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I'm GrinningCheshire
I'm gay btw
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I’m a 13 year old girl. I have a crush on one of my friends, not my best friend or anything but we’re still friends. Recently he told me who he had a crush on (one of my other friends😩) which is a big deal for him because he has a hard time trusting people. But he said he trusted me. Lately we’ve been talking more and he invited me to come over to his house. He invited a couple other friends and well but they couldn’t come. He then asked if I wanted to come alone. We’re in band together so he taught me how to play drums a little. We just sat for a little and talked about random stuff but I felt like it was different than when I hang out with my other friends. Am I reading into nothing??? Does this mean he likes me too? Ps I’m not jealous for my other friend. She doesn’t know that he likes her but I know she doesn’t like him. (link)
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Hello,my dear
I understand that you must've been disappointed when you found that he likes someone else and not you,I mean everyone has in one point in their lives.
But perhaps don't read into it too much perhaps on that one instance,I mean it is just that one instance.Have you considered telling him about your feelings though?
It's going to be hard to get lost in the signs you've let yourself be misled by.
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There's this boy in one of my classes that I sorta fancy. We talk occasionally. We aren't that close, but we aren't just aquatinces either. I've had a crush on him for the past year, and now I'm thinking about confessing. I have social anxiety, and I'm scared I'll panic if I tell him in person, so I thought about writing him a letter. I have so many questions about this, like, should I make it sappy to show him how I feel, or should I keep it at a minimum so I don't make him feel guilty if he doesn't like me back? Should I do it on regular lined paper and just fold it in half, or should I make it a bit more pretty by using stationary? Should I put my name, or the the "Secret Admirer" route? I know I have a lot of questions, but I want this to be perfect! Any advice at all would be amazing! (link)
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Hello dear,
This is actually one of the cutest questions actually =)
As for your question,perhaps as a writer (not famous though haha) the only advice I can give you is that if you're gonna write the love letter is that you go write your heart out regardless of rejection
If you want him to know that you wrote it then go and write your name but if you don't want him to know then you can go and take the Secret Admirer route
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I know this seems like an easy question, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm anorexic or just weight conscious. I'm 4ft 10in and 75 pounds. I try to only eat once a day, but I do make sure I eat once a day. If I eat more than once a day I worry that it'll be noticeable and people will see I've gained weight, but this is because where I work the uniform shows your midriff so I don't want to look bloated. Sometimes if I feel a little bloated I'll purposely suck in or make sure I stand up straight so I look skinnier.
If I eat more than once in a day, then the next day I try hard to eat less. Lately, I've been thinking about working out so my tummy is flatter and I can weigh a little less by burning off the calories I eat. I would kind of like to get down to 60-65 pounds, maybe a little less. I feel like 50 pounds is probably a little extreme though.
I've recently seen a doctor for other things, but I noticed he didn't really mention my weight so I feel like I could still lose some weight and be okay.
I just really don't want to look overweight and I hate that when I sit down there's a little pouch.
I don't ever make myself throw up or anything like that and if I'm really hungry I do eat so I feel like I'm not anorexic.
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Hello my dear,
I wouldn't consider it as anorexia because as you said you don't trigger the vomit...so you may be weight conscious (though ask your doctor also to be sure because I just have a little info on anorexia,a professional may help you better)
As for your food,I would like to reccomend to you to try eating at least two times a day,particularly at breakfast and lunch ( lunch can have a lesser amount of food intake ) and you can only take something lesser at night.So basically like lessen the amount of food as your day goes by so as not to lose nutrients
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so I've started developing feelings for my step bro,our age gap is 6 years and he's in army now while I'm still a student. it all started on a plane flight last year. he sat with me and i was by the windows. i tried leaning against him but he pushed me away however in the middle of the flight, i woke up lying on his chest. moments later, he stood up and went to the washroom but before that he placed a pillow near my head, [ps he didn't actually knew that he woke me up]when he was back. i tried leaning against him again and my hair was all in my face and he gentlyplace it behind my ear.few hours later,i woke up & requested if i could lie on his lap and there was no objection from him and so i. i lied on and tried to shift to a better position however i applied a little too much pressure. soon, he told me to get up as he needs to use the bathroom again. when he was back his hand was blocking his crotch and sat down placing a pillow above it. i was curious but didnt ask much and laid down however it wasn't really comfortable thus i removed the cushion, it might be a little gross to say this but i could actually feel his penis standing upright.just to state that he have no girlfriends before despite living for 18 years.
