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Hi so i am a 17 year old female and i am dating a male the same age. We have been dating for about 7 months now and we were both kind of scared to make the first move so the first time we kissed was prom night before we went out to eat. So it was graduation day and at our school juniors show up to support the seniors (the place they hold the ceremony is right by the school so everyone shows up to school and seniors ride over first and then juniors and then we come back blah blah blah)and there is a little ritual going on, anyways that day came and me and my boyfriend were both there and were in the same class and i was just sitting on the table and he was sitting in the chair across from me and at first that was all it was i was just sitting across from him then he kind of leaned in and grabbed my ass and pulled me in towards him so we were sitting closer and had kind of burrowed his head in my chest - i had on a low v-neck romper and a big fluffy jacket because i was cold - so he had his head on my chest and put his hand behind the jacket like out of peoples view and was rubbing my back and my ass , mind you we had just had our first kiss like a week ago, so anyways the teachers had left to take care of stuff and half of the class migrated out so it was just us and then some of my friends and some of his friends. So we were cuddling as we were before and i leaned in and kissed him and we kissed like a couple of times and i was happy because after 7 months i was ready and wanted to get things moving along like i am still a teenager. So we were cuddling and at some points kissing, but after i kissed him one of those times he started kissing my chest area, the area in between my breasts. now remember i had on a big fluffy jacket so he was somewhat hidden and i was getting turned on but we were still at school so i kinda backed up and we went back to playing a card game but i could clearly see he was turned on and so was i so we went to the classroom next door which was open and no one was in there and we started kissing and what not (which we adapted to pretty quickly surprisingly) so we were kissing and he was grabbing my butt and i had my hand on his head and of course the sexual tension was building but we were still at school so we both kind of broke off and it was time to leave for the graduation. by the time everything was over it was like 9:15 and we had gotten invited to a graduation party which i decided not to go to because there was going to be heavy drinking and i don't drink so me and my boyfriend decided to go to his house and watch a movie. so we got there and started off watching a movie but half way through it turned to me on top of him, he was kind of dry humping me, we were kissing and things were getting very heated, but then his older sister came home so we stopped and went upstairs and things started again but no clothes came off he was thrusting but it was never any penetration and he came just in his pants.. i don't really know what i am asking or how to ask it i don't know like what next, i want to wait to have penetrating sex until marriage but our relationship is getting pretty serious i have known him since 8th grade and we have had little crushes on eachother but this time it turned ready, i am open to oral sex. i dont know what i am really asking i guess what are some things we can do to relieve sexual tension between us, why do you think it was such a quick switch between us first kissing to like all of this, anything like that. he is supposed to come with my friends boyfriend over to my friends house who i am staying with this week and they're also in a similar place but they've been dating for like a year and aren't having sex but have done stuff, so there will be a lot of sexual tension, do you think it would be a good idea to even have them over if they do come over should we all stay together...ughhh i am so sorry this is messy and i don't completely know what i'm asking i am just confused and ready. (link)
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First love and the new sexual feelings that come with it can be very confusing, but everything you have described is absolutely normal for your age. Kissing and touching can escalate to sexual intercourse very quickly at 17 when hormones are running rampant. I applaud you both for acting responsibly in the heat of the moment and not having unprotected sex. If you wish to wait until after marriage for penetrating sex there are many ways you and your boyfriend can relieve sexual tension. Please keep in mind that there is still a danger of transmitting STD's through oral or anal sex. If you choose to experiment please use protection. The best advice I would give young people in your situation is to find sexual release through intimate touching, aka "hand jobs", or by rubbing against each other fully dressed as you described. You might also consider using fingertip vibrators or other "toys" meant for sexual pleasure. It IS possible to get pregnant if any of his semen gets near your vaginal opening, (for example, he has it on his fingers and then touches your vagina). It isn't common but it has been known to happen. If you are not 100% sure of your decision to wait, please make sure to use some form of reliable birth control as well as condoms. It sounds like you are both very mature for 17, and can be trusted to act responsibly. Best wishes!
