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How to get my husband to quit smoking
I wish mt husband didn't smoke. We've been talking about him quitting for some time now and it seems like every time we do, he just gives me some excuse as to why he can't quit at the moment. He always says he'll quit when he's ready and big surprise, he's never ready. There's always some reason or stress as to why he can't quit. Not only is it hurting his health (and mine to an extant), it's an expensive habit that I don't like condoning. Any advice as to how I could help him quit would be much appreciated. Thanks!
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He has to want to quit on his own. It's sounds weird but if you are always going on about it then it might be making him want to smoke MORE. It took me a long time to stop smoking but when I finally made the decision that I wanted to stop, it was easy. I read Allan Carr's Easy Way which helped me a lot, with the change of mindset required to quit. The problem is you can't just shove a book in his face and expect an instant result.
I know a lot of friends have finally quit because they have kids and they don't want to harm them with the smoke, and also they have decided they need to be healthy for their family. You would need to subtley show him that his health (or lack of) will have an effect on his family down the line.
Basically it is a question of desire to stop but he has to find that within himself.
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That's a tough one. But when it is affecting your health, you have a right and a say as to some rules that you expect him to follow. Its even more important if there are children being forced to be around cigarette smoke. You can tell him to not smoke indoors. And when outdoors, a good distance from windows or doors where it can drift back in. You can't do anything to make him want to quit for his own good. This is an addiction like many others and require the individual wanting to quit. To know how to best support and encourage him, it might be good to look into a support group. I know there are support groups for family members of an alcoholic, so I am sure there must be something like that in Nicotine Anonymous (used to be Smokers Anonmymous) Here is link to their website:
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Good luck dear.
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