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While I am still young, I have had a great deal of life experience. It is from this that I give advice. I am open minded and try not to be judgemental. If I can help in any way, I will. Just ask. However, like everyone else in this world, I am not perfect. My advice may not always suit you, since my experiences are not the same as yours. If you want clarification on any answers I give, feel free to ask me. If you don't like what I said, or if I offended you, let me know. This is the best way for me to improve on my responses.

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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me

Ok, there are a lot of things that come to my mind.
First, no, you shouldn't have lied. But why did you lie? You didn't force the car handle off, did you? Were you afraid of how he would respond to something that was not deliberate? If so, you are better off out of the relationship.
Second, you are right that if you love somebody you shouldn't have to lie. But you should also have forgiveness. This is such a small thing to not forgive, especially when you came clean and asked for forgiveness. He left you over something small, rather than giving a chance for forgiveness. You are better off out of the relationship.
Third, you have asked this question many times over the past week. One of those times you got about 20 responses. You rated only a few of them. The ones you rated highly were the ones where they told you to try for a second chance. So, if that is what you want to hear, it is what you want. Ask him for a second chance. Just know that I think it is a mistake and you are better off out of the relationship.

I raped someone I want to turn myself in immediately. Tell me what I need to do. I need to be punished. I will not say how it happen and why. I can't make up any excuses. I was drunk but it doesn't change anything. The person who was hurt doesn't want to do anything and prefers to just forget and move on, but I can't . I need to be punished and I want to turn myself in. The person wouldn't have to worry about trial or publicity. I just need to know what I have to prepare for.

Ok. I am going to assume you aren't trolling. If you are, this is not funny. I don't know what happens when you turn yourself in. To do it, though, you go to a police station and tell them what happened. They will ask for details. To prove it, though, they will need either the victim or witnesses to confirm it. They will prefer both. As far as punishment, you might get some jail time. You very well may not, which is a hard pill for someone like me to swallow.
I have been raped. I did nothing about it because I was out of the country. I have friends and a niece who have been raped. One friend pressed charges. There was no arrest, no trial, nothing. My niece was talked out of pressing charges by the police. Later, other girls came forward. The guy was a serial rapist. He went to trial. He got something like 12 years in prison. He raped at least a dozen girls, but only 3 had been recent enough to prosecute. Enough testified, though, to make a solid case against him. I'm telling you this to give you an idea of what to expect. Without a victim testimony, nothing is going to happen. Even with a victim testimony, little is likely to happen. With a victim and witnesses, you may face some jail time, but not much.

My dog is obsessed with my room and barely leaves. obsessed is an understatement! anyways, tonight as i got into bed she got onto my bed as well like the usual. she began walking towards the center of my bed and started sniffing so much. she then kept jumping backwards and remained on my pillows as i could tell she was super scared.. as i tried to push her back to that spot she used every muscle she has to fight me and remain away from the blanket. she still couldn't stop sniffing even while on my pillows. she wouldn't even relax when i held her. she's a tiny little yorkshire terrier and always cuddles me like a baby. she would not lay down. she kept sitting up with her ears up and alert. she ran off my bed crying as well. i miss being able to cuddle my baby. i want to know whats wrong with my bed or room. i am very catholic and believe in demons and such and I'm terrified that it could be one harassing my dog or in my room. how do i get rid of it? if i sleep with a bible next to me should that keep it away?? also, i have a cleaning lady and idk if she washed my bedding in anything unusual.. i don't have mites or bed bugs. someone please help.

There could be any number of things. It could be as simple as a draft she hasn't felt before.
However, let's suppose it is a demon. I am fascinated by demons, faeries, etc. and how they work. I have been for a long time. As the other response said, prayer is a good start. You are devout, so that gives prayer and having a bible nearby more power. It is not the words nor the object that have power, but your faith. Next, one thing that seems to keep supernatural powers of almost all sorts away, but especially demons, is salt. Create an unbroken line of salt around your room. It creates a barrier. This is related to the superstition of throwing salt over your shoulder. There was a time when salt was much more valuable, so if salt was spilled it was said to attract demons. So, the spilled salt had to be thrown over the left (or sinister) shoulder to appease them. I can't think of other things off the top of my head. But faith and salt should do the trick. I actually also agree with the other response about moving your bed. I know that many will move their furniture often to confuse demons or evil spirits, who get stuck in a set path. This is also how the salt helps - it blocks the path.