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21/male from Nigeria... since I was 10 years old i have a problem with my eyes they are constantly sensitive to light or anything bright.it just happened suddenly it's not like I hurt my eyes or anything.... I have gone see an eye doctor and he says it is caused by a refraction and he prescribed transition glasses.. I got the glasses but it did not help at all so I just stopped using it. Am embarrassed to say this but I have not always practiced good oral hygiene,I brush my teeth once a day but not with the right technique because I had tatar and my gums would bleed when I brush.... so three years ago I discovered that four of my front up teeth and four of my down front teeth are loose/shaking so I went to a general hospital to see a dentist and did teeth cleaning (scaling and polish) and the dentist assured me that as long as I practice good oral hygiene my teeth will be healed and strong again.... I have been doing everything the dentist told me to do but my teeth is just getting worse, I go for regular cleaning every six months... But there seems to be no change..... Three months ago I went to a dental clinic for consultation after a couple of tests the dentist told me I have chronic periodontitis that the bone surrounding the affected teeth are being destroyed,he said that I have to do a root canal surgery....All this years I have been really depressed and I have a low self esteem ....am suppose to enter school this year but I can't because I want to use my tuition money for my treatment....I have problem with my eyes and now this! a lot of thoughts have floods in and out of head... . (Thoughts like all of this is my fault, what if I lose those teeth, what if I do the surgery and it fails, should I just end my life?I don't want to die, but if I end up losing those teeth I might not be able to bear the embarrassments the shame, I will literally become an outcast) at times I just sit in my room and cry. (link)
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The first thing you need to do is get some proper perspective. When you got up this morning you were still able to see the sunrise, were you not? Did you appreciate it? You were still able to eat breakfast I imagine. Did you savor the taste and feel grateful for having it? I am not trying to say you don't have some valid issues but you are blowing them WAY out of proportion. You do have a very serious problem but it isn't any of the things you mentioned. Your problem is that you have a negative mindset. The good news is that it doesn't have to be permanent. Have you ever heard the old saying, "Change your thoughts and you will change your life?" Try being grateful for even one thing today. Conjure up at least one happy thought and dwell on it for a little while. It is no harder than thinking a negative one. If you continue to do this, the positive thoughts will gain momentum and before you know it you will start to believe that everything will have a good outcome. If you can really believe that, then it will. Stop your crying and feeling sorry for yourself and get out there and see what you can do to help somebody who is in worse shape than you are! You will feel much better about yourself. You will soon realize that your worth as a person doesn't depend on your eyes or your teeth. I would also like to recommend that while you wait to see the dentist again, try the ancient practice of oil pulling (you can Google it). It is said to be very helpful for numerous oral hygiene and dental issues, at any rate, it can't hurt. Remember this: There is only one reason in this world for true shame and embarrassment, and that is for a person to deliberately waste the precious gift of life. Everyone has something to offer to make this world a better place and there is a great deal of shame in choosing not to do that. I think everything is going to work out just fine for you and this will be an inspirational story to tell your grandkids someday! Hang in there!
PS: If you believe your depression is more than just a reaction to your current situation and you truly wish to end your life, please seek medical help immediately!
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My 63 year old dad was recently diagnosed with early on-set Alzheimer’s. My family dynamic is not exactly easy to mobilize to help with the long haul we’re in for. I don’t live in the same state & my sister (who does) hasn’t been much help (outside of directions ive tried to put in place from time-time).
Making matters worse is my dads 20 year girlfriend. They own a house together and are technically in a legal “domestic partnership”). She has never been very supportive in any matter, let alone something like this. She still works and travels almost half the month for business leaving him at home for 2-3 days at a clip. All the while interacting with every man on social media when out of town. If you saw her FB, you wouldn’t even know he she is with anyone. No pictures of them. No check-ins, likes. They’re barely friends.
They have never really been too in love...more like convenient partners after each of their first divorces. We’ve begged him to leave her several times (prior to the his health concerns) to no avail. Even when we see the frustration & depression sinking in through the years. He does not want to be alone (which i fully understand).
My sister has always said they’d take care of him, have him live with them if ever needed but he has always been a stubborn one & would never agree.
Neither my sister or my dad’s gf have helped with the doctors, appointments, paperwork...
My father is getting worse. Is on medication (when he remembers to take it) and conversations are slowly becoming harder and harder with everyone.
I don’t know what to do.
I feel like I’m the only one that can diffuse the situation & lead things on the right path. It’s pretty impossible for me to move back home & every time i start the ball rolling with everyone, it always gets dropped and nothing progresses. It pretty much digresses every time and i have to start all over. My dad has alienated his friends and family over the years. Mostly because of the girlfriend. She always finds a way to piss them off one-by-one until they eventually stopped coming around completely.
He is on disability (gets something each month to live), has an ok (not exceptional) amount of money in savings, retirement plans that he can use (but hasn’t drawn from).
The main problem is the girlfriend. If we forced her out, it would lead a path for destruction. First, my father would be devastated if she ever left. They own a house together. Believes that he is and has always been in love with her. I’ve tried talking to the girlfriend, leveling with her, but she plays doe-eyed deer every time. Promising to help & take the lead, but never does. I’ve asked if nothing else if she could make sure medication is being taken & i still have no confirmation ever. She wouldn’t even take a morning off of work to drive him to a doctors appt & is completely manipulative. To her and pretty much everyone.
