I have a 2 best friends and lately they have been closer to each other; they are keeping secrets from me and they have this really close relationship with this guy but they don’t tell me what they are talking about and I’m always lost. I don’t really want to mention it to them because it may seem like I am telling them what to talk to and that they have to tell me everything but I just don’t know what to do! I have no one else but them and I don’t want to leave them but o don’t think I want to stay if it stays the way it is now. And the worse part is that they don’t even think teice when they don’t include me in something... it’s lole I don’t even exists. Pls HELP
I always say honesty is the best policy. If they are truly your best friends, you should be able to approach them and tell them how you feel. Depending on what they tell you, you can decide whether or not you want to stay close to them. It is important to always feel included or at least have open communication in a line of friends when one is feeling left out or hesitant about something in the relationship between you all. Good luck!
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Hello,
On September 5th, I will be going to a new school. The school I'm going to is a 6-12 school, meaning that I will not know anyone there. (I'm going to 6th grade).
I am introverted, and its hard for me to be myself when im nervous, so I don't know how i will make friends. I heard that you can make friends when people can relate to you. But when I'm nervous my social skills are terrible, so its harder for me to do that.
Secondly, I have never had lockers or had to memorize where classes are before, so I'm afraid I will go wrong with that, but friends are my main concern.
Lastly, the school I am going to is a very good school, that many people apply to but few get accepted. This means the stakes are high and im afraid that i wont meet them. I know I'm smart but what if I'm not smart enough?
Thanks for your help,
-Z
Congratulations on getting accepted into such a promising school. Moving from 5th grade to 6th grade in a new school and new environment is scary and I know you feel like no one else shares these scared feelings. Trust me, there are lots more like you out there who is afraid of this transition. It is much easier to make friends at this age when everyone is just trying to fit in just as much as you. When you get to my age, it does not become easier, I can tell you that much. I am confident that if you put your mind to accepting this transition, you will be just fine at the start of the school year. It will not be expected that you master this new cycle when you first start, but you will get the hang of it very soon. Not everyone is an extrovert so don't feel like you are alone. I am sure, there are others who are feeling the same way as you and sometimes, just taking that first step to meeting someone or just saying hi or even a smile is all you need to get through this fear. Always look approachable and smile throughout your day. Even if you don't say anything to anyone or make friends your first couple of weeks, always look confident. The right people will come along. I personally believe, the universe finds a way to work everything out.
If you ever feel like you're not smart enough or things aren't coming to you as fast as they seem to be for everyone, NEVER hesitate to ask for help. Asking for help as much as often is how you get by, no matter where you go. If you have to join tutoring, or stay back after school to spend time with your teacher, do it. Every effort you make to succeed, no matter how small, will ALWAYS pay off. And, it is always the most perfect time to start this habit at your age.
Life will get more difficult than this, I can assure you. But there will never be no solution. As long as you want to succeed, always stay positive and make an active effort.
Good luck to your new school year, may you do well in all your endeavors!
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28/F Cat in question is ~1yr (vet's best guess)
So, I rescued a stray female cat about two months ago. I figured she wasn't spayed, but I wasn't worried about it, her being a decidedly indoor cat, now (she's taken very well to the pampering and cuddles). Funny thing was, she hasn't gone into her heat cycle since I've had her. Didn't realize that happened as frequently as it does. My other cat was spayed at 6 months, so she never went into heat.
Anyway, I noticed this one's nipples sticking out of her fur and somewhat swollen. Her abdomen is also swollen, and it's a bit like she swallowed a softball. She was also doing a lot of foraging for food even after being fed (I've been feeding her appropriately for her weight and age), but I thought that was a learned behavior from having to do so on the streets. Did not occur to me that maybe I wasn't feeding her enough because kittens. o.O (Now I feel terrible)
After some googling, there's a really, REALLY good chance she's pregnant, so I'm feeding her more.
It's weekend now, and I won't be able to reach my vet until Monday, give or take, so I'm asking you guys (I have no idea how far along she is, I don't wanna risk waiting). No, I'm not taking her or the possible kittens to a shelter, I plan to make sure they go to good homes, and she'll stay with me.
