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lesbian virginity questions (no homophobia)
So I am 17 my gf being 16 things are a little complex. So to cut the middle story out I am not gonna beat around the bush I want to take her virginity. I am a lesbian. She like the idea of sex and stuff it's just me penetrating her just turns her off. To answer questions. She is ready I am ready i am not used to dating virgins I have a strapon I wish to use with her it is named tiger she likes to give oral with tiger cause she knows I like it. Problems: she told me she rarely gets wet, we have done some things like dry hump I can come she has never came, what if she bleeds, what if she breaks up with me, where do I take her first time, what if I hurt her worse then normal, what is gonna happen,
Please help a baby lesbian out
No homophobia !!!!
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If your girlfriend is a virgin and she is scared of penetration, first things first is to make her wet. Try focusing on her clitorus. Finger and use oral to stimulate her clit. That should make her really wet. Try mixing it up with a little dry humping. If she is scared of penetration from a strapon try penetrating her vagina with your fingers first. Try to stretch out her vagina with smaller objects before putting something as big as a strapon inside of her. Sadly the first time is almost always painful for women. So take it slow and one step at a time. Also try and wait a couple of more years before you have sex with your girlfriend. It is not wise to have underage sex with your partner. I would hate for you to be a victim of statutory rape. Plus the both of you are so young. Anyway hope my advice helps. Hope you have a long lasting relationship with your girlfriend. Take care.
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Dear Baby lesbian,
If the act of your penetrating her turns her off, you should not attempt it if you value her companionship and the intimacy that you now enjoy. She will certainly resent your aggressiveness and in all probability will withdraw from you. Her virginity is hers to give as she pleases and not for anyone to take.
If the penetrating use of "tiger" is an important ingredient of your sexual expression, I would recommend that you pursue those potential partners who do not object to its use.
My advice would be for you to treat her in a patient, gentle, caring and loving way and wait for her to respond. In her own time and place she may give you more than you expect in return.
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The attached article is meant for guys but it will work just as well for you. Whether you're taking a girls virginity or a guy the mechanics are and the cautions are the same.
The name Tiger for your dildo makes me thing it may be an oversized one. This is where you have it over a guy. A guy can do nothing about the size of his penis bit try and be gentle. I would suggest you find a dildo that is average or under average size when taking your GF virginity as it will be a bit more comfortable for her.
Since she has a problem getting wet spend plenty of time on foreplay and use a lube such as KY Jelly, available at most drug stores, as an extra lubricant on the dildo.
Be patient not matter what you do the first penetration is going to hurt. Remember your first time, and she probably will bleed if her Hymen is still intact. This is normal.
Do not rush her into this. Make sure she is comfortable not only in where you are or the position and what you chosen to put her on. Make sure you are safe from being intrude upon. all of this will help lessen her anxiety and make for a better experience for her.
If you are patient and pay attention to her and her concerns the other things you worry about should not come to pass. Just remember what it was like for you and don't do the things you didn't like. Also on the first penetration stop and allow her to get accustomed to having something in her before you start humping on her.
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def. try to discuss this with her i agree with the last poster.
then try fingering to relax the vaginal walls and then once your ready to use the strap on use LOTS of lube and go SLOW. thats the best advice on taking any females virginity. go by her ques and tell her to tell you if your hurting her just like a girl would tell a guy if it were her first time with a male.
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well first things first, since you both are ready, try discussing your concerns with her. I've had this issue many,many times with an ex of mine. I wanted to take her virginity, I never told her because I wasn't ready but I loved the idea of being her first.
Try vocalizing your concerns with her and see what she says, you've got to communicate, it will help!
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