By not helping at all, she’s endangering my father every day. I’m trying to stay positive as much as possible, but the appearance is that she’s content with things this way. Uses it to her advantage some times, manipulating him by claiming she said or done things that i know 100% are inaccurate. She’s always been like this. And now it’s frightening to think she could be using it to her advantage every waking minute of the day because he won’t be remember most of it anyhow.
Should i be taking any preliminary legal actions at the moment (he refuses to sign a will by the way) in order to prepare for a fall-out with the girlfriend?
Should i hire a private detective to watch the girlfriend in case there is a domestic partnership battle over anything?
Has anyone had an experience like this with a difficult loved one & a manipulative spouse/partner?
Any advice at all would be sincerely appreciated! Thank you. (link)
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This question is troubling on so many levels I don't even know where to start. You say "over the years" he has alienated people because of the girlfriend. I really hope her age is a typo because how many years could he possibly have been with a now 20-year-old divorcee??? Nor does the rest of the story make any sense. You say they have never really been in love, more like convenient partners after their respective divorces, however, a few paragraphs later you say he believes he "is now and always has been" in love with her. This makes a little more sense because why else would he elect to alienate all of his friends and family members over the years in coming to her defense if he didn't have feelings for her.(You claim this all happened before the Alzheimer's so apparently, he was aware of the consequences.) The tone of your letter suggests that she is merely a golddigger, but from what you say later, he lives on Social Security while she works and apparently supports herself. I know you find it difficult to believe she cares for him, but I am failing to see where she would have a lot to gain from this arrangement financially. If he has been with her a lot of years and he has chosen to will his estate to her then his family should have enough respect for him to accept his decision concerning the assets he earned. I am going to just cut to the chase and advise you to speak with an attorney.(If you have the resources to hire a private detective to follow her then I have to assume this won't be a financial hardship for you.) The attorney can then advise you on how to handle any future legalities that may arise. I would also advise you to enlist the help of your local agency on aging to ensure that your father is not being endangered in any way. I hope for father's sake that everyone involved can set aside their differences and act in his best interests.
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Ok so i own a Siberian Husky pup he is almost 1 year old he is a great dog love him till death. He listens when inside the house great but i feel like its only because he feels like he is trapped. As soon as i let him outside he no longer listens and if he does something bad and i have to punish him i put him in a cage in the house then it takes me a week just to get his trust back he will not come when called will not drop a item when told to do so. And Like i said this is only once we leave the house when we are out doors or in the backyard of the house. He is fast a short 50 pound little ball of fire always on the move he has a huge backyard to play in and i try to get him to the dog park at least twice a week depending on the weather. I train with him everyday but he does not seem to get it he is very hesitant when i call him to me in the backyard and does not even acknowledge my presence at the dog park. He will be bad picking on a puppy at the dog park then we get home and he jumps up on the coach with me like were best friends and i am not mad at him. He knows i am the Alpha again great in the house wont touch food dropped on the floor until told to do so sits when told to even knows when i get him in the house and he was bad he knows to go into his crate. I tried looking everywhere online and everyone says the same thing just practice in your backyard bring him out on a leash i have tried it all as soon as he gets a inch freedom he takes a lot more then a mile. If anyone has advice i really appreciate it also food does not interest him i don't know if i already said that but if anyone knows like a irresistible dog treat that would also be great (link)
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Look at it this way for a minute, you listen to your boss at work and do what you are told, right? But if you were to run into your boss after hours and he/she tried to tell you what to do you might not view it quite the same way! In other words your dog is smart enough to know the situation is different, just as you would. He is viewing a different situation so he doesn't realize that your expectations of him are the same as they are inside the house. You will have to train him in outside etiquette and make sure he understands what you expect of him in this setting. If he has been allowed to take control outside it may be hard for you to gain it back. I would make sure these outings take place when he is hungry so that he will be a bit more food driven. Dogs love praise as well. I would opt for this approach over punishment. He is still very young so it will take some time and patience on your part but if you are consistent I am sure he will learn what is expected of him.
