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When’s my turn?
I’m literally damn near in tears over this, I’m menstruating, and this major problem just keeps dragging me into my depression. I’m 15 soon to be 16 in October, and I have yet to get some characteristics from a secondary puberty. I have pubic hair but my breast seem to be stuck in time, flat as possible and my hips haven’t spread at all. I doubt it’s my genes, my mom and sister aren’t flat chested, I’m unsure of malnutrition. I definitely am not open to plastic surgery when I’m older, if I go on birth control I may get no results. Also all the women in my family are nothing near flat chested so really feel like there has to be something wrong with me. I feel hopeless and really depressed at the thought of my breasts being this size forever, I also know that I’m fixated on my breast size so being flat chested as I am, and not doing anything about it, is impossible. Any advice or helpful information?
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Everyone breasts grow at different rates, so where you haven't seem to start yet, you'll see girls who seem to have their adult size chest already at 15 or 16. Guess what? Those girls aren't likely done growing and their chest will continue to grow, especially later when pregnant, and as an older adult until they have breasts so big their backs ache and they need breast reduction surgery. All the women I know now with big breasts were fully developed young but kept growing in spurts until it was too much. My sis is one. Others choose to not get reduction surgery and their boobs are in their lap, like another sister and some people I know. I was small of body bone frame, still am and my breasts were smaller as a teen and young adult. They didn't grow larger until I had kids and breast fed. However, after the third child was weaned, I went down in size to smaller than I first started at. Then as I grew older, my kids were now adults, my breasts had grown back to a size I like, between a B and C. SO size can fluctuate, even if you were a good size now. Its better to start out small. I came across a website by women for women were shots of only their breasts were shown to give other women an idea of what wide range of normal there is. Size, and nipples, two sizes, it is all normal.
So here is a link I want you to check out:
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) Click on the tab 'Body Image' and on the drop down list, 'Normal breat gallery 1 ' on that page about the second paragraph they mention "Some women have practically a (flat chest) and those two words are a link so click there and you will see a few photo examples of nearly flat chests. Please take the time to read as much as you can of the whole Breast gallery and if you scroll down enough on the actual galleries, lots of photos are there. It has changed some because I recall plenty of the flat chested girls having boyfriends who didn't mind the flat chests and thought she was pretty. Didn't find it this time, it may be there. Just know that you are normal and if you are having a period, your body is doing what it is supposed to, the breasts included. The part about look at mom and family to know does help sometime but you could have some genes from Dads side, his Mom, grandparent or several generations back where there is a female that you are more like in body size. I believe that is what's the case for me as my Mom and two sisters have/had ample to too large
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This could be a medical issue called failure to thrive. This is where you are unable to grow in terms of height, weight as well as develop properly at rate of peers. This can occur in people who have issues with eating and malnutrition but doesn't have to include that factor.
This could be the reason menstruation, puberty etc seems to be delayed or it could be indicator of another medical issue that hasn't been diagnosed yet. The best thing you could do for yourself is to find an understanding family doctor to discuss everything you mentioned in your question and get an assement or referal to the currect specailist who can figure out what is going on and what you can expect.
You need to do this because this issue is something that has continuously plagued you and destroyed your self-image and your mental health is suffering. You really need to see a doctor who can help you or get you on the path to answers and feeling good about yourself.
No matter how you may look physically you have to see that it doesn't define who you are or true beauty. I know it's hard when everyone else seems to have developed already and you want to be exactly like your peers. Definetly speak to a doctor as soon as possible.
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