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age difference
I was wondering.. Is it ok for a 22 year old male to date a 17 year old girl as long as both are alright with it and everything is concentual?
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If you both are happy together, then go for it. You could make a whole new Romeo and Juliette story. Just make sure this has a happy ending and doesn't end up like Romeo and Juliette. It's only five years difference and my grandparents are six years apart. Just think, when your 25, she'll be 20. When your 30, she'll be 25. When your 35, she'll be 30 and so on. When you look at it like that it doesn't seem like to big a difference. If you like her, and she likes you, then do it!😀
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i can so answer this!I believe that if it is okey with both o you,you should definitely be together.i think there is no way that you will be taken to jail or anything.just do you and dont care about the people that try to make you reconsider or hesitate.do what your heart says. and if that makes you feel better,when i was 14 i made out with a 23 year old man ;) -xoxo
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It also needs to be legal. In the vast majority of states, a 17 year old can legally consent to date a 22 year old, but there are some states where it is not legal.
If it's not legal, you shouldn't do it, because it could ruin his life entirely to be brought up on any sort of sexual crime charges. That, would not be worth it for either of you.
Assuming it is legal, and you both want to date, you do need to remember that the reason it's even as issue is because age isn't just a number while you are a still a minor. Your age determines what sort of legal rights and powers you have to make choices about your life. It's also play a large part in your expectations and desires from relationship. A healthy 22 year old may very well have a very different idea of what a relationship should be, then a healthy 17 year old does.
It's not a good idea to get into a relationship with someone who has very different expectations than you do. It's also not a good idea to be a in relationship where one person has a lot more power than the other person. Both of those problems are more likely to come up when there is a larger age difference.
Check the age of consent laws in your state - but as I said, there are only a few states where a 22 year old and 17 year old would not be legal - but then remember that just because something is 'okay' doesn't necessarily mean it's a great idea. Keep your eyes open and be smart about the relationships you choose for yourself.
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I know of no state that allows for a 5 year difference in age between and adult and a minor. So by law you two should not be dating as you can be charged with a number of Felonies including statutory rape. Should you take her across a state line you will violate a Federal Law called the Mann Act which is similar in nature to statutory rape.
Most states in order to comply with the child left behind law have raised the age of consent to 18. They have done this so no child can drop out of school without parental consent. IF you live in one of these states she is still below the age of consent at 17 which adds more felonies.
For the most part what is important here is someone has to file a complaint. At 17 she must look at least her age if not older so it is highly unlikely some bystander will file a complaint. The complaint would have to come from her parents. IF her parents are okay with her dating you then I would think you are in the clear. So it is important to have her parent permission. If you do not have it then you should get it.
As far as the age difference goes. Age is but a number a way of tracking the years. IF you two have things in common and enjoy each others company. Then as long as you have her parents permission there should be no problem. Once she is 18 you and she are free to do as you please without any interference from the law or her parents.
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Age can really be just a number if your 17 year old is wise beyond her years, mature, and is on the same page with you about what you wanna do with your life/job/education etc. and continues to stay on the same page into the future.
depending on where you are YES there can be some eyebrows raised legally about age difference, but as long as your both understanding of what could happen if its NOT ok and are willing to make sure not to make any mistakes then i dont see why not.
Where it can get complicated is personally. like: does she want the same things your want in life, in the future, will she support your choices job wise, and will you do have the same things in mind for her choices and be able to meet each other in the middle? in order to keep the relationship afloat?
your JUST old enough now then she is that you may be in two different places in your lives and this could make things difficult. youll both have to try to be very understanding of each other, with certain things. aka when you get invited to go out with buddies and she cant go but you'd really like to, will she be ok with that and trust you enough to knwo that you wont cheat or something?? you have to remember shes 17 and potentially VERY insecure over you.
Will you put your social life aside because of those insecurity's? or make her do the same because you think she might cheat on you?
these are the other obstacles that stand in your way when having a relationship with someone who is more then four to five years younger then you.....
good luck though ; )
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Depends on the state you are in. There may be some that recognize a person to be at an age of sexual consent at 16, or 17 but in most places it is 18. And that one year difference could be a big deal if someone else knew. Even if you were dating and not having sex, how long do you think you could hold off, until you turn 18, months or another year? Most people will assume that a 22 year old man is not going to date someone that he can't have a sexual relationship with. If both sets of parents know you both are dating and okay with you just dating, nothing else, then you're fine. Its when sex comes into the picture it gets weird.
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