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I have this crush, even though it feels more than a crush, and I just told him how I feel. He said he wants to get to know me better, but he's not making any moves to try to learn anything about me at all. I try talking to him during band when we sit next to each other, but it's more like me saying something, him saying his opinion, then awkward silence for the next 20 minutes. Recently though my best friend told me one if her friends told her that my crush has a crush on her. It makes sense. He does really seem to talk to and hang around her a lot. My best friend has made it very clear that she doesn't share his feelings. Does this mean he lied to me about getting to know me better? I'm kinda hurt. Plus, to make it all worse, I can't get him out of my head! He's perfect, at least to me and he's always there in my head when I'm daydreaming! I was going to talk to him about it, but it doesn't seem he even wants to be around me anymore than he has to, and it really hurts. I'm really shy, so I'm not looking forward to talking to him if I have to. I know this is a lot of info, but this really needs to be sorted out and I can't figure out what to do! (link)
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Hello darling! I read your "issue" and I could feel your frustration. You seem to really like this guy,as he is perfect to you, when in real life he is imperfectly perfect and just a human being trying to figure out life just like you and me. First of all, everything is going to be okey. You are going to get through this no matter what.I promise! I admire the fact that you made a move and let him in on your feelings about him. You are a brave girl for doing that and I wanted to let you know. When you told him how you felt and he responded that he wanted to get to know you better, maybe it came across wrong. Maybe he meant as a friend or he was just trying to be nice to you. It sucks, I know. He probably does not like you but so what? Sometimes, we have to let people go because there is nothing we can do about the situation. You cannot force sb to like you. It would be a torture for both of you. YOU are YOU and that doesnt change. If he didnt like your story, then it was not written for him. Move on and find happiness within yourself. You shouldnt seek happiness in other people, because happiness comes from the inside. You have an entire life infront you, waiting to be explored and taken advantage of. Dont let yourself drown in one boy who probably didnt like you. You are smarter than that and you can do better. I believe in you and if you ever need anything else I am here for you and I CARE! Go girlyyyyyy :)
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I work with this guy I like once a week and he seems to like me too. He's always teasing me about liking this other guy I talk to at work, poking me and looking at me. Even my boss pointed it out that he thinks he likes me. Long story short but he has a girlfriend that moved to the states and she called him today while he was at work and I felt stupid because we've been flirting a lot lately at work and I put a little effort into my appearance every Wednesday. Should I just give up? or should I just go with the flow and see what happens?
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Hello! To be honest I am not impressed with your situation! Guys have the inclination to do that! The obvious problem is that he has a girlfriend. With that being said, I would say clear things up! Tell him how you feel about him and how you feel as yourself! Confused, weird, awkard,the third wheel..anything! See how he responds and act! If he wants to stay with his girlfriend tell him calmly and politely to stop acting all flirty and stuff and move on! He's not the only one!And you never know. In the future you guys may end up together. Maybe it's just not the perfect time. You do what's best for YOU! Do you really want to devote your precious time to someone who is not willing to do the same? I don't think so. Clearing things up will be the best for both of you,realising where you are and where this is going. On the contrary, if he wants to be with you, then great, amazing! You guys can be together as long as he breaks up with his girlfriend. Being straight away is always a very good choice! Especially in your place which is tricky. You deserve someone you will want to be with you and ONLY YOU! If not,then byee! Hope this helped!-xoxo
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Hi,
I'm 21 and I had a crush on this girl I talked to through facebook for over a year now. We did meet only one time and never got another chance to hang out. She always goes for the guys who make her depressed all the time, when it comes to me she just wants to be friends. She is very pretty and we have alot in common, what should I do move on or wait until she might change her mind about me? (link)
