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Ejaculating Quickly and Long Refractory Timd
I am getting nervous. I'm 32 yrs old and not very experienced sexually. I have kissed lots of girls but my only actual intercourse was a one night stand while drunk and was raw. So that time I cummed within 30 seconds of insertion. I had a 45 minute refractory time. Cummed again 30 seconds on round 2.
A little background - I get hard even just kissing and making out with my new girlfriend, any cuddling activity, even just ass on cock while standing in line anywhere.
So I have a girlfriend now. We tried having sex and I cummed while she was on top of me doing foreplay. It took an hour to get hard again and then once I put a condom on within a minute got flaccid. I couldn't get hard again for the next 20 mins. Next morning we woke up kissed and got hard, put a condom on and within a minute of putting a condom on I blew my load and not even in her yet.
What do I need to do?? I will say I havent masturbated before I just can't seem to get myself off unless someone else is physically with me. Ugh
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I agree with the previous answer. I think you need to experiment more with fantasy(like imagining that she is touching you or on top of you) while masturbating. You need to practice "edging" to gain more self control over your orgasms. After you have become more familiar with what works to delay your orgasm then you can ask your partner to help you experiment as well. There are devices available(online or in adult stores)that are worn on the penis to aid in delaying orgasm. There are also numbing creams available as well. In the meantime I would suggest that you bring your gf to orgasm first through manual or oral stimulation before engaging in intercourse. This not only takes the pressure to perform off of you but you are also being considerate enough to make sure she is not left hanging. Lots of intimacy is key until you get in sync with each other. I think once you "desensitize" to being with a partner things will be just fine.
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Ok, you should know that the average male doesnt last very long, so SO FAR your not sounding that unusual to me.
Masterbating can actually desensitize you a bit, aiding in lasting longer.
You might try buying whats called a flesh light, and using that in between or when you arent with your girlfriend. It sounds like a simple case of you just needing to do it more so that when your with HER you dont get all overly excited.
Its not a bad thing that you havent been with a bunch of women. Some women would consider that special so dont think badly of yourself because of it. ; )
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