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Me and my sister (both teenage girls, she is 2 years older than me) were shopping together with our mother the other day. I looked at her ass with no actual thought in it, just observing what was around me basically, but my brain started to fixate on the fact that I did that and I started internally yelling at myself for it, but because I was thinking about it I kept looking at her ass over and over. It really did not mean anything, I don’t look at people in that way because I really don’t care but I’m so scared that I am disgusting, that I might subconsciously be attracted to my sister even though I know I’m not and the idea grosses me out. I feel so horrible for looking there, she’s my sister, I never should have looked even though there was no thought in it. My thoughts are worse about this because I’m a lesbian, but I’m not attracted to bodies like that and I wasn’t looking at her in that way. I feel so disgusting and like a monster, I feel like I violated my sister by looking. When I think of my sister now I just think of her ass not because I want to think of it but because I’m so mortified at the fact that I did this. I don’t know what to do. I can’t talk to my family about this obviously because how do I even bring something like this up?? Please I need advice or reassurance or anything, am I really a bad person? I didn’t mean to do anything bad. I’m not attracted to her at all, I was literally just looking around but then I hyper focused on the fact I looked there and then I couldn’t stop looking because I was thinking about it. I feel so gross and terrible, I want to lock myself in my room forever, I’m so scared I might do it again I feel like a horrible sister. Please help me (link)
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If "bad" here means malicious or evil, then the answer is no.
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I have a guy friend (fake name – Jackson) and we have been flirty friends but never dated or done more than a kiss on the cheek. We have dated other people but always kept our relationship in the friend zone. We both don’t believe in FWB and consider that wrong. We do talk about sex but just like in a generic way friends do. I tease him for being a man whore even though he says he has only done it twice. He calls me the ice queen as a joke because I am a virgin and have turned a lot of boys down.
The deal is he was on his tablet in my room and we were done studying and I accused him of looking at porn as a joke. He denied it but would not show me what he was doing though so when he went to the bathroom I checked out his tablet. I know his password because he is so obvious and uses the same password for everything. I know that was wrong but I am already admitting that. It was no porn but just relationship chat rooms. I did not read the chats but I figured out his profile name. His profile was very poorly done btw with a not great pic and he could do so much better.
So here is the bad part. When he was gone I started going to the same chat site and made up a phony profile to see if he would sign on and my plan was to get him to say something crude and rude and bust him on it like a prank because he is always Mr. Polite. He eventually signed on and I followed him into a chat room. I swear it was called “crush on my best friend” with all these people talking about having the hots for their friend. It did not take long for him to start talking and saying he was with his friend all day and he could not stop thinking about her and he said other things that made it obvious to me he was talking about me. I just lurked and watched him pour out his heart about how bad he wants us to be a couple how he has to hide it whenever he gets aroused around me and how he has all these fantasies of asking me out and being intimate. It was not gross porno talk but like super sincere. He also admitted he was a virgin and lied about having sex to impress me. I decided against the prank and just signed out when he did.
So what do I do? I have this information about how he truly feels but I got it in a sneaky way. I also know his secret that he is still a virgin. I am not mad he lied. It is kind of sweet he wanted to impress me. He does that with other things trying to do sporty things even though he is not an athlete. Deep down I sometimes think of him as a potential BF and what a good BF he would make for someone, but I never considered us seriously as a couple. The things he said in the chat about how he feels about me totally melted my heart and now I see through so many things he has said and done to hide his feelings and act normal around me. Other people have said he was crushing on me but I did not believe it and he would always joke about it and say me asking meant I had a secret crush on him and we laughed it off. Now I feel like crap because he was trying to see how I felt and I shut him down.
He really is a nice boy with good hygiene and a cute face. He sort of reminds me of that boy Robert Irwin whose dad was that Australia crocodile guy who died. He has a great smile. He is wicked ticklish which could be sexy. He has slightly defined abs although he admitted he was flexing them to make them stand out and his arms flex kind of sexy when he puts his hands behind his head. He would be fun to look at shirtless but he does not do that very often. Most of the guys who do weights are brainless in my opinion so if you ask me his normal boy body is way sexy enough. He is very smart at a lot of things and is great at listening and encouraging me. He can be funny and sarcastic but not in a mean way. He needs fashion help and sexier glasses (or maybe contacts) but that is easy to fix.