we reached our destination and we sat beside each other throughout the whole journey, i would say. in one of the days, we were visiting a tourist attraction, i was cold and he offered me his winter jacket. next day, he fell sick. however like i mentioned he sat with me throughout the whole journey, he was so sick that he cuddled himself like a ball sitting beside the window, all of a sudden he just played on my lap and started sleeping. i took out my jacket and placed it over him, he tossed around and he was sooooooo adorable. soon when he recovered, he didn't really lie on my lap however for fun, its my turn... I'm a pretty photogenic person but he's not and he hardly takes pictures and never helps to take pictures even if his biological siblings requested him too however for this time without pleading,he agreed in a second and boast how photogenic he is haha .
however when we were back from our holidays, things get a little different over time, whenever the sisters are around he will not really respond to me however when they are away for something he would answer all my questions that i was curious about...
few weeks later... he's entering army and before he left i reminded him to get a red box from my room, in it , it contains 263 notes for him to read every weekend as he will not be able to bring it into camp. few months later, we are having a family gathering (having bbq) which was held 2 days ago, our cousins were all there and were chatting while eating when he suddenly asked if i want to compete skate boarding with him and of course i agreed. after eating we want up to their houses to chill and we were all discussing about the latest pop drama's main character song joong ki hahaha.. just to say that I've told my cousin's girlfriend who is the same age as him about our issues and she kept it a secret but tried to help, she told me to move in closer to him because there were no more seats and the area was very cramp, i looked into her eyes for a moment and my step bro waved his hand and told me to move in,my friend who was the same age was him showed him some ladies photos, he leaned in towards me with his cap touching my face. However he did not compliment any of them.. sooner or later all our cousins were in a room when we realised that we were the only ones outside the living room with our parents and a few adults. we then moved in and sat down, we were having body contacts and all.. if you are reading this, thanks for spending so much time, please share with me your opinion and it really matters a lot to me. (link)
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Hi honey,
Your story looks like it was taken out of a shoujo manga since I read romantic manga. 😍😍😍
Anyways be careful though because he might just be kind with you so don't get your hopes up or dont pour all of yourself on him.
Studies first dear but if you manage to be a good student then it s okay as long as you dont forget your studies 😆
😸😸😸😸😸😸😸😸
Grinning Cheshire
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I dated a guy for two months. He's 27 and I'm 24. He was really sweet but seemed to think I was a 'goddess' and said he could imagine dating with the intent of marriage. I broke up with him because of the pressure- this is my first relationship and he seems ready for things I'm not ready for. Also I'm in a late bloomer so I'm in college and I have no idea where I'll be in 1 year. It was my birthday and he sent told me he wishes me the best and sent me a long love poem. He also said he knows I made the right decision for myself by breaking up. Is it normal to feel like I want him back even though breaking up seemed healthier? Should I ever contact him again? (link)
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With help from my friend,
Dearest,
NO because honestly since you said the relationship you had with him is unhealthy then why go back?
He did send you his best wishes,right,meaning that you and him are okay already.
XOXO
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Okay, here's the quick version: I have a crush, my friend has the same crush, and I'm getting mixed signals from him. Crush knows that friend likes him, seemed to not care when I asked him about it. Doesn't know that I like himn though, but he's had many people like him in the past, including some of my other friends. We're only in 6th grade, and I tend to overthink EVERYTHING. So, what do I do? (link)
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From my friend since I just got back haha:
Honey,
First of all I think you should study first.Make your studies your priorities because that is more important than boys boys boys and don't just jump into conclusions and wait the confirmation from him.
XOXO
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I am in amazing relationship, one that I've always wanted and dreamed of. Both of us are in our 30's, were were married before to other people and now both divorced, but head over heels in love with each other. There is one problem, he cannot get over my dating past. Before meeting him, I was in two long term relationships ( marriage and one for 6 yrs) and then became single and dated for two years. I met him before he even had the chance to date again, we hit it off immediately and fell in love over time. He said he loves how sexual I am, but hates my past, his resolution is to 1) swing with him and let him have sex with someone in front of me, or 2) participate in a 3 some and let him do his thing in front of me. This kills me, and I don't want to. I love him sooo much and if I saw this it will hurt so bad. My past means nothing to me, but he doesn't get it, because he didn't get to date after his marriage with his HS sweetheart. Instead he went on a date with me and we have been together for almost a year and we live together. He has given me this ultimatum to continue with our relationship. I don't know if I can do this, I wish I could move out and let him try the single life he says he missed out on, but I am afraid of losing him and I don't want something to happen, but I'm tired of being ridiculed. I want him to see me for who I am today and what I offer, not my past. Please help! Should I put my feelings aside and take the torture of seeing him have sex with someone or should I get out of his life and let him do his thing and pray he wants me back. 30 ish female. (link)
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No please don't it simply means he doesn't love you he just LUSTS for you because if he really love you he should respect your decision.
