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Someone is blackmailing me! Please help!
Someone is blackmailing on kik. I sent him nude photo of mine, he want me to send again if I will not he said that he will post it online website wherein all country can see it. I dont know what to do. He said that he will spread it and all my friends can see it. Im afraid Im fron Hungary. Need help
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Im sorry about what happened but that's a very hard position to be in.. do you believe that he will actually do that? Maybe he is just saying that to scare you act like you don't care don't respond to him . It may be hard but don't respond to anything he says. I hope everything works out .im sorry that you met him.
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It's just a threat so he can get more from you, but honestly, you shouldn't have sent nudes in the first place. The social networking life is pretty dangerous if you are releasing anything personal to people, especially since once you send it, you can never get it back. You could ignore him, in hope that he will leave you alone.
Does he know you in real life? Because if he doesn't know you in real life, idk how he would have contact with your friends.
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Maybe next time dont send the nude. Not the brightest idea.
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First things first, NEVER send nude photos of yourself through the internet. Only send what you'd be comfortable sending your parents or guardian. You should really hear Amanda Todd's story on YouTube because the same thing happened to her and it demonstrates how scary it can be if someone has hold of a nude photo of you. Second, you're going to need to tell your parents or a guidance councillor. Someone needs to know in order to stop the blackmail. Don't give this person another photo. I've been blackmailed before but the best thing to do it block him or her and your parents will know what to do .
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Report it to the police without telling him first. That is sexual harassment. Keep everything written that he has sent you and be prepared for all that may come with that, but it's better if a few trained cops see it in their efforts to protect you than if it goes viral. Lesson for next time: don't take pictures you don't want spread around.
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I'm sorry you have to deal with such an ungrateful jerk. He could probably have gotten more pics with kindness than with threats. I'm sure you've learned the lesson that you don't ever again send photos that you don't want published, so lets move on to the bigger issue: threats and intimidation are never ok. You need to go to the police. He is not entitled to anything from you and his behavior so far proves he is not to be trusted with more photos. If you are a minor, he can be charged with possession of child pornography as well. (If he doesn't know how old you are and you could pass for a minor, tell him you're underage and scare him with pornography charges, because people like that deserve to be bullied back.) If your photos end up on the website, it will be unfortunate, but I think the stigma is moving more toward the rude posters of the photos than the initial senders. What's more, it happens so often it's not as shocking. If it does shock people enough to get a great deal of attention, you could end up the Kim Kardashian of Hungary. It's not an ideal situation, but I hope I've helped you see that you will get through it, and you don't deserve to be threatened because of it.
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Contact police. Try to press charges against him. If he does something with you're photos it's a violation of privacy.
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Did u show your face? If not call his bluff tell him if he does he does the police will deal with them or ask for a nude of him and do the same thing next time don't show your face ever!!!
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Do NOT send him any more pictures. If you do, you are only going to be adding more fuel to the fire. If he is already threatening to blackmail you with one photo, do you think he is going suddenly change his mind when you send another? What happens when he gets mad at you again? I do hope that this serves as a learning experience for you. No matter how much you think you love a person, never do anything that can and will come back to bite you in the butt later down in life. Remember, what you give the world, you can never take it back.
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Alright, I'll give you an answer, but you won't like it. IGNORE HIM. Really and truly, he just wants leverage over you. It's a picture. Do you know how many dirty pictures/ naked pictures/videos there are out there? It's just another picture. Also, if you don't want someone blackmailing you with naked pictures of yourself, don't send them.
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Ok, I know that if your underage the law can protect you but if your not then Im sure your going to have to sue or something. It's not always a good idea to share pictures like that is all I can say.
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Lol shouldn't have done it in the first place. These questions are funny lol
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First of all , you cant send anyone a picture of yourself , especially if your nude , that you don't know.The only thing you can do is contact KIK and tell them on what happened so they can like block his account , who knows maybe he didn't get a chance to save the picture.
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Don't send anything else. Yes one photo might get out, but if you send more they will all get out, as well as people making fun of you for sending more.
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I am not sure what your best option is-- I don't know what the laws in Hungary are, but if you know who this person is, you could file a police report for sexual harassment and threat (blackmail). I also am not familiar with how seriously these cases are taken in Hungary; or even in the US for that matter. But I would think your best bet is to report this.
