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Growing self-confidence
There is a part of me that is self-conscious because of past experiences. The thing I am most concious of is my outward appearance. People tell me I look lost most of the time and sometimes I am unsure where I am at. But, other times I just think its just my natural facial expression. Although, I am an attractive person, I dont like being percieved as looking lost when I am not. However, I think it just a facial expression I have a lot. Should I just accept it? It makes me selfconscious. In general, how can I increase my confidence?
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Just in case its not your facial expression, I will mention that things that cant be seen by mortal eyes also have just as strong an impact on people. So when you say people tell me, I assume this means all sorts of people, not just your friends and peers who may not know any better than offering useless comments. If you get this also from various adults, those who know you and those who may not, it may not be what they see on your face, it's only what they label it for lack of not knowing any better themselves.
What I am getting at is the energy field all bodies project outward from themself, aura's you may have heard of. Lots is communicated in energy. People can pick up on fears and such. Heck even animals. If a person is acting friendly and is smiling but inside is fearing a dog or being on a horse, the animals are going to react to your fear and act in a defensive posture, trying to growl, bite, run away, etc. See what I mean. People have these same instincts as animals however most aren't aware of it or actually use it. So as far as emotions go, positive ones can be seen too and anything else in between, like a low self esteem, lack of confidence or lack of a purpose or direction in life. If you feel self conscious due to past experience, then people are unknowingly picking up on that feeling in you but unaware of whats really going on, or that this ability exists in them, they have to have a solid explanation for what they pick up, a tangible one they can see and hear and touch, and so you get the comments that seem consistant from everyone as they put it into words that they feel best describe what they think they are seeing but actually sensing and calling it that 'lost look'
Well, in a way, it is true, due to your past, your lost something, your confidence. When you are ready to gain it back, let me know.
I had to do the same thing and choose in my last year of high school to finally do something about it as I was sick and tired of how I was and wanted to grow past that. But you can't and won't change until you badly want to. If ready, ask me and I will share how to gain self confidence. Dont put in comments, as I cant answer there. You'd have to go to my column and write me from there.
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well first of all,i assume that the others made you self-consious about this facial expression,so you were not before others told you.i believe that if you are okey with it and you cannot or do not want to change it,then don't.i mean who cares if your face looks like that!you can just 'prove' them that you have been listening and that it is just your facial expression.otherwise,why don't you just practice in front of the mirror or something to figure out what is wrong and work on it.do what makes you feel good about yourslef.-xoxo hope this helped
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