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I feel scared to ask my parents for a snapchat facebook Kris even an instagram because of how over protective they are what should I do
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I would explain first of all what this account is and allows the account holder to do. Then see what they say.
As long as you are old enough by Facbook's policy to be on the site it should be okay. What I would do is give your parents the password to the account, list of friends and the opportunity to see what you are posting before you put it up for others to see.
Even if you set your account to post for a certain time and then automatically erase to my knowledge other people can take snapshots of what you put up or forward them to others without knowledge. As long as you are responsible and think about what should or shouldn't be posted and allow parents to monitor than it should be alright.
They may not see it that way so don't get annoyed. If they see you have a mature reaction in the future their stance on it could change.
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I have never used Snapchat or Instagram, those being newer than Facebook, the only social online venue i have used. But from hearing from teens, they have very often not made the best decisions in what they have posted in photos or comments and got into trouble where peers bullied and teased and taunted them and broadcast what should have been private to the whole school which was traumatizing and made their life miserable, especially at a time when young people are wanting so badly to be liked for themselves and accepted by others and worried about how they come across to others.
As a parent myself, I can understand their concern. However, if you are not given some allowance, leeway within to learn how to make the best decisions as you are working your way towards adult hood as a older child or teen, you may end up not prepared to be on your own one day and make good decisions of your own. Those two programs weren't around when my girls started using the computer. They all started first with getting their own emails and then moving on to using facebook. I would come by several times to overlook what they were doing on their computer and ask them to show me what they had been doing. Therefore I knew when my oldest at 13 had a crush on a 12 yr old boy she met online. She would show me what he wrote to her and then show me what she had written up to send back to him including what pics she wanted to send. It may seem a bit invasive to you but my girls knew I just wanted to see that they could consistantly for a couple years make good decisions as to what they did and posted, because I loved them and this was a good balance to giving them some freedom to begin using the computer for social purposes while at the same time I monitored what they were doing so that I felt comfortable knowing that for the most part they were being guided by me and therefore mostly protected. You might discuss something like this with the parents, their having access to check your accounts anytime they want to for a specified amount of time.
If you can show them when they are not monitoring your internet social sites, that you will on your own come to Mom or Dad and mention what a girl or guy said to you and ask them what they think about it and how you should respond...especially if it has to do with a guy asking you to do something like sexting, or even friends inviting you to parties, to smoke or drink, skip school, whatever it is that you darn well know better about if your parents have been teaching you right. It is hard to refrain from responding if someone dis'es you or is prompting you to stretch beyond the rules or boundaries. If you can gain your parents trust by using them as a sounding board and going to them with things that you feel that uncomfortable nervous feeling in your stomach about, where your conscience is not feeling good about, you will find your parents learn to gain trust in you from your consistantly doing well and not messing up on the internet.
Try having that talk. If the moment you bring it up they shut you out and say no before listening to you, then write them a letter. I was guilty of reacting before listening fully, but seldom...I learned quickly to treat my kids as individuals with every right to be heard out as me. I wish you the best.
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What's up, OP?!
Having no freedom to interact and share your stuff can be irritating, especially if you have no intention of doing anything shady. Maybe show your parents examples of 'clean' Instagram and Snapchats to assure them that you'll be doing something similar. (Ex: food, fashion, or scenery blog. With Snapchat: have your friends send you silly/clean stuff) This is just to prove that what you'll be posting/sending is clean and whatnot. Of course it doesn't mean you need to be posting food, fashion, etc; on your Instagram, you are just sending them the message that what you'll be doing is totally harmless.
Before you do any of that, just as and assure them that you will be careful. If they are cool with it, then you don't need to waste your energy showing them clean examples of Instagrams and Snapchats. Best of luck!
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Well you never know unless you ask. They're probably afraid that something bad will happen. But as long as you know how to protect yourself on social media,you will be fine. Just sit down and talk with them,but make sure you let them know that you will be careful and protect yourself.
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Hi there. Parents, well, they can be very restrictive sometimes. You should go up to your parents and tell them, (if you are 13 or older) that you are a teenager now and you are responsible enough to be safe online. If you are 12 or under, I'm sorry but I can't help you. You can also bring up the fact that everyone has a snapchat, kik, instagram, and so on. You need to tell them who's boss and that you are ready to take on something fun, but you will be mature and responsible about it. I really hoped this helped. If you need any more advice, check out my page and I will answer anything. Good luck!
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I used to be in your position back in the day when myspace was the thing. Eventually I realized I was my own person and as long as I knew how to make good decisions for myself, I was fine. You should do the same.
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Be bold and ask your parents.
