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where can i find cute corsets at a good price that are not too revealing?

Hot Topic carries some cheap, plastic boned corsets. These are strictly for fashion and you cannot acheive signifigant waist reduction with them.
www.hottopic.com

If you're looking for something a bit more hard core, check ebay's Alter Ego Erotics. They have a wide selection of quality leather corsets. They'll be a bit more pricey than Hot Topic, but these corsets will last longer, look better and give you better waist reduction. I own two of their overbust corsets and I love them! They're comfortable and fun, while still looking beautiful and elegant. The prices that Alter Ego asks are excellent for corsets of this quality. http://stores.ebay.com/ALTER-EGO-EROTICS_W0QQssPageNameZstrkQ3amefsQ3amesstQQtZkm

Deadly Girlz is another excellent corsetry shop. They are more expensive than the other two, but still nicely priced as far as corsets go. I have never ordered from them, but I have lots of friends who have. They've all given this shop two thumbs up. http://www.deadlygirlz.com/

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I'm 14/f and I've been wanting snake bites [lip piercing] for over a year now. Anyways, since I'm not 18, the piercing people at the mall won't pierce my lips and my mom definately would not allow me to get my lips pierced.

Well, my friend got her lip pierced by her other friend, whom we will call J. My friend's piercing is good..no infections, mistakes, scarring, etc. J is going to pierce my lip next weekend and my friend is going to go get rings for my lips.

PLEASE DO NOT LECTURE ME

Questions:
1.What are the risks of getting my lip pierced?
2.Has anyone here personally had their own lips pierced by themselves/by a friend
3.What should J use to pierce my lips
4.What ring/clear plastic thingers should my friend get
5.How would you clean your lip piercing?
6.Any suggestions?

Thanks very much!!

The typical piercing risks apply to lip peircings. You need to keep the piercing clean until the holes have fully healed. Theres always the possibility of infection, and because this is an oral peircing the risks of the infection spreading are higher.

I had snakebites for two years. I've also had a labret. Once I decided to allow the piercings to close up I was left with small scars. So should you decide to take out the rings, it will scar.

I see you've recieved some bad advice on this one. You need to have them done professionally. Period.

Do not do this yourself. Wait till you're 18 and go to a professional. That way you will be more likely to have a sucessful peircing. I cannot stress how important this is. It makes me cringe just to think that you would attempt it by yourself. Done well, Snakebites are amazing and fun! They're fashionable and edgy. Done badly, they're dangerous and look bad.

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I am considering getting my nipple pierced, but I am only 16.. Do nipple piercings screw up your nipple or breast? (considering both of mine are still developing) And how bad is the scarring? Thank you!

Nipple peircings are a difficult peircing to take care of and they can take quite awhile to heal. This is a peircing that I would only recomend to someone who has had previous experience both being peirced AND taking care of the peircing. Any little thing, including (but not limited to) a tight hug or an undressing mishap, could cause issues.

I had both of my nipples peirced for about a year, however, they never healed and I had problems with both peircings, including pain and lack of feeling. Once I took the jewelery out and the holes cleared up, feeling did come back but I am left with rather obvious scars.

Though all peircings require much thought, I would give this one extra consideration before getting. :)

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do girls fart?
or anything else among those lines?

No, we would never do something as un-lady like as that! *Rolls eyes*



Of course we do! We also shit, burp, pick our noses and scratch out asses. Scary, huh?

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im 16/f and from Australia.

my best friend 16/m, is a model/actor. he is enrolled in a acting/modelling academy in our local city. i have always wanted to be a model but i dont really want to tell my parents that im serious about it coz im kinda embarrassed. and i dont wanna ask my bestie for help either. he made me a funny promise the other week that if he got famous he could get me into the buisiness aswell. i really want to do this and all but i dont know what to do and im too embarrassed to ask anyone. can anyone tell me also what it takes to be a model? like what assets or whatever to they prefer?

thanks so much.

Well first of all it takes confidence. Thats something you HAVE TO HAVE to be able to model. You need a large amount of Charisma to be able to even be minorly sucessful. You need to be ambitions and decide where you would like to take your career and what sort of modeling you would like to do.

The modeling business is a tough one. There are many different type of modeling and with each one there are different assets and looks that are considered ideal.

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I'm a teenager who was raised Catholic but now I'm like agnostic or atheist or something.

I don't really believe there was a guy named jesus who died for everyone's sins. i really do not believe that. so how can i call myself a christian?

i do not agree with the christian ideals on premarital sex. i lust all the time- so i don't want a religion that prevents lusting.
i also masturbate. i'm not going to stop it for some higher power that isn't even real.


what should i do? i don't believe anything.


i don't want to be a Christian. I never really was one in the first place.

If you dont want to be a christian, then dont be one. There is no point in making yourself miserable by trying to fit yourself into a mold that may not work for you. Doing this will only cause inner conflict.

If you dont believe in anything then you would be considered a nihlist. However, if you feel the need to search for a truth in your life I suggest that you do some research and spend time examining you're own desires and thoughts.

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do they hurt?
how long are they swollen and stuff for?
can you explain
how long and how painful it was.
only answer if you have a lip ring
kthnx

This, by far, is the easiest peircing I've had to endure. I've had snakebites and I've also had a labret. I believe that its a good starter peircing. All three rings stayed swollen for less than a week. The pain ebbs after about a week as well. However, I've found that if I take my rings out for any extended period of time the holes will have began to close up and it makes the holes sore to re-install them.

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ok so i really really want to get my belly button pierced but i'm kinda worried that it might hurt..a lot. i don't do well with pain. also does it matter if your stomach is flat or has a little flab?

thanks in advance :]

It will hurt. But the inital, sharp pain is over with fairly quickly. Afterwards it will be sore, but I've found that despite the pain the peircing is always worth it.

