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I feel scared to ask my parents for a snapchat facebook Kris even an instagram because of how over protective they are what should I do
I can't be to helpful on this because I already know that I'm not getting a facebook or anything till I move out my Mom's house. Even if I was 23 it would still be no. So that was just to let you know your'e not alone. But as far as you go, it can't hurt to face your fears and ask. The most they can say is no. But here are a few tips. More like common knowledge but whatever.
1. Let them know that your more than okay with them having your password. (and even if your not...just act like it you are.)
2. Suggest that they themselves get a facebook and like you so whenever you post something....it pops up on their phone.
3. Never show attitude. EVEN if they say yes then set some unfair rule to go alone with it. Instead of showing attitude or trying to change their minds about the rule just decide if you still even want the account once all the rules are laid down.
4.Never try to change their minds about rules.
5. Never break rules even if you think they won't know.
Now what is the reason for numbers 3,4,and 5? Because when you asked for something new and you break tips number 3,4,5 it reflects the next time you ask for something. Really does takes away your change of getting what you want now and in the future. ( I know this.) Also when dealing with over protective parents you really have to go lightly. I hope I helped. Good Luck :)
can kissing and fingering causes late periods
Don't think so. It might be just in your head. (not saying you aren't late but now it's a big deal because you have been doing something.)
will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up
According to many people if you commit suicide you go to hell for eternity. The only people who don't believe that is 1. the ones that don't know 2. the ones that have heard and choose not to believe it or 3. the people who have no to very little spiritual insight. So in answer to your first question no you will not go to heaven if you commit suicide. And if that isn't reason enough to stop you then think on this. If you believe there is a God why don't you try to get to really know him? If you truly believe and repent he will make it alright for you. (not saying you won't lose you disability or go to jail or have any other "test" in life but what I am saying is in the end he will make it alright.) And if you do that God will take you home in HIS own time and you will know in your heart 100% that you will be going to heaven. And who knows? If you repent and give your life to him he might just "show himself" to you
and move on that judge's heart so you won't have to go to jail. And I am really sorry about your motorcycle accident but look at it this way.. at least you don't have cancer! :)But talking about cancer I can think of some people with cancer that have more hope for themselves/ for life than you do. I do understand though you might be worried about what is like going to jail and being wheelchair bound and I will be praying for you and your safety and your peace of mind if you do go to jail. I myself have been close to committing suicide but I feel like God won't let me. Really I am not some super spiritual person lying (or stretching the truth about what really happened) .EVERY single time I was about to commit suicide something happened that stopped me. For real. Every fucking time. It actually became annoying. I live in a house with no peace and my future is not (statistically) that good looing but I some how know there will be a brighter day. I do (every now and then) think about suicide when things get "unbearable" but I don't even try now. Why? Something would only happen to keep me from going through with it. We all have a place on this earth. We just have to find it. And WHEN the time comes we will all die. That's the way it goes. I wish you the best! :)
What qualifies someone to give advice on this site?
You need to care about people you don't know enough to put yourself in their shoes sometimes. You also need to be able to give honesty (even when it's not nice). You can't deprese easy. (so you are not weighed down by other people's problems). You also need an email address. That's it! :)
P.S. I forgot to say that you need some real life experience. Happy helping.
Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed)
Yes and No. In some people's eyes when you have any type of sex you are no longer a virgin. In medical terms yes you are still a virgin.
I am a girl,age 23. my father has died in 2009, my mom is alive but she never take care of me. i live with my elder sister,she has 3 kids. she always quarreled with me. if i don't do any household work, she got angry with me. i have boyfriend,who never let me cry,he love me so much.i didn't meet with him for last 3month because my sister never allowed me to meet with him. i stay my room whole day lonely.nobody of my family call me or ask me anything. my study is also hampering day by day. for my condition my boy friend also feeling very bad for me and his study also destroying day by day.i cant tolerate this anymore.it is seem to me that my death is the nice solution for all.my family will get rid of me and my boyfriend will get a better life.i have no way to live.what should i do beyond this?
Okay darling,
First if you truly deep down inside wanted to commit suicide you would have done it already and not even bothered with writing this. The fact that you wrote this tells me that deep down inside you have a willingness to live. Remember that. You want to live.
If you might have the best life outside of the house but if you have a miserable household you are going to be just as miserable. It's not worth it living with your sister. Whatever she is offering you isn't worth it because in exchange you have to give up your peace and joy. You have a right to both in life. Not saying every day is going to be happy once you move out but if someone is talking more happiness away from you then they are giving back to you it's not worth it.
No one is every going to give you complete happiness. Because in human relationships (both friendships and more then friends-ships) there are going to be up's and down's. But there should always be more smiles then frowns.