Last night, I had a dream that I was walking at school, and some random guy kissed me. I can't exactly remember what he looked like or what his name was, but I didn't recognize him at all. What could this mean? Ever since I had that dream, I've been dying to know who it is. The dream felt so real, and he was a really sweet guy.

I have vivid dreams that often seem real. I have found they often fit with the interpretations at dream moods dot com. Here is what it says about this one: If you dream that you are kissing a stranger, then it represents acknowledgement and acceptance of the repressed aspect of yourself. If you are kissed by a stranger, then your dream is one of self-discovery. You need to get more acquainted with some aspect of yourself.

I don't know whether I'm being silly or over-reacting but I just need to hear what other people think. Been with my boyfriend for over a year, things have been good. He's everything you'd want in a man- intelligent, focused, funny, and he a always does his best in every situation. We have loads in common, we truly get on like a house on fire.

There's been a few things which I felt the need to bring up over the year- mostly about not spending enough time together and also he wouldn't be overly emotive which I sometimes found hurtful. We've worked through these, mostly the spending time together, and everything was great. He's a reserved guy so I wasn't expecting him to be all lovey dovey all the time but it's very rare he is. Also in the bedroom, sex itself is good....but again he's reserved, and a bit selfish....he's never made me orgasm even though I've brought it up. It's like he doesn't want to change, and rarely wants to change up the moves in the bedroom- sorry if this is all TMI! I don't know if he realises how big of a deal this is for me because he usually does take things I say on board but I feel I shouldn't have to say this. He's not very experienced in this department so it could be that either.

He admits he doesn't love me yet, but has strong feelings for me....at this stage I would imagine he should feel stronger but am I just rushing him? I really really like him, he's the first person I've ever been with that I've had no doubts about, and I'm genuinely a much better and happier person when I'm with him, but just sometimes I feel we are more like friends. I've never felt that passion/fire from him...the feeling of 'having' to be with someone. Do you think because he is so reserved and not emotional I should just give him time or should I stop investing in this relationship? Thanks.

You've been together a year and you are just not feeling it from him? I don't like the other answers. They all say to give it time. A year is a lot of time. So, so much time! He has yet to give you what you want, need, and deserve. Yes, it could be because he is reserved and not emotional. My soon-to-be-ex-husband is like that. We gave it 15 years of marriage. Neither of us fit what the other needed. There is so much hurt in the end of this relationship, it is unbearable. If you are seriously questioning if you should give up on the relationship after giving it quite a long time, then yes. You should. If he isn't right for you, there is a good chance you are not right for him. Give yourselves a chance to find the right people. If you stay together just because you think you should, it will lead to a lot of resentment and pain.
Sorry to be such a downer, but your post really says a lot and I think you need to move on with your life so you can be happy.

Hi! I'm 15 years old and recently I fingered myself and I started peeing. No, I don't think I'm one of those rare girls that ejaculate because the liquid was slightly yellow. But I was just wondering if it's bad to get my own pee into my vagina because I continued to finger myself after I peed.
Also, I was wondering why my stomach hurts after I finger myself. It starts hurting right after i washed my hands and wiped. So maybe around a couple of minutes it starts hurting.
One other thing is that my stomach DIDNT hurt after my boyfriend fingered me for the first time!! When he fingered me it had mixed sensations of pain and pleasure, but even so my stomach didn't hurt after that compared to when I fingered myself. :/ I know I'm being gentle on myself because I'm the one who is doing it and I can feel where it hurts so I avoid those areas.
Oh and one more piece of info. My stomach hurts on the lower left side. It's not like cramp pains. And slight discomfort in the area where I get cramps. But the pain isn't severe it just hurts slightly and goes away after I curl up in a ball for a couple of minutes... Anyways is this bad?

Regarding the pain, I don't know what causes it. I do know that it had always happened to me. I'm 36, have been active for 20 years, and have had a hysterectomy, so I know it isn't the ovaries or something. I think it might be a result of the way the muscles react with an orgasm. It sounds like you really know how to get yourself off more than your boyfriend does. You are having more intense orgasms. That is not a bad thing.

