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Cousin is making me feel uncomfortable
My cousin is making me feel really uncomfortable. Today we went to my uncles house to watch the soccer match (FIFA 2014) so I was feeling ok. I went to my cousin and asked him a favor if he could download me a movie and pass it to my USB. He said ok so I went upstairs with him and at first he acted all right he asked how i was at school...... Then all of sudden he grabbed my waist pulled me to him closer each time and started touching my back softly! Then he grabbed my hand and kissed it and started like touching my back again it felt disgusting! He asked me if I feel uncomfortable and of course I said YES! Then he left and I just stood there feeling Ughh ! I don't want to tell my parents! Please what else can I do? Help me!
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In the brilliant words of Ms. Celia from Katherine Stockett's "The Help", "I'd hit him over the head with a skillet and tell him to go straight to hell." You do just what Ms. Celia says, except do it with your hand. Telling your parents is up to you, but if he ever tries to do something like that to you again, slap him. Smack him in the face. If he's ever mean to you, just tell him that you know something that he did. I wish the best of luck to you and I wish you would tell your parents, because it is really the right thing to do. I hope this all clears up and you're in my prayers.
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What your cousin did was wrong and I urge you to tell your parents. He stopped when you told him you were uncomfortable. Maybe he stopped because you are a relative and he feared if he went further you would run downstairs and tell his parents or yours. What about the next girl he try's this with and he very well may try this with another girl who many not be so lucky as you were and he rapes her.
This is very possible as this is the behavior of a potential sexual predator. While he will get in trouble should your parents tell his parents. It is the right type of trouble for him to get into for hopefully his parents will also see to it he gets the proper help before he really hurts some other girl and maybe goes to prison.
I'm not writing this to scare you; this is what could happen. Some guys a wired to think they can take whatever they want when they want it, including sex thinking the girl is asking for it. His thinking may have been that your going up to his room was you wanting him sexually. He was wrong but that may have been how he saw it. He needs help and he won't get it if you remain silent.
Tell your parents what happened.
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Go tell your parents because you are innocent of all this.And if he tries to change the blame let them ask your witness (If you have any) but if you don't I Am pretty sure your parents know who you are.
Fight!
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Naturally this is NOT acceptable behaviour. I can appreciate that you are reluctant to go to your parents. You may not need to. Perhaps you could try approaching him yourself. Be as mature and serious as you can and point out to him that what happened here is not acceptable, you found it unwelcome and upsetting and under no circumstances is anything like it ever to happen again. Do not laugh it off or back down suggesting it doesn't matter. But stress that providing he understands and complies with what you've just said then you are prepared to overlook it and will not mention it to him again. Or your parents. Any repeat or attempted repeat and you will inform your parents straight away, explaining everything and he'll have to handle the outcome. This is a good way of taking control of your own life and a positive act of self-determination IF you feel up to it. If you DO NOT feel up to it then simply tell your parents now. Sure, it'll be an awkward and embarrassing moment. But remember that YOU have done NOTHING WRONG here. You did not invite his unwelcome advances and in fact found them very unpleasant. In short you either make an attempt to put things straight yourself first (with the very clear threat that you WILL inform your parents if he even THINKS about stepping out of line again), or enlist the help of parents to put it straight right now. Either way, it's got to stop. Be brave. X
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You may not want to tell your parents but it is the responsible and only action to take. They will NOT be angry with you as you are faultless here and a victim. It's clear the guy has a BIG problem and needs intervention. He could be doing this to other people be them family or not. By saying something you end this potential cycle. He mus be dealt with before he victimizes others or tries with you.
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