Hi there! I'm glasses. I'm here to help people with any problems. I'm good at answering just about anything from friends to relationships to homework and just about anything your heart needs to spill! I'm in high school and I can still answer a lot of things people can't understand themselves. I love you all! :)
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I'm a sophomore female in high school and I have been so confused about my sexuality. I've never dated a guy because no one has ever asked or had interest in me I guess. But for a long time my own friends thought I was lesbian because I'm a very affectionate person. I like giving hugs and I like holding hands with my friends when we walk down the hallway like idiots. But I only like giving hugs to certain girls, and I always get awkward or nervous around them. These girls were both on my team and have helped me so much and would always look out for me. I can't tell if I like them. Like I want to be with them and I want to talk to them and this will sound super weird but I sometimes daydream about them and make up scenarios about them being there for me and giving me hugs and making me feel better. That last part probably sounds really weird but I'm serious. I think I like guys. But I can't tell if I like them too. I wouldn't be ashamed if I liked them. But what am I? I just want to know who to love. (link)
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Hi there,
I can tell you're confused and probably a little nervous about what you are. Sometimes, people think they may be gay or lesbian but they don't know or are confused like you. But you are older. A sophomore is usually 16 so I'll assume you're at that age or you soon will be. If you've been feeling this way only for a few years, there's nothing to worry about. Just like you said, you are an affectionate person. That's normal. One of my friends who we thought was lesbian for the longest time is just like you and hugs people constantly and is super cute like that. If you are like her, odds are you are straight. But if you have been having thoughts like that since you were younger, yet you think you like guys, you just might be "Bi". It means you like BOTH boys and girls. I also have a friend who's bi and he used to describe to me the same thing you did with your thoughts about wanting affection from certain people. It's okay to like both genders. There is nothing wrong with being lesbian, bi, gay, or straight. You are still the same person. You may like someone different than your cultures "norm" but in the name of love, BE DIFFERENT! And if you ever date a guy and you don't really feel like it's right, that's okay. And if you end up actually liking those two friends of yours that I will assume are also female, go for it. Tell them how you feel. Don't be afraid of rejection. At least tell them how you feel but only because you are seeking for comfort or help on what they think about your sexuality as well. I really hope this helps! ~glasses
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I was fifth grade when I noticed that she's doing
weird stuff around me.It stopped but until now she's kissing me in the forehead,"accidentally" moving closer to me and I don't know if she still likes me.If she does,What should I do? (link)
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If your friend likes you, don't be afraid of her actions. In my friend group, we have a friend who we thought for a long time she was lesbian because she loved giving hugs and calling us cute names like "sarahbear" or "gabbykinz". We found out that she was straight and that all the hugging and affection is just her personality. We also have a friend in our group who also likes girls but she isn't like our affectionate friend at all. But her girlfriend is. Girls who like other girls don't necessarily like you if they're affectionate. It's just their personality. Don't be afraid of her being clingy to you or kissing you on the forehead. You are her best friend. Best friends are supposed to be abnormally close. My best friend is like that too. She's the affectionate one I talked about earlier. Just let your friend keep up her routine unless it makes you feel uncomfortable. And if it does, talk to her so you guys can set some limits. I promise you this is normal! Hope this helped! ~glasses
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I feel scared to ask my parents for a snapchat facebook Kris even an instagram because of how over protective they are what should I do (link)
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Hi there. Parents, well, they can be very restrictive sometimes. You should go up to your parents and tell them, (if you are 13 or older) that you are a teenager now and you are responsible enough to be safe online. If you are 12 or under, I'm sorry but I can't help you. You can also bring up the fact that everyone has a snapchat, kik, instagram, and so on. You need to tell them who's boss and that you are ready to take on something fun, but you will be mature and responsible about it. I really hoped this helped. If you need any more advice, check out my page and I will answer anything. Good luck!
~glasses
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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything? (link)
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Hi there! Don't call the police yet. You will get in more trouble than him because it's against the law to do that. My friend did this once with her boyfriend. He blackmailed her and for hours she cried about this until I told her to tell him to stop and if he really loves her, he shouldn't threaten her for this. It worked, only because they love each other. You on the other hand, I have no idea. Don't send him anything else. But, the only way to solve this is to get help from the authorities. I won't lie, you will get in trouble. But sadly this is the only way to save yourself. There is no way out of sending nudes to people. I wish you the best of luck. Please ask me ANYTHING else you need on my advice column. Good luck and please keep me updated on this.