Female, fifteen. I used to have pretty calm, light, dreams, other than the occasional nightmare. I never fell to my death. When I fell, I floated down and landed lightly on the ground, couldn't feel a thing. There wasn't much sound. As I've gotten older, my dreams have become more complex. I have dreams where I visit a place and then in another dream, possibly months later, i revisit that same place and there's a different situation, but I recognize that it's the same place and that it's different. Like one I had where these old ladies hold antique sales in this huge old mansion or something. When I revisited, They were fighting with each other over customers. I've started hearing music in my dreams, as of maybe a year ago, which had never happened before. In that same dream, this old lady and I wathced a little boy play piano, and he was amazing. I'd never heard the music before. AND the weird thing, the keys on the piano were reversed. Lower on the right and higher on the left. A little more recently than that, I'd noticed that I was developing more physical sensitivity. I can physically feel things. As of very recently, I'm noticing that I'm developing way more of a conscience. Lately, I've been able to recognize a dream when I'm in it. I try to wake myself up from scary dreams and get worried when I can't. Is this development normal and something that naturally occurs as you get older, or is this something of significance?

Dreams are fascinating. As the other answer said, you have stayed experiencing lucid dreaming. You can train yourself to alter dreams at this point. There are apps that help train your brain too. It is hard to wake from a dream. At first, you might send yourself into sleep paralysis, which is terrifying. You get your mind to wake up mostly, but your body takes a bit to catch up. For me, I've learned to control my breathing when I want out of a dream. This takes my focus into consciousness slowly, letting my body keep up. I do this when I can't move the dream into something more positive. To analyze your dreams, look up dream moods. There is a website and an app. It is surprisingly accurate.

I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything?

No, nothing can really be done. However, that dies not mean you should send more. He will likely not part them. If he is going to pay them, he will whether you send more or not. As far as legal action is concerned, he bought the pictures and can do what he wants. What you need to do is cut off all communication with him and never send nudes. It can only cause trouble.

OK, my life sucks. My mother hates me and is doing drugs, my dad keeps molesting me and I can't feel emotions or make friends. Now how the fuck do I commit suicide.

Call 8002738255. They have some good advice for this.

Hi,

I had sex wid my husband on last week 16 aug, and i took ipil on 17 th if aug aftrn 1.30. last tym wen i had sex wid him i used to peroids with in nxt 8 days, but this tym i didn get any periods can u pls help, im cinfusing wethr imprgnt or not.

Your period does not depend on when you have sex. Has it been 28 days since your last one started? If not, wait and see. If it has been over that, but only by a few days, wait and see. If it is well over that, get a pregnancy test.

Hello Advicenators,

I am translating a book in the public domain. The idea to start translating the book was my fathers.
My father would like to make a contract with me where I would give him 75 % of the copyrights of the translatiion of the public domain book and I would get 25% of the copyrights. Is this a good deal? If not, what would be a good deal?

Thanks

No. It isn't. According to the other time you posted this, you were translating not for profit, but for fun. He is taking advantage of you. Also, what is the book? Are you 100% certain it is in the public domain? Even so, you need to make sure you can legally sell a translation. If you intend to sell this, you should probably seek legal advice first so you avoid any trouble down the line.

I went to this the em room for pain in my stomach. The doctor is it was a appendicitis. I have it removed the next day. The night after the surgery my IV machine would not stop beeping and I needed to go to the bathroom. I press the button for someone to one to come. No one answered. I pressed it 6 more times and still no answer. I didn't want to pee on myself and the bed and I forced myself up. Holding on to my IV I pushed myself forward. I made it to the bathroom and suddenly vomited on the floor. I went to the bathroom and pee I pulled the string and still no answer. I sat on the toilet screaming for help. A woman came she saw how hysterical I was and said she'll find my nurse. She left me standing over my vomit. I could have tripped and fell. With difficultly I made it back to my bed without help. It took my nurse over 25 mins to come get me. She apologized and give me pain killers. Now I'm filing a complaint. What will happen next? What are the hospital going to do b/c I am not letting this go. During that time I thought I was going to die waiting for them.