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I'm in the process of wanting to commit suicide as I want to be with my son, I haven't got anyone at all, my partner ignores me blames me for what our son did, he wrote me a letter blameing me and how much he hates me and he wished I was dead instead, I'm having nightmares and dreaming of being with my son so so much, iv tryd to get help and I cant get any at all, I'm on medications and it makes me feel even worse, I sit up each and every night now as iv planned my suicide to the end, as I vet left at him on my own quite alot and i know I wouldn't be found till.i am dead, I need help and I cant get it so what's the point, I wouldn't be missed at all as I'm always on my own anyway, I tryd it last year and it felt so good as it took the pain away what I was feeling, cant believe I am still here, please help me or vive me son advice to help me please, next time I'm going to go somewhere very spe ial so I has to be right I do t want to wake.yp I'm done and fed up, iv found homes for my pets tht iv raised and they don't need me now, thank you for reading (link)
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It is no coincidence that your letter came to my inbox. I just lost my own son less than two months ago. I understand your pain.There is no worse pain in the world than losing a child. As a parent there is always self blame. I have agonized a million times over everything I might have done differently and maybe he would still be alive, but it won't bring him back. If I thought for one minute suicide would let me be with him again, of course I would. But I don't believe it and neither do you deep down, or you would have already done it. I have thought long and hard about how to accept this tragedy and for me there is only one answer. I have to think of what my son would have want. I didn't always take time to listen to his problems. I didn't always say or do the right thing so I feel I owe it to him to listen now. He was the most forgiving person I ever knew, so I know if I could talk to him again he would forgive me. I also know he would want the best life for me that I could possibly have because that is what I wanted for him too. Anything less than this would dishonor his memory. I think you should just take some quiet time and connect with your son's spirit. He will want good things for you, I promise. If anyone is blaming you or bringing negativity into your life ask yourself if your son would want that for you. If the answer is no(and you know it is) then do as your son would wish and remove those people from your life until they can get some help to deal with the situation appropriately. Live your life in a way that will honor your son's memory. Do all you can to help others. Make your son proud. You will feel his spirit with you always. His body is gone ,but his energy, his life-force, his spirit, are still here and he wants to help you. He IS helping you already. Let his spirit heal you. All the shame, guilt, hurt and pain will leave you. In the end the love is what remains.
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Hello, I'm freaking out and don't know what to do. I'm completely out of money and overdrafted by -$10 in my account.
I'm a college student who just moved off to college less than a month ago and found a new job three weeks ago. It turned out though that in the first two weeks my job didn't give me very many hours as I was training so I only wound up with about $110 for the first week and haven't been paid yet for this last week and won't be paid for this week until next Thursday or later.
My issue is that I have a car payment and car insurance which totals about $425 together and my car insurance was taken out this morning, which is what overdrafted me.
I even sold a watch that I loved to make money ($80) but I sold it online and now I won't get paid for it until the buyer gets it and accepts it, but who knows when that will be when I just shipped it today.
My car payment ($316) is due on the 26th and though I have a grace period I have no idea how I'm going to be able to make this!!!
Fortunately, because I am a college student I at least have a meal plan so I can depend on that for food during the week. However, I have no money for food on the weekends or anything else I might need. I'm also 100 miles behind on an oil change in my car so I don't even feel safe driving it and it needs a synthetic change which is $60! I don't know what to do, I feel like everything is a giant disaster right now!
I can't ask my mom or dad for money because they don't have any to spare and I'm stuck on campus without any friends since I'm new here.
Please help me with some ideas!
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I know it is hard not to freak out in these situations but worrying just makes it worse. Maybe you could do some tutoring to make extra money. Most creditors will try to work with you if you call them and explain the situation. This may sound a little crazy but it is time for some positive self talk visualization. Right before you go to sleep imagine yourself debt free with extra money in your pocket. Every time you start worrying just remind yourself money is coming. Every time a negative thought arises replace it with those thoughts. It is called the Law of Attraction. You might just be surprised by what happens!
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I have three kids oldest 12 year old girl then 10 year old boy then 3 year old girl I have had them all with different men and have gone through 1 divorce my current "boyfriend" the youngest girls dad is starting to push that he wants to get married my previous relationships have left me doubtful should I go through with it (link)
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If you have any sort of doubt I strongly suggest that you do not go through with it just because he is pushing you. Seek counseling to find out exactly what your reservations are. If you really do love this man and have no doubts about him personally, a good therapist should be able to help you put the past in the past and get on with your life. If on the other hand you are not quite sure of your feelings for this man or his for you, it is best to resolve these issues before jumping into something you may regret later. If this man truly loves you he will stop pushing and allow you as much time as you need to work through this. You are doing the right thing by looking at it as a serious commitment and not something to jump into on a whim! You seem like a very smart and responsible woman. I think you and your children have a great future to look forward to no matter what you decide!
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I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together.
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance? (link)
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If he came over to ask why you were late and he is teasing around with you I would say that is a good sign that he is interested in you. I believe the best way to handle this would be to ask him about his hobbies. When he starts to tell you, show your interest by asking questions and then tell him you would love hear more about it. Ask if he could call or text you later and tell you more. If he is interested he will. Then once you develop a comfortable texting relationship flirt with him a little bit(tell him you bet he looks really hot playing tennis, riding motor cycles, bowling...whatever the hobby is)and see if he takes it to the next level by asking you out. Step out there and take a chance unless you want to spend the rest of your life wondering "what if"!Good luck!