... What do I DO? How do you care for newborn kittens and their new mommy? How do you feed little ones? I want to give all of them the best chance for survival, mom included.
If anyone breeds cats (no judgment), or has had experience with this, PLEASE help me out. I am absolutely at a loss and unprepared for this.
Thank you for ANY advice you can give me.
Make sure the mommy cat is as comfortable as possible. Try to make a nice clean area where she can birth the kittens. The little ones will nurse from their mother. Just make sure they all find their way to food. If the mommy cat goes into any distress after birthing the babies, try to take her to the nearest animal hospital.
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This past weekend I was on a school trip with my best friend.
One night at dinner, she was sitting across from me when she received a text. I noticed that it was really long and made a joke about it, then went back to my food.
A couple moments later, she was sitting beside me, hugging me, with her head on my shoulder, and holding out her phone.
I read the text. It turned out her grandfather had just died of a heart attack.
This is in the past now, but I am just curious, what would have been the best thing to do?
Well she didn't tell you what happened right away, so there is no way you could have known. You didn't do anything wrong and she isn't upset at you for what you said. If she had told you, the best thing for you to do is just be there by her side. As long as you apologize because of you not knowing what happened, I think that would be okay. After all, she is your best friend.
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So this is my story...Iv dated this guy for a few months in high school (2012) we then broke up and got back together a few months after then but then broke up again (2013) Last year april i askd him if i can add him on facebook cause i have a new account and he said yes and since then almost everyday we spoke to each other we started hanging out once or twice on a monthly basis so we have been seeing eachother for a year and 6 months now i thought there was hope that we would get back together again,everything was just perfect it felt like we were meant to be..a few months ago in august everythng just suddenly changed he stopped speaking to me,and only shows up and replies when he wants to..it was his birthday recently 31oct and i texted him but he didnt reply so then i phoned him to wish him..since then i havent heard from him,i texted him monday and tuesday asking why hes so quiet,i dont hear frm hm anymore and then asking him if i can see him soon and then i tried phoning him but he didnt pick up so i texted hm making up an excuse saying it wasnt me and then texd hm asking if he got my msgs bt then he ddnt reply so i tld hm sorry bout all those msgs i just wntd to talk to him but il leav hm alone now..i still havent heard anything from him,he probably never even read the msgs and just deleted it cause hes always online i just dont exist to him anymore..about 2wks ago he told me he likes being around me he just dont like how clingy iv gotten...its not that im clingy i just wana knw why hes acting this way,we use to speak almost everyday but now i t feels like all i ever do is annoy him and be clingy i told him it felt like it was the last time im ever gona see him so he said no he dont think so unles its wat i want so i said no i dmt want our friendship to end so he said it wont happen he is just full of shit lately and hes not keen on clingy...But now i dont know anymore cause it feels like i lost him and everything is over because i was bombardin hm with all those texts..iv decided to stay away though and not contact him anymore..i dont think i will ever hear from him away..or do you hink if i keep my distance long enough he will mayb show up again..is there still hope for us to be friends and to speak again..do u think hes silence is his way of saying leave him alone..i dont know what i did wrong and he dont want to tell me why hes acting so all he says is that hes not keen on people anymore ..i need advice on what to do and how to handle this situation i havent textd him for 2 days now im just staying away..do you think he will msg me again? im just so scared cause its all i ever think about please help i ddnt mean to come off as clingy and texting hm constantly,im sorry :( i just miss him and the way how things use to be, but i gues iv pushed and chased him away because of it
It sounds like something happened between the time you spoke to him all the time and he stopped speaking to you. And maybe he doesn't want to talk to you about it. You have every right to ask any question you want but ultimately it's his choice to answer those questions. He has asked you for space, so at least you know he has acknowledged your concern. Friendship is a two way street and if he has told you he doesn't want to be in communication every day, and you two are just friends, then you should leave it at that until he is ready to want more. I can't tell you whether or not you should have hope because I don't know what's going through his mind. All I can say, is if you still want him as friend in you life, continue to show him you're there for him in the way he likes it. He told you he liked to spend time with you, so I wouldn't say you've pushed him away or chased him but remember, it has to be a two way effort, not just you doing all the work.
