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Best guy friend may end up being my boyfriend?
I'm 15/f. I have this best friend that's a guy and I've known him for about 5 years. He's not the sharpest knife in the drawer and he's not the best looking either. He's super nice and has always listened to me when I vent and talk. I can always laugh when I'm around him. He has helped me feel better about the disorders I have and about me self harming. He has done drugs before and has smoked ect. I asked him if he wanted to hangout in a week or so and so for the first time ever, I will be doing weed with him. Do not talk me out of it and it is not peer pressure; he would never force me to do anything I didn't want to. I am doing it because it won't leave terrible scars like cutting and burning my skin does. He accepts me for who I am though which is very important to me. Lately, I've been realizing that he's acting a bit flirtatious towards me. We joke around and send kissy faces through text but his seems more sincere and he always compliments me and is very cute with what he says to me. Is he falling for me? Will he take advantage of me when I do drugs with him? Am I gunna end up being his girlfriend?
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The title seems an entirely different issues from questions you ask at the end.
The most stable fulfilling relationships are the ones where a guy and gal are best friends, but they also have the right chemistry together (a pheremone thing) where you feel the attraction and there is romantic feelings toward each other. Just because someone is a best friend and the opposite sex doesn't mean that that two can make the other half of the relationship work if it's missing. The pheremone/body chemicals you emit either find they match his, like two jig saw puzzle pieces that fit, or they don't. If you've ever tried to force two puzzle pieces together, you know that you can fake it that its the right one until you're left with a piece in the hand that doesnt go in the last spot.
So if you've never had the romantic feelings for him, just don't go there. Its not a matter if you are hanging out to do weed together or not. He can continue to be a close friend, like a best friend but doesnt need to be at boyfriend status. No one reaches boyfriend status until you have someone you have things in common with who treats you right and there is also that romance between you. You don't want to receive a kiss from a boyfriend where it feels like your brother just kissed you.
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Firstly I'll say that using smoking weed as an excuse to not cut is dumb.
If you cut, you need professional help. Because what if weed just isn't there when you need it? You'll go right back to cutting, you need real help.
Aside from that, he might be interested in you if he compliments you and flirts with you.
As for the other two questions, I don't know this guy, I don't have any idea of what is going to happen.
If you're afraid of him taking advantage of you when you do drugs with him, then you shouldn't do it with him. If you have that uncertainty, it's better to be safe than sorry.
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OK, I won't talk you out of smoking Marijuana with this guy.
But hon, only you can answer those questions. We can't. we don't know you or your best friend.
Do you like him? That's all you need to know, and go from there.
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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