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My guy is obsessed with a porn star and other stuff
Alot to say here,but will start with this,I have a somewhat sweetheart and for as long as I have know,has an obsession with a porn star,I feel.He's always visiting her Instagram,always leaving her comments,always trying to make her feel better,something he has never done for me,yet with this one,it seems frequent,he'll go back and like photos from 2 years ago,etc.likes her Facebook,its goes on and on,is he obsessed? or this normal? My complaint is that his ideas of this woman are unrealistic,and obviously he wont go to bed with her,but he doesnt care.He also watches porn quite heavily
He also leaves comments all the time for other girls,calling them sexy,beautiful,wow this,wow that,it goes on and on
Ive been dissapointed with him for quite some time,as I moved out of state to be with with him,Im very let down,because he still hasnt asked me to be girlfriend,I've seen him for a 5 times in the last 2 months,even though he's just 25 minutes away. He also when I got here though it was a good idea,to go on a date with some woman just a few days after moving here,as he recorded this on his Snapchat,and on top of that he admitted he did go on a date after I confronted him. We have of course talked and kept in touch.
To top this all off,he uses the dating APP Tinder,and what he does is look at profiles and looks them up on Instagram and follows them,I could go on about him.
I dont want to make it sound like I'm complaining,but is this is NOT OKAY with me.Not okay to accept this behavior from someone who is making life plans with you. I think maybe he does have a problem,I know that men will look at women,I get them,but he goes a little above and beyond.Its not my place to judge whether he watches porn or not,I myself,am against it,as it teaches nothing about love,and looses touch with what sex truly means,as I feel is the ultimate expression of love and affection for someone else,not because people do it on camera for money and never see each other again.Anyways,back to him,its quite obvious he wont change,and he'll only get worse.... So how do I stop all this from bothering me,and then let him go,I men honestly,does he really sound like man anyone would want to spend the rest of their lives with?
I worked so hard to move here,I got a job,getting another job and am trying so hard to make ends me,whil he jacks off to porn,plays video games,lives with his parents,and as of current has no car...it goes on.Im more mature and established,and I try to make value of m life. I feel we are just so opposite,and I cant tel you how much Ive cried or how his obsession of his whore has hurt me,how he is always looking around behind my back,Im hurting,and want to know what to do,it isnt fair,and if I say anything,its my fault,Im the one who has the problem and is jealous.It's not my fault he lusts after other women? Thats my problem? No it isnt!
What do I do? How do I handle this? Please,thank you!
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It really bothers me that you have to ask how to handle this! This boy is very immature and he has a porn addiction. In addition to that...he isn't into you! In addition to that... you have mentioned several other reasons why he is a pathetic loser!!! I think you need to seek some counseling in order to better understand your choices. I also believe you have some serious self esteem issues. You know all these things about him and yet you will not kick him to the curb without someone telling you to??? It doesn't matter what you gave up to be with him you are going to lose one hell of a lot more than that if you choose to stay! Best wishes to you!
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Are you making life plans with this guy? Really?
Because you say you moved to be with him, but that you are not actually in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, and that you don't even see him once a week.
Even if it wasn't for the way he chooses to engage with porn and other women online—even if he didn't do any of that—is this actually a relationship? Gotta be honest, doesn't sound like one to me.
Porn is the least of your problems here hun. Lots of loving wonderful boyfriends enjoy porn. Your guy isn't loving or wonderful to begin with! He's a just shitty guy to be with, whether he watches porn or not.
Don't dump him because you think his porn habits are unhealthy, dump him because he offers you nothing: no commitment, no support, no basic level of adult behaviours at all. Dump him because you are barely with him to begin with.
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