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I am a 14 year old girl and my dad has always loved me a lot but just recently he started to kiss me on my neck and every once and a while on the lips, he also grabs me from behind and kisses me on the back of my neck.
I am not uncomfortable when he does it just makes me feel kind of weird I haven't told him about it and I'm not sure if I should or not I mean is this normal or no?
If you feel uncomfortable with it, as you are describing, then you need to tell him how you feel. Personally, I don't consider that normal. If he continues to be that way with you and you feel helpless, then you need to tell someone who can do something about it. Maybe your mom, or other relative. Maybe even a close friend.
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby?
You have to tell them because you can't hide it. I know its hard to not want to follow in your moms footsteps but you aren't! You want to keep your baby. You just have to realize the sacrifices that come with having a child, especially at such a young age. If you cannot provide for a child, things will get very difficult for you. I hope the father of the baby and his family is willing to help you also.
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Hello!
As the headline says, im trying to be a better man, and being able to do some self defense is never bad idea. I heared that some martial arts are tied with some sort of philosophy and through it teaching other things for life then just "beating people" (because beating people is NOT my desire in the first place). I will be most grateful if you give me any suggestions i could follow.
Thank you!
While I am not familiar with forms of martial arts, I believe each form has a significant meaning that teaches you some sort of practice. Why don't you try researching the histories of some and see which ones hold meaning to you?
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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it?
I am not a Christian but I do believe in service to those who are around you. I understand the desire to spread the word for God too. Please just understand, when you're trying to spread God's messages, don't condemn other people's beliefs. People on a whole are inspired not entirely by God but by the meaning of those messages. Almost every religion, not only the words of Christianity, teaches its disciples to be good people, and to serve others wholeheartedly. If you can preach those messages, I can assure you, you will feel like you are doing the right thing. Make your life an example for people to follow. With such motivation at a young age, you can be an inspiration to a lot. Always remember to consider yourself and your happiness when helping others too. Good luck in your mission.
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it.
Hey, I'm all for banning excessive PDA. Some people have no shame, especially when little eyes and ears are around. They do get a thrill from trying to gain attention from those that do surround them and why, I don't know. PDA makes me feel uncomfortable knowing that other people are watching. I guess these are just some things about society that we have to accept. If two people ( a couple) choose to see life the same way, there's nothing we can really do to stop them.
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I don't really know that my guy likes me or not but i think so that kind of he likes me ......... But sometimes he just shows that he hates to hell and sometimes he just turns back looks at me....... i seriously don't know what to do plz!!!!! I am from INDIA
You should ask him
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So there's this guy at my work that I like, and we've been texting each other back and forth pretty often. Before reading week ended, I gave him this gift card to a sushi restaurant and he said we should go, and asked me to go to dinner! He picked me up and dropped me off home but didn't make any move. All throughout dinner it was really nice, it never felt awkward , but I just couldn't read him. Fast forward a few days, I texted him a "so do you know what I was craving today ?! Crepes ! Haha When are you free ? We should go out sometime !" And he replied "Haha I had some on my birthday! But I'm still down for crepes! We should go after exams are done! We can celebrate all of the A's we got haha" . Does it seem like he's interested in me ?? There were other instances where we were talking about soccer and I said I would watch him play over the summer and he said that he'll score a goal for me, or the time when he said he'll buy me green tea kit kat when he goes to Japan cause it's my favourite, or like how he'll teach me ukulele because I'm teaching him violin .... Like does it seem like he just thinks of me as a friend or more ?
Right now I think it's a bit too early to tell but there is some interest in there. Considering he's willing to go out again and said he'd score a goal for you, those are definitely good signs that he likes your company. I'd say hang in there and see where it goes. :)
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I feel scared to ask my parents for a snapchat facebook Kris even an instagram because of how over protective they are what should I do
I used to be in your position back in the day when myspace was the thing. Eventually I realized I was my own person and as long as I knew how to make good decisions for myself, I was fine. You should do the same.
