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I want commit suicide
I am a girl,age 23. my father has died in 2009, my mom is alive but she never take care of me. i live with my elder sister,she has 3 kids. she always quarreled with me. if i don't do any household work, she got angry with me. i have boyfriend,who never let me cry,he love me so much.i didn't meet with him for last 3month because my sister never allowed me to meet with him. i stay my room whole day lonely.nobody of my family call me or ask me anything. my study is also hampering day by day. for my condition my boy friend also feeling very bad for me and his study also destroying day by day.i cant tolerate this anymore.it is seem to me that my death is the nice solution for all.my family will get rid of me and my boyfriend will get a better life.i have no way to live.what should i do beyond this?
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Nobody can make you happy, except you. You need to create your own happiness. Go out there and life your life and do what you want to do. Stop living with your elder sister. Can you financially support yourself? If you answer yes, move out. Seriously, you need to stop living under restricting circumstances. You don't deserve to end your life because life is a beautiful gift, and you should use your life with potential. You are 23, an adult; you need to learn to find your own independence because your mom can't take care of you forever. But please, do not kill yourself. It's not worth it. It may end your pain, but it will create pain for your loved ones. It may be hard to believe, but just trust me on this. Get a job if you don't already have one, move out and find a nice home for yourself, do what you like to do to keep yourself happy, live life!
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You should go to talk to someone if you are feeling like this. Maybe a school/college councillor? There are always ways to improve a situation. You should talk to your sister, talk to your boyfriend tell them why you are unhappy. I really recommend talking to a school/college councilor they will be able to help you, and help you come up with solutions to your problems. Right now everything seems horrible but most of the time if you push through and have goals etc, then things get better. Work at your studies so you can get a good job and support yourself eventually. Then you won't worry about your sister. Really there are ways to solve this without contemplating suicide. You just need to talk to people and figure out ways to improve your situation. Even if it's just little ways to start off, like working at a library as opposed to your house, so you spend less time at home. Things like that.I really think the first step is to go talk to councillor.
Goodluck. Feel better.
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Your sister is letting you live with her when she has three children. Do some housework! She doesn't want four children that's why she had three, stop making life more difficult for her. It was her dad as well.
If your twenty three, why is your sister stopping you meet your boyfriend? Maybe you are from a different culture to mine, but it is your life.
Stop staying inside, go and get a job, move out and have your own life. Stop living off other people.
I understand that it must have been awful to loose your dad at such a young age. But if it is stopping you live any kind of life, get some therapy, so you have someone to talk to.
The fact that your dad has died doesn't seem to have any relevance to the other problems. Unless you are depressed, in which case go and see a doctor. Furthermore, your dad probably didn't chose to die. You know how much it affected your family, it's going to hurt a lot more leaving them by choice.
Hope this helps :)
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Death is never the solution, suicide is making sure the problem is never dealt with, not solving it.
The problem is that your lonely and tired of the way your sister treats you
The answer is get a job which will allow you to get your own apartment, you are 23 years old and your sister isnt required to take responsibly for you
By study I take it you are in college; your question makes me think you still haven't made your mind up about what career you want to get out of it. Decide what you want to do now, if it's what you really want then it should be worth putting up with your sister unless you are able to live on your own and attend college as well.
I wouldn't recommend looking to anyone else to fix your problem (including your boyfriend) as well. In a serious relationship you tackle problems on your own before asking the other to help with it, this prevents one from being dependent on the other.
I think your going through a rough time; with the loss of your father, the stress of family, and the stress of college. I'm not surprised that your considering suicide as a way out, but you shouldn't do it. Find healthy ways of relieving stress, make some goals for your future and work everyday towards them. Gl
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I'm also 23 and I feel very alone... What you need to do is maybe find a part time job while you go to school so you could save up and move out. It's tough nowadays for college students like us to find jobs... But things will get better. Work and save up as much as you can. Try to make amends with your sister because I'm sure she loves you and you love her. Also, try to keep yourself and your mind busy. Go take walks, listen to music, hangout with friends. Do what ever it is possible to keep you far away from suicide. Killing yourself is NOT the way. Your life is as precious as any other!
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Okay darling,
First if you truly deep down inside wanted to commit suicide you would have done it already and not even bothered with writing this. The fact that you wrote this tells me that deep down inside you have a willingness to live. Remember that. You want to live.
If you might have the best life outside of the house but if you have a miserable household you are going to be just as miserable. It's not worth it living with your sister. Whatever she is offering you isn't worth it because in exchange you have to give up your peace and joy. You have a right to both in life. Not saying every day is going to be happy once you move out but if someone is talking more happiness away from you then they are giving back to you it's not worth it.
No one is every going to give you complete happiness. Because in human relationships (both friendships and more then friends-ships) there are going to be up's and down's. But there should always be more smiles then frowns.