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Hi, I'm a 14 year old and I want to give my bf a hand job. I've never did anything like that before, and I'm scared I might have a panic/asthma attack if I do because I have never done anything before. He says when I'm ready, but we both know he wants me to. Any suggestions? Oh, a bit of background: I'm 14, he is 13, but I'm only 3 months older than him and we have had phone sex and have been making out and we have been together for over 3 months now. Also, I have like rubbed the front of his pants and boxers and he has came from that but he wants skin to skin contact. From Europe. (link)
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It goes without saying that I do not recommend any type of sexual contact at your age but if you are planning to become sexually active please get on some form of birth control ASAP. Once you start giving your bf hand jobs it can escalate quickly to sexual intercourse. As far as being concerned about an asthma attack I see no reason for any more chance of it than you would normally have. If either of you have semen on your fingers do not bring them in contact with your vaginal opening. The possibly is remote but pregnancy can occur in this manner! Good luck and please be careful!
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My life kind of started to end on July 15 2014. My wife of 52 years and I were sitting on our deck when we looked at each other and said, You know something we got it made. That was because I had finally retired and we had moved into our new house in the mountains. That was around one pm when we spoke those words.
That night around seven we got a call from one of our daughters (Barb). She told us that she had just left the doctors and they had told her she had stage four ovarian cancer, and that she had 1 to 5 years to live.
This as you can imagine floored us. The next morning my wife (Elaine) and I packed her suitcase. We decided that my wife would move in with Barb to help her as much as possible. Barb lives three hours away, so we thought I would drive down on weekends and bring our dog with me.
After three months of Elaine staying there and me coming down on weekends, the stress got so bad between my wife and I. You see, Elaine is 71 years old and she was taking care of Barbs whole house. There are four in the family, Barb, her husband (Jeff) daughter (Kristin age 21) and son (Jeffery age 17). She looked like she was 90 years old. This was killing my wife. Well after three months had gone by, Barb went back to work, so Elaine decided to come home and we would go down on weekends. This lasted till 1/10/16 when Barb passed away.
When my wife came home, I was relieved that she could rest and try to get back to somewhat of a normal life. Well that did not happen. From the minute and I mean minute Elaine walked in the door I was accused of having an affair. I could not believe my ears. Her reasoning was she found Cialis in my bureau drawer. After her throwing this at me I showed her that it was a sample with my name written on it. The funny part of it was, Elaine was the one that picked it up at the doctors office. By the way our doctor not only wrote my name on the box but the date 1/16/2012. Four years before we moved to the mountains.
That was the end of that session. But two weeks later she told me my girlfriend stole five pair of her jeans from the closet. I could go on an on about the accusations but to name just a few. Cigarette butts found in the street meant my girlfriend was standing there watching the house. I was told while we where both out shopping together that there was blood on our mattress pad. When we got home the blood had disappeared. Now remember we never left each others side.
I won’t bore you with more details because there is over 50 accusations made. None of which were true.
Anyway last week a new neighbor moved in and you guessed it I was having an affair with her.
Well two days ago she left me, drained our bank accounts of over $125,000. Leaving me not only with my wife of 52 years but without a penny.
I can’t do this anymore. As much as I love her I want it all to end. I can’t stand the pain. I sit here and look at a bottle of pills the doctor gave us for depression and can’t stop thinking this would end my pain. I was a strong willed man all my life, a rough and tumble construction worker. Well I am a broken man now. She broke me and took my will to live.
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I believe there is a very real possibility the stress of your daughters death coupled with the physical strain of caregiving and doing all the chores was just to much for your wife at 71 years of age. It sounds as though she is becoming forgetful and a bit paranoid and delusional as well. This could simply be a result of the stress or it could be early stage Alzheimer's or senile dementia. It is very important that your wife see a medical doctor ASAP. If she won't take this suggestion from you enlist the help of your children or the agency on aging in your area. I know you are in a lot of pain right now but please try to focus on the big picture. Your wife is not well and seeing that she receives medical attention is your first priority. You also need to contact an attorney, explain that your wife may be suffering from some type of dementia and see what can be done to retrieve the money safely. If she isn't thinking clearly she could lose it all in the blink of an eye! If she is starting to suffer from dementia she is going to need your love and support more than ever. I think in the meantime you should get some counseling for your own depression. If you are religious this would also be a good time to enlist the help of your minister. Perhaps your wife would be willing to listen to him. I am so very sorry for your loss. Please try to gather your strength and take care of yourself. Remember, no matter how this works out you CAN still have a good life.