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Hello buddy! I hope you're doing well! I have a question for you. Have you made it clear to her about how you feel and what you're looking for from this whole situation? If yes, as I can understand, and she told you she sees you only as a friend I would say chase her but since you have only met her once and you mostly talk on facebook I suggest letting her go. I believe that it won't work with you guys but you can always remain friends and share your news and interess. Now if you really think that you like her and feel like you genuinely want to continue your 'thing', go for it! However, ask yourself, where is this going? How can I benefit from the whole situation? Because it's about both of you being happy and content! Always remember that! The decision is always yours! Do what feels best to you and not what is best in general! I hope this kinda helped! Good luck and I wish you the best!-xoxo
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Hi, I'm 12 sorry I lied about my age hehe,and this is serious I'm struggling with my weight, I weigh about 168lb, but don't go like what the heck because I'm really tall for my age "5.3", I asked people around my school to guess how much I weight and they all said 125-135, so that's good since i dont look like I'm carrying 60 extra pounds, becuase I only wear hoodies which are Baggie and not so tight jeans so I don't look fat, but I'm not comfortable with it, the last day of school I was wearing a hoodie and it was like 34 Celsius, nothing at the mall looks good on me and no shirts fit me what's so ever. Tbh I was skinny and tiny so I still have the other shirts but it makes me really sad to look at those shirts and remember how happy and confident I was, I hate going out, of the house cuz I don't have anything to wear, I hate the summer, I love girly things bu I act like a Tom boy so people don't judge me for dressing real bad, so I tried everything, 1)I took gym class,2)I ate healthy 3)I worked out 4)I ran But nothing seemed to work out and btw I kept doing it for a year, and then I realized that I had a slow metabolism , so my questions are 1) how to be more confident 2)how to fasten up my mateblisom 3)how to not care what people think thanks so much for who ever answers. (link)
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hey!so lack of confidence is probably one of the most frustrating things!iam not confident myself,so I know that it sucks.The best thing to do is find things that you like about yourself or that others compliment you on,because I can assure you that you are beautiful in your own way.Try to point them out but in a good way.i know that this may sound weird but it wood be really good for you if you joined a meditation class or class with othersgirls like you.it would make you feel better,you could share what youre experiencing and maybe it would boost your confidence.also find things that you enjoy and commit yourself to them.find something that excites you and makes you happy.and if you feel the need to change things about yourself in order to make you feel better then do it!try harder and dont give up.so i am not an expert but i know that drinking water,tea and exercise fastens up your metabolism.maybe you should talk to a specialists about that.honestly,caring about what people say sucks.just be yourself and do what makes you happy.at the end of the day what matters is how you feel and not what others think.people always have bad things to say but just do not pay attention.and if they make you feel bad then you could take out what you feel on something that you love.it wont be easy at first but it will get better i promise.and youre still young so you have time to work on things.-xoxo hope this helped.
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One my friends is moving away and I want to write her a goodbye letter. I honestly don't know what to say. What are somethings that I can say to her? I also have a crush on her soo
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well i think it is a wonderful idea to write her a letter.i have done it too, because to be honest i suck at stuff like that.i cannot really tell you what to say to her but express what you really feel.for me writing is easier that talking.i'll tell you what hepls me write .i just start writing and then i start getting 'inspired'.so try to start writing it maybe it will work for you too.you could also listen to music that reminds a memory of you with her,look at your photos etc.and i am sure that even if you write the silliest thing,she will appreciate your trial.its the gesture that counts and not what you write.try your best and it will be fine!i promise-xoxo hope this helped
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my brain is very dysfunctional,
also, sometimes i wait for like half a year to talk about something. being direct is rare for me (in a normal conversation).
when ever i see people function properly, i get SO jealous. and whenever someone talks very directly i get intimidated and also a little jealous too.
when people tell me about their issues i get mad because i have issues too.
it's like if someone said 'im lonely', inside i'm like 'i'm lonely too, but you have all your friends to comfort you. dont bother me' but i say 'aw'
and i feel i turn the subject to myself a lot
how do i stop being jealous of peopl whose brain works better? and how to stop being angry at other peoples issues?
