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I hate being around people.
I just love being alone. It's really hard for me to find people I like. And even if I do like them, I still don't want to be around them for longer than maybe half an hour. And if I could choose, I wouldn't be around them at all. It takes up so much energy to be outside and around people.
But I'm not really unhappy. The only person I feel really comfortable being around is my boyfriend. But I think that has to do with the fact that he too, is a quiet person and he just understands me in every way.
The thing is that I have to be around people every day so how can I relax more and be less annoyed or stressed out by it? I'm not really afraid of them, I just get really stressed. I don't think that I have a "disorder". I think that it's perfectly fine to like being alone. The only reason it's a problem for me, is that I have to be around people, because society makes me. I'm a student so I have no choice. And it's really making me tired throughout the day. When I get home I just want to sleep because I feel so tired but I can't because I have to study.
So I need a few tipps. :(
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You don't necessarily need to think of this as a disorder, but if you have a great deal of anxiety and exhaustion after normal interactions with fellow students, or coworkers, or other family members, that is the sort of thing a therapist can help you get comfortable and gain skills at.
Some of us - myself and my partner included - really do need alone time to keep ourselves sane and to recharge. That is fine, but it's not fine to suffering or to be unable to deal with the perfectly reasonable human interactions that our society is fundamentally based on. That's not how 'society works. That is how 'being alive works'. It requires us to engage with one another in peaceful and friendly ways. Even wolves in packs and birds in flocks have to do that. Human beings cannot live entirely as islands.
If you are struggling with normal, day-to-day tasks of interacting, that is a problem. If are exhausted to a degree that you can't function once you get your alone time, that is a problem. That's not 'just introversion' or 'just your personal preference'. That is a social anxiety disorder or another similar issue. You may not be nearly so far gone as you think a 'disorder' would be, but you are certainly well on your way when you are having that degree of difficulty.
As I said, there are techniques and skills that you can learn to make yourself calmer and to build up your capacity for interacting with others, but there isn't one solution that works for every person. It's very personal. It's about figuring out ways to take care of yourself and ways to manage your anxiety and energy. A therapist or counsellor is the best person to help you select the solutions that will work for you. It might take some looking, but I'm sure you can find someone who will work on those solutions with you without worrying too much about the labels.
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I disagree with you in your feeling that you do not have some type of disorder. I also disagree with the previous writer that the disorder is "misanthrope." You do not fit the definition of that disorder in any way from what you have written.
I'm not a doctor or a psychologist. From what I see from your writing you can interact with people when you need to. So this is not an all inhibiting disorder. By society standards though you are suffering from some type of social disorder and you realize you need to do something because you just don't feel right and it cause you anxiety to be around people.
These two symptoms alone say you need to identify just what the disorder is and how you can deal with it. The key words here are "DEAL WITH IT." I'm not saying you need to be cured of whatever this disorder is or if it is a curable disorder. I'm not even sure if it is some type of phobia or a character fault. The difference between them is phobia's can be dealt with in a variety of ways which include talk therapy and medication if needed. Character faults are not curable but can be dealt with by hard work to recognize the fault and deal with it through or by making certain life changes.
TO find out for sure if you are suffering from a character fault or a phobia you will need to see a psychologist. But first we need to deal with the anxiety problem as that is more debilitating than the other problem and also the psychologist is going to ask you have a complete physical anyway to rule out any organic problems.
My suggestion is you make an appointment with your family doctor for a physical and while with the doctor discuss you anxiety problem. The doctor can offer you medication for this. You can also discuss with your doctor your social problem and ask for the name or a referral to a good psychologist the doctor knows.
It cannot hurt you to find out just what this disorder may be and if it is something that can be rectified. Once you know then YOU can decide if you want to proceed with therapy or not.
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You miss are obviously a misanthrope
So you a much of a loner
But at least try to meet new people or make connections coz we cant carry the weight of our world all alone
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