Ever since I was little, I always loved talking to my family about their problems. I love being able to help people. I maybe young but I am very good at giving advice on Love life. I am very mature for my 14 years of age and I want to help people with their questions and problems. SO if you have a question, don't hesitate to ask because of my age
I am also a huge Band Geek/Color Guard person, and I love music and writing. So if you also have questions on those I could help you out!
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What could be a good idea to help me be a better singer and a actress I'm only a 13 year old girl but I know I could live my big dreams in life and I'm from USA so help I need ideas to get me started on what I want to be (link)
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You could always raise money and try to find places where you can take vocal and acting lessons. Also talk to your parents, maybe they can help you come up with some ideas! :)
~Hardcore-Band-Geek
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i usually have my periods the 11th of every month and ive never had a late period. My last period was the 11th may
And i had unprotected sex on the first of june and i still havnt come on my period or any signs (cramps etc) to show that i might come on. Is there a high possibility i could be pregnant? Also how long do i have to wait to get an accurate test result? Thanks in advance (link)
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Yes of course there is a possibility That you can could be pregnant. That possibility is even higher if you had unprotected sex. I would suggest buying and taking a pregnancy test. You would be able to get an accurate read at this point.
But also remember that stress could delay your period. Also If you do not want to get pregnant please wear protection.
I wish you the best of luck.
~ Hardcore-band-Geek
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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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I am going to be honest. You may not like my answer/advice.
He isn't over her. I personally have experienced grief and it takes a long time for you to "move on" from something like that. He may love you but he is not fully ready to commit to you 100%. You should be there for him but I would suggest not just wait around for him. He will need time before he can fully commit to you.
I would talk to him and tell him that. You want to be with him and you love him, but feel like he still has some feelings for his ex.
I would focus on yourself for now.
Maybe in the future when he is not in love with his ex you can try again. You do not need to fully cut him out of your life but set limits.
You are beautiful and a wonderful girl. You'll be fine with out without him :) I hope I helped in anyway :)
~Hardcore-Band-Geek
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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You can of course be friendly with him. But i wouldn't always move over to stand with him unless he calls you over. Don't unnecessarily touch him too much. (like hand on the shoulder or hugging A LOT.) We can tell sometimes if we are coming off like in a flirty way. Just watch how you act around him :)
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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I would get them both in a room and talk to them together. That you want to be there for your friend's wedding, an important day for her. But that you always want to spend time on your anniversary, a day important for YOU and your husband.
Talk to them and see if you guys can come up with a plan to make things work. Just let both know that each event is equally important to you.
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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me (link)
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Yes we all lie to our significant others, but honestly, you should just move on. You asked for a second chance, and he didn't give you one. Don't try to force your guys' relationship back together. It'll only make him less likely to want to patch things up.
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fun things to do while making out with ur girlfreind
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Well to be honest, just ask her if there is anything she would like to try. You could always push her against a wall and kiss her deeply.
It really depends on the girl. :)
I know its not that specific, but hey just go with the flow, maybe you'll find something you both enjoy!
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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as i said the first time my bf broke up with me blah blah blah and so on and when he broke up with me he needed his gades up to get back together and now he is saying i dont like you anymore like that i like this girl we are never getting back together what should i do i am 100 percent sure i still love him i dont know what to do please help i love him so so much (link)
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I'm sorry honey, but if he's not interested in you, you will just have to accept it and move on. That's all you can do, you can't force him to return your feelings. Just move on and maybe you'll find another guy who will spark your interest.
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I'm 15/f. I have this best friend that's a guy and I've known him for about 5 years. He's not the sharpest knife in the drawer and he's not the best looking either. He's super nice and has always listened to me when I vent and talk. I can always laugh when I'm around him. He has helped me feel better about the disorders I have and about me self harming. He has done drugs before and has smoked ect. I asked him if he wanted to hangout in a week or so and so for the first time ever, I will be doing weed with him. Do not talk me out of it and it is not peer pressure; he would never force me to do anything I didn't want to. I am doing it because it won't leave terrible scars like cutting and burning my skin does. He accepts me for who I am though which is very important to me. Lately, I've been realizing that he's acting a bit flirtatious towards me. We joke around and send kissy faces through text but his seems more sincere and he always compliments me and is very cute with what he says to me. Is he falling for me? Will he take advantage of me when I do drugs with him? Am I gunna end up being his girlfriend? (link)
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OK, I won't talk you out of smoking Marijuana with this guy.
But hon, only you can answer those questions. We can't. we don't know you or your best friend.
Do you like him? That's all you need to know, and go from there.
