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What is wrong with me?
Omg I can't believe I'm writing this but help would be appreciated. I am 14, and I hate my body. My breasts are tiny, my thighs are fat, and I have started to develop spots on my you know... Area. I wash my body at least twice a day and bathe every day. It's quite painful and I'm worried my bf will react bad if he sees. I don't want to go to the doctors because I'm so insecure about my body, and my crippling social anxiety that surrounds my body means that I hate PE at school and I can't go swimming without being self conscious. A lot of help is needed. Thanks.
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I understand how you feel, because I used to be insecure when I was younger. Usually when girls hit puberty, their self esteem plummets, because of the changes that's happening to your body. So between the ages of thirteen and fifteen is when girls are self conscious, again like I said, because of the changes that's happening to your body. I strongly believe that girls shouldn't have to be afraid of their own body, because society said that girls should look like models. You're a girl going through some changes in your body right now, so people shouldn't have to right to criticize the way you look. Another thing I want to add is you're still really young, so don't worry about what your boyfriend thinks about you, actually don't worry about what other people think of you! I think you're being blinded by all the negative "stuff" about yourself, you're not concentrating on the positive "stuff." I actually used to ave peach fuzz when I was younger, and it made me super insecure. I thought everyone was able to notice, and they thought bad about me. I mentioned it to my friend one day and she was like "I didn't even know you had peach fuzz, until now!" So what I'm trying to get across is we usually see things that people don't really mind, or they don't even notice it. From now on whenever you look into the mirror I want you to point out the positive traits you have, and not the negative.
I hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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I have a feeling the bumps or irritation of your vulva may have to do with scented pads and especially soaps with perfume and or bubble bath. There could be something in those that you have an allergy to.
I have seen that with bubble bath and a child being case for them. It makes sense if washing a lot. You could also have an infection. I would show your mother. It's not that embarrassing as she has a vagina too and would know based on hers what this could be.
Doctors have seen millions of vulvas and people in your position before and will make things as easy as possible. You need to get it checked or it will become lots worse.
As far as PE goes nobody is watching you but are rather concerned with their own selves and performance. However, if you can convince a doctor that its really affecting you adversely with constant anxiety he or she could get you exempt provided you do physical activity elsewhere that can be monitored either that or go into gym like you own the place and focus on you and not anyone or anything else in your way.
As far as swimming goes focus on what you enjoy about it and not on anything else. Realize that anyone else is worried about how they look to so it really isn't a problem.
As far as the boyfriend goes he's probably as self-concious about his penis and size as you are about your private area, thighs and breasts. He doesn't care about those things and rather about you. Over time you will develop further anyways. You're okay if you stop worrying and start trying to find what you enjoy abut physical activity and think only about it. Be a girl on a mission in class and at the pool.
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i was really drawn to your question because i have had issues with my body and how i used to and kinda still feel about the way i look. So i have eczema which is defined as a medical condition in which the skin inflames and is rough which is kinda true and you probably know some people with eczema but i have it in more places that other people don't. I have always been self conscience because i am terrified about how people will react. I have not worn shorts to school since 3rd grade and i am in 7th grade....You do the math. And personally think the doctor helped out a lot i went to this amazing skin doctor and she was really nice and was real and gave me some stuff that actually helped which has never really happened before. And i really think that you should go to the doctor or have someone examine the spots on your lower areas because it is probably not anything but if you say its painful you need to get help pronto cause you don't want it to grow into something. Regarding your actual body size.. i think that guys like big thighs and just cause u have small boobs, so what.... You have what i call is a phatty (thats a good thing) and most guys i have run into are like DAYUMMM she got a phatty and like are all over them so your good in the body factor but you probably don't notice it when guys are like aweing over you. And the spots....It shouldn't matter what your lower area looks like. If you are planning to do sexual activities he should be happy that a beautiful girl like you have given him a chance to see your beautiful body.. And he should be lucky (if he ever sees your body and does something with it) because a lot of girls will not let a guy touch them and the girls that will, will let F*** anybody who gives them candy so yea he should feel lucky he got such a beautiful girl with a beautiful body
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