If nothing can be done, then I would ignore this person. He might post the photo online regardless of if you send him another one or not. I would honestly ignore him, and not give into his power trip. He is manipulating and threatening you, not to mention using you as an object for his own twisted pleasure. You might just have to live with the facts and accept that he might post a nude photo of you online. If the photo does get posted and someone asks about it, you can just say that you didn't mean for it to get posted, and some creep (this guy) threatened to post the photo online if you didn't send him another one: and that you are too good to give in to some sick person's demands. Honestly, you'll get more out of knowing that you did not listen to him, than giving him another nude photo of yourself.
Look at it this way: if you give him more photos, you are only making things worse by listening to his demands and you'll feel more humiliated and controlled by him. The pain of having a nude photo posted online is SO much less than having to keep giving this guy nude photos of yourself.
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How old are you? If you're under 18, tell him that he can go to jail for what he's blackmailing you with as it's child pornography.
I'm not entirely sure what the laws on blackmail are in Hungary, but do you know where this other person lives?
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You need to contact the authorities this kind of stuff happens all the time when people decide to send inappropriate pics of themselves to strangers. I wont go on about how your decision of sending nudes in the first place was a bad idea because thats pretty obvious. I will say that its best to come clean to your parents because eventually they will find out and then contact your local police for help because very soon this whole matter could get out of hand. As scared as you might be to tell anyone you need to do it because this needs to be taken care of immediately.
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Unfortunately when you send things like that online or via cell, they never disappear. You cannot control when and where they show up after you press the send button. Do not send another photo as this person will only use that one to continue to blackmail you as well. I would suggest you completely stop all contact with this person and block them on your kik account. If they do end up posting the photo you sent then you will have to deal with it at that point. Let your friends and family know that you did something you're not proud of, you made a mistake and trusted someone you shouldn't have. And, please don't send photos like this to anyone unless you know and trust them.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
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If you are under fourteen, that nude photo is considered child pornography. If not, then you can and should take this to the police. Blackmail is illegal. Solicitation of sexual acts and/or photos is illegal. It may be embarrasing, but he's just going to want more and more, and have more and more blackmail material.
He is trying to control you. Do not let him.
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If you send him another photo, he will just keep doing this. Are you young enough for it to be illegal for him to post the pictures up? If so you can stop this from happening via the police. Check the law first.
I don't know what else I can recommend to be perfectly honest, its a lot harder because you are from a country that I do not know a lot about.
Make sure you never send people naked photos, it gives people a chance to exploit you. This is all I can say, sorry I can't be more useful or helpful
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You should report him on the site... Don't send anymore pics otherwise he won't stop asking. Try to see if a site administrator could remove the photo right away
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Well it depends. If you know this person then you need to try and convince them not to and/or block and report them.
If you don't know this person then they cant really do no harm can they? They don't know your life all friends so its fine.
Also their isn't an online website where all the country can see.
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Do you know this guy? If you have his information you can turn him into the police if he does do anything with your picture. Of course you don't want to wait until it gets to that point, but I'm not sure if the law can do anything about it unless he has actually posted it. Either way, I'd tell him that what he is doing is not only manipulative and disgusting but extremely illegal (at least I know it is in the US) and tell him that you will turn him in if he posts your picture anywhere. This may convince him not to do anything with the picture because he wouldn't be sure if you'd do it. If he does post anything anywhere be sure to contact the police though and give them whatever info you have on him and where your pictures are posted if you know. That way they can prosecute him and get the pictures taken down.
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Firstly, NEVER DO THIS AGAIN. Never send someone a nude photo no matter how much you think you like them- they will not respect you as this guy evidently doesn't.
Do you think you can blackmail him back?
Say you'll only send him a nude photo again if you can have a nude photo of him first
If he does it, you have one of him now. You don't have to send another one. If he dares put it online, you can put the one of him online where all HIS friends can see.
If he puts your picture online, hold your head up high, find the website with it on and contact them in order to get them to take it down.
Be quick though- the quicker you act, the less people will see it.
I am sorry to hear you are going through this trouble, but please do not do this again.
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sending nude photos is risky and unless you trust someone it can get messy. he can't get away with blackmail so tell him that no more photos will be sent and cut him out of your life.
