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Hi, I'm 12 sorry I lied about my age hehe,and this is serious I'm struggling with my weight, I weigh about 168lb, but don't go like what the heck because I'm really tall for my age "5.3", I asked people around my school to guess how much I weight and they all said 125-135, so that's good since i dont look like I'm carrying 60 extra pounds, becuase I only wear hoodies which are Baggie and not so tight jeans so I don't look fat, but I'm not comfortable with it, the last day of school I was wearing a hoodie and it was like 34 Celsius, nothing at the mall looks good on me and no shirts fit me what's so ever. Tbh I was skinny and tiny so I still have the other shirts but it makes me really sad to look at those shirts and remember how happy and confident I was, I hate going out, of the house cuz I don't have anything to wear, I hate the summer, I love girly things bu I act like a Tom boy so people don't judge me for dressing real bad, so I tried everything, 1)I took gym class,2)I ate healthy 3)I worked out 4)I ran But nothing seemed to work out and btw I kept doing it for a year, and then I realized that I had a slow metabolism , so my questions are 1) how to be more confident 2)how to fasten up my mateblisom 3)how to not care what people think thanks so much for who ever answers.
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Hon, If you're doing all the right things to lose weight and it's not working, then there may be another issue. Even with a slower metabolism, a person just needs way more ex
ercise on a daily basis than the person with a fast metabolism. And no...i've never heard of a way to speed up or slow down ones metabolism. It may not be possible, but a professional, a dietician or Dr. would know.
Also, you are 12 and its the age of puberty for many or the year or two before it. I've known girls to put on weight along with other body changes during puberty and it comes off later as they grow way past it.
Have you talked to Mom? She sees you on a daily basis so a weight gain is not going to be obvious to her, not until you show her all the clothes you no longer fit in. You can ask her to take you to the Dr. for the concern of your weight. I don;t know how long ago you were skinny as you say, but if this all has changed quickly, like in a years time or less, it could be something else.
I worked with a woman who was very plump shall we say. She brought up the topic wishing she had the figure I had. So I asked if it was diet related for her or what her Dr. has to say. She told me she has thyroid problems and ever since those first started, her weight went up to its current state and has stayed there as apparantly its one thing that can happen if ones thyroid wasnt working properly. She takes medication for it but because of her condition, her weight was never going to go down from there she says she was told.
that was long ago. there may be more info known in the medical field today...but I share that as an example of a medical condition that could, despite all you do, not allow you to lose weight.
So I feel it best to get a check up by a Dr. Share as much info as you can think of that can help. Last time you fit in the smaller clothes, how quickly you gained, whether you've started your period, write down and take in examples of what you've eaten for all meals for the past two days including amounts related to size of a golf ball, a baseball, a deck of cards, a cup, two cups, etc. This is how dieticians figure proper amounts, same descriptions. Also give what exercise you get, how often and for how long as it all effects how many calories are burnt up.
Now, confidence is a BIG thing when it comes to looks or lets say...lack of them. Even skinny girls can have low self confidence cus they dont look like the media image of what is considered a pretty or sexy female. So the best way I know to gain confidence of your own, is to borrow the confidence of a celebrity who you admire and think is beautiful, even though she may have a bit more weight. I tried that with my eyes. Imagined my eyes as hot and sultry looking as a certain actress you wouldn't know, no longer alive. And everytime I left home or just before entering a room or a building, I imagined myself as having those head turning looks like she would have had. It worked. In fact, I'd forget I'd done so until both men and women approached me, total strangers and told me what beautiful stunning eyes I had. I had no makeup on. It just happened. What changed? Certainly not my eyes. It was my borrowed confidence. It is an invisible thing that people unknowingly pick up on and are compelled to react to. they don't even know way, they just do and react.
During the time you are following a Dr. orders for losing weight, you can use this too. Don't have to wait until you reach your target weight. Once you start getting input from people, well, cant say all your peers will say anything but its important too if any adults share something, you at some point will realize that you are feeling confident, your own confidence and you have forgotten to use the one you were mentally borrowing.
Let me share one more story of two women, but obese who were at a nudist place i went one summer. No clothing to hide ones insecurties. I don't know why they had these problems whether medical issues, personal choices or something of both. But it was obvious to me the effect of confidence in one and lack of confidence in the other affected me. I got to sit in a circle listening to the one tell a story. SHe had a bubbly personality, didn't come off as having any concern about her looks, and even I , as a straight female, found that I saw her as looking beautiful, almost angelic in a way, while the other woman came across as obese. I did not want to think any differently about either of them but the aura of confidence brings a certain amount of beauty and attractiveness to a person despite their body size. I have gained some weight as I am now older but still not dangerously so for my health and I still have a good image of myself even though I can't fit in some of my clothes from last summer even.
However, most important is that you have a healthy weight for health issues. I have a family member thru marriage, a very overweight gal who is a mom with kids, age 30 and needing heart meds, blood pressure meds and diabetes meds due to her weight. She's short, and somewhat big boned so she can never be my size but still has an unhealthy weight. You dont want to end up on meds for life in the long run if it can be avoided. So aain, I think it best to go see a doctor.
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hey!so lack of confidence is probably one of the most frustrating things!iam not confident myself,so I know that it sucks.The best thing to do is find things that you like about yourself or that others compliment you on,because I can assure you that you are beautiful in your own way.Try to point them out but in a good way.i know that this may sound weird but it wood be really good for you if you joined a meditation class or class with othersgirls like you.it would make you feel better,you could share what youre experiencing and maybe it would boost your confidence.also find things that you enjoy and commit yourself to them.find something that excites you and makes you happy.and if you feel the need to change things about yourself in order to make you feel better then do it!try harder and dont give up.so i am not an expert but i know that drinking water,tea and exercise fastens up your metabolism.maybe you should talk to a specialists about that.honestly,caring about what people say sucks.just be yourself and do what makes you happy.at the end of the day what matters is how you feel and not what others think.people always have bad things to say but just do not pay attention.and if they make you feel bad then you could take out what you feel on something that you love.it wont be easy at first but it will get better i promise.and youre still young so you have time to work on things.-xoxo hope this helped.
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