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Im pregnant and got cheated on before my pregnancy and during.
I have been in a very wonderful relationship for about a year and a half that started on Jan 2013. In august, my partner met someone and became something with her. Only a few times. Took her to his house to have sex a couple of times also. We communicated well, texted always, but i guess he did this while he told me he took naps at home or went to the gym. I was not aware, neither was the other girl. December we decided to have a child. January 2014 i found out i was pregnant. Best news ever and we were both happy, he was always showing love for me, very supportive and was saving money for a home and baby things. But he still had someone else. I graduated highschool during my pregnancy and the next day (June 8th 2014) this girl confronted me. He said he was going to sleep around 10 pm but at 12 he called me saying he had to explain. I asked him one question, if it was true. He said yes. I just turned 6 months of being pregnant. He deleted accounts whede he communicated with this girl ; Instagram, kik, and snapchat. They never texted, called eachothed, she never met his family, never went out to places or spoke about deeper things like him and i did. But they were together while we were together. He already wrote to her saying she didnt deserve what he did to her, but she was an honest mistake that he wishes he could take back, and his number one priority is me. I saw the messege and she also told me right after. I wonder why didnt he just let her go. Not even when he decided to have a child with me.
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I will assume that you and he are around the same age or he is in his early twenties. Men at that age are always questioning their decisions and looking to see if the grass may be greener on the other side of the fence. Be it work, relationship sex or anything else.
This does not make what he did right or even make a for good excuse. He was wrong he played you and this other girl for what he wanted until he was forced to make a choice. Fortunately at you appear to have won THIS TIME.
Will there be another time, I can't say as no one can predict the future. Statistically speaking the odds are that he will cheat on you again. It appears you are willing to forgive him this time. Since the odds are not in your favor I am going to suggest that even if you do take him back you do what is needed to be done to protect you and your baby.
You need to see a lawyer to make sure your boyfriend lives up to his responsibilities as the babies father. This includes child support for you and the baby, Maintaining medical insurance for the baby and Life insurance for himself sufficient to cover these costs until the child is 18. The lawyer will draw up the appropriate papers which the courts will sign making them court ordered.
He will probably say you don't need them, that he will never stray again and he will be a good father to your child. You tell him that's fine, to consider the legal papers a form of a prenuptial agreement.
I cannot nor should I tell you what to do about your boyfriend; that has to be your decision. What I can do and I believe have done is give you my thoughts and advice as to what you need to do and my thoughts on the situation.
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You'll need to ask him.
Maybe he was scared. Maybe he liked the thrill. Maybe he really cared about this girl. Maybe he just thought he could get away with it. Maybe it made him feel horrible and he'll never do anything like it again. Maybe he misses it and he'll do it again as soon as he thinks he can manage it.
We can't know. He might not even know the whole truth of it, but the one you have to turn to with these questions is him. In the end, if you want to be with this man, you'll need to trust what he tells you.
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