I am open to giving us a chance as a couple, but how do I do it? Do I confess I spied on him? Do I call him out on being a virgin? Do I apologize for calling him a man whore? Do I just randomly encourage him so he makes a move finally? Any idea on how to drop hints or encourage him? Do I just ask him myself if he would like to try dating each other and pretend it was my idea? How can I give him more confidence so he knows he is a good catch just the way he is?
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It doesn't sound like you'd have much difficulty in getting a physical response from him.
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Age:17
Gender: Female
Question: Why did i orgasm when i got raped?
Hey guys . Recently I got raped, but I still orgasmed. Even though I really didn't want to. I don't know what happened, one moment I was protesting, the next i orgasmed. I don't know what is wrong with me. I hated it so much, yet my body enjoyed it. I feel so guilty and annoyed with myself. I thought as soon as h finished he would leave but he wouldn't stop until i reached climax and eventually orgasmed. Even then he went in for a few more rounds, leaving me in pain. I wish i could erase thy moment from my head. I wish it never happened. What do i do?
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As it happens, there are even known to be rapists who, among other things, do want intentionally to cause physical pleasure to their victims. Not surprisingly, far from bringing any silver lining to the dark cloud of whatever sexual assault, such ambiguity may instead engender ambivalence, inner conflict.
However: Categorically, you must understand that you retain every right to your own sensations and indeed to clearly pick and choose whatever aspects you like or dislike about any experience whatsoever. This is no cause for additional anguish.
Certainly, all to true: You are just asking for it, young lady! But what precisely are you asking for, and from whom? That is for you alone to ponder to your own satisfaction.
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Last summer, I (F/20) decided to go solo camping on some abandoned farmland just outside the city limits. There was a burn ban in effect, but I chose to make a campfire anyway. Long story short, it grew out of control and spread onto a neighboring farm, severely damaging a barn and the equipment inside it.
I was charged with reckless burning (a felony), pled guilty, and have been sentenced to nine months in the county jail. The judge was gracious enough to give me two weeks to get my affairs in order before I self-surrender. I now have ten days left.
I definitely played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. I wish more than anything that I could go back and stop that night from ever happening. But I know that's impossible and that I'll have to deal with the consequences of my stupidity.
I had been thinking of joining the military, but now that can never happen and I don't really have any other ambitions. I feel like I've destroyed my entire life and have no idea where I'll go from here. If anyone has any advice for a situation like this, I'm all ears cause I feel so lost right now. (link)
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https://work.chron.com/can-join-army-felony-record-13088.html
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I am terrified of dying. I don't believe in after life or second Life. I think we only have one life. Whenever I think about it I think one life is way too short. I know it's stupid but I keep hoping there will be some invention which will make us live much much longer. I am 22 and am so lucky that I have not experienced of death of anyone near me but I am scared of it so much. Specially my parents I know it's inevitable but it terrifies me. I have to go out of my way to keep busy to avoid thinking about it cause whenever I do my heart starts racing really fast, my chest starts to feel heavy like something heavy is weighing me down and my thoughts start racing and I can't stop it. Is there any way to ease this fear" (link)
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http://www.FoolQuest.com/kriosgrad.htm#Emortalism
http://www.FoolQuest.com/faq.htm#Absurd
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There this guy who I made the decision not to date but there some things that I want another perspective on because it keeps nagging at me. Back in August of 2019, this guy in my building said he liked me. Well I believe less than a month, I saw with one of my neighbors. It was around 5:30 pm and I was going up the stairs to get to my floor and he was coming down the stair with her to leave. He spoke but I was mad because I thought if you like someone you don’t talk to other females. At the time, I just knew he like me. But, he didn’t have my number or he hadn’t asked me out on a date. I say few months later he asked me out and I said I’ll pass lol. I thought to myself he messed up by coming down the stairs with another girl.
I’m trying to figure out why he would be in another women’s house. My mind went to they hookup but at the same time I don’t know. But why else would he have been seen with her. It would seem like there just friends. I haven’t seen them together since then. What do you think? (link)
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Oh for patty's sake, get his contact info and just talk it over with him!
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It sounds like a weird question, but I will be sitting in class sometime in the day, and i can just feel guys staring at me, and it makes me very uncomfortable, and i want them to stop. it feels weird asking them to, because when i do they just deny it, its very annoying. (link)
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"Don't hate me because I'm beautiful!"