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I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again?
From a third party perspective, I can see that this relationship is not healthy. Nor is it one I think you should try to be in. I understand how great it is to feel to be able to love and appreciate someone but you have to understand that a relationship involves that feeling both ways. If you are not receiving what you give, then you are not in a good relationship. To think that this is the only guy for you is something you should truly not worry about. He's basically telling you he doesn't want you but you keep running back to him. You have to remember guys are guys, if you are giving them what they want, they will never tell you to leave. You should truly find it within yourself to say that you don't need to be treated like this anymore. Strong people do not take anything lower than what they deserve. If you are willing to be a great girlfriend and give as much as you can, then until you find a guy willing to do just as much and more, you will not be in a good relationship. You should NEVER make someone appreciate you. When guys truly care about you, they do any and everything they can to make sure they make you theirs. The guy you are with now, has no intention of doing that. He clearly does not respect you or your wishes or your kind heart. You will only end up getting more hurt in the long run. Also, you must never judge all guys as the same. Just because one guy mistreats you or neglects you, does not mean every guy from there on will. People get comfortable with affection, without commitment, and clearly that is what this guy is doing to you, since you say you guys kiss. I just want you to know that, just because he kisses you does not mean he cares. It takes more than a kiss to hold people together. So please make the right choice and to leave. Seeing people let misery take over their life on purpose is quite angering. I know you know what you have to do, and I completely understand how hard it is. But he isn't the only guy. You just need to put yourself in the right environment with the right kind of people and sooner or later you will meet someone who will cherish everything you have to offer them. I hope this helps.
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Here's a picture of me: http://i.imgur.com/e2uF7w6.jpg
I have a stupid haircut and i don't look good.
I have no idea what hairstyle would look good for me, but could someone tell me what hairstyle would look best with my face? Every time I've asked this, people have just made fun for how I look; I know I'm ugly, but I just want legitimate advice as to what would look good for me.
i wouldn't emphasize on height. maybe a nice blond highlight would emphasize your hair. you're not ugly either.
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I want to do something for my camp talent show and these are my options: limbo, piano, or beat boxing. Wich one should i pick?
I would personally go with piano because I love music :) Beat boxing will attract only a certain kind of audience and so will limbo. Everyone loves music. Play a fantastic piece and you're sure to win the crowd! Good luck
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Hi I'm 12 years old and my throat hurts when I sing like A LOT. When I try to sing it's coming from my throat and that's bad. My teacher tells me to relax my jaw and shoulders , use your diaphragm , take a deep breath, and place it in my nose BUT I DONT NO HOW TO !!!!!!! I'm relaxing my shoulder/neck area and taking deep breaths but I still don't no how to use my diaphragm or "place it in my nose" I have been told how to do this a thousand times and I think I'm doing it yet my throat still is on fire. Idk wat to do . Plz help and fast bc I have an audition tomorrow thx
If your throat is burning, agitating it would only make it worse. If you have an audition tomorrow, the best thing to do is to relax and drink warm and soothing liquids. Nothing acid and nothing cold. Always take a deep breath when you sing and concentrate on the sound leaving your mouth with enough force that you hit all the right notes. Also remember facial expression is everything. When your face shows it, your voice sings it! Good luck!
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i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
thanks in advance.
I honestly never heard that term before...virgin slut. Interesting... but anyway, I'm sorry that you are offended by a girl's past. Here's the thing, you can't date someone because they are innocent. Depending on how old you are, you cant expect each person you meet to be a saint. That's just reality. Also take into consideration your past and your history of what you've done. It might not compare to hers but no one's past is the same. In other words, holding her against what she did in the past before she met you should either 1) stop you from talking to her her completely or 2) analyze why her past history bothers you so much. Do you find her disgusting? or is it that she might be a lot more experienced than you?
If she leaves the country for a year to study, that doesn't mean she's not going to have a sex life. If she's single and uncommitted then she's free to do what she wants. You're experiencing jealousy and it is completely natural. But if her past is really that important to you, then your jealousy is going to grow because she will continue to see other guys and do what she's always been doing. If she is more important than her past, then you would try to give her the benefit of the doubt and try to start fresh with her. Yeah, she's had experience but I'm sure you have too. Also, she never actually had intercourse with them either so that should tell you something.