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well to tell you the truth i most of the times get angry when people start talking to me about issues i do not even care,but i try to be as friendly as possible.just try not to be very stiff or you can even just tell the person that you do not have time or something without hurting them.and if many people come to you then have you ever wondered why?if not,you should definitelly!maybe people think you are trustworhy.that is a good thing!otherwise you can always work on it.keep up with the conversation and try to express yourself.be real though.just to know there will always be someone better than you!and i am not saying that to make you feel bad about yourself.i am saying it because it is the truth and it is valid for each and every one of us.do not compare yourslef to others!that is always a bad thing.that is the way you were born and the only thing you can do is accept it and try to be a better you.-xoxo hope this helped
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I'm 11, and i seriously think i am bi. I remember being young, not knowing what gay or bi meant, and I would play family with friends, sometimes i wanted to be a mommy with another mommy, or i would like to be a mommy with a daddy, or i would see men and women and think i wouldn't mind dating either. I like seeing guys shirtless, and I also have watched the Anaconda video a few hundred times because it turned me on. Not sure if it is because Nicki is more developed, or I'm bi. But i know i am not straight. I knew forever i wasn't into just boys. I've tried to tell my mom, but i feel she would prefer if i was straight and would only like guys, because she is constantly trying to find more evidence to shut it down. I've also been a little possesive of a certain friends. She has been getting close to a guy, and I want her to sort of not date him. Tbh, i could go either way, but not any women with man genetials or men with fake girl parts, that is gross to me (no offense). So what should i do/think? (link)
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first of all you should not be ashamed of yourself.you are who you are whether that means that you like just boys or just girls or both.usually everybody when they start to figure out what their preference is,they try to hide it or just pretend that it does not exist when that is different from normal.but that is so wrong.i mean you are lucky enough that nowadays it is much more acceptable to be gay.bi etc.and of course your mum would prefer it if you were straight but you are not!so what?she will have to accept it someday and if she really loves you she will not mind in the end.i suggest you do what you think is the best for you whatever the consequences or reactions.be proud of yourself and just do you really.if you are happy with it and you embrace it everyone will too.-xoxo hope this helped
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There is a part of me that is self-conscious because of past experiences. The thing I am most concious of is my outward appearance. People tell me I look lost most of the time and sometimes I am unsure where I am at. But, other times I just think its just my natural facial expression. Although, I am an attractive person, I dont like being percieved as looking lost when I am not. However, I think it just a facial expression I have a lot. Should I just accept it? It makes me selfconscious. In general, how can I increase my confidence? (link)
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well first of all,i assume that the others made you self-consious about this facial expression,so you were not before others told you.i believe that if you are okey with it and you cannot or do not want to change it,then don't.i mean who cares if your face looks like that!you can just 'prove' them that you have been listening and that it is just your facial expression.otherwise,why don't you just practice in front of the mirror or something to figure out what is wrong and work on it.do what makes you feel good about yourslef.-xoxo hope this helped
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HI!
