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I've been friends with this girl for like 6 years,and in the past couple of years she's been so focused on herself that 90%she wants to meet or go shopping with me,she stood me up.her exuse is always "i forgot " also i know that she has told peole iin the past the secrets I trusted her with,let's call her A.
A was with this really nice and kind guy and she told she was just using him to do her projects for her,and she really talked shit about him.He really loved her and still gets tears in his eyes when her name comes up.in the past year i have been talking to that guy and we have became really good friends,and i told him that she's not good for him and she talks behind his back about him and his family and she's using him.so today ,
I recently went on a trip with A and another friend( B).it was the worst trip ever,they were on their phones all the time and i had stopped in the middle of an important project to go on trip with them.B also knows the guy A was with.
When we returned ,i told the guy about how bad the trip was for me and how i didn't enjoy it.in the days since our return,B has been acting really wierd with me and I thought I should give her space.today my guy friend called and told me I should talk to A&B cause they told himthey're upset with me.i called A and she started with why i have been talking to him instead of her and he's worthless and why itold him everything about the trip.i told her that he's a close friend of mine,but i have really talked shit about her to him,in my defense she has been a really awful friend and just calls me whenever she needs something. When I talked to her she started to fish for things she thought I said.she had also texted the guy but he told me he blocked her at 9pm but she was still calling me and asking me to tell her if i had said this or that until 10:30.the only person i've been telling these things beside the guy is B.and she's been quite about this evening but apparently had a alot to say about me to the guy,A basically told me she doesn't want to be friends with me (we haven't been real friends in years,she has put me in bad situations for her own gain,i just stayed friends with her to have someone to talk to in university).A is insisting on setting up a date to gather and talk,and I'm tired of pretending that she's a dear friend.the thing that pissed her off is that I talked about her relationship and the fact that i've been upset with her behavior has been pushed to the side.i denied talking shit about her,but she kept bringing up new things and knowing the guy has blocked her,only B remains to tell her these stuff.
How do i get out of this situation without making a greater mess?
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Talking shit behind her back makes you just as shallow as her. I'm not defending anyone. I'm just saying it's really messed up to talk shit about people, even if they've treated you badly. An easy way to handle the situation without making a bigger mess is to leave her. If she's just using you, that doesn't make her your friend, and just hanging out with her alone is going to cause more problems. She's not worth your time and energy, if anything, she's manipulative, toxic, and fake. I know you can find better friends, that care about you.
Hope this helps, and good luck!
-Swimmer133
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Ok, I have this friend who just broke it off with her bf a month ago. All of sudden she has 'my happiness' on her snapchat stories and all sorts of stuff like that. The next day she comes to me crying. I find out that he is texting her saying that he wants her back even though he is dating someone else. Then today he went up to her and yelled at her face pushing her. I don't want her sad no more. And she isn't over him and he keeps fuxking up her emotions. And mind I say she has been cutting too. Please help me. I don't want her like this. I love her as a friend and I don't want to lose her completely.... :// (link)
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The best thing to do is to tell her to cut him off completely, before anything bad happens. Delete or block his number, block him on any social media platforms. Guys like him are manipulative and get what they want. She should try to tell him to leave her alone, but if you're going to do that make sure that it's her telling him, not you, or anyone else. He sounds like he's becoming obsessed with her, which is very toxic and dangerous. It can get violent and someone might get hurt in the end.
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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Its my 17th birthday in a week and i want to do something. I have decided to have a movie and bonfire night (its winter). We will watch movies, roast marshmellows, eat finger foods and desert and listen to music. What else could we do that doesnt cost to much money?
How could i have a camp out in the wintrr if its cold? (link)
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You should set up blankets, and pillows around the campfire, and try to make an outdoor movie theater (there's a really easy and affordable way to make a projector out of a shoebox. You can look it up on YouTube). You can make and drink hot cocoa. You can play truth or dare, would you rather, Never have I ever, an ABC scavenger hunt, prank calling people, ding dong ditch, speed stacker with party cups. Those are just a few ideas that will get people to connect and cost nothing.
Hope this helps, and happy early b-day!