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Is your face in the picture? If not just let him do it. But if not go to the police, I don't know about Hungary but in the USA it's illegal if you're a minor.
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What this person is doing is wrong and i would advice you to go to the police before they get fed up and post them everywhere
I would also advice you not to ever under any circumstances send naked photos of yourself to anyone again especially over the internet, it could be anyone on the other side of the conversation. And although it may seem harmless at first but like you have now experienced people can get nasty and use the photos against you and blackmail you. The thing about these sort of people is that they feel in control blackmailing to make the person do what they want them to do. Dont give into his demands and send him another photo as that also give him more to use against you to gain his own way again as it won't stop there, i would advice you to say to him that you will not send him another photo and if he keeps black mailing you and if he posts them online then you will contact the police and press charges against him for harassment.
I hope you learn by this experience and don't do something like this again and i hope you all the best and i hope the other person sees sense and doesn't pursue blackmailing you.
Thank you for coming to me for help and i hope my advice helps you to the best i can
Carrey Anne x
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First of all blackmailing in this form is a punishable offence. So ideally you should report it to the cops even before he exposes the pictures. But I can understand that its not easy that way..Secondly Do not even mistakenly send him any other photo.. as there's no way he would stop at that only.. One of my questions is that are you identifiable in the picture?..if no, then there's nothing to worry..and if yes , then Chances are less that he will actually upload the pictures.. stop responding to his threats... as talking with him will do no good.. if he uploads , you can report it as a form of cyber crime..there's no other way out dear..
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Hi! I think you could learn a lesson from this and it might not be exactly the one you expect. The lesson is that a thing is only embarrassing and humiliating if YOU LET IT make you feel embarrassed and humiliated. Even though what he has done is wrong and might not be legal it will be very hard to stop him from posting this picture somewhere, somewhow, sometime. Firstly you do not give in to his blackmail and send him more. You have nothing more to do with him. Let us assume that he DOES post this picture then. OK. The whole contry will see it. But most people who see it do not know you and will never meet you. They will just see a picture of some random girl they do not know and hardly take any notice of it at all. It is one of millions of photographs on the web. Many will not even see it at all. With your friends, I would not let them see I was embarrassed although I would be. You might decide that you will make them see that you think "So What?". Say that you were talking to the guy online, you thought it might be fun to send a sexy picture. And it turns out he was a real jerk. He posted it because you would not send him any more. Tell them what a sad little creep he is, and this is the only way he can get a girl to send him pictures of herself. Do not look ashamed. Try to make a joke about it. If you think people will laugh at you, they will find that it is very difficult to laugh at somebody who is already laughing themselves. A bit of psychology! I know this is difficult because you feel bad and upset about it. It is about putting on a bit of an act and not showing it. And people will not find any fun in something if they do not get a reaction. They will forget about it and find something more fun. Which is what we want! Regarding parents and family, I would try a different approach. Be very straight and say that you made a mistake. You were foolish, perhaps a bit bored as well and did something because you and your friends thought it was cool. You realise that now it was a bad and not very clever idea and you will not do it again. I should think your parents will be a little annoyed but I do not think they will be disgusted or hate you. I think they will understand. We all have to live and learn and make mistakes and they will know that. I think if you were my daughter I would be a little angry, but I would mostly be thankful that it was not something much worse you had done and were regretting. I would be happy if I felt you had learned from the mistake. We all make mistakes. Do not let it spoil your life even for a short while. But do not do it again will you?
Best wishes and be brave. CJB X
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The only way to stop a blackmailer is to take away their power. Tell him to go ahead and post it. If it gets around to people you know just tell them he used the picture illegally. That is all the explanation you have to offer. Believe me it won't matter 5 years from now. Just for future reference, I wouldn't send anymore nude photo's to guys you don't know that well!
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There should be a report abuse butten
You should use that
Goodluck
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Did you put your face in the photo? Because if not, then no one can prove its your body even if he sends it to friends/family. And do you know this guy? Please Kik me @Its_Iesha05
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First things first: do NOT send another photograph! Even if he does send it to everyone you know, that is better than him sending two pictures to everyone you know.
Second, you need to call the police. Even if they cannot do anything to help you, at least it will be on record that this person is harassing you.