Getting back to your sister maybe you can already guess that I am strongly suggesting to move out. As soon as possible. Even if that means having to take a job that you might not have really considered other wise. Or sometimes people have to work two jobs. Whatever it takes.
You should always look towards the future because focusing on right now can get you down.Look to what can be with your life. I am sure their is lot's it can be.
Now I don't mean to sound spiritual but I myself have been depressed before and still struggling with it some days. And looking to God has always helpes. I would suggest you reading this:[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) . If you can click on the link for some reason it's Deuteronomy 31:6. And all you have to do is google "uplifting Bible verses and come up with even more.
And even if you are not going to read your Bible I would still suggest listing to up lifting music. Britt Nicole's When she cries and All this time are my favorites. (Along with a song called Gold and Believe which you may or may not have heard of.)
You didn't say anything about you education other then mentioning your studies.If you are on your way to a college degree DON'T drop out when you start working.(of course I am still assuming you don't have one already.) Even if you have to fit in more than one job don't drop out of school. You might never go back.
If you don't have any form or aren't looking into getting a form of education higher than high school it might also be time to look into that. Work days and school nights. Even if you don't know for sure what you want to do that can't stop you from getting a associate degree. Which you would have to get anyway (so it's not like you are wasting your time.) They have guidance counselors at colleges plus your boyfriend can help you make up you mind on what you want to do. (remember the final chose is yours. Don't let someone else make it for you because it's you that has to work in this flied till you retire.)
I hope I truly helped. Please ask me anything if you need it. June P.S. Please give me update.
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See, I can understand that your situation is very bad. Suicide would seem to you as the only valid option and that's natural, but impractical. I'll tell you why.
Everyone, be it an American, an Indian, an African or any other has some problem with his or her life. Sometimes, it becomes too much to handle, like your quarrelsome sister, your haughty mother, the death of your father (extremely sorry for that) and things like that. I agree. But, sometimes life also gives us moments and reasons to be happy and enjoy life, like the moments when you are with your boyfriend, the moments when he has made you laugh, the moment when you have taken in the great smell of a beautiful flower, the moment when you have seen a baby smile, the moment when a girl becomes a mother, the moment when your boyfriend kissed you for the first time... Life is full of them...
The glass is never full for anyone, neither for Steve Jobs nor for you. But, it will always be filled, only the extent varies.
So, first of all drop the idea of suicide. Your boyfriend will be in a trauma, God forbid, but if something bad happens to him what could be done. You won't be there anymore with him, neither will he be able to give you his love.
Your family is very bad, I agree, but you are not living for them anymore, because they don't care for you. You are living for your boyfriend-to-be-husband, you are living for your married life, you are living for yourself and the family that you will create, you are living for your dreams, your ambitions.
So, just let go off this idea of suicide and just laugh on your situation and work hard to make your life worthwhile. ACT SMART sweetheart!
Things will turn fine. :)
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If you are in immediate danger, call a suicide hotline, check out IM Alive, or go to a hospital. Suicide hotlines and hospitals can both help, and IM Alive is an online text chat alternative to a telephone hotline. Your life is worth living, and you deserve the chance to see that. If you are not in immediate danger, talk to your doctor about it and see if they can recommend a therapist to help you work through your problems. Hope this helps.
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Your boyfriend would not have a better life without you. You are an adult, why can you not just move out of the family home? You deserve to be treated well.
Suicide is never an answer. You are special. The world needs you :)
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I'm not even kidding right now. Just smile at everyone. Be extremely nice to everyone, spread love. When someone is angry with you, just smile and say ok. If someone even goes as far as to hit you, smile and then see if you can even hug them and say "it's okay." People will stop trying to make you feel bad. And be thankful for your boyfriend. He loves you, so find a way to be with him, and spend some time with him
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Suicide is never the answer you have a life ahead of you and some day you will have a family of your own and a houseflat think positivly about your future ahead and try and get some money together so that you can move out also if there are serious problems you may want to move into a tempary hostel to have a break good luck with the future and remember suicide is never the answer
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hey, killing your self wont solve anything hun, it sounds like your mum and sister have took your dads death badly, can i suggest you find a friend or another relative you can stay with? get some space from the situation you are in. when this was happening to me with my little brother i suggested that every year on the same date or either his birthday or date he passed away, we have a day dedicated to him, we talk bout it and how it makes us feel and we let of balloons at a certain time of day with a message attached this has helped my family deal with this. I just hope this has helped somewhat for you
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No, death is never the answer. I can understand that you're in a lot of pain, but believe me, committing suicide is NOT the answer.
The first thing I want you to do is IMMEDIATELY call a suicide hotline in your area. Please verify where you live. If you live in the US, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at
(800) 273-8255 -- Follow the link below to find a crisis center in your area.
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You are still young. I can see that your sister is not doing enough to support you emotionally- she might have issues of her own, and they have nothing to do with you. You need someone to talk to, someone who will listen to you. Call the number above, or check out the website to find a location. You can go in free and anonymously-- your family will NOT know, it is your own private issue.