-Swimmer133
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I've like the guy I like for a year. At first, I wouldn't let myself get a crush on him because he's popular and i already know other girls who like him. We were paired with eachother in science and we started talking. We had deep conversastions and he told me some things that he hadn't told anyone else before. Then, we had a different seating arrangement and I would catch him staring at me. I then decided it's okay to have a crush on him. A couple months before now, he would still stare at me but he was dating another girl. I was confused because if he was dating someone wouldn't he like her more than me? They broke up like two weeks later tho. Now, I've noticed him staring at me longer. Before it used to be glances but now it's like 5 seconds or more. I really want to tell him I like him but I don't know how. I was thinking of putting a note in his locker but his friends would probably find out and I'm not saying they will but they could make fun of me (his friends are idiots) Someone help plz (link)
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Guy's are literally so confusing, especially when it comes to love, and relationships. If you want to tell him you like him I think you should pull him aside, into a more private area and just tell him straight up that you like him. I know it's easier said than done, but trust me if you use a note that can things can sometimes end up getting awkward between the two of you. I mean that's really all I can tell you.
Defiantly talk to your friends/close friend about what to do too, because they know you way better than random strangers.
Anyways I hope this sort of helps! Best wishes!
-Swimmer133
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Hello,I've got a problem,kinda...I'm going to tell you whats this "problem" about...ever since I was a little girl I loved to sing and make up my own songs,and later when I was older I realised that singing and music is something that I enjoy doing and that it is something that I love...I tried to tell my mom that but she thinks this is just temporary and that later I won't care about this(she told me this 2 yrs ago)...but I still do.I am from a country named Bosnia and English is not my first language,but I knew how to speak it since I was 3 yrs old(and not many people are good as I am at English so thats rare here).My mom wants me to do something I dont want to,but thats something she wanted to do when she was my age,and she is excited that I would be able to live her dream...I want to be a singer and write my own songs,but she wants me to be a translator for companies and something like that idk...I dont know how to tell her thats not what I want,and that music is my passion without hurting her feelings...Please help me,I dont know what to do. (link)
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I my parents are the same. I'm really interested in the visual arts, but my parents keep telling to find a different passion or career choice. I know in my guts that art is what I want to do with my life. I think, from your mom's point of view, she wants you to be successful in life. In my opinion, I don't think there's a way to tell your mom what you want to do with your life, without hurting her, or getting into an argument. Trust me I've been through that one too many times. The thing is if you know singing is what you want to do with your life, NEVER EVER stop fighting for it.
I know this might not be much, but I hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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So, yesterday I got the courage to tell the guy that I like that I like him. I knew that he didn't like me back since we were barely friends.
Anyway, after I told him, he said this: "I'm flattered (my name)!!! But you know you and me don't talk a lot. Trust me, u don't wanna like me lol"
Then I said: "I know we don't talk much, that's why I said me liking you is stupid."
He said: "Yea, we should talk more. Hmu sometime!"
^^ I don't know whether he said that to just be nice or whether he actually meant it. I'm scared to talk to him :(
Was he being for real or just to be nice?
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You should really hang out with him sometime!! :)
That'll be a really good opportunity for you to know more about him, and vice versa. Instead of liking each other b/c of looks. You never know maybe he likes you back, but he doesn't know much about you yet so he's kinda awkward about it, or maybe he's just a shy guy...
I mean that's all I really have to say. I hope this helps tho!
-Swimmer133
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I don't understand what the big deal is, literally everyone I know is in my ear telling me it's time for me to start dating and get a boyfriend. Even my own dad! He wanted me to get a prom date (but I couldn't which is a long story) now he wants me to have a boyfriend by my second year of university. Then today my sisters friends (they're all 16) we asking my sister about my first year in university then they started asking "does she have a boyfriend?" Or "is she seeing/talking to anyone" or "is she partying" or "is she experimenting" or "did she see any guy she likes?" Of course all my sisters answers were no and they all felt sorry for me saying it's my first year and I should put myself out there more. The problem is I don't have any guy friends!! I feel like I repel guys and I'm also awkward talking to attractive guys so I don't bother. The only guy friends I have are my friends boyfriends and I only talk to them when I'm around my friends. Anyways I do want to be in a relationship but I'm not even confident with myself, I don't have any guy friends to possibly blossom it into a relationship, I've tried online dating but I got too scared cause I felt like the guy i was talking to could be a weirdo so I deleted the app. Also relationships seem expensive now at days so I need a job first before I even try. I'm not talking about fancy dinners or anything but I don't have a car so I'd be wasting money on the bus to see my significant other etc. Anyways does anyone have any tips on how to put myself out there more but stay in my comfort zone? I got out of my comfort zone when it was orientation week for my school I went by myself didn't know anyone, made a couple friends long story short they're not my friends anymore bc my mom didn't let me go to all the orientation days so they forgot about me. I don't live on residence so it's not like I can really explore campus. Except for when I have my one hour breaks from class. Also one guy hit on me at school but he looked 21ish, and he had an accent but tried to Americanize it , I didn't give him my number though because even though he's here for school I think we would've been culturally different so it would be hard. My mom said I should've gave him my number but I'm not that desperate (besides he was the first guy to ever hit on me). Anyways please help on how to either put myself out there, make guy friends or find a way to make everyone buzz out of my love life. And thank you if you have read this far! Happy holidays (link)
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First off it's not a bad thing that you've never had a boyfriend before.