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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So there's this guy I've been crushing on so hard for the past while now. I'm in the US and he's in... Australia (fml). I really like him. Don't know if he sees me the same way. People think I'm crazy. But I was gonna like take it REALLY slow, get to know him a lot then tell him if I still like him as much or even more. Because if you truly like someone and want to be with them, it doesn't matter the distance, how much time you have with them, or how long it'll take to meet them, right? Btw, he said he's going to move to the UK or US when he graduates university. So there's a good chance with that, right? (link)
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How old are you two??
Long distance relationships between two people (Who have already met) is hard.
An online relationship between two people who have never met is even harder.
This isn't always the case, but sometimes people on the internet are not who they say they are! The could change their gender and age online to meet other people. and the thing is, you can never tell.
I'm going to guess that you are either in your late teens- early adolescent years.
Yes you can wait for this guy, but why not look at the boys/men around you? You can have a more personal and intimate relationship when you can be face to face with someone. Not over the internet.
Of course you can have online friends, I've made plenty. But i never tell them : where I'm from, school i go too etc.
SO please, be careful.
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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I have been dating my boyfriend for one and a half years now. He was in the same college, two years elder. Passed out the year we started dating and started working. We haven't ever had major problems except for once when he couldn't clear a major exam and his parents blamed it on his distraction because of me but we eventually got back because he got a good job and he loved me.
We just spent the last ten days together on a holiday with his friends and a couple of mine and then at his place alone for a couple of days.
We got into a petty fight two days back and he told me he really thinks we should see new people. He feels since I'm just 19 and he's 22 there is a lot more in life then getting serious for each other.
I let him be for a day and when we met next to talk this out he said he doesn't want to see new people. He was just saying that to make me angry. But he feels like we should break up because he thinks relationships are restrictive and he feels bound and he can't be himself. He told me he wants to still be with me and do all the things we used to do like go out for dinners, watch movies etc but he can't be physical with me. He feels when we do he gets too emotionally attached to me and he doesn't want that .We are too into each other.
He accepted that he still loves me and will because I'm a huge part of his life and he doesn't want to feel this way for any other girl. But right now he feels like he isn't fit for relationships and he can't see himself in one ever, even in the future. He knows i'd wait for this to work out but he said he didnt want to give me false hopes. He would try to make this work out too but right now he cant.
He feels now that we are bound by a relationship he would be able to express his feelings better in front of me. He loves me as much as he loves him mom and best friends and he wants me to be there but he said he can live without the sex.
We agreed on neither breaking up or dating. And I couldn't accept calling this a friendship so we just agreed on not defining it till he clears his head. But I can't stop feeling hurt and insecure.
I love him. But I can't understand what happened to him suddenly. What am I supposed to do? I'm in a delimma because I want him and this relationship back. Is there a chance ? Is this just a phase and should I just play along by giving him time? (link)
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Look, I i know you love him and it sounds like he does love you back. Yes he has a point that you guys are young and he doesn't want/or does feel restricted by any relationship. Yet he shouldn't be stringing you along like this.
I suggest you go up to him and say "We need to take a break while you clear your head about if you want us together or not." Cause honey It is NOT fair for him to be saying we aren't dating right now, BUT i want you to wait for me! That is in no way fair!!
He may need sometime to clear his head and get a grip on things and think about what he wants. You can still have feelings for him, he might still have them for you but it is not your responsibility to wait for him. You're young and free! Maybe meet some new guys and make some friends (nut don't jump into anything too serious yet!) Have fun and I wish you the best of luck
- Hardcore Band Geek
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I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now? (link)
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Obviously he has caused you A LOT of grief in this time that you have known him. Internet relationships are hard and not even close to the real thing. It sounds like he doesn't care about you nearly as much as you care about him. I'm sorry to tell you this, but i think you should forget about him. He uses mean language with you too which is not cool at all and you should not stand that! Delete him and move on. Find some nice guy who lives near you :)
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'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant? (link)
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Umm it is possible but I'm not sure exactly. I would get a pregnancy test to be 100% sure
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I feel scared to ask my parents for a snapchat facebook Kris even an instagram because of how over protective they are what should I do (link)
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My parents don't like me having social media either. You'll just have to ask them. If you're okay with it, tell them they can have your password. Mine do and its all fine because i don't post things my parent's would disprove of.
just be honest "I would really like to be on social media because it would be easier to be in contact with my friends and or family members in other states."
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything? (link)
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From what I know the police should be able to track his number or find. Do contact the police!!
is your face in the pictures??
If you absolutely MUST send nudes because you want to i recommend sending ones without your face in the picture.
Please look at this as a lesson not to do it again. I hoped i helped to some degree.
DO CAll the police!
