a smart, independent friend who has had much more triumphs than I have. Back to the topic, should I change majors... or stick with this one considering everything I said/wrote?

Whatever decision you make should be based off what YOU want to do, not what you feel you owe your parents, or what you think about your friend and her accomplishments. Think about 10 years from now: are you going to be sitting in your geology job thinking, wow thank goodness I don't have to worry about money and can spend my free time pursuing my other interests of art & cinematography - or will you be working in a small independent art house thinking, I'm so lucky I get to do what I love every single day, even if it means I can't buy everything I want to?

Or, is it possible to find financial security in the area you are passionate about?

Have you spoken to people working in both fields and asked them? That might be a good place to start.

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My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).

Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.

I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).

My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.

She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.

My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).

Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).

So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own.

Try to find another job that will pay enough to support you and you alone. Once you have that, move away from your mother and sister and into your own place. If you struggle to find a job that will support you then contact your dad and see if he will take you in while you sort yourself out.

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You answered my question about making a job change recently. After initially accepting the offer, I recanted and turned it down. Later that day the HR Manager left me a voicemail stating management really liked me and wanted to sweeten the offer. I called this morning. Instead of making an offer, she asked me what it would take to get me to come. I gave her a number that was 6% more than what Iwas offered, but still well within the stated salary range. She later sent an email saying she gave the proposal to management and that they were going to pursue other candidates. They didn't even make a counter offer, and said they really didn't think I wanted the job. I thought it was bizarre.

Not really sure what your question is here. Why did you turn the job down, was it because of pay? If so and you'd only accept it at 6% higher than they offered, then sure - you didn't really want the job unless they paid you more. Sounds like a fair enough comment from them. If you turned it down for some other reason that gives even more weight to the perception that you didn't really want the job. Does it really matter though? Move on, find something else :)

Edit: Your feedback to me was "Yes you idiot, I turned it down because it made no sense to move and start a new job. I would have lost money doing that". So you didn't really want the job. Yes? Still not really understanding what you are asking or what you are hoping to get out of this.

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15/f and I have a few questions about having pubic hair. I don't have wax available to me so I do shave it but that area gets really irritated and forms bumps of red and is really rough unlike the skin on my legs or underarms when they are shaved. Also, in which direction is it better to shave the pubic region? Sorry this is awkward

In addition to rainhorse68's advice - have you considered hair removal creams? I also have the same problem as you in that my skin gets really irritated after shaving that area so I use Nair, but there is also Veet and probably other brands you can try. You apply the cream, leave it for 10-15 mins and then scrape it off. Usually they supply a plastic scraper or you can just use your nails (but don't be too rough!). Maybe give a cream a go if you still have problems with shaving.

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Hi there. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for several months now, (8 to be exact.)
I'll get straight to the point. So basically, I am her second boyfriend, and she's absolutely crazy about me. As of recent, she calls me her "partner" and soulmate. I feel extremely uncomfortable, and I don't feel the same way when she expresses these things. We have had arguments here and there, and when I suggest the thought of breaking up/leaving her. She starts crying, getting all emotions and saying things such as: "I don't want to ever lose you, I'd be in pain for the rest of my life, etc etc. I can't handle this anymore, and quite frankly, it's annoying. I'm afraid that if I break up with her, her parents will possibly take revenge on me. (Paranoid I know.) Seeing as I have a good relationship with them. Also, seeing as my girlfriend has her grade HSC trials (Here in Australia.) I don't want to leave her in a position where she stops functioning, and going to school.
What should I do?

Just break up with her! People break up with each other all the time, it's part of life. Don't worry about her parents - unless her previous boyfriend disappeared mysteriously in which case call the cops! :)

If you really think she wouldn't cope and would mess up her HSC trials (whatever those happen to be!) then you could wait until after she's done them, but honestly it really isn't your problem. She needs to learn that she can't use emotional blackmail to get people to stay with her.