I know that things are really difficult for you now, but they don't have to be forever. The first thing for you to do is TALK TO SOMEONE at the Suicide Prevention hotline or crisis center---there are professionals there who are in a position to handle these kinds of issues. The second thing is, talk to them consistently, and go do things you enjoy. Get out of your house as much as you can, try to take extra classes or take part in activities/volunteer work that will give you a sense of purpose and allow you to meet new people. You don't need to allow your sister's problems to affect you to this extent. Staying at home all the time will only drive you deeper into a depression.
Just please, PLEASE don't give up hope! Know that your life is valuable, and you are a valuable person.... people go through terrible things and come out stronger, once they have overcome the issues. Reach out to me if you need to.
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DO NOT COMMIT! i repeat: DO NOT. you're beautiful! more people will miss you than you think.
I am sorry it's like this for you. You should find alternatives to staying inside all day, arrange visiting your boyfriend at his house since he isn't allowed at home?
Saying inside your room all day may be a sign of depression, you should talk to someone if you can. Your mom, your fathers spirit, your sister, your boyfriend, your best friend...anyone who will listen!
I highly suggest you seek professional help as well. You may feel they won't help, but a professional can perform reliable cognitive treatments to reverse any potential diagnosis, such as the desire to end your life.
Please please please be okay.
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First suicide is never an answer it is the wrong solution to a problem.
From your writing I would say English is not your first language and that you are possible of Indian descent living in India or possible another English speaking country. No matter where you live even in India at age 23 you are considered an adult. No one can force you to do anything you don't want to do such as not meet with a boyfriend.
If you still live in India it is possible you live in a more rural area of India where custom more than law is followed. If this is true the simple answer would be to move to a more progressive part of the country such as New Delhi or Bombay where it is more westernized.
If you do not live in India but in one of the Western English speaking countries the laws are on your side. By not allowing you to go and do as you please your sister is actually guilty of kidnapping unless there are medical reason for her to have guardianship over you. Once again if there is no legal reason for you to stay with her you can leave and live on your own. TO do so requires you find a job so that you can support yourself if you do not have savings to draw upon.
There are solutions to every problem. Killing yourself is not a solution. I'm guessing and reading into a lot of what you wrote. If you will write back with more information as to where you live (country) and why you feel you must live with your sister. I'm sure that not only will I be able to offer better solutions for you but so will others.
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omg please don't think like this at all :) I know you having a tough time, but killing yourself isn't the right answer :) I want you to know that even though I don't know you, I will be praying for you! Your boyfriend is an incredible person and even though it's tough stuff for him to go through, he would not want to see you dead. If you want him to have a better life, then stay with him. He would have a terrible life of depression if you left the earth. :)
my email is irish817@verizon.net if you need someone to talk to :)
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First of all , your old enough to take care of yourself , nobody should tell you what to do and what not to do.Confront your mother of her lack of care and concern for you.You should be with your boyfriend more often , and don't let anyone interfere ! , this is your life.You know what i think you should do , move from your current house , which has your elder sister who quarrels you , as you describe, and be with your boyfriend , your life will get a lot better since you guys love each other , your study will be back to normal.One more thing , don't suicide ! , its the worst thing ever, everyone in his/her life has ups and downs , bright and dark days.If you do that then its just phenomenal proof that your weak and you proved to everyone that you are.
my email if you need anything - TeenSpirit197@yahoo.com
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You should be able to do and go wherever you want your 23. When your 18 your allowed to leave your house and your family. It's the law they can't say no. So to be honest I think you should confront your sister and if she is not cooperating then move on with your life
Sincerely nobody :)
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suicide is not an option because has long has you are alive you have chance to be what ever you want to be. any time you are sad think about your boyfriend, think about how is going to make you happy. then you need to find a solution out off this there is always a solution just know that this is to make you stronger because you are a unique being and soon you will get the true happiness you deserve
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This is a horrible decision. Suicide is never the answer because the people who care about you will never fully heal. They will always wonder what they could have done to make you feel better and have great sadness. I understand things get sad sometimes but keeping a positive attitude will always make for a better life.
I am so sorry you are feeling so bad. But your boyfriend seems to be your beacon of hope. Let him make you feel good and appreciate things. Maybe to keep the peace do some kind of chore every day to help. And then see about getting a part time job. Then you can save up and move out of your sisters :) maybe even your boyfriend can save up too and y'all can move in together.
I just hope you find all the happiness in the world. I understand emotional pain is one of the worst things to deal with. But I think you can come through this and have a truly happy life!! Best wishes!
Please don't do anything to yourself, you can be happy again. I promise!
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First, at your age you need to take charge of your life. I'd like more information, such as why you can't get a doctor. Without that, the best I can say is to look for a mental health services center in your area. I would look it up for you, but Texas is huge and I don't know where you are. Feel free to contact me with more information and I might be able to offer more help.
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