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My dad kisses me in weird places
I am a 14 year old girl and my dad has always loved me a lot but just recently he started to kiss me on my neck and every once and a while on the lips, he also grabs me from behind and kisses me on the back of my neck.
I am not uncomfortable when he does it just makes me feel kind of weird I haven't told him about it and I'm not sure if I should or not I mean is this normal or no?
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The key word here is 'recently' which means this isn't his normal way of showing love to you.
Theres a special bond between daughter and father. Girls once going thru puberty want to have verification that they are beautiful young women, no longer little girls. That can be a healthy experience of Dad simply saying as mine did, wow hon, you look so pretty. I better get a baseball bat ready to beat off all the guys who come after you. What your Dad is doing is Not a healthy version of recognizing your becoming a woman.
Kissing on the lips, neck, nape of neck and going on from there to kissing and touching other areas on the body are all part of foreplay, the prelude to having sex. While he may not intend to go that far, its guaranteed that since he just started doing this and you are 14, that he is recognizing you as a sexual creature now but in a bad way, wanting to experience for himself some excitement and such. This is not appropriate!
While you may love Dad, and have a close bond with him and not want to hurt that bond, this can't go on without saying that he needs to stop this. If he won't stop, you need to tell Mom. If Mom doesn't believe you, talk to a school counselor because you need someone who will make sure this stops before it goes much further. Dad won't be in big trouble at this point, but he may instead get some needed counseling if he struggles with this issue.
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You need to tell your Dad that you love him but that you prefer kisses on your cheek.
This is inappropriate. If it doesnt stop and you need to tell your mom when he is not around.
If that does not help you need to mention this to an adult you can trust.
I am hoping and praying that this is not going in the completely inappropriate direction but just in case it is, you need to tell someone. Your mom first
pray that this stops and please dont ignore it.
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If you feel uncomfortable with it, as you are describing, then you need to tell him how you feel. Personally, I don't consider that normal. If he continues to be that way with you and you feel helpless, then you need to tell someone who can do something about it. Maybe your mom, or other relative. Maybe even a close friend.
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