~glasses
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I'm a recent college graduate who has been battling with the sense that I didn't do enough when I was in college. I started out pretty well, but as time went on I didn't spend as much time studying as I should have, I didn't go for leadership positions. I became distracted and lazy, and ended with not as good a GPA as I know I could have. Other than saying "Well it's in the past and you can't change it now" (because that will just make me feel worse) how can I get past this? (link)
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Hi there! Getting over things from the past is hard. I still have random flashbacks from times I really screwed up and it haunts me. The only way to help this is to make your failure into something better. You may not have done so well, but you should try to get a job and tell them what happened and ask them to give you a chance to prove your worth. It will work. Yeah the past is the past, but you can fix it by creating a better future. Just don't give up and good luck finding a good job! If you need any more advice, ask me on my page. Good luck!
~glasses
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So last week I was at an extra color guard practice just for fun and my color guard partner was there too She's a senior and I'm a freshman, but we're close friends. So anyway, even though I'm younger than her, I can spin a quad on my flag which is extremely hard to do. My coach saw me doing this with some other fancy work and she asked me if I wanted a solo part of our performance. I obviously said yes and I was super happy. So I went to my partner and she already heard the news. She didn't look excited like I was and I asked her "aren't you happy for me?" And she was honest and told me no. She said she was jealous because she never got a solo and she is better than I am. I got a little offended by this. I told her it wasn't my fault coach asked me. But of course, she yelled at me and told me it was my fault. I then told her how I work as hard as her and how she is never proud of me for anything I do and how she's always better than me and will never say I'm good and that hurts me. We fought more until she yelled at me to shut up and I said no and I tried to finish what I was saying when she hit me. Right in the face. My cheek was bleeding and it was swelling. My partners face was more shocked than mine. She said "(my name) I--" and stopped there. I started tearing up and ran out of the band room. I ran into 2 other team mates and they asked me what was wrong but I ignored them and ran home. My face has a nasty bruise where she hit me and I can't believe she did that to me. I thought she was my friend. What do I do now? I'm so scared of her. (link)
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Hi there! I also do color guard and I just want to say, YOU CAN THROW A QUAD ON YOUR FLAG?! *silently screaming "teach me". Okay that's really cool. This is from a scoop toss right? I can only do a triple. Sorry I'm totally geeking out here. But awe, I am so sorry your partner did this to you. She should know better. My color guard partner who is also a senior doesn't recognize how much I practice or how hard I work on some tosses like that either. The thing is, I'm not as good as some other girls on my team. But you know what? I'm not the worst. Does your partner at least recognize that? I don't blame you that you're scared of her. I would be too if my partner did that. You seriously need to talk to her about this. Be the stronger one and show her how much it hurt you. I don't mean try to hurt her, but I am saying you should literally go up to her and tell her how much it hurt you physically and emotionally. But don't let her get a word in. Walk away and let her come back to you. Then you will know that she is truly sorry and really wants to be your friend again. She obviously was super jealous that she didn't get a solo but you did. But that gave her no right to hit you and make you bleed. I hope she got some blood on her shirt to remind her forever how much she hurt you. Good luck. If you need any more advice, ask me on my advice column.
~glasses
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OK, my life sucks. My mother hates me and is doing drugs, my dad keeps molesting me and I can't feel emotions or make friends. Now how the fuck do I commit suicide. (link)
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Hi there! Uh...yeah. I'm not telling you how to commit suicide. Did you see my last note to that guy who wanted to commit suicide? The one about the door? Well, look. Life sucks now, but there are so many more options than ending your life now. Don't do it please. Just wait and see what door might open for you. I hoped this helped. Just ask me anything else you need on my advice column. I'm here for you.
~glasses
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So I had been a Wiccan for months, and my dad had the bad idea of it. That every Wiccan was a witch. That witches are evil. That the Horned God is associated with Satan because he has horns/antlers. I have never felt comfortable in Christianity, but felt comfortable in Wicca, like I was 100% safe and nothing would ever hurt me. I'll be turning 18 in a few months. Should I just light candles in my room, try to tell the Horned God that I'm sorry and that I'll move in with my friend when I turn 18 and become a Wiccan again? (link)
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Hi there! This is your life. You have the freedom to chose your religion. Even if your dad doesn't like what you want to become, he can't control that. You should go to whatever you feel most comfortable in. Good luck. I believe you will trust yourself and take the right path. If you need any more advice, just ask me on my advice column. Good luck.