The previous answer has it right. Though, I want to say that you are not the first to be treated like that and you won't be the last. Make a big deal of it because it is a big deal. There is a hospital in my city I will never go to again. They are just the same and have taken advantage of me and my family members. I was the first one and it happened when I was suicidal, so I just assumed they had a bad idea of me and that was why they were awful. My other family members were there for other reasons. No one made a fuss over it, though I thought they should. We will never go there again. There is another hospital here that is wonderful. My son is currently there after his appendix burst, so I feel for you. It is a horrible time to not have the care you need. Are you still there? If not, call the main number for the hospital and speak with a care coordinator. That person will help you get where you need. If they don't, then get a lawyer and press charges. They will respond then. You will be on a long and stressful road, but you will hopefully save others from this treatment.

If you penatrate a woman from the ass can she cumm

Yes, she can. I do. But, it depends, as the others have said, on how receptive she is and how good it feels to her. Start small, with a finger, to gauge her response. I she is please, try two. Then, you can move on to penetration. Use lots of lubricant because there is no natural lubrication there and the friction can hurt. That sort of pain is not a turn on. Have fun!

So I had been a Wiccan for months, and my dad had the bad idea of it. That every Wiccan was a witch. That witches are evil. That the Horned God is associated with Satan because he has horns/antlers. I have never felt comfortable in Christianity, but felt comfortable in Wicca, like I was 100% safe and nothing would ever hurt me. I'll be turning 18 in a few months. Should I just light candles in my room, try to tell the Horned God that I'm sorry and that I'll move in with my friend when I turn 18 and become a Wiccan again?

Your father can't change your heart. Even if you do not overtly practice and worship, you have it in your heart and that is understood. Light candles in your room. Practice as you wish without disrupting your household. Honor yourself, your family, and your gods. Maintain balance. Soon, you will be on your own and will be grateful for the balance.

Blessed be.

21/f, 27/m

Just in case you may be wondering, if you believe in horoscopes. He's a Scorpio. I am a Pisces.

Please be patient. This may be long, I feel like you will need to know details to help me answer my question.

I have always wanted to be with a guy that may have more experience than me just because in my relationships, I have always been the one that has had the most experience (meaning, I was usually their first serious girlfriend). I realized that I cannot see what others may see from a third point of view. I am oblivious to things when I am in the situation or when things are not directly said towards me.

I have been talking/dating this guy for a month. The first time we dated/started talking, I thought I might have been a "booty call" because he was making dirty jokes here and there. Many people told me, if possible, don't get my feelings involved and "go with the flow." Personally, I don't think you can control your feelings. You can't help but like that person. So, instead I spoke to him about it. I told him that if I was a girl he was just trying to sleep with, then he should go elsewhere because he will not get it from me. He told me that he has not had a "booty call" for a long time and that he just wanted to test the waters and see if we would work out of not. Things got a lot better after we cleared things up, eventually we did have sex. He continued to see me afterward and we continued dating.

On one of our dates, I saw him on Tinder (an app where you can meet the opposite sex/whatever. If you both find each other attractive, you can message one another through the app), and I confronted him about it. He admitted to me that he gets on the app a few times a day. I started getting confused afterward. At one point, he stopped trying to have sex but we continued to see each other and went on dates, he was still a gentleman and that got me curious if he was seeing other people. I decided to confront him about it, again.

He told me that he still has a Tinder. He chats with people on it, but he doesn't date/see other people other than me. He asked me why I brought it up on the day I was to see him and I said it was because if he was to see other people, I wouldn't see him that day (the only reason being because I don't want to sleep with him/see him after another girl, etc). He told me he wouldn't mind being exclusive with me, if I wanted and that he wanted to continue to see me. Somehow this conversation started off with me being curious (wanting to make it fair, trying to see if it was exclusive or not) to me deciding whether or not if I wanted to be exclusive. He let me "sleep on it" to decide. I didn't know what I want. I WAS JUST CURIOUS!

He didn't bring it since then but today, he brought it back up and asked whether or not if I wanted to be exclusive. I asked him why all the sudden he wanted to ask, he said he was just curious. I told him there must be more of a reason for him to be asking me and this conversation pretty much went nowhere. I asked him what he wanted to then I could consider what he wants instead of not hearing what he would like to do. And he said my decision has more of an importance than his when I think his thoughts are equally important.