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I'm so worried about dating. I'm 18 and in university and I haven't dated anyone or even kissed a guy. I do want to eventually settle down and I have had crushed on guys but it's just so hard for me to talk to them and I feel that sometimes it's just not worth the effort. Then there is a the whole virginity thing, in my culture it's expected that I will only lose my virginity after marriage and I want it to be that way, but it seems so unlikely that someone will want to wait that long! I don't know how to find out if they would or not! Even guys from my culture aren't interested as far as I know! I'm not really sure what kind of advice I want but anything would be helpful I guess! Have you experienced anything similar? (link)
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Never give in to what others want for you,you have your own mind and standards so don't lower them.
Only a few girls like you follow that culture.Virginity should be given after marriage.Good for you!
Keep that standard.If you have a boyfriend and he wants you to give your virginity even though you don't want to don't.It just means he doesn't love you.He only LUSTS for you
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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me (link)
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Trust is like glass hard to make easy to brake.
Give him time.
And next time tell the truth because it would be more worse if you hid it.
Ask help from Angel Chamuel
He will help you
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Ok so just today my mom yelled that because I argue with my sister her and dad fight and because of me someone might have to leave and it might be her because she can't deal with it and today my dad pulled my sister's hair and it's my fault because I aggravated him. And when my suicidal thoughts reached them my dad told me I'm gonna have to stop or him and mom are getting a divorce. Wtf? And I'm not going to a fucking psychologist I refuse. I haven't attempted suicide and my mom made me promise not to but sometimes it seems like the only way out! And my dad seems to think I'm some unpaid baby sitter because once when I was at a bbq I said I wasn't gonna watch them all night like I always do and both my parents threw fits! Help? (link)
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My gosh
Honetsly,
They are too either prideful or blind to see their own faults.they are acting like children despite being an adult
Friend,I think you should at least tell this to your relatives
Or real adults.
Hope it helps.
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So I had been a Wiccan for months, and my dad had the bad idea of it. That every Wiccan was a witch. That witches are evil. That the Horned God is associated with Satan because he has horns/antlers. I have never felt comfortable in Christianity, but felt comfortable in Wicca, like I was 100% safe and nothing would ever hurt me. I'll be turning 18 in a few months. Should I just light candles in my room, try to tell the Horned God that I'm sorry and that I'll move in with my friend when I turn 18 and become a Wiccan again? (link)
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Well I dont really know much about the wicca but I think that
You could at least still do Wicca as long as you use it for the good of others.And it also may depend if it has been passed for generations
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I just love being alone. It's really hard for me to find people I like. And even if I do like them, I still don't want to be around them for longer than maybe half an hour. And if I could choose, I wouldn't be around them at all. It takes up so much energy to be outside and around people.
But I'm not really unhappy. The only person I feel really comfortable being around is my boyfriend. But I think that has to do with the fact that he too, is a quiet person and he just understands me in every way.
The thing is that I have to be around people every day so how can I relax more and be less annoyed or stressed out by it? I'm not really afraid of them, I just get really stressed. I don't think that I have a "disorder". I think that it's perfectly fine to like being alone. The only reason it's a problem for me, is that I have to be around people, because society makes me. I'm a student so I have no choice. And it's really making me tired throughout the day. When I get home I just want to sleep because I feel so tired but I can't because I have to study.
So I need a few tipps. :( (link)
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You miss are obviously a misanthrope
So you a much of a loner
But at least try to meet new people or make connections coz we cant carry the weight of our world all alone
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I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now (we're both 16 by the way) but we've not even kissed yet. We see each other at least once a week and get on so well when we're together. We'll hug goodbye but that is pretty much the only deliberate physical contact we have.
I would really love for things to go just slightly further than they have but I can't tell if that's what he wants. I realise that talking to him would be a good idea but whenever I approach the subject he just talks about something else (he's quite a shy/awkward person as am I).
Basically I have no clue what to do.