Honestly it's all about what you feel is right. That is your decision to make, and no one (not even your parents, or friends) can force you into dating someone if you don't want to. You shouldn't feel pressured into dating someone if that's not what you want. Dating someone can actually be a really big commitment and only you know when you're ready to take that next step.
If you do want to try "experimenting" with guys, start talking to more guys. Start with finding a guy at school that you're comfortable to talk to, and comfortable to be around. Get this guy into the friend zone. Act natural around him, like how'd you act around your friends. From there see if you're comfortable talking to other guys. I know this is easier said than done, but trust me I've had this problem before (talking to guys, I mean). In middle school I was seen as "one of the guys." Getting into high school was completely different for me, b/c I was no longer with my "middle school guy posse." I was hanging out with more girl groups, and less guys (freshman year). So when I got into my first class (sophomore year), there was this really cute guy, but I felt like I completely forgot how to act around guys. I acted like a complete idiot, the first few weeks. Later on, I met a guy whom I was really comfortable around, and we became really close and it helped me "re-learn" how to act around guys. From there I started hanging out with girls AND guys.
Idk if this'll help. Sorry if it's too long, and too much about me.
I hope in a way this'll helps. Best wishes!
-Swimmer133
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Okay so im a teen and dont really have money. My parents love coffee so i bought each of them a coffee mug now what can i do with it to make it look cute/put in it? And also whats cute ways of wrapping it?
And how do you wrap shoes? (link)
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You can do a cute hot coco mug set.
Get a plain white coffee mug. You can decorate the mug with colorful sharpies, with whatever decor you want.
Get a pack of hot coco powder, and put the packet (with the powder still in it) into the mug
Put some marshmallows into a ziploc baggie (or a baggie with out the zip), and cut off the bag's zipper, use some ribbon to tie the baggie. Put the marshmallows into the mug.
Get a candy cane and put it into the mug with the rest of the ingredients.
You can wrap it up if you want or leave it the way it is. It's really, quick, really easy, and great for giving!
Hope this helps!!
-Swimmer133
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Me and my daughter just came home from her 12 year old checkup. They weighed her and she was 160. I just don't understand how this happened. And the whole time the docter was more into bullying my daughter than really trying to help her lose weight. We all eat fairly heathly and her twin brother is fine. Please help me help her lose the weight without starving herself. Now she thinks she is fat and ugly but I don't want her to get an eating disorder or anything. (link)
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I think one thing you could've done in that doctor's office was to stand up for your child. I've been in and out of eating disorders, and therapy. From my experience, the smallest things or words automatically made me feel bad about myself. What I'm trying to say is to be really careful about how you confront her about this situation. Especially at the age of 12 that's when a girl's (or guy's) self esteem will drop, because they're going through puberty, and their body is changing.
Exercise. Not only will it help lose weight in a healthy way, but it's healthy in general. The exercise requirement for children is an hour.
Portion Sizes. Something I go by when I'm eating any meal is, "eat until you feel good, not until you're full" Our stomachs are a lot smaller that we think, and it takes a while for your brain to realize that you're actually full.
Take your time when you're eating, and eat your final meal 3-4 hours before going to bed
Of course there are more ways to lose weight, but these are some of the basic starters. I DO NOT suggest dieting, at an age where she's still developing and need certain nutrients and minerals.
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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So here's the deal..
My boyfriend of 7 months is one of the most caring and most loving guys i've met. He's thoughtful, constantly complimenting me and has told me that he loves me and im his dream girl. I feel completely comfortable around him, however we are long distance so we dont get to see eachother often. I had also recently had a long hospital stay and had to have a serious operation, he stuck by me through this. However.. i during this situation was trying to distance myself from him.. don't ask me why.. i dont know. This really upset him and worried him and i felt really guilty, but it was from this point that i found myself losing feelings. He would message/call me all the time to check on me. After being discharged, a month passes and we meet. Everything is fine in person and i was being very affectionate.. however a few days pass and i find myself replying later and later to him and those feelings were slipping away again.