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Is it possible for a second grader to get pregnent. (link)
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I don't believe for one minute that a second grader is asking this question. I believe an older male who wants to have sex with a second grader is asking this question...because if she turns up pregnant people are going to ask questions, right? You had better listen very carefully to what I am about to tell you because your life depends on it. If you are having sex or thinking about having sex with a child that age you are going to hurt her, you are going to leave scars and evidence that can be used against you in a court of law even 50 years later. There is NO statute of limitations on child molestation or rape. This child WILL eventually understand what was done to her and you WILL be prosecuted. If you are a teenager you need to stay away from this child and ask your parents to take you to counseling immediately. If you are an adult male this is very sick thinking and you need help. Please do the right thing and turn yourself in. Do not follow through with raping this child! You are going to ruin her life and yours as well!
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Alot to say here,but will start with this,I have a somewhat sweetheart and for as long as I have know,has an obsession with a porn star,I feel.He's always visiting her Instagram,always leaving her comments,always trying to make her feel better,something he has never done for me,yet with this one,it seems frequent,he'll go back and like photos from 2 years ago,etc.likes her Facebook,its goes on and on,is he obsessed? or this normal? My complaint is that his ideas of this woman are unrealistic,and obviously he wont go to bed with her,but he doesnt care.He also watches porn quite heavily
He also leaves comments all the time for other girls,calling them sexy,beautiful,wow this,wow that,it goes on and on
Ive been dissapointed with him for quite some time,as I moved out of state to be with with him,Im very let down,because he still hasnt asked me to be girlfriend,I've seen him for a 5 times in the last 2 months,even though he's just 25 minutes away. He also when I got here though it was a good idea,to go on a date with some woman just a few days after moving here,as he recorded this on his Snapchat,and on top of that he admitted he did go on a date after I confronted him. We have of course talked and kept in touch.
To top this all off,he uses the dating APP Tinder,and what he does is look at profiles and looks them up on Instagram and follows them,I could go on about him.
I dont want to make it sound like I'm complaining,but is this is NOT OKAY with me.Not okay to accept this behavior from someone who is making life plans with you. I think maybe he does have a problem,I know that men will look at women,I get them,but he goes a little above and beyond.Its not my place to judge whether he watches porn or not,I myself,am against it,as it teaches nothing about love,and looses touch with what sex truly means,as I feel is the ultimate expression of love and affection for someone else,not because people do it on camera for money and never see each other again.Anyways,back to him,its quite obvious he wont change,and he'll only get worse.... So how do I stop all this from bothering me,and then let him go,I men honestly,does he really sound like man anyone would want to spend the rest of their lives with?
I worked so hard to move here,I got a job,getting another job and am trying so hard to make ends me,whil he jacks off to porn,plays video games,lives with his parents,and as of current has no car...it goes on.Im more mature and established,and I try to make value of m life. I feel we are just so opposite,and I cant tel you how much Ive cried or how his obsession of his whore has hurt me,how he is always looking around behind my back,Im hurting,and want to know what to do,it isnt fair,and if I say anything,its my fault,Im the one who has the problem and is jealous.It's not my fault he lusts after other women? Thats my problem? No it isnt!
What do I do? How do I handle this? Please,thank you! (link)
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It really bothers me that you have to ask how to handle this! This boy is very immature and he has a porn addiction. In addition to that...he isn't into you! In addition to that... you have mentioned several other reasons why he is a pathetic loser!!! I think you need to seek some counseling in order to better understand your choices. I also believe you have some serious self esteem issues. You know all these things about him and yet you will not kick him to the curb without someone telling you to??? It doesn't matter what you gave up to be with him you are going to lose one hell of a lot more than that if you choose to stay! Best wishes to you!
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Hi, I'm 14 (turn 15 this summer), which isn't quite old enough to get a job. But I am very expensive and I need a job because my parents aren't paying for my stuff all the time. Also, I can't do chores because they aren't paying me for them anyway. Also I don't really like children that much so it's not a great idea to babysit. So does anyone have some ideas on how I can make money. (link)
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First of all I would like to commend you on seeing the need to work to earn money for the things you want! At 14 a lot of teens expect far too much from their parents and whine if the they don't get it handed to them. You are willing to work for what you want and that tells me you have good values and a lot of maturity. You could try a dog walking service or maybe get a paper route. If you are crafty you could try making jewelry or knit items to sell. You could offer to water lawns or wash cars for neighbors and family members. Make sure they all know you are doing this as a business to earn money and there is a set fee for your services. Good luck!