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So most of the time I hang out with my freinds the subject of who would you have sex with comes up. My freinds usaly have a mental numbered list of who they want to have sex with and are shock when I reveal to them that I dont really think about that to much. Also they dont want a relationship with the people they want to have sex with. They just want to bang them and move to then next one and I feel like that thats messed up and it kinds makes me mad when they talk about girls like that. When I think of some one I care about I think of how we would spend time together or how I can make them feel like they are special to me. Dose that make me strange? (link)
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You are amazing! I'm you are (female) I hate when guys treat girls like that. It is completely disrespectful!! If only some guys knew, that when they treat girls like that and pressure them (at least i do this) it makes them less likely to do ANYTHING with them.
You are not strange, you just don't want to treat every girl like something to have sex with.
Somehting i find very admirable in someone our age :)
So thank you for not being womanizing and controlled by your hormones!
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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Hi, I'm female, fifteen, and I've been in band for four years now. When I was younger, I used to be able to fall asleep to music, especially classical, but since I've gained a deeper understanding of what I'm hearing, I can't anymore. I'm tangled up in the sound, picking the music, chords, apart. It's an exciting thing for me. Lots of the time, I'll hear something that totally enthralls me, I get super excited. I tense up, clench and unclench my fists, and take in a really sharp breath, sometimes it's a sharp gasp. And I feel like I can Physically feel the music. It's the most amazing feeling ever. I started trying to figure out what it was and I think It's almost like sexual excitement, but without the "lusty" feeling. What is this and why do I experience this? And, would anyone know if it's normal to hear music you've never heard before in your dreams? Thanks in advance! :D (link)
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I am a fellow musician (7 years) and i too have started doing that. I can pick apart, the melodies, the different pitches(even if they are only a half-step in difference), the chords. It is amazing isn't it?
Yes it is normal. I have a deep passion for music, I'm in the band and the color guard at my school. You know how some people sleep walk?
I'll spin imaginary equipment in my sleep :D
It's perfectly normal :)
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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OK, my life sucks. My mother hates me and is doing drugs, my dad keeps molesting me and I can't feel emotions or make friends. Now how the fuck do I commit suicide. (link)
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I can't legally tell you how to kill yourself Ending your life is not the answer. What you need to do is get help.
Call CPS (Child Protective Services) and tell them what is going on. If you can't, call the police.
You need to get out of that environment.
Please hold in there and get help!!
You can eve confide in your school counselor or another adult you trust
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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I am 20 years old girl.I am from Bnagladesh. 2 years ago I met a boy on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I liked him. I felt bad about it, how I fall in love with someone on internet!. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.But still I used to message him and he replied me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. After that I didn't knock him. After one day he knocked me and told me that he added me on his new facebook id.In which he refused me to add before, he told me that this account was for his family.one day i called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it. There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it. I came to know from someone. And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replied. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person tried to insult me. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I ended the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't international. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replied. She also deleted the messages but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One night he called me we talked for so long. And after next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad. Its been 6 months. We don't talk like before. He doesn't reply like before. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me. But still he doesn't reply every time. I also don't knock him like before. I come to know that the girl comes back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are friend. He never tell me anything about the girl ever. I found it out from another source. I still miss him. Want to talk to him. But when I remember about the girl I stepped back. And didn't knock him. Don't know what to do.Should I contact him?Should I try to fix things? And I still think did he ever care for me? and still does? but unable to show it or I am just a fool???
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I'm going to tell ya straight. You should just forget about him. Long Distance relationships are hard, and they are even worse if you have never met them before, and your relationship started and exists online.
He seems to only talk to you when he feels in the mood too, not the other way around.
If he is hiding things from you, and not telling you certain parts/people in his life, he is not for you. Relationships and love are about being open with each other.
And ignoring you for months at a time, and then starting to reply isn't cool.
You should just forget about him, he doesn't deserve you. It maybe hard but it's whats best.
I wish you the best, have fun meeting new people ok?
- Hardcore-Band-Geek :)
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So I had been a Wiccan for months, and my dad had the bad idea of it. That every Wiccan was a witch. That witches are evil. That the Horned God is associated with Satan because he has horns/antlers. I have never felt comfortable in Christianity, but felt comfortable in Wicca, like I was 100% safe and nothing would ever hurt me. I'll be turning 18 in a few months. Should I just light candles in my room, try to tell the Horned God that I'm sorry and that I'll move in with my friend when I turn 18 and become a Wiccan again? (link)
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Your father should not be forcing another religion on you and forcing you to give up the one you are comfortable with.
You could try and hold out till you turn 18 then your father cannot tell you who/what to worship.
If you need to light candles in your room and pray/talk to your god then do so!
Do what you need to do. It may be hard, but you only have to wait a few months.
I wish you the best of luck :)
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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