Getting back to your sister maybe you can already guess that I am strongly suggesting to move out. As soon as possible. Even if that means having to take a job that you might not have really considered other wise. Or sometimes people have to work two jobs. Whatever it takes.
You should always look towards the future because focusing on right now can get you down.Look to what can be with your life. I am sure their is lot's it can be.
Now I don't mean to sound spiritual but I myself have been depressed before and still struggling with it some days. And looking to God has always helpes. I would suggest you reading this:http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Deuteronomy+31:6 . If you can click on the link for some reason it's Deuteronomy 31:6. And all you have to do is google "uplifting Bible verses and come up with even more.
And even if you are not going to read your Bible I would still suggest listing to up lifting music. Britt Nicole's When she cries and All this time are my favorites. (Along with a song called Gold and Believe which you may or may not have heard of.)
You didn't say anything about you education other then mentioning your studies.If you are on your way to a college degree DON'T drop out when you start working.(of course I am still assuming you don't have one already.) Even if you have to fit in more than one job don't drop out of school. You might never go back.
If you don't have any form or aren't looking into getting a form of education higher than high school it might also be time to look into that. Work days and school nights. Even if you don't know for sure what you want to do that can't stop you from getting a associate degree. Which you would have to get anyway (so it's not like you are wasting your time.) They have guidance counselors at colleges plus your boyfriend can help you make up you mind on what you want to do. (remember the final chose is yours. Don't let someone else make it for you because it's you that has to work in this flied till you retire.)
I hope I truly helped. Please ask me anything if you need it. June P.S. Please give me update.
i have been confused about what i should be, i am a female that is more comfortable dressing in male clothes, i act more masculine then i do feminine however i do have certain female traits that keeping coming out (maternal - from when i was a step mum). i have been reading up and considering going through with a sex change operation. the only thing that is holding me back is i want kids and want to be able to conceive naturally.
Be a female. It comes more naturally. And it sounds like deep down inside that is what you want to be.
Is it possible to get a rental car with 100$ in NYC?
I am not sure where but for a 100$ you should be able to get lemon. Hopefully you don\'t plain on going to far in it. I don\'t live in NY so I really wouldn\'t know anything but everything there cost a lot more. That why I said a lemon
Today I was taking my dog out for a walk and this other dog came out of no where from behind us. My dog turned around and lunged at her and did this teeth snapping thing twice. Eventually the owner came and got their dog while I was pulling to get my dog away from the other dog. I had to pick my dog up and walk away (She's big and heavy.) I just want to know what it means. She snapped twice at the air, and the poor dog that came from behind looked like she was really excited to see my dog.
I am sorry to be of no help. But I don\'t have a dog nor have I ever in my life pet-sited. I would try google. (hey it answers everything else)
Hope it is nothing serious! :)
So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL!
I love babies!! (when they are other people\'s)
Any how Yes there are places. Huggies,Pampers and more. I am not the on to ask. Just Google and all this great stuff will come up! Good luck on your new baby. :)
Im 16/f and I do not get the whole fascination with dressing up, lots of makeup, dying hair etc. Like all the girls at my school are starting to wear these pretty dresses and doing their hair and they all look so beautiful..but its like i dont give a shit about any of that. Ive always been decent looking without doing a whole lot so i never really got into fashion or lots of makeup..I would like to tbh. Today i tried doing a smokey eye, and it kinda looked like shit lol. And i also tried looking up skirts and dresses that i could buy and they were all ugly and expensive. And all that stuff seems like a lot of work to keep up looking really nice everyday. I just dont get it, why is it so important? To feel good about yourself, sure but why else? I like looking nice but at the end of the day it doesnt really matter.. i dont wanna spend so much time on something that wont really get me anywhere and idk i just dont get it.
I don't get it either. That is basically because I am very busy trying to keep up my grades so between that and stuff I have to do at home I don't have time. But any way a lot of girls have self esteem problems. By putting on all that make-up and stuff they can feel better about them self's. Or they want to out do an other girl at the school. Or most likely not only is it the self esteem thing it is what every girl their age is doing. Sometime you just follow the crowd without really knowing why. Maybe some don't want to be called "weird" by the popular girls because you are not doing what they are doing. I think you have a good self esteem about your self :)! P.S. I know that some people think if you aren't acting like a girly girl with make-up and all of that they think you are a lesbian. That's fine if you are but if you not you might do it just for people to know you are straight. June
I have a FAFSA loan thing that I have to do for school. Do you know how long I have until the deadline for it to be turned in?
it depends click here to find out what is in your state. https://fafsa.ed.gov/deadlines.htm
good luck
So my bf & I met when we were both 18 & got together a couple months later. I had cheated on my previous bf with him, but I felt so bad about that I told the very next day (we just kissed,& it turns out to be my current bf's first kiss), & when I told him he asked why. After my first boyfriend & I broke up after 3 months on & off. Less than a month after we'd been broken up, I started dating the guy I cheated with-who turns out to be my steady bf since late 2010. I took his virginity in January 2011, & all was well for a while. Then he started lying over stupid things (where he was, that he had to go home, who he was with-said he was with his friend Kyle, but he was with a girl he "used" to like,& talk shit on me)..or "forgetting" to tell me things, & making the same promises over and over. It doesn't help that he never seems sincere & using uses a sarcastic or mocking tone, & usually extremely critical of me. I do love him so much,& he's my first,& we have had a lot of good times, but I don't know what to do anymore. Help please??