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i've been in love with the same guy for about 3 years. we've been dating for a little over a year. we've *lived* together for about 4 years.
i used to always look forward to him coming home. and i've never been more sexually attracted to a person as i am to him. but lately i've become almost bothered by his presence. idk if this is a fluke thing or if i'm seriously just not into it anymore. we haven't been fighting or anything, i'm just kind of bored i guess. we haven't had sex in two weeks. and i relish my alone time more than i do my time with him. i've felt like i was losing interest before,( and i know this happens a lot in relationships, especially when people live together,) but i've always found myself getting over it and feel like we're lovers and best friends again. but for about a week now i've been using any excuse i can to not see him. i feel smothered and trapped. we just signed another year lease on our apartment. i don't want to hurt him though, he's extraordinarily sensitive and can act like a little bitch sometimes. which is also bothersome. i need a man, not a girl. idk what to do. maybe it will change in a couple of days or something but for now, i just want him to leave me alone. (link)
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I would almost be willing to bet the farm that within the past two weeks you have met someone you are comparing him to... The best advice I can give is to leave him immediately. He deserves better! Everyone deserves a partner who appreciates them, not someone filled with so much contempt that they would refer to the person who loves them as "a little bitch"! This man seriously needs to kick you to the curb and find a new room mate!
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I am getting nervous. I'm 32 yrs old and not very experienced sexually. I have kissed lots of girls but my only actual intercourse was a one night stand while drunk and was raw. So that time I cummed within 30 seconds of insertion. I had a 45 minute refractory time. Cummed again 30 seconds on round 2.
A little background - I get hard even just kissing and making out with my new girlfriend, any cuddling activity, even just ass on cock while standing in line anywhere.
So I have a girlfriend now. We tried having sex and I cummed while she was on top of me doing foreplay. It took an hour to get hard again and then once I put a condom on within a minute got flaccid. I couldn't get hard again for the next 20 mins. Next morning we woke up kissed and got hard, put a condom on and within a minute of putting a condom on I blew my load and not even in her yet.
What do I need to do?? I will say I havent masturbated before I just can't seem to get myself off unless someone else is physically with me. Ugh (link)
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I agree with the previous answer. I think you need to experiment more with fantasy(like imagining that she is touching you or on top of you) while masturbating. You need to practice "edging" to gain more self control over your orgasms. After you have become more familiar with what works to delay your orgasm then you can ask your partner to help you experiment as well. There are devices available(online or in adult stores)that are worn on the penis to aid in delaying orgasm. There are also numbing creams available as well. In the meantime I would suggest that you bring your gf to orgasm first through manual or oral stimulation before engaging in intercourse. This not only takes the pressure to perform off of you but you are also being considerate enough to make sure she is not left hanging. Lots of intimacy is key until you get in sync with each other. I think once you "desensitize" to being with a partner things will be just fine.
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im a blunt bold person, so I asked this guy out last year .....nothing happened, yet I still frequent the store he works at, super low prices ( he's a store manager there)....anyway he just stares at me everytime I go into the store, well today I needed some help finding something and he was the only one on the floor, so I went to him and asked where's the canned corn, he got up and I said thanks assuming he was going to help me, and he turns to me and says I didn't say I was going to help you, so I called him a fukker and he put his head down and showed me where the item was and walked away....wtf is up with his shitty attitude.....he doesn't like me that's fine, im over the crush.....wtf is he acting like such an azz towards me? thanks (link)
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Well I am going to go out on a limb here and make the assumption that "nothing happened" means he wasn't interested in starting a relationship... I am going to go a little further out on that limb in thinking that your "frequenting" the store to the point he is feeling like perhaps he is being stalked. Guys really hate that. At any rate there is no excuse for a manager to behave that way towards a customer. I would either change stores or make sure you go there when he isn't working. If he is ever rude in a professional capacity again I would complain to higher management. You are lucky he wasn't interested in you, he sounds like a real jerk!
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Hi guys! My boyfriend quit smoking at the beginning of this month, April first. He mainly did it for me, I didn't like it and I want to keep him around as long as possible...obviously. So, when he reaches his one month mark of not smoking, I want to do something special for him but I can't really think of anything that I'm really stoked about doing for him, to really exemplify my love and appreciation.
So, if any of you guys have ideas, I would greatly appreciate it! I was thinking a little gift - he's been wanting a smart watch lately so I was thinking of looking into getting the one he has bookmarked on his amazon wish list. He just got a new car, I wanted to take it out and fill his tank for him so he didn't have to do that. Maybe bake him something. I just want to do something for him that really shows how much I appreciate him doing this for me and congratulate him for making it a month and for many months to come.
