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This is sooooo embarrassing.
Plz don't judge. I am a 14yr old fem with a basically impossible to control sex drive. I want to know how to get like a vibrator and lube without being embarrassed. I don't want to look in my parents room cos she knows ALL and I just want one of my own cos its kinda unhygienic and im not even sure she has one and also what's a dildo? Help greatly appreciated.
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There really shouldn't be any embarrassment in purchasing lubricant or any other product for that matter from a pharmacy. These cashiers have rung up far more embarrassing products and prescriptions than a bottle of KY Jelly or what have you.
To them it's just another sale they will ring up without thinking anything more about. I would relax there. If you went into a Spencer's location like the person below mentioned as an option there's no way they would embarrass you either and they sell a lot of these "novelty items" and would view it as another person making a purchase. I highly doubt they would say anything including "you can't purchase this" etc.
The ban is on adult novelty shops that stock pornography as stated below for 18+ Spencers to my knowledge is not like that as I myself have seen they sell these in plain view.
The fact is that almost everybody will or has engaged in this activity at some point in life be them men, woman, teen, child etc. It's normal and healthy and pretty much universal with both sexes in your age group.
It doesn't have to do anything with sex either but rather with feeling good and being comforting for others. Yes, no doubt your parents have and friends and other people you interact with daily. Your parents likely suspect that you do and know it's normal for people your age to do so. That wouldn't phase them if they knew.
In fact, you are doing something responsible and dealing with hormonal surges and sexual feelings without doing things with a partner you aren't ready for yet. Considering kids could be into drugs or other harmful activities they would probably be relieved for this to be the only issue which it isn't really that they could be concerned with.
You no doubt could talk to your mom and explain you have been doing this a lot lately because of urges, hormones and feelings and have not done anything with guy you aren't ready for. She would assure you that it's normal. If you saw her toys you could discuss curiosity about it and see if she thinks you should have one. You could also talk to someone you trust that is an adult about it. Just know that there's nothing unusual or wrong here about this or you. There's a lot of teens who wonder about the same things.
If you buy any items from a store like lubricant etc. just remind yourself that everyone including the cashier use these daily and it's not a big deal. Afer all, you aren't buying diarreha medication or something totally mortifying. Everyone does what you are doing with stats being 77% of females and 80% of males.
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I know how its embarrassing in the beginning when one has anything sexuality related to learn and how talking to parents is the hardest. If your mom isn't open to talk about sex, then I wouldn;t ask her. If not, MOm is the best choice to go purchase you a vibrator. A dildo is either a slender object or penis shaped one you can insert and move it to mimic sex. Personally, I get more out of a vibrator shaped as a dildo as you can choose to use the tip of it on just your clit for orgasms or to have inside vibrating or not. And many come with different speeds of vibration.
The reason you can't go into a sex toy shop is a law about minors not allowed where x rated movies are sold, its not really about lube and toys.
If you have a cousin who is legally an adult now, talk to her and ask her about getting one for you, or maybe an aunt you are close to and can talk about anything.
If not, girls have been inventive and purchased regular body vibrators to use on just the clit. They are not made to be waterproof or may have edges that can scratch. But lots of females have started out with using anything that vibrates, like the body massagers in the drug store, Spencer gifts has been known to sell one or two and its more of a oddity store with gag gifts so you could actually purchase one there. Or last resort, I've heard of gals who use the vibrating toothbrush without the brush part
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