im always here to help im really good at giving advice mostly about teenage problems not like my computer software crap! look im not supa smart, ask me questions that i'll know. but other than that im great! that doesnt mean i wont have questions of my own im still learning too so if i dont answer a question of yours than dont get mad b.c i havnt been through it. im very honost to people so if u ask i will certainly tell thats my motto! Just one more thing people if you dont like the way i type then get over it. thats how i am and its not like im typing to some important person. well you are but not that important!
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Wow this is weird I'm a little bit document vagina area I'm assholes not so bad how can I get this pink or without bleaching or if I have to bleach bikes are bleaching (link)
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i don't think people are understanding what you're trying to say... i believe you are saying that your vagina has a dark pigment to it and you want it to be pink? i dont think that it's possible to change the color of your vagina or if its safe to do at all! i really wouldnt worry about the color of it!
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last month my periods were 12 days late..they came on 8th of october. and lastd for 7 days. just as my normal period does. after that on 16th or 17th i gave my bf a blowjob, there were sperms on my hand which i wiped off.. and then we were sitting for about an half and hour in the ac.. and we didnt do anything.. after that i went to the washroom, washed my hands first with a water then a handwash and then wiped my hands off with tissue paper. after that i peed and cleaned my vagina with tissue paper. i got home and washed my hands thrice and after that didnt touch my vagina..my periods are irregular.but they never come before the date. today on 23rd of october i experienced a brown discharge.. i have fever with neck pain and headache. what could be the reason? am i pregnant? please help.. im 17! and i dont wanna be pregnant. please help (link)
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no it does not sound that you are pregnant. the problem with your spotting is called is old blood. you probably noticed it after having a period its sometimes very dark brown. it's just old blood. don't be alarmed it is very common in girl with irregular periods. if you are concerned about being pregnant ever take a pregnancy test! if you are concerned about irregular periods visit your doctor. sperm can't live for long when they hit air. the fact that you washed your hands and it was well over a half hour after you had it on your hand id say youre safe!!
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Can your boyfriend tell if you have sex with someone else if the other person has a bigger dick than your boyfriend? (link)
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Sometimes... maybe? I don't think so, but you may feel different and he can tell. People can sense feelings of distance and shame, perhaps sometimes people keeping things from another person, that he may notice. I don't think that cheating on your boyfriend is a good idea. it's not nice and it's selfish. not that you asked our opinions on the matter, but you should give someone more respect than that especially have respect for yourself. Now that you probably still didn't change your mind or care what i had to say if and when you have sex with anyone at least PLEASE where a condom!!! be protected men will lie to you they will tell you anything you want to hear, protect yourself. If they tell you they are clean still wear a condom.
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My dog wont stop biting me, in the neck area. This occurs usually when I am sleeping or going to sleep. I mean it must be my dog? Because when I wake up, and look in the mirror I find the strangest bite marks on my neck. They itch like crazy and start to bruise after a couple days. Then weeks after, i notice lumps growing on my neck and down the side of my body. I think i'm dying, I have no other pets or animals in my house. GETTING RID OF THE DOG IS NOT A OPTION i love him very much. No I am not crazy, are mentally sick. something is very wrong here. I think I might just take the easy way out. By leaving this world...My dog doesn't even like me. Well goodbye have a wonderful day. (link)
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how tiny are the bites? could it be a spider bite? has your dog been checked by vets take yourself and your dog to a doctor see why hes biting if he is at all and how you're getting the bumps or bites. nothing to end your life over!!! don't do a forever solution with a temporary trouble.
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Can i be pregnant if i had sex on Saturday and the next day i have my periods?????? Please tell me what you know or think . Thank you (link)
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No, this is because when a women ovulates that will be the prime time to be able to conceive a child. if you have sex and the next day have your period then it is less likely for you to fall pregnant, if at all. unless you have sex during your period in which you ovulate right after the ending of your period.