You can have any type of stomach and it should work just fine and be beautiful.

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do wicca spells really work? has anyone performed a love spell and did it work?? any feedback would be nice. thanks

You need to be totally commited to the spell you're preforming. If you're not writting the spell yourself, you need to do research and make sure that you are preforming the ritual at the correct time and in the correct way. Dealing with magic is potentially dangerous, if you dont take care and know exactly what you're working with. If you're writting your own spell, make sure that you include the phrase "With harm to none, free will remain." This is very important.

Spells for calling a new love work much better than attempting to attract an existing infatuation to you.

Don't forget to build a circle before casting ANY SPELL!

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I'm looking to find some new bands to listen to and I've been listening to more rock lately.

19/M
I like
Type O Negative
Rammstein
the most

No Nickleback or emo please.

My friend suggested Slipknot, but I'm looking for music that doesn't scream all of the time. Yelling is OK, but screaming is annoying. I'm not looking for rock where the artists try to sound tough with their voices. I prefer hard electric guitars and drums to somebody screaming.

I know most of you are girls, but any rock suggestions are appreciated. Perhaps you can ask your boyfriends if you don't know of any.

-Krupple.

Edited:

I would suggest Bella Morte, A Perfect Circle, Godsmack or Ozzy Osbourne.

If you like heavier music then you might enjoy Nevermore or Disturbed.

And, by the way, a persons gender has nothing to do with their ability to listen to rock music and women can rock every bit as hard as men, if not harder. Infact I know of a few who could kick any man's ass, including Cristina Scabbia, Morgan Lander, Otep, Jennifer Arroyo and Angela Gossgow.

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16/f

i need a job,and i found out that you can send your applications through the computer,i told my mom about it and she said that its not safe to do that,i thought it might be easier,so basically if i send my application like say petsmart or like chik-fel-a (sp) do you think its safe or not such a good idea ?

You need to be extremely careful when putting any information online. Even if you're are filling out an application for a well known company, make sure you are using the proper website.

Also, I have found that you are more likely to get an interview if you go to the place in person. This shows determination and an actual desire to work.

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#1-
I've recently heard a girl band called Barlow Girl.
they write Christianity/gospel music. i love their 2 songs called Mirror and Never Alone.
are there any other songs that are like them,
a girl band
Christianity/gospel songs
and teaches people lessons?

#2-
I've always had a dream to become a rock star... not like SUPER famous.. but at least known in my city. maybe like a garage band or something like that.

well here's the problem.. actually theres a lot of problems

-I LOVE to sing.. but my voice isn't all that great
-I have stage fright
-i have never sung in front of an audience.. not even my family
-I want to be in a band, but i don't know what to do... like a drummer, guitarist or vocalist but i like ALL of them. I could see myself doing all of them.
-The only instruments i've played were the piano and clarinet.. so i'd have to take up lessons for guitar or drums... but i probably won't have the time to practice or have the lessons

heres my schedule

mondays- soccer practice
tues.- soccer conditioning
wed- soccer practice
thur- nothing
fri- soccer practice
and then every other saturday or sunday is a soccer tournament.


HELP HELP HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
thanks soooooo much for reading this.. i know this is long and i REALLY appriciate it if you could help me. You have no idea how much i love to sing and listen to music... i need help.

For question one, You should try Zoegirl, Mary Mary or Plumb.

As for question two, this is one that I can identify with. Everyone, reguardless of how good their natural voice sounds, needs vocal lessons to learn how to use their vocal cords properly. Without it you stand a good chance of damaging your vocal cords.

To help you gain confidence I would suggest taking choir as a class through school. Acting lessons will also help you with stage fright.

Music take dedication. Any powerful, sucessful musican out there has put hours and hours into their music. It requires a great deal of passion.

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What exactly is a tease ? Like if someone calls you a tease. What does it exactly mean ? (I know kind of stupid question). But thanks for people who answer this nicely

A tease is someone who flirts and hints at sexual activity without actully planning on doing anything sexual. Its someone who hints at things, but stays just out of reach.

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13/m
I have this friend, who I love terrably, and were close, but we always seem to have fights between every 3 days and every other week, plus, there is something about her that is scary to me. She is satanic, and I have a fear of satanic peopkle ( i dont mean to sound prejudice, i mean, i would give them the respect i would give everyone else}. What should I do? Should I cease communication with her, o should I still talk to her?

Satanism isn't always something to be afraid of, however if you think that its harming your opinion of your friend then perhaps you should examine what it is about Satanism that scares you. Also, if your parents agreed to it, perhaps you should do some research into it and learn alittle about Satanism so that you know the facts.

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what are some good books you've read lately? i need to catch up on stuff

The Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling
The Phantom of the Opera by Gaston Leroux
Phantom by Susan Kay
The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson
The Long Hard Road out of Hell by Marilyn Manson
The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett
The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas
The Lurker at the Threshold by H.P. Lovecraft

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do girls go for guys with piercings? if they are good looking that is, and do girls get attracted to guys with piercings,like let's say nose rings?and if they do, can you specify which part of the face or body you find most attractive for a piercing on a guy and how much piercings should your ideal guy have?thanks

Peircings are a beautiful way to express your individuality! For me, the more peircings a guy or girl has, the better. I think that Industrials, Anti-brows and Septums are divine.

However, you should be careful that YOU are the one wearing the peircings, not the peircings wearing you. And always make sure that you're picking your body modifications based on what you like, not what you think someone else will like- because should you ever decide to take out a peircing it will scar.

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There is a girl at school i like but she only thinks of me as a friend. what should i do?

Being there for her is the best possible thing. Keep being a awesome friend and just see how things evolve before you make any quick decisions.

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