Third, hold on to your pride. This person very well might distribute your picture. Just remember that you are a person worthy of dignity and respect. This person is messed up to sexually harass you in this manner. You have done nothing wrong. You sent him a picture with the intention of only him seeing it and he has betrayed you. Do not blame yourself, no matter what anyone tells you.
This is why moi learned karate, to handle guys like this.
Stay strong and keep fighting,
Miss Piggy
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The best think I'm afraid to do is ignore him, delete your kik and lay low for a while until he calms down and even then don't talk to him !! Block him ! And if he does expose your naked pictures make sure to report them to bring them down you already sent him the pictures so he has the upper hand but Good luck!!
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Report them immediately through Kik and any other app/site you have him on. Do not send him any more photos.
There's not alot else you can do unless you maybe tease him into sending you one so that you have leverage too but that's not going to help if you end up needing to get a higher authority involved.
Really hope all goes well for you.
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Block him. Never reply or contact in any way at all ever again.
Do not send any photos.
Of course you should never send anyone any nude photos - even people who you actually know. It's just a bad idea, but let's get past that.
These creeps exist, especially on services like SnapChat and Kik where they think they can get away with it. Even if you hadn't sent him a image, there are people who will threaten to photoshop you normal images onto phonographic images. They blackmail people like you for money, or for more photos.
That is why you have to stop responding, at all, right now. This man is predator. He's only doing it because he wants more naked photos of you. If you don't give him more photos, he's actually unlikely to go through the work of putting the photo you did give him online. It's more likely he'll just move to the next victim who might give him what he actually wants.
Then you need to tell your parents, and the police. A bunch of these horrible people are now being caught, and put to trial, all over the planet because some young people are brave enough to come forward and tell the police what has happened. The only way you can really make sure that photo never ends up online, is to give the police all the information you have about this person, and hope enough other people also come forward that he can be caught.
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I'm sorry to say this, but he has the upper hand
When you take nude photos, there is a risk of others seeng them. When you send then to someone, that risk is higher. I've been there. I do doubt he will post them, though. He is just trying to intimidate you. Don't be intimidated and he'll eventually stop. Tell him you don't care, then block him if you can. You can report him as well. At least, I think so. Good luck.
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Some advice for the future; NEVER SEND ANYONE A PICTURE YOU WOULD NOT SHOW YOUR FATHER OR BROTHER. ONCE IT LEAVES YOUR POSSESSION YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER IT AND IT CAN POP UP AT ANYTIME FROM NOW TO WHENEVER IN THE FUTURE.
Now as to the Blackmail. Blackmail is illegal in all countries. If you have proof of this then go to the police. All you need for proof would be an email from him DEMANDING another picture and if he doesn't get it telling you what he will do.
Without the proof you can still go to the police and tell them he has a nude picture of you. If you are not an adult then he is in possession of child pornography. By threatening to put the picture on the web he will be distributing child pornography. Both being in possession and the distribution of child pornography is a crime for which he can go to jail even as a juvenile himself. Child pornography is illegal in most all countries including yours.
If you want, although I do not advise you doing so; you can threaten him with the fact that you are going to the police with his blackmail threat and not only can he be charged with Blackmail. He can also be charged with several crimes under child pornography laws. He may tell you otherwise but the law is on your side even though you freely gave him the picture.
The age of consent and the age of being an adult can be two separate ages. It is generally accepted that a child is not an adult until they reach age 18. For the age of consent as for consenting to sex that age varies from country to country and in some places like the USA from State to state and can be as young as 14 or as old as 18.
The threat alone should be sufficient to stop him with your picture. My feeling is if he is threatening you he will threaten others so lets stop it now and let the police handle it. You send one boy to jail or at the very least have to face a judge in court and explain himself; a message is sent to thousands of other boys that this is wrong.
I know you do not want to go to your parents with this though you should. Yes they will be upset as you have done a foolish thing in giving this boy this type of picture. As a parent myself I would rather you come to me and tell me what has happened, what is happening and ask for my help then have one of my friends or coworkers tell me their son has a nude picture of you and all his friends have one two.
Right now with pornography laws against child pornography the police can confiscate every digital recording device he has. Once the police has those devices they can delete the pictures. This is the only way to make sure the pictures go no further.
YEs your parents may punish you. Is it not better to be punished than be too embarrassed to leave the house?
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