I noticed that he tends to turn tables on me a lot, he also redirects the conversation sometimes when I confront him about something. For example, when I see my coworker or guy friends, he tends to act a bit "off" and when I ask him if he's okay, he says that he's great when I sense that there may be something wrong. I told him to tell me if I ever upset him, if I ever do something he doesn't like, and he agrees with it... But for some reason, he becomes distant and sometimes he'd say, "you go on dates with other guys" or "he's probably taking you back to his place, etc" Jealous? I'm not sure. He told me he "knows better" than to be emotionally involved with me but yet, when he acts strange, he turns it around and says that I'm the one that is acting weird.

His actions are driving me crazy, I can't read into it. I can't see it. Some people see it as him being manipulative. Some see him being insecure. Me? I can't see anything. He has been telling me the truth this whole time but why do I feel like he's hiding something? Maybe I'm thinking too much into it and I'm the one destroying this relationship? What should I do? What do you see from this?

I'm going to be blunt and it may seem harsh. You have him a guilt trip when you weren't exclusive, as though you were. If you were not, he could look. He was wrong to look while with you, though. Then, he asked if you wanted to be exclusive and you did not answer. He gave you time. When he brought it up again, you got defensive. He wasn't even nagging or pushing. He gave you time. He worries about the other guys because they could be the reason you are not responding. Honey, you are leading him on. Make a decision to be with him or not.

I am a girl,age 23. my father has died in 2009, my mom is alive but she never take care of me. i live with my elder sister,she has 3 kids. she always quarreled with me. if i don't do any household work, she got angry with me. i have boyfriend,who never let me cry,he love me so much.i didn't meet with him for last 3month because my sister never allowed me to meet with him. i stay my room whole day lonely.nobody of my family call me or ask me anything. my study is also hampering day by day. for my condition my boy friend also feeling very bad for me and his study also destroying day by day.i cant tolerate this anymore.it is seem to me that my death is the nice solution for all.my family will get rid of me and my boyfriend will get a better life.i have no way to live.what should i do beyond this?

First, at your age you need to take charge of your life. I'd like more information, such as why you can't get a doctor. Without that, the best I can say is to look for a mental health services center in your area. I would look it up for you, but Texas is huge and I don't know where you are. Feel free to contact me with more information and I might be able to offer more help.

i have been confused about what i should be, i am a female that is more comfortable dressing in male clothes, i act more masculine then i do feminine however i do have certain female traits that keeping coming out (maternal - from when i was a step mum). i have been reading up and considering going through with a sex change operation. the only thing that is holding me back is i want kids and want to be able to conceive naturally.

I would wait. There is nothing wrong with being a masculine bi female and you will still be able to have kids. This part of you, wanting kids, seems important. Don't give that up because of masculine traits, especially when it is OK to be you just as you described yourself.

Someone is blackmailing on kik. I sent him nude photo of mine, he want me to send again if I will not he said that he will post it online website wherein all country can see it. I dont know what to do. He said that he will spread it and all my friends can see it. Im afraid Im fron Hungary. Need help

I'm sorry to say this, but he has the upper hand
When you take nude photos, there is a risk of others seeng them. When you send then to someone, that risk is higher. I've been there. I do doubt he will post them, though. He is just trying to intimidate you. Don't be intimidated and he'll eventually stop. Tell him you don't care, then block him if you can. You can report him as well. At least, I think so. Good luck.

My friend found a baby kitten at her work and I ended up taking it because she couldn't. It looks about no more than 2 weeks. It can bearly hold its head up and shakes when it walks, its eyes are fully open and it fits in the palm of your hand. I have a bottle for it and it takes a few drinks then pushes away. How do you know how much to feed it? Do you know exactly how old it i? Do you know what I need to do for a kitten this young? Please help!!!

I don\'t know a ton about kittens, but if it is as young as you think, you might want to check around for kitten milk replacement. Look online for a forum about cats. Post a couple of pictures there and they will be a great help. I use a bunny forum to get help for my rabbits. I know there are a couple similar cat forums. Good luck!

Today I was taking my dog out for a walk and this other dog came out of no where from behind us. My dog turned around and lunged at her and did this teeth snapping thing twice. Eventually the owner came and got their dog while I was pulling to get my dog away from the other dog. I had to pick my dog up and walk away (She's big and heavy.) I just want to know what it means. She snapped twice at the air, and the poor dog that came from behind looked like she was really excited to see my dog.

Your dog was startled and went into defense mode. The teeth snapping was a way of saying \"back off!\"

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