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My boyfriend and I just broke up, but we go to the same gym
My now ex-boyfriend and I just broke up in a very ugly fight. However we had both met each other at the gym. Its been about 2 years since we both go to the gym, about 6 months that we started talking at the gym, and only about 2-3 since we've been going out in a relationship. We are 100% over after he has wronged me but made matter worst by getting mad at me for getting mad at him, and the last thing he ever wrote me was "daddy must of taught you well, hopefully you find another gym." This is a very low blow as my "father" has left us since I was 1 month old, I've seen him a few times in my life (not a person you would want in your life) last I ever saw him was in court. So my ex used this to try and hurt me. He also said "hopefully you find another gym" which kind of sounded like a threat, what do you think?. He used to tell me of his vandalizing stories and he has IED. He even told me he smashed a gym member's car's glass just because the guy had belched and walked between us while we were talking, and because he slammed a weight on the machine the next day near my ex. My ex lives a few blocks from the gym, I live about 8 miles or a few neighborhoods away. This might sound far but the reason is that I love my gym, the members the waterview the free parking. We dont have that in our borough, I have tried many gyms in the past they are all much more horrible yet more expensive. I know I will not like any other gym, probably not go to one. I don't mind running into him at the gym since i would just ignore him, I doubt he will say anything he's more of an action person aka what if a few months down the road he does something to my car? The reason we broke up is because he broke my car driving it in the first place. At times I was thinking to do something to his. I know his car too, and he always parks 2-3 blocks away and not in the gym lot. But then again we both know where we live and usually park, if he wanted to vandalize my car he could look for it in my block as well. Should I let him get to me? Should I change my gym over him? He works in the store right under the gym also. So he would be working hours while I would have my car in the lot. What should I do? Also My gym yearly membership expires in 5 days, if I miss the renewal deadline I will have to pay another $250 sign up fee. I want to continue going to this gym, but will I be comfortable while I am there? What would you do? Thank you.
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In your shoes, I'd probably stop going to that gym.
You've mentioned some real fears for your physical safety, and for your property. I wouldn't choose to be anywhere near someone I thought might behave that way.
The other thing you could do is speak to the gym, and ask them about their policy around harassment or vandalism.
Don't go and commit any crimes yourself - that's a horrible idea. The most important thing to do is stay safe. It might be worth talking to someone in charge at the gym about how they might be able to make sure the gym remains a safe environment for you.
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well i would tell you i am sorry for your break up but i am actually glad you guys ended up because from what you said he was treating you like shit!from my perspective i definitelly think you sould continue going to the same gym if you like it that much.do not let a boy ruin that and change your life because of him.you can do whatever you want to do as long as you do not intervene in his life.that is the only way to just recover from everything.i do not know this guy so i cant tell if hes going to do damage to your car.i think you should leave things as they are for now and if you suspect anything bad is going to happen tell someone or just dont drive to the gym.i hope i kind of helped. -xoxo
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