~glasses
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will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up (link)
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Hi there. Look, I don't give advice like this, but please don't commit suicide. I know life is bad now, but later it will be better. But, if I can't convince you, you do need to know God will always forgive you for mistakes. He let's things happen to people for a reason. This is why you should stay because God maybe might open a new door for you. You might have to wait a while, but it will happen. Just pray to God for forgiveness. He doesn't hold a grudge. You will go to heaven. You have never killed or moral sinned against God right? If so, you will go to heaven like all the other good people. But please, just live a little longer. This door might be locked now, but it's open for a change. I hope this helped. Ask me anything else on my page if you need any advice.
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Here's a picture of me: http://i.imgur.com/e2uF7w6.jpg
I have a stupid haircut and i don't look good.
I have no idea what hairstyle would look good for me, but could someone tell me what hairstyle would look best with my face? Every time I've asked this, people have just made fun for how I look; I know I'm ugly, but I just want legitimate advice as to what would look good for me. (link)
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Hi there! Awe I'm sorry you don't like how you look. But luckily I have a good answer for you. Here are some links to some cool styles of hair that a lot of girls think are cute, and don't worry. The hair style you have now is not that bad.
here is the link to the hair styles you should try;
http://www.menshairstyletrends.com/10-of-the-latest-hairstyles-for-men-2014/
I really hoped this helped! Ask me anything else if you need advice.
~glasses
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So I have a problem with sweating and it's pretty bad. I get hot easily and I sweat through my clothes and it not only looks disgusting, but I get so embarrassed! I have band camp coming up on Monday through next week Friday and I have to wear a certain color shirt each day. I'm so nervous that my team will see my shirt sweaty and they'll think I'm disgusting. I can't help it! How do I stop sweating?! I need advice before Monday and fast. Please help!!!
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Hi there! Wow this is a hilarious coincidence, but I also have band camp on Monday through next week Friday, but I'm on the color guard team. I can't play an instrument. But anyway, I also had the same problem in summer gym this year. I sweat a lot because I'm nervous about everything. I found out if you wear polyester shirts, you can barely see or not see at all pit sweats and wherever else you sweat. Also, you need to stay really hydrated. Bring a ton of water and if it's really sunny and hot out, wear a ton of sunscreen. Sweat sticks to certain sunscreens and so you don't look like you're sweating. And if you are allowed to, wear a spaghetti strap top but with a 2 inch strap. So pretty much a sleeveless top, but has a strap on it. Those kinds of shirts show no sweat whatsoever. I hope you have an amazing time at band camp! If you need any more advice, ask me on my advice column. I'm here for you! Good luck and have fun!
~glasses
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lm a 21year old female&l haven't had my first period lm worried (link)
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Hi there! Periods are so confusing. Since you're 21 and you still haven't had yours, you shouldn't worry yet. But you really should see a doctor soon because they can tell you if you can have children or not. Some people who don't get periods can still have babies. Maybe you could be one of those types of people. I hope this helped you! Ask me anything else on my account if you need any more advice!
~glasses
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I need some help remembering my plays for football. This is my first year playing and i cant really remember a few of the plays too well. So does anyone have some tips to help me remember my plays? Thanks for reading/helping.
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Hi there! Congrats for making the team! Don't worry. Remembering football plays are easy. My older cousin showed me how to do them when I was 12. Just focus on the group you're in and how you're supposed to attack or defend and compare it to everyone else on your line. It's probably similar, but a little different with directions. You can practice by using muscle memory. Actually run through the plays and repeat them a couple times till you memorize a pattern you must make. I hope this helps! Ask me anything else if you need any more advice!
~glasses
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Hello advicenators, I just need a few advice to share with my brother. He is 29 and has been under a lot of pressure lately. My whole family wants him to find a girl and get married. I personally believe that they shouldn't be forcing him to. Now there are two girls that he has been talking to and my family wants him to choose one of those girls but they want one of the girl most than the other one. Let's just call them girl a and girl b. Girl a is very shy and antisocial and doesn't really talk to our family members that much or try to get to know us better and my parents don't like that about her. My brother is deeply in love with her but my family want him to choose girl b because of how social she is and how she wants to know everyone in the family. My brother doesn't love girl b as much as he loves girl a. Personally I believe he should choose girl a who he's madly in love with despite of how shy and antisocial she is. I just need some advice that I can share with him so he could really think about what's best for him and not our family. After all we are not the ones who will marry the girl, he is and he needs to be happy. (link)
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Hi there! Yikes your poor brother is in a sticky situation. I say he should choose who he loves. Girl a is only anti social because shes afraid to say something wrong or make a bad impression to your parents. She will come around in time. If he loves girl a, let him love her till the end. I can assure you that soon, she will turn around and become social. I really hope this helps! Ask me anything else on my advice column if you need any more advice.