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Hi
It's either you are just a friend or he isn't ready to commit to a bf gf relationship
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Earlier this year one of my guy friends had a bad breakup with his girlfriend and she started dating one of his friends. He turned emo and started cutting himself. He became atheist and more reserved. He had so much hatred to his ex-girlfriend(my friend)and his friend(also my friend)I helped him through it and got him to stop cutting, become Christian, and become more comfortable with people and also to forgive them both and he is now friends with both of them again. He is a completely changed person now. But he seems to have a bit of an obsession with me.He asked me out but I sadly rejected him because I felt nothing for him. I only did the things I did because he was my friend and I hated seeing him that way. He now has a new girlfriend but he acts like he doesn't like her. He says things about her that he think is weird and awkward. He flirts ALOT when we talk over facebook but the thing is I feel extremely guilty. I feel like im making him cheat. Ruining his relationship. Ive told him countless times that I only want us to be friends but he acts like he forgets that. He says im flirting with him when im just joking around with him. He says "I love you" but I try to take it in a friendly way because he says it to all of his lady friends in a brother-siter kind of way. He says things like im his "future wife" but adds "lol" just to seem like he's joking. He constantly reminds me of the things ive done for him when he was at his lowest point. Thanking me millions of times.He calls me beautiful. He gets jealous easily but he tells me things about his girlfriend and other girls to make me jealous. He has done many attempts to get me to fall for him. Extreme attempts that it almost ruined our friendship. Besides the flirting he is a very nice person(obnoxious at times)but very sweet. He has given me many gifts such as food he has cooked (he cooks a lot)and flowers and teddy bears (before he started dating) He told me he was giving me these things for "appreciation for what I have done" and if I didnt accept them, he made me. He is my best friend. He is very protective and defends me if someone is bullying me. He is very caring. He asks how my day was and sometimes good morning messages. He makes it his job to message me everyday and is always the first to start a convo. We will talk for hours on end just about silly things and joke around a lot. He comes to me when he needs someone to talk to and is going trough something and I do the same for him. He says that he will always be there for me if i need anything. He just the bestest friend you could ever ask for. I just feel like im taking advantage of him. Im trying hard to make our friendship work because I don't want to lose him. But he is constantly testing it. He tells me he's not over me even if he has a girlfriend. He treats me like I am his which I have told him to stop but he wont. Nearly everyone in the school knows of his crush on me. He tags me in posts on Facebook that say things like "Tag the most beautiful girl you know" or "tag a girl that you think is adorable" I just don't know what to do anymore! How can I save our friendship?! He was not always like this. Thank you for reading! I know it was long! :(
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Hope this would help
http://m.wikihow.com/Deal-when-Someone-Loves-You-and-You-Don't-Love-Them-Back
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I am so confused. I dont know what to do anymore. I am depressed all the time. To the point where all I want to do is cry and at times it takes all I have not to. I feel so alone. I have been married for 8 years but we never talk and lately he and I have been sleeping in separate rooms. We dont even argue we just dont talk. I know I am not happy anymore and I havent been for a long time. But we have children together and this is the only serious relationship I have ever had. To top it all he is controlling so I have never had a job and I dont know if I can support myself or my kids without him. I dont want to be miserable forever but I am terrified of life without him. I dont know how to survive without him. And I have absolutly no friends not a single one because my high school friends and I have drifted apart and I am not allowed out to have any. And I have no family I grew up in foster homes. So without him I am completely alone. I have no one to turn to. No one to stay with til I get on my feet. Am I being selfish by wanting a life of my own. What do I do? Where do I go from here? (link)
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Come on don't give up and don't lose hope.
Maybe you should try to rekindle that spark with your husband.Like a surprise dinner for two but i that doesn't work then tell me alrigt I will think of another idea.
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I will go back to school in august and I am going to high school for the first time. Kind of nervous about it and ugh, I want to get it over with. Can you guys give me some "high school experience" stories or tips or something? I think I am really gonna hate it. Is it as big of a deal as it is on tv and stuff, cause I always hear how high school was like a crazy time...
Anyway, any advice?
Thanks, "hsh8tr", (link)
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High school will be the most awesome time of your life as they say.
But even though bullies and terror teachers come your way it will be just a passing memory and you will laugh about it.
Me I enjoyed it and I am going to college already.
So dont believe tv it is just typicality (is it a word or am i making things up)
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I'm Male, 19 years old. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 16 months. We're both virgins. Lately, since I started working, I've had the temptation to just go out and cheat. I'm always super horny and fantasizing about doing stuff with other girls. I love my girlfriend and I feel super guilty for wanting to cheat. We never really do anything besides kiss. I don't want to pressure her into doing anything she doesn't want, and I don't pressure her. But she'll do stuff that hints that she wants to do something, then doesn't do it. Like sometimes we'll be sitting and she'll grab me and/or stroke me for a few seconds then stop. Sometimes she'll put my hand on her crotch so I could rub, but we never go any further. I work at a busy place in nyc, so I'm always seeing and meeting nice attractive girls. I always fantasize on my train commute too. Like everyday. Sometimes I even wonder about calling an escort, but I don't want to mess up. (link)
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I suggest don't cheat because it would break the trust which will break the relationship.And you are a strong couple so don't get little fantasies get in the way of your relationship.