I think you should tell her that you are feeling a little insecure about the things she's done. Hey, kissing a lot of guys would mean that a lot of guys think shes attractive, right? But look, tell her you want commitment and trust. If she gives it to you 100% then you have nothing to fear!
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hi i have a cat i taught it how to use the toilet but the problem is my cat keeps falling IN the toilet how can prevent this ?
there are devices you can put on the toilet to make the seat narrower
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I've been in a relationship with a girl from overseas for almost two years. I'm a 26 y/o guy, and she's 24. She came with me here about a year and a half ago. I treat her well, romance her, buy her roses, bake her cakes, take her out when I have time, tell her that she's beautiful, help her look for work, and a lot with English.
Last year she started acting funny and talking about a guy, and I found out she cheated on me by looking at her phone, and reading her emails (Not saying this was right, just that I did it). I confronted her, but I never really felt she thought what she did was wrong. I promised not to look at her stuff again.
For the half year since then she's been using her phone a ton, and hiding it from me. Lately she has been getting calls and messages from the guy she cheated with on me again, so often that even though she doesn't want me to know, it's inevitable that I would see at some point. She gets pissed off over trivial things, she's stuck to her phone 24/7, we hardly ever have sex anymore, and sometimes I don't feel like she even wants to be here.
So I gave her time, and everything just felt kind of wrong. I broke my promise and checked up on her. She's still cheating on me, and things never really stopped. She tells me she's faithful, nothing has happened, and she loves me, but I know she's lying.
Recently she got offered her dream job in my country, and the contract process is happening fairly quickly. She's staying here on a Partner visa with me, and we live together. If I break up with her, she either has to leave within a month, or become illegal. Apart from that, it will obviously make my life more hellish for that month than it already is living with a person who you know is lying to you with a straight face, while making out with another guy. I know that she is planning to stay with me for the two years it will take for her to gain permanent residence, and then leave me for the guy she is cheating on me with.
In my country, you can only ever sponsor two people to be partners, and if your first partner is granted PR, the length your second one has to wait grows to 5 years, rather than just 2.
I don't know how to handle breaking up with her, and what to say to who, when. I don't want to be taken advantage of, or have my name smeared by this. Breaking up with her before she gets PR will pretty much destroy her whole life as she knows it. She quit her job to come here with me, which is kind of a black spot on her employment history in her home country. I feel angry and upset about what she has done to our relationship, but I'm still battling feelings of love for her, and I don't want to see her broken. I wish everything I know about what's happened could be a lie, but I know it's not, so I have to deal with it.
To complicate things, accepting the job involves costly medical and security checks for her, and may mean we consider moving. I'm at university, and I only just found this out, right before the exam period. I really don't want to think about this before exams, and I definitely don't want to break up with her just before my first exam, so I am putting it off, but I feel so guilty for "supporting" her through the process of getting checks and references for this job that I know will be difficult if not impossible for her to keep.
What would you do?
What should I tell her? The truth? Or that I've fallen out of love, but don't know why? Or that one of her friends told me the truth?
How do I deal with the stress of living together with this oblivious lying girl who tells me she loves me?
What should I do to handle the resistance that I'm likely to have to breaking up with her? She won't want to break up with me, because she wants PR.
Can you tell me some steps and the order in which I might do them?
Any other general advice about the situation that I haven't asked a specific question about is more than welcome.
Thanks in advance.
-Troubled
Well my first question is, what did you see on her phone that made you think she was cheating? Secondly, how are you tolerating a person who is cheating on you, living with you, while you are with her. Did you confront her about wanting to be with another guy at all? Because if she does, you have to tell her to leave. You clearly showed you cared about her. Maybe something was missing in the relationship but she should have at least told you what that was. Since she didn't, she must not care to fix it. I'd say let her new guy take care of her and you move on with your life. Tell her she has not been treating you the way you deserve to be treated. She's just using you.
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