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I think that you should be honest, that you should tell them that you want one to talk to friends on. Sushi on instagram and Facebook they have a lot of blocks and censors to put on your account to prevent offensive or inappropriate things to pop up on your timeline. They also have that on twitter. If that doesn't work ask them to make one with you that way they can see what you are doing but it may again also give them a chance to like it too. I hope this helped.
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My parents don't like me having social media either. You'll just have to ask them. If you're okay with it, tell them they can have your password. Mine do and its all fine because i don't post things my parent's would disprove of.
just be honest "I would really like to be on social media because it would be easier to be in contact with my friends and or family members in other states."
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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Give them the password for each account so they can monitor who you are interacting with and that you can be trusted. That's one way of showing responsibility.
Be aware also if you are under 14 that these sites won't give you an account and verify age. Also, listen to your parents about their concerns and when they make a decision no matter what it is handle it with maturity. That may lead them to reconsider when they think you're ready for it.
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I can't be to helpful on this because I already know that I'm not getting a facebook or anything till I move out my Mom's house. Even if I was 23 it would still be no. So that was just to let you know your'e not alone. But as far as you go, it can't hurt to face your fears and ask. The most they can say is no. But here are a few tips. More like common knowledge but whatever.
1. Let them know that your more than okay with them having your password. (and even if your not...just act like it you are.)
2. Suggest that they themselves get a facebook and like you so whenever you post something....it pops up on their phone.
3. Never show attitude. EVEN if they say yes then set some unfair rule to go alone with it. Instead of showing attitude or trying to change their minds about the rule just decide if you still even want the account once all the rules are laid down.
4.Never try to change their minds about rules.
5. Never break rules even if you think they won't know.
Now what is the reason for numbers 3,4,and 5? Because when you asked for something new and you break tips number 3,4,5 it reflects the next time you ask for something. Really does takes away your change of getting what you want now and in the future. ( I know this.) Also when dealing with over protective parents you really have to go lightly. I hope I helped. Good Luck :)
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Ask them if you can have one and allow them to have access to the account so they ca see you aren't doing anything wrong.
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If you are underage, it is best to ask for your parents' permissions first even if they are protective.
Start by telling them about the social media you want to register to (calmly), explain to them for it is and finally ask them if you can use it.
Maybe tell them where you got the idea of joining a social media, from your friends, or someone close, that someone your parents know also has it, etc.
Tell them that you know that using these medias might be risky, and you're well aware of the danger, let them know that you understand the negative sides of these medias to reassure them that you're not doing something reckless.
If they still refuse, continue to ask them, or maybe bring in your grades, if you have good grades. 'I study and work hard as you want me to, but when I ask these little favors, you can't let me' (I don't really recommend this, but it did work with my parents, I was 13 then).
Lastly, if they insist on not letting you.
Get serious. By serious I don't mean, start screaming and breaking things.
But calmly talk to them with a serious expression.
That's all I could think of.
Hope it helps.
[I used these methods with my parents, and surprisingly it worked]
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How old are you? You should catch them when they in a good mood and simpily ask, or tell.them you wish to to talk to them together. break it to them mildly that you want to ge granted access to Facebook or Snapchat, and let them know that you do not plan to abuse the privilages, understand that most children rebel against their parents at a certain age, and some parents dont discuss rules of the house allowing children.to do what they want ,howt they want. Children like those types rarely get disciplined. Be especially proud you have parents that are protective, because thats a sign they love you and care for you. Oneday you will look back and be thankful that you was.raised to.know right and wrong. Show them what i said. Also, talk to them , tell them what you wanna do, im quite sure your parents will grant you your wish.
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Be honest with your parents. If you go behind their back they will not be able to trust you with anything. Ask them if you can speak to this young and if so ask them to be nearby so they can see your conversation. I say this so that your parents will feel better and they will give you trust. Then you will be able to have private time with your friend. I know it stinks kinda. But they are your parents. Be blessed!
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My parents are liked that. I just got one anyway XD
I have snapchat facebook and instagram. And my parents have noooo clue :P
They don't really need to know you have them do they?
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dont do it yet . itll change everything .
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Just ask them and see what they say, the worst thing they can say is no in which case you may just need to show them that you are trustworthy and careful. I am assuming you are quite young and if this is the case in some respects I could understand why your parents might be against the idea as social networking media is great for meeting people but it also has its down sides too because of the type of people you can come across on them. You should speak to your parents and see what they say and explain to them what each of those apps is about and how they work because you may need to explain this to your parents as they may only have ever heard of the negatives about them all in the media (TV, News etc) but know nothing else about them (like being able to keep your profiles/accounts private or hidden). See how it goes and if they say no just tell them you understand and try again further down the line.