Long story short, i feel like a shit human being because im being like this and giving him mixed signals. Im contemplating breaking up but i jumping back and forth everytime i think of all the good things about him. He's the type of guy that every girl dreams of and here i am being so darn unappreciative. I just dont get it, im torn..
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What I would do is, I would talk to him about how you feel. If this keeps going on it'd be all one-sided, you'd be leading him on, and that just gets worse later in the future. Try taking a break from each other. I know it's probably going to hurt him, but it's better to come clean, than to lie in a relationship. But at the end it's about how you feel, and choices you make, not about the "advice" people feed you. Do whatever feels right for you.
Hope this helps
-Swimmer133
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I'm almost 14 and I feel upset sometimes because of my parents. I mean, I get that parents lecture and that's their job to educate their child, but my parents take that too far. So on one odd morning I was going to be late so I forgot to make my bed, so they lectured me the whole morning and yelled at me, not even because of me being unorganised, but stuff like I'll be a beggar and no man would want me and very off topic subjects. And they think everything I do is stupid, like the way I tie my hair, or wash the dishes. They complain that I don't do my homework but they always call me down to do the dishes or sweep the floor when I'm home. They always compare me to my cousins and friends, like 'why don't you start being like her? ' they lecture me and practically yell and swear at me and go on and on forever. I sometimes cry in my room because of this. I know it's probably because I'm not good enough, but please give some advice!!!! (link)
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I know how you feel, because I've grown up with people comparing me to their kids. I grew up thinking "I probably should be more like them." Even in high school I was always being compared. I was always lectured by "adults" about how I do everything things. The only thing I heard was "You're no good enough." It was really hard for me, because I was dealing with a ton of stress, so I had to carry work, and meet up to people's expectations. Later one I realized you DON'T have to meet up to people's expectations, you DON'T have to be like your cousins, or your friends. And you know why? Because you're NOT them, you're yourself. There's only one YOU in this world, and everyone does things differently. There's no wrong way to do things, there's many different ways to do things. I've learned to ignore people's comments, because I know I can't be perfect, but I trying to be the best person I can be. As long as you're trying for yourself, and as long as you're happy, that's all that really matters. Also don't be scared of failure, or mistakes, because that's part of life, it helps us become better.
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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Hi everyone, so I am 20 years old and my ex is 35. We dated for a year and a half and lived together. We have been broken up for about 6-7 weeks now. I miss him. I love this man. We had plans to move away together and now he's leaving and moving away within the next few months. My heart is shattered. We were very toxic together, constantly arguing, I have awful communication skills which was a big issue in our relationship on my end but on his, I was always anxious. I felt like no matter what I did I would get lectured, or made fun of, or get in trouble like a child. I was so unhappy in the relationship and prayed God would give me an out because I was so unhappy, and so anxious. Now I miss him, and I just want him, I want things to be wonderful. Trust has been broken and tested on both sides. He has pulled me out of my family parties because we were fighting or he wasn't enjoying himself. My family started to invite me to less things because they didn't want him around. My family, and friends don't like him. As toxic as we are I love him. I'm mortified that he's leaving, I can't believe he's leaving me. He's taking my/our dream and running with it. He can't live in that house because it's so empty and he needs a brand new start in life. Towards the end I said "I'm scared to leave but I'm more scared to stay" and now I find myself not even knowing what I want. I just want to lay next to him, I want to feel him and know that he's here. Just any advice, any comment. Maybe you've been in a crazy toxic relationship and how did you resolve it? He's also a very angry person and I am a very happy easy going person and that was a big issue always because he'd get mad over just about anything. Anything might help. Thank you! (link)
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Letting go can be one of the hardest things in life but it can also be the best thing that has ever happened to you.
Why do you really miss him? Why do you really want him? The main question would be, were you happy? Are you happy now?
A toxic relationship like that is not healthy what so ever, and
can lead to an abusive relationship. Think of it like a drug.
Breaking away from a toxic relationship can feel like tearing at barbed wire with bare hands. The more you do it, the more it hurts, so for a while, you stop tearing, until you realize that it’s not the tearing that hurts, it’s the barbed wire – the relationship – and whether you tear at it or not, it won’t stop cutting into you.