Oh God. This one is hard. I don't want to tell you guys to brake up to soon. I think you guys might need some serious talks with each other and after you guys talk I would get some space. For the sake of both of you get some space.(like if you were living together I'd suggest moving out for a little while or even if you are not living together, it sound like both parties need some space.) After saying everything that needs to be said (like you telling him he is sarcastic/critical. Also mention with him lying about stupid stuff how should you trust him with big stuff?)Make him think about everything that has gone down.
He might be feeling some kind of way towards you and instead of just telling you how he is feeling he is "acting out" for the lack of the right word. Some people instead of telling you they got a problem with you(or a bone to pick) they just start acting really nasty. Don't ask me why. After 3 years of being together you should mean something to him. Meaning after you guys have talked and had some time apart from each other he might be ready to work at what ever is wrong in your relationship . Or maybe after having some time apart you guys might agree it is time to walk(away from each other.) I don't know. I wish you the best. I hope it works out. June
how can i convince my vergin gf to sex with me
Sorry it took so long. I have been busy and not on my account.
Since you used the word convince I going to think you already asked her and she said no. If this is the case then what you need to do is wait. KEEP READING! (just in-case you thought about not finishing reading what I had to say)
First losing virginity is much more of a big deal to girls then boys. It really tough trying to decide to give it up or wait. Some times you giving her some room(meaning not pushing her in ANY way) will help her make up her mind sooner. And who knows she might just give it up! If you push her she might 1. dump you 2. give up but have deep deep regrets(and if you truly care about her more then your self like you should you don't want her to regret anything.) 3. she might feel like you forced your self on her and claim rape.
4. once you have sex girls tend to take this as a sign of commitment. Get ready to hear a whole bunch of things from her you never have.
Yeah. A whole bunch of things to think about. I don't want to make anything seem scary and just these are things you MUST think about. I hope I helped. ask me something else if you need too. P.S.
You have never asked her,ask her. Plain and simple. Don't drop hints just come right out and say it.
How do you babysit a 1 year old girl? She is my sister, and she loves me ( :) ) but I have a problem with making her listen to me. How can I make her listen to 'no'?
I have a baby sister too. if you think that she can't understand "NO' your wrong. at one she does understand. I don't agree with distraction. Why? When she get's older this might not work and some times she will want what she wants so bad whatever you come up to distract her with won't work.
Here's what I think you should try(even it might seem mean)
1. Ask your Parent's what they do when she does not listen to NO
2. Say no in a firm, loud(but not yelling) voice.
let your voice say "I'm in charge here and no mean's NO"!
3. Let her cry till she figures out she not going to get what she wants( I would try 2 first before doing this. It can lead to hurt feelings. You don't want her to think your mean)
4.Don't take something from her without saying May I please have this?(she might still cry when you take it)
5. if it near her own bed time tell her everything she want has gone "night night".
P.S.
Number 2 will only work for some time till she start thinking: what will she do if...and humm let me try it any way.
Ask your parent's if (example) she does something REALLY dangers like try and turn on the stove when her hand it near were the flame would come out if you could pop her hand(NOT HARD.)that way the next time you tun your back on her she will think No, I want to turn on the stove my self but it is not worth a pop on my hand.
Note,
If they say yes never pop her any were but her hand. NEVER EVER. that's mean. and try popping youself self first so you know how NOT to do it. We hit harder then we think. I have learned that in the past.
Hope I helped
(and yes I have done all of this before and my little sister still loves me very much. I'm one of the first things she thinks about when she wakes up in the morning.)
please help i bought a new house and i need ideas for a bit of decorations somthing like girly girl kinda thing kkk
Hi,
well I know you said nothing about only having a little money to spend but here are some cheap ideas any way.
Think Dollar Tree:
Now you can't get everything from dollar tree(it not going to last) but there are lots of things you are going to need for you home and you can get from dollar tree.
Like:plates bowls cups.(I would not get forks or spoons or anything like that at dollar tree)Dish towels paper products(like paper pencils notepads.)
You can also get stuff like frames(like for photos) fake flowers....ect
The sky is the limit.
Also before you just start buying pots and pans and other kitchen wear you should do your research. Goggle things. Look up revives. Might seem stupid but even the top name brands can rust quickly.Or break.