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i am a female and i have a boyfriend. i'm almost 17 and he's 16. we've been together for 5 months now. i went to a guy's house, we did have a short fling, but it's over now and he ended up trying to pressure me into things, i continuously repeated i didn't want to cheat and even ended up crying over it in front of him, but that didn't stop him and he threatened to make me walk home, i was about 40 minutes from my house and had no clue where i was. so i got scared and allowed him to do some things to me..i never kissed him or touched him. then he got rather aggressive at one point and had me pinned against the wall, my back to him and arms behind my back held by his body, pulled my hair back hard and place his hand over my neck. at that point i was frightened if i didn't let him go farther he'd do it anyway and well i got him to agree to keep all clothes on and nothing goes inside of me. well the next day i told my boyfriend, he was quite pissed and yelled at me, telling me how stupid i was and that i cheated..i honestly have no clue what to do because i NEED to make it up to him and at the same time i feel like he should break up with me. also i want him to hold me and tell me it's okay and that i'm safe, yet i don't want to be touched ever again.....what do i do about everything?

It's not clear from your question whether the short fling you had was while you were with your boyfriend or not, and you also didn't say why you were at his house to begin with. Think about it from your boyfriends point of view - it does look bad I'm afraid, like you're trying to cover up cheating by blaming this other guy for forcing you into something.

The best you can do is explain what happened to your boyfriend, tell him how it has affected you in terms of being touched etc, and make him completely certain that you will NEVER see this other guy again. The rest is going to be up to your boyfriend: he may want to stay with you or he may not but that is up to him. At least if you do break up you will know not to put yourself in that position again.

In the meantime you should phone a rape crisis line or contact voluntary counseling services such as the Samaritans who can help you work through what has happened to you. If you are still with your boyfriend then ask him to be patient with you while you deal with it.

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2 friends (females and I'm also a female we are all 11) tease me, but not involving weight, looks, religion, stuff like that, it's more like saying no to something, then doing it anyway, and sometimes they'll just separate themselves unless I come to them and then there was this:
Friend: I once met Bethany Mota, I hugged her.
Me: wasn't she freaked out?
Friend: no, she's used to it, everyone hugs her, and she's not cracky and rude like you!

I don't think of myself as cracky and rude, if I'm anything in that category it's stubborn and short tempered. And those friends aren't perfect, one is insecure and and immature, the other hates almost everything, and sees Miley Cyrus as a role model, which speaks for itself. I tease them too.

You don't like it when you friends tease you then why do you do it to them? It sounds like all of this is coming from you and your friends' insecurities. Work on building each other up and everyone will be much happier. Compliment them, treat them well, point out their good characteristics. Soon they will do the same for you.

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I broke my leg and I am layed up in bed for a while. What do I do to loose weight, because I can't work out. I've been eating alot moe too, because I
m bored. What should I do to stay thin?

If you want to loose weight when you can't work out then you need to control your eating. Find something else to keep you entertained - TV, crossword puzzles, computer games, books, visitors etc. If you have someone bringing you food in bed, ask them to help you but either not bringing you so much, or bringing you different foods like vegetables to snack on.

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So I'm a 35 y/o f and I met a younger guy (24) on a dating website. He told me straight out that he was only looking to hook up was not looking for anything serious. I was very attracted to him so I agreed to this. Needless to say me being the emotional person I am, I did develop feelings for him after only a few times getting together. When I told him this (through text bc who talks in person anymore? Lol) he was nice but said we should probably end things. I told him I'd still wanted to see him but it was up to him. His response was "let's take a break" that was a few weeks ago and I haven't heard from him. Should I just consider this over? Or should I still cling to that small hope he'll contact me.? I'm so confused....

I agree with the other responses so far: it's over. He most likely said "taking a break" because he wanted to end the conversation in the easiest way because you were pushing to stay together, even after he said you should end things. He was up front with you about not wanting a relationship, so don't hope for him to contact you. Time to move on!

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i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
thanks in advance.

You need to think about why you are feeling this way. If you are just friends now then why is the thought of her being with other people bothering you?

Could it be that you are annoyed that you didn't get blown off but other men did? Is that her issue or yours?

Why would you fear talking to a woman about her previous sexual experiences?

You are coming across as quite judgemental of this woman and her behaviour. It also sounds like you have a lot of jealousy still but this is most likely because you have broken up recently and still have feelings for her.

Do your best to move on from this relationship. It's not a good idea for you to be with her if you are going to judge her this much. Find someone else and stop worrying about what she is up to in Aruba, as it doesn't (and shouldn't) affect you.

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