-I got this off an article (deep stuff)
I can't make you leave him, but you can think about it. Only you know what's best for yourself
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Hi I'm 15 and I want to wear makeup just so I can have fun with the lip colors but my parents won't let me wear makeup. So I was thinking since all I want to wear is lip colors maybe my parents would let me just wear lip colors. But I've never seen anyone just wear a bold lip without putting on everything else. What do you think? Is that normal? Or would it be a cute new trend? (link)
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So, I've seen a lot of girls wear lipsticks with just a little mascara, and that's about it. If you already have naturally long, lush eyelashes than you won't even need the mascara. What I like about that is all the attention goes to the fun colors of your lips. If you do that, I do recommend sticking with a more sheer lip color.
Hope this helps!
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I am 24 and work with a hot, hot, hot 41 year old woman. We started a friend with bennies relationship about 5 months ago. We have sex once a week to every other week. She was 2 kids that are in high school. Went we have sex it's mostly at her apartment when her kids are at work or staying the night at their friends house. We have mostly use condoms but their has been one or two times that she says its the safe time of the months and if I can pull out we don't have to use them. A few encounters ago we did not have any condoms so she said to me " that's ok, we can go with out them". I asked he if it was a safe time and she replied " no". I asked her if we would be safe still if I pulled out. She said that I did not have to pull out if I didn't want to. I asked her "what if you get knocked up" She replied " I will have a baby". I was kinda set back but I got turned on right away. The thought of me getting her pregnant was very erotic to me. I asked he if she wanted me to get her pregnant and she said " kinda, but it's not up to me baby. It's up to the man. I was ok with you knocking me up the first time we made love". So we have now had sex five times without birthcontrol and I do not know if I have gotten her pregnant but the more I think about it, I am starting to get cool feet about her having my baby (link)
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You have to understand (that when you don't use protection) there are a lot more consequences than just getting her pregnant. You have to watch out for STDs as well. If you do get her pregnant ask yourself "Will I be there to support this child financially, and as a father?" Because remember this woman has two kids of her own (probably a single mom) so she already has three mouths to feed, including her own. Also keep in mind raising a child can be very expensive.
Adding on top of all of this, 24 is still a really young age. You can be out doing things you love without a baby being in the way.
So to sum up everything for you. Scan for STDs, use protection, and having a baby can be the biggest mistake/responsibility of your life (in the situation that you're in right now).
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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My boyfriend and I have been together for a while. He's basically the most perfect human being to me. He's smart, he's handsome, he's sweet, and he treats me like royalty! He says all of the right things to me and he makes me feel good. I couldn't ask for anything better. The only issue is...HE SMOKES WEED OCCSSIONALLY! I am one who has morals- I am a virgin, I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't party, etc. I'm not trying to be judgmental, but I don't know how to handle it! It really bothers me and I don't know what to do. Any advice? (link)
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Smoking weed occasionally isn't a bad thing at all. If anything smoking weed can help you relax, and has many health benefits (if you use it responsibly). I have anxiety, so I actually find smoking weed really relaxing for me. Again I don't do it on a daily basis, I only do it occasionally.
I honestly think you should let him smoke occasionally, but make sure he's using it right. If it bothers you just tell him to not smoke it in front of you, or to try and get rid of the smell after he smokes. Now if he's on meth, cocaine, or a more addictive drug I would understand where you're coming from.
I know you really love this guy by the way you talk about him
so you shouldn't let that little thing bother you so much. Besides that doesn't define who he is as a person. He still treats you right, and he's still smart, and he still loves you.
I just want you to be a little open-minded about it, and put some thought into it.
-Swimmer133 :)
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i want my tongue pierced for my 18th birthday. do it honestly hurt? (link)
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So idk if I'm late with this question, but I'll answer it anyways :)
So it actually is one of those piercing that's the least painful. It really depends on how long your tongue is though, weird I know. The longer your tongue is, the less painful it will be. Someone I know actually got a tongue piercing a while back, and she said that she felt it, but it didn't hurt at all.
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So I'm 17(f), and I don't ever wear any makeup of any kind, but I'd really like to wear makeup once in a while, not because I don't think I look good, but just to enhance my features. I want to find sort of a very natural look.
I have tried a few things, but I have discovered that I am unable to apply mascara; it ends up all over my cheeks and eyelids and I poke myself way too many times. Eyeliner is doable but not easy...