I want to do the #KylieJennerChallenge but I want to make sure it is safe. Can anybody say for sure? If it isn't safe then how do I get lips like Kylie? (link)
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well to be honest i have tried the kyliejenner challenge and it does work.i was scared at the first place because i had seen some fails but it was okey.it plumps your lips a bit but it hurts a little.you could try it once if you want to see how it is but do not do it regularly because i do not know what the effects might be.also do not keep it for a long time on your lips.now moving on..the media has made girls and women want big full lips.but guess what.not everybody has them!just do not be a victim and be yourself.be proud of the lips that you have and do not try to be someone that you are not.at the end of the day that is not the real kylie and i can assure you that the natural look is the best.hope this helpes.-xoxo
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My now ex-boyfriend and I just broke up in a very ugly fight. However we had both met each other at the gym. Its been about 2 years since we both go to the gym, about 6 months that we started talking at the gym, and only about 2-3 since we've been going out in a relationship. We are 100% over after he has wronged me but made matter worst by getting mad at me for getting mad at him, and the last thing he ever wrote me was "daddy must of taught you well, hopefully you find another gym." This is a very low blow as my "father" has left us since I was 1 month old, I've seen him a few times in my life (not a person you would want in your life) last I ever saw him was in court. So my ex used this to try and hurt me. He also said "hopefully you find another gym" which kind of sounded like a threat, what do you think?. He used to tell me of his vandalizing stories and he has IED. He even told me he smashed a gym member's car's glass just because the guy had belched and walked between us while we were talking, and because he slammed a weight on the machine the next day near my ex. My ex lives a few blocks from the gym, I live about 8 miles or a few neighborhoods away. This might sound far but the reason is that I love my gym, the members the waterview the free parking. We dont have that in our borough, I have tried many gyms in the past they are all much more horrible yet more expensive. I know I will not like any other gym, probably not go to one. I don't mind running into him at the gym since i would just ignore him, I doubt he will say anything he's more of an action person aka what if a few months down the road he does something to my car? The reason we broke up is because he broke my car driving it in the first place. At times I was thinking to do something to his. I know his car too, and he always parks 2-3 blocks away and not in the gym lot. But then again we both know where we live and usually park, if he wanted to vandalize my car he could look for it in my block as well. Should I let him get to me? Should I change my gym over him? He works in the store right under the gym also. So he would be working hours while I would have my car in the lot. What should I do? Also My gym yearly membership expires in 5 days, if I miss the renewal deadline I will have to pay another $250 sign up fee. I want to continue going to this gym, but will I be comfortable while I am there? What would you do? Thank you. (link)
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well i would tell you i am sorry for your break up but i am actually glad you guys ended up because from what you said he was treating you like shit!from my perspective i definitelly think you sould continue going to the same gym if you like it that much.do not let a boy ruin that and change your life because of him.you can do whatever you want to do as long as you do not intervene in his life.that is the only way to just recover from everything.i do not know this guy so i cant tell if hes going to do damage to your car.i think you should leave things as they are for now and if you suspect anything bad is going to happen tell someone or just dont drive to the gym.i hope i kind of helped. -xoxo
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I have a HUGE crush on this guy at my school. He asked out my best friend and he asked her out twice. I really want him to ask me out instead even though she is my besty. what should I do? Thanks for your help! (link)
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oh girl.first of all,talk to your friend about it!If she is your best friend she has to understand that it bothers you.Always remeber friends above boys.i cant really tell you what to do other than discuss the matter.you need to find a way to compromise,both of you.this may mean her not going out with him,or you trying not to bother.i dont know what your age is but imagine that you will be in this situation multiple times in the future.you never know,you may be the one getting the boy!hope i helped.-xoxo
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I was wondering.. Is it ok for a 22 year old male to date a 17 year old girl as long as both are alright with it and everything is concentual? (link)
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i can so answer this!I believe that if it is okey with both o you,you should definitely be together.i think there is no way that you will be taken to jail or anything.just do you and dont care about the people that try to make you reconsider or hesitate.do what your heart says. and if that makes you feel better,when i was 14 i made out with a 23 year old man ;) -xoxo
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I woke up Saturday morning after a night of drinking with a friend and i blacked out. and when i woke up i was in my friend's daughter's bed and my friends 11 year old daughter was sleeping right next to me completely naked. and I was too. i knew that she had a crush on me because her dad said that he read it in her diary but i never knew it would go this far. and here is the ****** part about it I'm 25 year old guy so i don't even know what too do i was able too wake her up and we were able to get dressed before her dad woke up and other than me taking the virginity of my best friends daughter i didn't wear a condom so she may get pregnant and I'm that case i guess I'm completely ******. i feel like a complete asshole knowing that i did this with her. and then about a day later she asked me if i wanted to do it again. i don't really know what to say. i don't know if we should do it again. or just tell her that we cant ever again but she might tell her dad that this happened if i don't and if we do i know that we could get away with it because i do watch her sometimes for my friend when he has to work late at night. i don't know what to do should i break it off with and getting pissed at me and telling her dad or should i have some sort of strange relationship with her Because i dont want to hurt her feelings. (link)
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to tell you the truth that was fun and interesting to read, without wanting to be offensive or anything.I think that before you do anthing you should make sure what happened between you and the girl.What if she tricked you and nothing is real?I mean it could have happened right?You need to have a serious conversation with her and clear out everything.You should explain the situation and that what happened between you was both and accident andwrong.However be careful becauseshe might go tell her dad everything.I believe you should definitelly not fuck her again. Keep some distance and if the girl insists on it be brave and talk to her dad.Tell him that it was an accident and youre so sorry.hemight not take you to jail.or how about talking to the mum?