Again, any help is appreciated! I'm 21 and he is 23. (link)
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I think it is wonderful that you want to show your boyfriend how much this means to you and how proud you are but I don't think lavishing him with extravagant gifts is necessarily the best way to show it. In fact it might make him feel that you will expect lavish gifts in the event that you do something that pleases him and then you have created a very uncomfortable dynamic that will be very stressful to continue. I think a quiet dinner where you express your appreciation with words is all that this situation calls for. I would save the smart watch for a birthday or Christmas gift! I am sure he is already knows he did the right thing by quitting!
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Ok, so I live in the philippines and I am an incoming sophomore in college. I chose BSBA Human Resource Management as a course, but then I realized that the salary for a human resource manager is really low here :/
Help me
It's really really hard to pursue this course, since it is business related. I see my friend in tourism and she's having a really great touring the country. What's more is that she already has a fixed job after, and I'm not even sure what I'm gonna be! I'm really in an internal conflict right now... (link)
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Honey, just breathe! You are only a sophomore, you don't need to have your whole life figured out yet! You obviously chose this course because you liked it and liking what you do is a lot more important than making a lot of money. Try taking one day at a time and just making decisions for that day. There is a quote I read somewhere that I would like to share with you and I hope you give it some thought. "Comparison is the thief of joy". As soon as you stop comparing your life to your friends life I think you will have a much better perspective on things!
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I've been feeling disconnected from people and lonely for a while; even a little bit numb. It's not numb like I don't feel emotions, its more like I'm living in a cloud of emotions and everything else doesn't seem to matter. School, sleep, chores; I just can't make myself care. But relationship wise, I care a whole lot.
It has just been this way for a couple of weeks and I want it to stop!
I know that I need to care about school because I need to get good grades, but I just can't make myself care because I am floating in this cloud of emotion.
And I find myself delaying going to sleep, not because I'm not tired, but because I'm lonely. Almost every evening, generally sometime between 8 and 9:30, I get super lonely to the point that I cry, and I'll sit in front of the computer hoping that one of my friends will email me or that one of them will be available to chat, but they rarely are and then I just cry and I don't stop or go to bed until past 11. And I know that the next day I will be exhausted, but in the moment, I just don't think about going to bed.
I feel disconnected from my friends and I don't understand why...I am interacting with them now just as much as I ever have, but it suddenly doesn't feel like enough.
These feelings of floating in a cloud of emotion do have a specific beginning...I can pinpoint the exact moment. It was when my friend told me that my crush(which she didn't know about) of 3+ years was dating someone else. Ever since then I feel like I'm in a cloud....
I don't know how to fix it and I want to because I know this state isn't good for me...
Um...if anyone wants more information to answer the question, feel free to email me at 8pinkclouds98@gmail.com ...given my current state of mind, emails from anyone that are actually interested in me at all are very exciting to receive...so yeah.... (link)
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It has been over 40 years and I can still remember what it felt like to hear that my crush was dating someone else!I don't think I handled it quite as well as you are though! I tried to show up where I knew he would be(yes, in a stalkerish sort of way...)and I would get my friends to call his house(there were no cell phones back then)...oh,it was sad!I sat in school all day in the same sort of cloud you are describing just writing his initials on all my notebooks. Unfortunately this sort of thing is just a right of passage and yes...it will finally get better. Try to find a new hobby, maybe make some new friends or experiment with your make up and clothes a little bit and create an exciting new look for yourself! Treat yourself to something that always makes you feel happy. Make sure you understand that whatever choice your crush is making it is NOT a personal statement about you. You are an awesome unique wonderful person and someone out there has been waiting to meet someone like you! It is okay to mourn the loss of your dreams for a little while but then you have to pick yourself up and move on with your life. Depression is very common among teens so if you don't get back to feeling normal in a couple of weeks have a talk with your parents or guidance counselor. Best wishes to you!
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Hi I'm 15 and I want to wear makeup just so I can have fun with the lip colors but my parents won't let me wear makeup. So I was thinking since all I want to wear is lip colors maybe my parents would let me just wear lip colors. But I've never seen anyone just wear a bold lip without putting on everything else. What do you think? Is that normal? Or would it be a cute new trend? (link)
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Sometimes you will amazed at how far a good mature conversation can go with parents. If you tell them you understand why they have rules for you (and you will always respect them)ask them if maybe there is some type of compromise they would agree to concerning makeup. Ask if maybe they would consider just a little make up on the condition that you will get their approval before you leave the house. If they still say no then thank them politely for their time. This might cause them to rethink their stand on this issue but either way you are very lucky to have parents who really care about you! Sadly, a lot of teens are not so fortunate. You seem like a very intelligent and mature young woman. I'll bet you can find a way to set new trends with hair or fashion that will take the focus completely off of makeup!
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