Also think thrift shops.
Go to one or two and look around.
Also see if you have a Restore near you.
For more ideas go to: http://www.styleathome.com
Hope I helped.
P.S.
you can not click on that web site. You have to write in in you search.
I babysit until midnight for this woman, so she can't drive me home. Her kids are in bed and they have school the next morning, so shed have to wake them up. So, she has one of her coworkers drive me home. He's really nice.. But, he's gay. I feel really uncomfortable about it. I sensed it the first time he drove me home, he said a house was pretty. And then I told him I liked country music and he said, So reba? I think she's country i know she has a tv show... And well I haven't ever heard a straight guy say anything like that! So I decided to facebook him and well it turns out he is in fact gay and in a relationship for 20 years with a man.... What should I do? I just feel so weird about this! The bible says homosexuality is a sin and I'm associating with someone who is choosing to live in sin with a man!
My Mom is a Christan and has been talking to me for years about things like Homosexuality. I my self will NEVER EVER be one I dis-agree with her chose not to hang with them. Hanging with some one who's gay does not mean your gay. My Mom also says love the sinner but hate the sin. Getting a ride home with guy even if he is sinning does not mean your sinning. Chill out. I'm not saying getting a ride from some who you know is wanted by the cops just because you are not wanted by the cops. But he is not breaking any of mans law. He is however breaking God's. But that not your place to deal with.If you read in between the lines of what I'm saying to you I'm telling you just this once to turn a blind eye.Not because it not right it just not your place to deal with him. That God's stuff to deal with.It's not like Gods moving on you to try and help this guy. So I would let it be.Also you may not like Homosexuality but DON'T discriminate. I don't agree with a chose to be gay(Yes is is a chose people were NOT born the way.Don't let people fool you)but that fact that I don't agree WILL NOT stop me from being friends with them and treating people how people should be treated. I not going to look sick when they tell me their crush or the have me meet the person they are dating. It makes me so mad when people start discriminating against some one because they are gay or bi. Who gives then the right? Their people just like us.
That all I really have to say about it.
My confidence and my game has been off lately and I don't know why exactly. Just haven't been as comfortable talking to much girls lately and I really don't know why because usually I am able to create an engaging conversation with any random girl out of thin air. I was extremely confident in myself and in my game. I really don't know what's been going on lately. Any advice?
Okay I'm going to try and help you but you need to understand first that I'm a 15yr old girl and have just gotten my "game" on and really know nothing about losing it. But if you have just came out of a relationship it might take some time to "get back in the game". Or this could be a way of the deeps down in you heart saying you miss her. Or if you just have not been talking to girls lately it again might take some time.I know you said random but is it and group of girls?I don't know very much.(you made this very short.)I hope I helped. But I doubt it. June
If a guy asks his friends to see if I like him, and his friend tells me that the guy has feelings for me but does'nt want to be in a relationship.. What does this mean? I like realy like him. :/
Probably means he like you enough to get into bed with you but does not want to commit to you. I wouldn't even bother with him
OK i'm a 13 year old girl who lives in Georgia and i just broke up with my boyfriend who is 16 and lives in Illinois.
He was willing to cheat on me with my best friend. My best friend and I, were asking him questions to see if he wanted to be with me or my best friend. He wants to be with both of us, but my best friend doesn't really like him anymore, but its just the fact that he would be willing to cheat on me with her, which makes me so angry.
I was already really pissed at my best friend's little brother the other day. So my boyfriend was basically adding fuel to the fire, which was making me really mad and i didn't second guess myself. I cussed him out and I was so pissed I didn't have time to calm myself and think straight. I cried my eyes out last night when i broke up with him, and now I AM second guessing myself... I want to get back with him, but i'm so worried he will cheat on me... I've already sent an apology text, and he hasn't answered yet... I'm going to try to get back with him, so my question is:
How can i make sure he won't cheat on me, and how can I make sure we can be together for as long as possible?
Because i really do love him... please help! :'(
You are dating a boy THREE years older then you who does not even live in the same city as you??!!!
Okay I over that now let's get back down to it. Does he know that you are so much younger then he is? If so he might try to take advantage of you. It normal to see red and not think very clearly if you are that mad(and you have the right to be.) I think it best to stay broken up. He's willing to cheat on you!! It not like he cheated and now is sorry and wants to get back together. Then is that was the case I would say proceed with caution. But he still willing to cheat on you. With you best friend no less!He need to mature and see he can't have too girl at the same time He is a teenaged playa or (how ever you say it.) I hope you can see that see my point. Just like a woman can come between two best male friend and make them best enemies the same goes for two girls. I sure you don't want a boy (who a little more then obviously no good) too come between you and your bff.All I trying to say is that I see red flags all over this thing.I would stay broken up.
Might not be what you wanted to hear but hope I helped anyways.June