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I need advice ...I really wanna have a baby
Im 15 and I want to get pregnant but..im scared...about how my parents would react if I got pregnant so early...I really wanna have a baby..I just think there so cute...id love to have one of my own...tho..:(
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well i nthe future when 18+ may be ideal, but for now wait wait wait. why? a guy may seemed to love you but you may just be a booty call. hope not but most 15 year olds dont want kids or tie down the knot. maybe you could babysit babies and wait have your own, it would not be easy to, as would have dropout of school, lose all freedom, and pricey and can cause alot stress hurt etc.
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Hey!
Babies may seem cute, but you have to have a lot of commitment. Teen moms drop out of school to take care of their kid(s), and don't graduate high school. It is very unlikely that the teen father of the child will be there to help support the mother of the child and the child. Taking care of a baby isn't just physically, and mentally challenging, it's also financially challenging. At your age, you're going through puberty, changes in mental health etc. You can barely take care of yourself let alone another child. Babies are not born to please the mothers. Once theres a child in your life, you won't have a regular life anymore, your life will revolve around the baby's life.
I really do hope you think twice about this...
-Swimmer133
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Understand your true motives. Why are you in such a hurry? Are you coping with the challenges you already confront? Even if all goes well (and as a matter of practicality, there is just so much likely to all go so very wrong), it will still not solve your problems and it will not long fill the real aching void within. Moreover, never forget: To nature you are entirely expendable and disposable. -but not to anyone who can ever love you or need you. Anyone else is wasting your time.
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I agree with all adviceman said.
If you decided to have a baby now, it will mess up your life and it will be limited too.
As a teen, I found that one of my natural characteristics which I still have, is being nurturing. A nurturing person is happiest doing something that requires that nurturing nature like working in chidcare (I did lots of babysitting as a teen) and nurturing of plants, working in a garden (it started with Botany in HS and growing plants in the parents yard and later caring for my own gardens of my house.) Another way to nurture is raising a child but it isn't easy and will try the patience of any person at times plus we all need as much personal wisdom learned to be able to pass on to kids.
At your age, your body may be mature and able to have kids, but all teens have brains that are not yet done growing to full maturity being able to handle all sorts of adult responsibilities including being a parent. This prefrontal cortex part of brain isn't done growing according to tests by scientists until somewhere around the mid 20's. So for you, thats about another 10 years before you can rely on just yourself, without input from others to make good decisions for your self.
So for where your brain is at currently, you are limited to only thinking things half way thru. Hey, not coming down on you dear, I remember being the same as a teen. But I did ask the parents alot for advice, use them as sounding boards to pass along any ideas of mine to see how solid they really were and if I overlooked any crucial stuff.
So for right now, I'd advice you to begin doing babysitting and once old enough to work, see about helping out at a daycare after school and get your fill of babies and young children that way until you are old enough, mature enough and have the financial means to raise your own.
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Babies are cute. But babies grow into little kids, little kids grow into big kids and with them come a lot of responsibilities you are just not prepared to handle. Baby's need to be fed, clothed, taken to the doctor for medical check-ups and shots. Baby's and young children grow like weeds and are constantly needing new clothes, shoes, school supplies and food.
When children are young they can go through food like nobody's business. A gallon of milk can be gone in two days. Clothes and shoes may last six months. Then there is the doctor, the dentist and the orthodontist. The government says it takes $2,500 dollars a year to raise a child, that's a joke. Multiply that by 4 or 5 times and you might be close.
I wouldn't worry about how your parent will react to you getting pregnant. That is the least of your problems. I would worry more about how you are going to care for this child. At 15 you have not even finished high school. Sure you can get a GED but that is not going to get you a good job. It might get you a job slinging hamburgers and even at $15 an hour you are not going to be able to afford what you need to raise this child.
Forget about getting married and having a two person income. There are very few men out there even today willing to take on the responsibilities of someone else's child. Thinking about welfare forget it that's a joke too. You will never have enough money on welfare to live as you do now and afford the things you enjoy now.
Yes babies are cute but wait until you are old enough and have finished your education are married and are able to give your child the love and affection it deserves. TO have a child now you will end up resenting that child in the future and that's wrong.
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