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I'm an 18 year old girl from the UK- but I don't wear makeup or anything, I don't drink, I rarely ever wear dresses, and I don't do anything to my eyebrows either- so I kind of feel left out when conversations about makeup, fashion or partying comes up.
My friends find it really strange- they're like 'how can you be confident enough not to wear makeup?'- but it's nothing to do with confidence why I don't wear it, it's just something that's never appealed to me. I'm not a very confident person full stop, I'm very shy- so it annoys me when people confuse the two.
And they've also all, since becoming 18, transformed into massive extroverts who drink regularly- whilst they were previously very introverted like myself, and I don't know why they've suddenly changed. 18 is the legal drinking age in the United Kingdom, but they're too much of party animals for my liking these days- do you think I should stop hanging around with them? They often wonder how I can have fun at parties without drinking, and I just find that a sad mindset and am kind of sad to see that they've changed so much. (link)
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If they have to ask how you can have fun at parties without drinking, does that not imply that in actuality these parties are simply not all that much fun to begin with?
Indeed, are any of these people even capable of functioning sexually while completely sober? When you think of it, their norms are pretty grim.
Is there anyone more interesting to hang out with, and indeed might care to make the acquaintance of a woman good looking enough to get by without makeup concealment?
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Hello. This question is about my sister-in-law (we are both in our late 20s). I think she has a problem because she likes to sleep with married men and then have kids with them. She told me that she does this because "all the good ones are taken", and she's hoping that if she has kids with them, they will leave their wives. She already had two kids by two different married men, and they did not leave their wife, so she is stuck being a single mom. I am constantly called upon to help her take care of her kids (I'm married to her brother and she doesn't have any sisters, so her family just expects me to help). But being a married woman myself, I don't agree with her lifestyle and it really bothers me. And I definitely don't feel like I should help take care of her kids. That is her responsibility, and I thought she knew this before getting involved with them. Recently we just found out that she is pregnant again with the third married man. Once again, he doesn't want anything to do with the child, and the family has asked me to help out. They said that I should feel "sorry for her" because "it's hard raising kids as a single mother." How can I tell her that I think this is actually her fault and that she should take responsibility for her actions? I don't want to help her because what she did was wrong in the first place, and she needs to stop doing this. She should see that this is destroying her life. I don't want to seem heartless, but I just feel like if I bail her out again she won't learn from her mistakes. How can I tell her that I won't be there this time, and that she should change her ways? (link)
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You can say whatever you want to her. She will be helpless to object. You can simply tell her:
"Obviously this is actually your own fault and you should take responsibility for your own actions? I'm getting sick of bailing you out because your actions are immoral and so flagrantly ill considered in the first place. You are destroying your life."
But all this will be entirely for your own catharsis. She obviously needs professional psychiatric help. Of course, you will be the one footing the bill. Just don't be mean about it. Of course, around the world, there are good men publicly desperate to marry. It only takes the research. But that will go in one ear and out the other. Moreover, with financial and emotional support, perhaps career development might be possible for her, as it has been for so many other single mothers. But perhaps she has any other range of problems entirely, either emotional or circumstantial.
Of course, you remain perfectly free to just cut her and her children off. You are under no obligation and from what you tell us, clearly your sacrifice goes unappreciated.
What to do? Dammed if you do and damned if you don't! You too need to make up your mind and take responsibility.
Is there any good that can come out from any of this? You must admit that it might be nice if you could make so much money so that the cost won't matter anymore. But when I say that sort of thing to people, they often insist that they don't need more money, when obviously, under such circumstances, that simply isn't true. And so, if you are saying that sort of thing, then just stop saying or even thinking so. It will only undermine you and holds you back under already impossible circumstances.
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Thank you for reading my question.
I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….
I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.
For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.
Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.
This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.
Thank you so very much. (link)
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I tend to think that people with such concerns over gender, imagine that one way or another, gender is a solution to some other problem. What might that be for you?
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I'm 14. I was released from juvie a few months back. While I was in there, one of the older guys forced me to have sex with him. I don't know if I can tell anyone. It's so fucking embarrassing to admit that someone made me his bitch. I'm also scared that no one will believe me or if they do that they'll say that's what happens when you go to jail. So now I don't know what to fucking do. (link)
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Get psychiatric help. Report the offender to the appropriate authorities. Don't put it off any longer.
