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Idk what to do I'm scared I might have a panic/asthma attack
Hi, I'm a 14 year old and I want to give my bf a hand job. I've never did anything like that before, and I'm scared I might have a panic/asthma attack if I do because I have never done anything before. He says when I'm ready, but we both know he wants me to. Any suggestions? Oh, a bit of background: I'm 14, he is 13, but I'm only 3 months older than him and we have had phone sex and have been making out and we have been together for over 3 months now. Also, I have like rubbed the front of his pants and boxers and he has came from that but he wants skin to skin contact. From Europe.
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Hey!
I don't think you should be doing this "stuff" at your age. You're still really young, and you shouldn't be worrying, or getting caught up with this. You should be going out with friends, or doing other important things! If all he wants from you is sex than he's not worth it at all. I know some people that are your age, and were pregnant, because they were irrasponsible about it.
I'm not sure if this will change your mind, but I really do hope it does!
-Swimmer133
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It goes without saying that I do not recommend any type of sexual contact at your age but if you are planning to become sexually active please get on some form of birth control ASAP. Once you start giving your bf hand jobs it can escalate quickly to sexual intercourse. As far as being concerned about an asthma attack I see no reason for any more chance of it than you would normally have. If either of you have semen on your fingers do not bring them in contact with your vaginal opening. The possibly is remote but pregnancy can occur in this manner! Good luck and please be careful!
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okay my aunt and my cousin have asthma and they have asthma attacks when they are around something that they are allergic to like pollen. Another thing is when they are around like cigarrette smoke and perfume. so no for real you would not have a freaking asthma attack to be honest. And panic attack is when you have severe stress over something so you won't have a freaking panic attack unless your like stressing over moving your hand to slow or something.(sarcasm) If you have rubbed him before and made out with him,do the same thing as that...You guys are laying on the bed and making out, you pull down his pants and he is poking up like a stick. so you start to feel it and you grab it and start moving up and down till he cums. If your only doing a hand job that's all it will stop at. But most of the time those lead into some kind of oral in some way. I wouldn't allow him to take off a lot of your clothes cause that normally leads to sex. And if you are worried about messing up then one thing you can do to make the process go faster is that you can lay on top of him and kind of like rub up against it to make him hard and aroused while you are making out
DONT ever look at porn because those are actors and stuff doesn't actually like that. But i think you should do it like for your man. Dont be scared about messing up because i have a story for you so you don't ever feel bad about messing up so this story is from a perspective of a dude and as long as you dont do this your good :)
I was 21, my girlfriend was an 18 year old virgin (and a goodie goodie). She wasn't ready for sex, and she didn't like giving blowjobs (but she loved me going down on her), so all I could get from her was hand jobs. One time we were at her house (she lived with her parents), it was like 1:00 am and her parents were asleep. We were fooling around and, obviously, she started stroking me off. Just as I'm about to cum her dog walks up and starts sniffing around (I was on my back on her couch, she was kneeling on the floor over me). So she's jerking me with her left hand, I'm like "I'm about to cum" when the dog walks up. She stops tugging away to pet the dog, saying if she doesn't it will bark and wake up her parents. So I bitched at her not to ****ing stop right now, so she puts her left hand back to half ass jerk me and pets the dog with her right hand. The only problem is, it's pretty much over now. It was the worst orgasm ever!!!!!!!!!!
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I dont know if you quite understand how Asthma or panic attacks work.
You won't get an asthma attack if you've not been diagnosed with asthma. Yes you can have them even if this is not the case but generally it's very unlikely you'll get one doing this.
Panic attacks are something I've had in the past, where you honestly feel like your dying. They're caused by built up anxiety over a sustained period of time-you have to be ultra worried about something and dreading it. When they strike it's hard to breather properly and you get tunnel vision, sweats and palpitations.
So no you won't get a panic attack because if you were dreading doing this to your bf that much you wouldn't have posted on here asking for help to actually do it-you just wouldn't do it all together.
I mean has he ever had a hand job before? If he loves.you he'll be patient with you and the best thing you can do is ask how he likes it and he can guide you.
Sure you're not going to be ace first time who is but I guess my advice would be to stop worrying about it as it's all part of how you learn to do things properly. Ask him to guide you. If he is disatisfied by what you've done then he doesn't deserve you ad a girlfriend.
Don't stress you're only 13...
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Asthma is an illness that is somewhat controllable as I think you know. A panic attack can and almost always will bring on an asthma attack. Panic attacks, like being scared is an inborn safety valve. They happen mostly out of fear just as being afraid or scared with the exception that these panic attacks are height of being fearful.
When you become scared or afraid or have a full blown panic attack your body is telling you something that you are refusing to accept from your mind. It is a signal that you could be in danger or as in this instance you are really not ready to do this for him.
Your 14 he is 13 you are really not that mature to be entering into that phase of life where any type of sex between you should be happening. He has said, "When you are ready." "Had he said something like; "If you loved me you would do this for me." I would tell you to dump him for his love for you is that of LUST not LOVE.
If he is truly willing to wait until you're ready then my suggestion is you continue to hug, kiss and make out. As for what you allow him to do or touch. Stay within your boundaries and keep your clothes on both of you. When you’re ready to move on it will come naturally but don't force it.
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