~glasses
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I'm from asia and i will hopefully graduate BS Biology as my pre-medicine course. I want to study medicine, however I want to have my further study in Finland because they have free education and I don't want to be stuck in my country in my whole life. I'm so confused on what to study to become a doctor. It says that I should study licentiate of medicine and or study an undergraduate degree first before licentiate. However i'm not so sure if i am qualify to study licentiate with my BS biology degree only. Pls help me about this because I'm confused. Am I qualify to study licentiate? I'll be 20 when i will hopefully graduate in my degree now. I did various research but still confused. I made early plans because i really want to study their. Thank you very much. (link)
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Hi there! Hate to break it to you, but I'm sadly only in high school. But that doesn't mean I can't help you. I also want to become a doctor when I go to college so I'm just learning new things from you. You should go and try to study and undergraduate degree first like the rules state and then go to Finland and study licentiate of medicine. Early planning is a good thing and will help you for sure when the time comes. But just don't plan too far because if one step doesn't go as planned, your whole idea will fall. Just take it step by step and don't overwhelm yourself. I really hope you follow your ideas and become successful and live the life you want to. Good luck! Ask me anything else on my page if you need anymore advice!
~glasses
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My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).
Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.
I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).
My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.
She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.
My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).
Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).
So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own. (link)
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Hi there! Wow life seems tough for you now. I've been in that situation before. I would actually say the best idea would be to go with your dad and live with him in another state. Don't go out alone till you know you are ready. And your mom needs to take a chill pill or something because she doesn't know how you feel when she is yelling at you. Don't get down when people say you can't. I learned my lesson with that. Everyone in my grade thinks I can't do color guard and I should quit and all I do is prove them right. Well actually, I don't suck at it. And when people tell me I can't, I prove them wrong. But when I say I can't and let people influence me from their words, life will get hard. Don't let your mom say those things to you and believe it. You're yourself and no one can control you. They can only throw suggestions out. I'm praying for you! I hope this works out. Ask me anything else if needed!
~glasses
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So this is my first year doing color guard for marching band and I'm really excited. I love to spin, but sometimes I really don't understand the new work we are learning. All of us incoming freshmen feel the same way. So we are all partnered up with a senior guard partner and they help us. So mine is really, really, really good at spinning and she is so friendly and funny. We practice and meet up more than other color guard partners do on our team. We also always make funny memories during our private practices. Like 4 weeks ago when she told me all these stories about her first year spinning. Or like last week when my mom called me in the middle of our practice to tell me my grandpa died of cancer, and she asked if I was alright and I told her what happened and she hugged me while I was crying and she told me about her grandma who died of cancer only a couple months ago. And my favorite which was 2 days ago, after practice, we walked down to the village which is near our high school and we got ice cream at Ferches. We talked about band camp and color guard on the way there. But on the way back, we talked about personal things. She makes me laugh so much and I love to hang with her. But, are we really friends? I never had a real friend before because everyone just likes to be around me to see me do something stupid because I'm a klutz. I am really smart, but I am not common sense smart. I'm not sure if she truly is my friend and I don't want to ask her because that would be rude. I need help!!! (link)
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Hi there! Why don't you think you and this girl aren't friends? She seems like she obviously cares about you. You said she hugged you when you found out your grandpa died right? And she took you out to ice cream after you guys practiced. She seems really friendly and nice. I have no idea why she wouldn't be your friend. You don't have to ask her, but maybe you should spend more time with her and get to know each other better to see how close you guys really are. But you guys are definitely friends. I hope this helped you. If you need any more advice, ask me on my page.