I mean the first thing you should really ask yourself is WHY you need either of those? Is it just because everyone else seems to have them? To keep in touch with friends/family who have them? To meet nee people? Other than wanting to keep in touch with friends and family the other two reasons in my opinion are not the best of reasons to have them especially if you are young as, like I said before, you will unwittingly attract bad elements on there so ideally you need to ask yourself why you need them.
Regardless of what your parents say just remember they are only being so overprotective because they care about you. For any parent to see their child hurt or suffer is a very, very painful thing for them to have to go through and its the last thing they could ever want. It may stress you out sometimes with how over protective they are but try just remember they are trying as best they can to keep you safe and sometimes that does mean they have to say no to you and come out looking like they are the bad or unfair ones.
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How old are you? On this basis your parents will decide about you...
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Set it up yourself? What's stopping you? If you are old enough to create your own accounts on social media, then there is no reason why you can't do it without asking their permission.
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Bring it up slowly. Say that you feel disconnected from other kids your age and that you want to start taking more responsibility, but with guidance. Start with whichever one you think will be least scary for your parents. My guess is that it would be Facebook. Facebook has been around for awhile and there are a lot of adults using it too. It's less scary because it's more well-known. Tell your parents that you really want to do this, but that they would be able to monitor your every move. This means that they would have your password and would be able to check what you were doing at any time. I think that as long as you allow this, they'll let you have the account. After some time has passed and you're doing well with it, nothing is going wrong, and you've completely earned their trust, you can discuss the possibility of more privacy with the account. It would suck a little, but it's better than not having it at all and it shows your parents that you understand the dangers so much that you're willing to give them complete access in order for you to be safe. This isn't the best scenario, but it's a way to get your foot in the door. Good luck!
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Well it depends on how old you are. If you are in high school, just get social media and protect your privacy through the settings. Parents may be hesitant because they don't want creepers stealing your personal information. Always be careful with what you post on the internet and you will be fine.
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Is there anything that you will be doing wrong on it if not ask them and if they are over protective tell them to add you on it so that they can see that your not doing anything wrong and if you are doing something you could always make one for friends and family then make one for just friends under a nick name or any random name tell me how that goes good luck
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sometimes parents can be overprotective because they want the beset for us. But, they are your parents and you should not be afraid. my mom was very overprotective of me when i was younger and i never understood why. now, that i am older, i understand a little bit more. i'm not saying that it justifies all her actions... i just understand a little better. Now... if you are afraid to talk to them because you are afraid of their reaction... you can start off by telling them that. tell them that you are HESITANT (don't use the word afraid because it was generate a defensive response)... but that you are hesitant to talk to them because you don't know what their reaction will be. but, that you intend to be responsible. it is just a means for you to socialize. you could also write them a letter. i think that might help because you can sort out all your feelings and write them down without any interruption or forgetting something. I hope this helped and many blessings to you.
xoxo
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I really can not answer this question. I'm not sure how old you are how ever it does show great responsibility that you are wanting to ask their permission
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Unless they go through your personal space, I don't see why you would need to ask, unless you feel like it's something that you should share with them. Except for Facebook, none of those have an age requirement. I hope the odds are ever in your favor! ;)
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You need to ask, just ask like this: mum dad I know you love me so much and I know you have my best interest in mind but I need to use Facebook and I promises I will not misuse it please please please. I think that will do
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Before you ask permission you must make sure your parents have a clear understanding of what it is you want to do. Some parents are tech savvy and others, not so much! Sometimes it is easier for a parent to say no than to admit to their child they have no clue what these terms mean! Make sure your parents use these apps and understand them, if not then you will have to demonstrate how it works and be able to reassure them you will use it in a responsible manner.If they still say no, react like a mature young adult and ask them what it would take for you to earn this privilege. Just keep in mind no matter what that your parents are overprotective because they love you and they just want to keep you safe! Good luck!
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Ahh, over protective parents... I have lived through this one! Well... you can always try to talk to them, be honest about you wanting one and let them see who you are talking to and what you are posting and who your friends are (this may or may not work depending on how your parents are..) Or you could get them and then later tell your parents about them... No matter what you decide I suggest letting one of your parents know (if you are closer with one than the other). 90% of the time if you hide it, they will find out later down the line and it will be a much bigger issue than asking to get the accounts in the first place. Hope this helped. If you need anything else, feel free to ask.
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It can't hurt to just ask :) you can just explain what they are/how they work and assure them that you will use the apps safely. They can't be mad at you for being honest and asking, and it is better than going behind their backs and just getting the apps anyway. Good luck!
~Holly
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