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Jist of what happened in the past
- I liked his best friend, same college
- We met and even though things got messed up ended up liking each other
- Started dating when he passed out (im still doing my undergrad)
- we have been dating a year. I'm 19 he's 22
- our parents know about us and we have met both sides
- we met in college and then he passed out and started giving exams
- he couldn't clear the exams he gave so his parents got paranoid about him going on the wrong path or getting distracted because of me
- he promised his mom hed clear the last exam for us to prove to her he can do something
- he started working with this ngo in town so we would see each very often
- our friends knew and he even told his best buds that he'd marry me if we continue dating for a while
- we never had any problems even though he is a bit flirtatious with other women he was loyal to me
- Had a few fights because of the guys friends I had but it was all sorted out
A week back since I'm on vacation across the country he texted me saying that his result came out and he didn't clear it so he had to break up to concentrate on his career
He said he still loved me but he had to let this go since we were mad about each other. He said he hoped we got back together but couldn't promise anything for the future and didn't want to give me false hopes.
He said I was the best thing that happened to him. He also said his parents raised him and he needs to make them proud by achieving something in life and hence he needs to give up all the distractions in his life.
Its been a week and he wouldn't answer any of my calls or messages and has completely cut off. He told his friends he called it off and didn't give a reason and he wouldn't reply back to my friends at all.
I don't know what to do. I want him back because I love him even if it involves waiting but I don't know what is going on in his mind. I am also scared out of stupidity hed go any do something really reckless to get over me.
I don't know what to say to him when we meet when I get back but I am willing to do anything to rectify this. Do you have any advice as to why this happened and it could truly get him back? Or am I living in a dream world where fairytales exist and he is truly over me? (link)
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Friend
I think you should both give him some time off I know it hurts but accept it with your heart.He has an acceptable reason he needs to ace that test for the future.Besides you will be part of that future.He is doing this for the future where both of you may or may not get marrried (Sorry for the last part.)But if you ever get married it would be hard if one of you did not have a job right?
Hope this helped.
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I am a 14 year old "girl." First off, I'd like to tell u I'm very mature for my age and I attract people from left to rite. Also i do NOT like being the center of attention. My mom, little sister and I were at my mothers friends' house and she had a little son. He was about 3 and he kept chasing me, wanting me to hold him and of course I did..I didn't want to hurt his feelings anyways but every time he sees me he whines and wants me to hold him. My parents are divorced, I don't like admitting that btw but every weekend I come back home from my fathers(which is very early in the morning) my sister will always get out of bed and start kissing me, hugging me and my mother tells me I'm all she talks about when I'm out of her sight. The same with my two little cousins. Whenever they see me they are all over me, they keep hugging me, wanting me to play games with them, encouraging me to. They always invite me to come over to their house. Also my pastors wife told me one night that she felt in her heart that I am very important to God and I need to read Jeremiah 29:11 and put my name in that verse. My loved ones have even said they have always felt God has something really special for me. Another thing, I am creativingly inclined(so they say) I play guitar, saxophone, clarinet. I also enjoy singing, dancing, sports, photography and making things. I am also very modest, self conscious, and sweet.. I've also always felt like Earth isn't where I belong and I'm from somewhere else...and no matter how much I love or work hard in a relationship I'll never be good enough.. One more thing.. Satan has tried discouraging me soo many times but I've always defeated him with verses from the bible.. I am very close to God btw and I am on a Praise and Worship Team at my church. Sorry for the lengthy description but Thank u in advance(: (link)
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Reincarnation maybe real or not but I believe that God is special to you because you are warm and kind.
Maybe it also has something to do with your aura because my classmates aura was yellow and she had this little playful cherubim by her side a guardianangel I think
So maybe it's your special gift from God or your guardian angel.
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I have a catholic friend that has been having bad luck for the past 17 years.With health loosing there job,even had no money and was eating out the garbage.It was just unbelievable.I felt they were cursed in some way.I started asking questions and they have a voodoo doll and have been having it for 17 years.It is from New Orleans and it is dressed in a purple dress with a yellow purse it has sea shells on it with 3 charms.What is the best way to get rid of it respecifically. (link)
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I think hoodoo can counteract vodoo not sure though
Link here
http://www.differencebetween.net/miscellaneous/culture-miscellaneous/difference-between-hoodoo-and-voodoo/
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