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Should I kill my sister
My sister is so annoying, she is always mad and yelling because she's fat,don't worry Ik that she is not on her P,and I truly hate her, she's also so mean, WE Never talk like normal sisters and I really like that because she will probably yell at any moment so what should I do, btw I'm 14 and I'm thinking of killing her. FOR REAL, so should j let her do whatever she wants and just hate her for the rest of my life just like how she hates me and pretty everyone at the family, I'm not kidding, I'm thinking of killing her cuz that's what she wants.thanks
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There's quite often some rivalry between siblings. Quite a lot in fact. But actually killing one of is thankfully very rare! Still I guess most of us have entertained thoughts of murdering someone who is really getting on our nerves. Again, we rarely do it. In fact, after a time plotting their murder and disposal of the body etc in our minds we tend to suddenly be struck by how horrific it would be. How impossible would it be to live with the knowledge that we had taken all the hopes and prospects and potential of another living person and ended them in an instant? This has a tendency of working the anger towards them out of our system for good, which is a very fortunate and useful little mechanism of our complex minds. I'm prepared to bet that there will come a time when you are good mates. You'll confide in each other and help each other. And you'll tell her how horrible you thought she was at one time, and you used to plan ways of doing away with her. And you'll have a good laugh about it. She might well confess to wanting to bump you off too. Basically, it's a 'family' thing. Sometimes you seem to hate each other with a passion, but if and when it comes down to it you'd do anything you can for each other. Stick this rough and argumentative patch out mate. It will pass. And try not to murder her in the meantime, naturally!!
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I am not ignoring how you feel about your sister. Hear my out as this should explain it all.
I don't know how close to your age she is, but my guess is that its very likely the both of you are having issues with your hormones. Once puberty hits, the female pre teen or teen body is flooded with an overload of hormones. These hormones will make a girl do several things, mainly all effecting emotions and personality. And NO...it is not related to being on ones period. These hormones affect a girl 24/7 regardless of being on a period. The hormones will go back to normal levels once in late teens or out of teens.
Your mom went thru this, I did, all my 3 daughters did, there isn't a single female who can escape this, it happens to all. However few people talk about it or tell you to expect it. It is quite normal though for a girls personality to totally change during this time, she can become overly sad or worse, depressed. And often young girls with this symptom are either crying all the time, cutting themselves or contemplating suicide.
The other symptom is extreme anger and rage, no patience, being very easily annoyed etc. And I would have to say from raising 3 daughters that this is the more common symptom. Whats worse is who such a female lets her anger and yelling and fighting out on, usually the people closest to her, a mother or a sister but it can be even ones best friend. Also it doesnt have to make sense, the anger can be directed to someone who did absolutely nothing to deserve it.
This is my guess because you used all the key words, 'annoying, mad, yelling, hate, mean. I won't say that you are the one having emotional overload, or that it is her or whether it is both you. But this is something you need to bring up to Mom. Remind her of whats going on and how it makes you feel. Its been a long time since she experienced the same thing but I guarantee she'll remember, and so she knows what it is like. My girls were fighting hitting, kicking yelling and screaming at each other, thankfully not all 3 at a time but first the two oldest, and later the two youngest. They were all spaced out 3 yrs apart so this unhappy stage was around for quite a while in my family. There is one thing that might help. When a girl feels so desperate as you do, there is a possibility that the hormones are a higher level than should normally be and this is what causes the rage, wanting to kill someone or wanting to commit suicide. This can be taken care of by a Dr. They check your hormone levels and if extremely higher than normal, can prescribe a medication just for during your teen years to help you come back to more normal emotions and start to feel better. Right now I know you cant believe its possible that something other than your sister is causing these problems but it is quite possible.
So talk to Mom. Tell her how extreme it is. If she doesnt take you seriously, show her my answer to you, that this in todays age is a very SERIOUS issue. Girls have picked up synthetic female hormones just from growing up in a very polluted world and although harmless in itself, once combined with the extra hormones of puberty, can cause a teen to do drastic terrible things. She needs to take this seriously, have a good talk with both of you and get both of you in to see the Dr and get checked out.
I am not saying you are crazy or anything like that. And this is not your fault for feeling like this, you didn't decide to become so angry or sister the same, this is beyond your ability to control and just promise to behave if indeed the hormone levels are too high. So have mom read this too. And hopefully all will be well at home soon again.
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