~glasses
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I'm female-14, my boyfriend asked me to go to the beach with him tomorrow and I said I would go, but then I got my period, an I've never used a tampon. plus I've heard that you shouldn't go in the beach with a tampon, but i don't know. my mom said she would show me how to use one and to just wear shorts, but I'm not so sure... (link)
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Hi there! Wow I remember this kind of scenario happened to me once, just not with a guy, I was going to the beach with my friends. Actually, using a tampon at the beach isn't bad at all. You should try using them because you can't just use a pad all your life. It's a smart idea to learn now rather than later. It may seem weird or uncomfortable at first, but it gets better. And if you need any more advice, go to my page and ask! I really hoped this helped you! Have fun tomorrow!
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Earlier this year one of my guy friends had a bad breakup with his girlfriend and she started dating one of his friends. He turned emo and started cutting himself. He became atheist and more reserved. He had so much hatred to his ex-girlfriend(my friend)and his friend(also my friend)I helped him through it and got him to stop cutting, become Christian, and become more comfortable with people and also to forgive them both and he is now friends with both of them again. He is a completely changed person now. But he seems to have a bit of an obsession with me.He asked me out but I sadly rejected him because I felt nothing for him. I only did the things I did because he was my friend and I hated seeing him that way. He now has a new girlfriend but he acts like he doesn't like her. He says things about her that he think is weird and awkward. He flirts ALOT when we talk over facebook but the thing is I feel extremely guilty. I feel like im making him cheat. Ruining his relationship. Ive told him countless times that I only want us to be friends but he acts like he forgets that. He says im flirting with him when im just joking around with him. He says "I love you" but I try to take it in a friendly way because he says it to all of his lady friends in a brother-siter kind of way. He says things like im his "future wife" but adds "lol" just to seem like he's joking. He constantly reminds me of the things ive done for him when he was at his lowest point. Thanking me millions of times.He calls me beautiful. He gets jealous easily but he tells me things about his girlfriend and other girls to make me jealous. He has done many attempts to get me to fall for him. Extreme attempts that it almost ruined our friendship. Besides the flirting he is a very nice person(obnoxious at times)but very sweet. He has given me many gifts such as food he has cooked (he cooks a lot)and flowers and teddy bears (before he started dating) He told me he was giving me these things for "appreciation for what I have done" and if I didnt accept them, he made me. He is my best friend. He is very protective and defends me if someone is bullying me. He is very caring. He asks how my day was and sometimes good morning messages. He makes it his job to message me everyday and is always the first to start a convo. We will talk for hours on end just about silly things and joke around a lot. He comes to me when he needs someone to talk to and is going trough something and I do the same for him. He says that he will always be there for me if i need anything. He just the bestest friend you could ever ask for. I just feel like im taking advantage of him. Im trying hard to make our friendship work because I don't want to lose him. But he is constantly testing it. He tells me he's not over me even if he has a girlfriend. He treats me like I am his which I have told him to stop but he wont. Nearly everyone in the school knows of his crush on me. He tags me in posts on Facebook that say things like "Tag the most beautiful girl you know" or "tag a girl that you think is adorable" I just don't know what to do anymore! How can I save our friendship?! He was not always like this. Thank you for reading! I know it was long! :(
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Hi there! Awe I'm sorry about that. It wasn't long to read and I am here for you. Something similar happened to my friend. The thing is, he likes you a lot right? Well, you have to tell him how you really feel and how you just want to be friends. And if you are really bothered by all the tags about the most beautiful girl and stuff, tell him to stop that too. Just ask him to stop flirting because you aren't interested in him. You helped him through a hard time but only because he is your friend and not because you had any feelings for him. You need to put down the law to him and if he doesn't respect that, you should talk to a teacher you trust about this. That's what my friend did. Now she and the guy crushing on her are best friends again and he doesn't flirt with her. It may seem dorky or embarrassing, but if you really want to get your friendship back, you'll need help. I really hope this works out for you! I'm here if you need to ask any more questions. Good luck!
~glasses
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I am confused my breasts get swollen,I get headaches all the time,and I loose appetite,my stomach hurts all the time,my chest is painful and I am using Trigestrel pills could it be the side effects?or am I pregnant (link)
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Hi there! Well, with a trigestrel pill, side effects are stomach aces, swelling, muscular cramps, head throbbing, vomiting, nausea, and a few more side effects. These are just some side effects that you reacted to. It's normal, but to make sure, you should take a pregnancy test. You never know. Even if you do take the pill, you can get pregnant. Maybe go to your doctor to get checked out just to make sure you really are okay. I hope this works out for you and ask me anything if you need any more advice. Good luck!
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