I also have fairly full lips, particularly my upper lip, so anything with significant colour is definitely out.
I'm pretty cheap too...I don't want to spend too much money on makeup...so I guess the fewer products needed the better?
So yeah...if anyone has suggestions about some looks or tips that I should try...I can experiment a bit with my mom's and friend's makeup for some stuff to find out if I like it before I buy anything, but I just need some help! I am so clueless and I don't want to bug my friends with this!
Also, I know I want to get some kind of concealer... suggestions on what kind (not brand...like format/style...)? (link)
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First off I'm a cheapie too :) So a lot of the makeup that I buy are actually drugstore makeup. Drugstore makeup, and high end are very similar in texture, color, and quality. I highly recommend using E.L.F products, which you can find in any drugstore.
*For mascara you can try to bend the brush of the wand for easier application
*Before applying mascara, wipe of the excess mascara on a napkin to prevent clumping
*After using your mascara, keep it submerged in hot water to keep it in it's liquid state, so it doesn't clump up
*When you're applying mascara onto your bottom lashes, hold a spoon underneath your eye, or tissue, so you don't get the product all over your face
*If you get mascara on your eyelids, use a q-tip to wipe it off
*If you want fuller looking lips I recommend using a matte lipstick, or any type of nude lip colors
*For concealer and foundation it should obviously match your skin color
*Find a type of concealer and foundation that will fit your skin type. So if you have oily skin, there's matte concealer for oily skin. Or if you have dry skin, there's concealer for that too (I'm not sure if it has a name)
*For eyeliner, I recommend using white eyeliner on your bottom waterline. It makes your eyes look bigger. If you want you can use a fun color on your bottom waterline, for just a pop of color
When you're using foundation, concealer, or primer, be sure to use a sponge (preferably a beauty blender, but it can be a little pricey). Sponges gives you a softer, more natural texture for your skin.
Other ways to enhance your facial features:
Primer: Primer, gives your skin a dewy look, rather than cakey, or floury. Like foundation and concealer, there are different types for your skin type
Blush: Use a little bit of blush on the apples of your cheeks. Be careful to not go overboard with the blush.
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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Im 15 and I want to get pregnant but..im scared...about how my parents would react if I got pregnant so early...I really wanna have a baby..I just think there so cute...id love to have one of my own...tho..:( (link)
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Babies may seem cute, but you have to have a lot of commitment. Teen moms drop out of school to take care of their kid(s), and don't graduate high school. It is very unlikely that the teen father of the child will be there to help support the mother of the child and the child. Taking care of a baby isn't just physically, and mentally challenging, it's also financially challenging. At your age, you're going through puberty, changes in mental health etc. You can barely take care of yourself let alone another child. Babies are not born to please the mothers. Once theres a child in your life, you won't have a regular life anymore, your life will revolve around the baby's life.
I really do hope you think twice about this...
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I am upset with my grandmother.She is the head of our family. Everybody respects her. My mother always takes care of her and her daughter in bad conditions. But now my mother is ill but she is humiliated by her and her daughter because of my mother's illness. I can't say anything in front of her as she is elder to me, but I am not able to see my mother's sad face. I don't know what to do.I am not able to concentrate on my studies too. Please help me if possible.I just need the advice as I am confused what to do.
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Hey!
By reading this I feel like you guys are a pretty traditional family. I've been living in a sort of traditional family as well, and like you, I'm not allowed to talk back to the elderly. Honestly they've been telling me what I can't an can do. I've been put down by them pretty much all my life. One day I couldn't take it anymore and I snapped. I told them off, after that I got a little more respect than before. I think I could've approached the situation differently. Instead of yelling back at them (because yelling never solves anything), I could've kept my cool, and told them to stop politely. I think that's what you should do. Tell your grandma how you feel about her, picking on your mom, and about her actions.
Your feelings, are more important than your age.
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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Edit
So I like this guy (he's a junior, I'm a freshman) but I don't know how to talk to him :(
School is over... he knows me, like he knows that I exist, we talk VERY briefly before, but he doesn't remember. I don't know hwo to talk to him... I have him on Instagram & Facebook... but it's weird to just message someone you don't know out of the blue.
What should I do? I don't wanna seem weird or creepy. Please help. (link)
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Hey!
He does know you exist, and you have talked to him before. You should message him through Facebook, or Instagram, and ask him a question, and then from there turn it into a conversation.
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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