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I am from south africa and I have been going over this for quite some time, and it has not gotten me anywhere. I have always liked a good mystery and a puzzle so I thought why not become a cop. Then there's this side to me that likes medicine, like since I was little, so I decided OK why not a nurse, because a doctor has to cut people open and I would not be able to do that. Then I always wanted to help people so I thought about becoming a social worker. I am really stuck as to deciding what to do. (link)
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Only surgeons cut.
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I’m literally damn near in tears over this, I’m menstruating, and this major problem just keeps dragging me into my depression. I’m 15 soon to be 16 in October, and I have yet to get some characteristics from a secondary puberty. I have pubic hair but my breast seem to be stuck in time, flat as possible and my hips haven’t spread at all. I doubt it’s my genes, my mom and sister aren’t flat chested, I’m unsure of malnutrition. I definitely am not open to plastic surgery when I’m older, if I go on birth control I may get no results. Also all the women in my family are nothing near flat chested so really feel like there has to be something wrong with me. I feel hopeless and really depressed at the thought of my breasts being this size forever, I also know that I’m fixated on my breast size so being flat chested as I am, and not doing anything about it, is impossible. Any advice or helpful information? (link)
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Consult your gynecologists'.
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So I decided to put toothpaste on my clit because it's all someone do it on p****** is it safe and I already done it I'm about to rinse it off what should I do (link)
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https://nypost.com/2019/10/11/doctors-warn-women-not-to-use-toothpaste-to-tighten-their-vaginas/
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hello i work with this guy who looks at me all the time. one day he came up to me and introduced himself to me and i got kinda nervous, i didn\'t say much haha. \r\ni was wondering what kind of signals to send to this guy at work to talk to me but with being very busy at work i find it very hard to approach him. there are times i\'m not near him to say anything to him.\r\nwhat can i do? he\'s always staring at me so i\'m thinking he\'s interested. it\'s really hard to approach him when i\'m in different areas at my job and may not get a chance to see him.\r\nthe most we really have done is say hi to each other and after that i\'m not sure how to go about it more lol.\r\nhe\'s probably in his 30s like me and it\'s really impossible to get near him since i\'m not always bear him. Any suggestions? i mean he\'s always looking at me from across the room. i want to poke his eyes out to do something lol and i or he needs to break the ice. i was hoping he would make a move but maybe I should break the ice? (link)
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Returning his gaze should be enough. Better still, a smile. And perhaps come a little closer. All still demure. Or you can be bolder. Essentially, he has already accepted you, and only awaits response.
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I wrote the cops a long (8 page) thank you letter after they stopped me from suicide.
I’m embarrassed to send it because it’s long, quirky, and informal.
It’s a huge deal to me to be treated well by the cops. The police department has helped my family many times also. I want them to know how grateful I am. I want their superiors to know what a great job they did.
I can’t decide what I should take out, or if I should just send it and have them be glad it’s a thank you letter, not a lawsuit like they usually get. (link)
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I offer to copy edit your letter for you.
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I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about
Read more: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=666294#ixzz6HK8mB7m2 (link)
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How can anyone help? It might help if you provided any detail. Are you just looking for sympathy? You do have my sympathy. Exactly what more response are you seeking? Your relationships objectives seem implicit. Or do you just want to talk more?
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I’m a 13 year old girl and I know I’m over weight but I’m trying really hard to be healthy but it’s really hard when whatever I do my brother calls me a fat ass or some other form of fat shaming and my mom does nothing. I often get in trouble if I say anything about it but I can’t just sit there and let him say those thing to me. Im already very self conscious about my weight and he makes me feel even worse. What can I do to make him stop?!? (link)
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Of possible interest: http://www.FoolQuest.com/kriosgrad.htm#metabolic
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what if u don't have family or friends (link)
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Why are you so unhappy?
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I was walking to school this morning and i slipped on ice outside. I landed on my wrist and it hurts really bad. I cant move it forward or backward and i cant move my thumb with out sharp pains. There is no swelling or bruising so i dont know if its a sprain or not. Could i have possibly sprained my wrist? (link)
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After you visit the Emergency Room, whether or not there turns out to be a fracture, you would do well to see a Chiropractor, better still, a Directional Non Force Chiropractor, if you can find one near you. DNFT is the gentlest and most precise known form of Chiropractic. Chiropractic will make whatever injury, great or small, more comfortable and speed up healing.
Medical Doctors and Chiropractors know and do different things. You need them both. The fields should be integrated, but they are not, because of longstanding professional rivalry and acrimony.
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