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There will be a 21 year age gap between us. They won't be a sibling, they'll be like my niece, and they'd see me as an aunt. I want to vomit. I think it's an IVF baby and we're catholic, so I don't see how that works. I have 2 other siblings, were we not good enough for our parents? My mom stereotypes certain people having more kids than they can afford, and says we have money issues (why we never properly take vacations and etc) and that we can't afford a pet's healthcare, but suddenly she adds another human to the mix? I'm beyond pissed. If this happened when I was younger, the more the merrier, but I kind of feel like this new kid is to make up for "mistakes" she had when raising my siblings so I feel hurt and offended. She's a bit materialistic saying this is the most money her and my dad have had and that my older sibling and I were born in a council flat early in their relationship but that's like saying that she had no choice in getting pregnant then, when she did, twice. I already wanted to put off having kids til my 30s and now im close to tears and reconsidering even getting iinto any sort of relationship in the future, much less having kids later. I just feel so grossed out and let down and now it's like I feel my mom will just dump this new child on meto take care of when I have my own activities and life to plan for, so I'll be even more diligent now to leave this house as soon as possible cause I feel like my mom isn't the same mom she was 10 years ago. Even before she announced pregnancy she would just be so different and even earlier today I wondered how I was even born from her and how I grew up in my family. with the whole IVF thing I saw bookmarks on her computer and I knew she had been taking prenatals a year ago but I thought it was just a joke. I had a major panic attack a few weeks ago when I thought I saw an ultrasound til I checked the year and it was just my younger sibling's. But no, now I know it's real and I just feel so let down cause i liked our family as it was. The IVF means she likely got a diff egg cause she's in her late 40s which means the kid will only be a half sibling. And I saw the girl they were considering and she's not even our ethnicity so the kid will look very obviously different from the rest of us as it technically would have a diff mother. Why didn't she just adopt?! I would have been more ok with An adoption than this Frankenstein type stuff. I don't mean to be mean, that's just how I'm feeling right now. God forbid I couldn't have kids natirally one day, if I ever for some reason wanted too then there's plenty of people seeking adoptive families that already exist and need to be loved and cared for. My mom was all happy but she has no large age gaps in her family. I' literally know NO ONE with such a huge gap between their siblings. I feel embarrassed mad and resentful. We won't be able to relate to each other at all. How do I make sense of this? Are there any books on this? I feel extremely unhappy (link)
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well i read your post and to be honest I haven't been in your position but I try to relate.I mean if I learned that my mom was now pregnant I would feel awful and grossed because it reminds me that my parents are having sex.However I believe that even if the idea of a new sibling scares the hell out you,you will gradually like her/him.You should also try to talk to your parents about how you feel and explain what bothers you.Also try to imagine how your parents feel.It must be akward for your mum too to be pregnant.Parents are regular people and they make tons of mistakes!Imagine if your mum ''killed'' this baby!She would feel awful for you too because she tries to be a rolemodel to you!Even if you feel like that right now it will get better.always remember that.Right now try to dedicate timefor yourself.do things that you love and be outside as much as possible.hope this helped. -xoxo
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