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I'm 16 and I've had a thing with a guy that's 8 years older than me, since I was 14. He's had the same girlfriend since we started. They have two kids together. He tells her all the time that he doesn't want to be with her though and he tells everyone close to him, including her and his own mother, that he's leaving her when I turn 18, to be with me, since it's technically illegal with me still being a minor. I've known him my whole life, and he's stuck to the same thing since we started this crazy thing. Do you think he'll really leave her to be with me? And if it affects anything, the kids aren't really his, but he raises them. (link)
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first of all he's disgusting!! he's 8 years older than you?!! omg that is so wrong. at 16 i understand that you can be in love i was definitely in love at 16 but this is not ok. he is a sex offender and should be reported. I think if he hasnt left her now to be with you that would give you a clear indication that he's never going to leave her, and that he's ashamed to admit that he is with someone so much younger. if he can't come out with it now he won't ever.
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Can a dike get pregnant? (link)
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if you are a women with a vagina and encounter a male with a penis. Meaning you have sex or are penetrated with a penis near your vagina then yes you can get pregnant.
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ok so i just got my first pevic exam but my vagina still hurts im only11 and im scared to tell my mom and when i got my period the outer flaps of my vagina were going crazy with painis this normal btw im not sexually active (link)
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that's weird you would get a pelvic exam that young. you should only be getting them if you're sexually active. Don't be afraid to talk to your mother about what's going on with you. depending on the pain it is which wasn't described i can't really say what can be normal and what is not.
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pregnancy is possible from back side hole?
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i think you mean your anus? and yes it's possible only if he did NOT use a condom and after ejaculation (sperm cumming out of the penis) enters your anus and makes contact with your vagina. while it's uncommon for that to happen it is still possible. But again very unlikely
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So long story short, right now I'm engaged to somebody and though we love each other very much things have been rough lately. We live together in our own place and balance all of our own bills, ect. We both work full time and he works longer and more hours than I do.
This often leaves me with a lot of alone time and every Saturday to myself which makes me very lonely. We often disagree over little things and a lot of the time I feel like even though we're best friends that he's not mature enough for me to want to marry and spend the rest of my life with. He still does so many childish things like playing hours of video games, not wanting to shower every night, leaving his clothes all over the place, dishes left out, ect. We make okay money but most of the time we end up with just enough to cover the bills and maybe a little bit on the side. I'm sick of always freaking out over bills though and being scared of every little thing I buy extra. I've always wanted to try my hand at a more luxurious life with an older man and I figured having a Sugar Daddy is a good option.
I've been talking to my fiance about having a Sugar Daddy on the side and after a few days consideration he told me if I can keep the two separate and promise not to cheat on him that he's okay with it.
Not really knowing what to expect I signed up for a site and paid a month's subscription. I poured my heart out in the bio and put up a few photos. I got lots of responses as I'm a fairly attractive and intelligent woman. After filtering out all of the men that were obviously just looking for an escort or somebody to have sex with I settled on speaking to three men, but I'm only seriously considering one of them. Annually he makes 250,000-500,000 a year which seems absolutely amazing and he comes off like a really sweet genuine guy. We also seem to have a lot in common and he's coming up for our first "date" on Saturday. We're going out for dinner at a little posh place that I've always wanted to go to but never had the money for (and none of my family could ever afford even for a birthday gift). Afterwards I figure we'll walk around the square and talk.
The thing is with this guy is it seems like he might want a real relationship not something that is strictly SD/SB.
I mean I'm okay with that right now because I'm definitely not going to have sex with him anytime soon and who knows maybe we'll get along really well and things will blossom?
How can I balance the two though if I start having feelings for my SD and wanting a life with him instead of with my current fiance? I love my fiance so very much but sometimes it's really hard to see things working out. We're very close but like I said before I almost see us more as best friends than a potential husband and wife...
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I feel like you can't balance them both and keep them separate. I'm pretty sure that a SD is someone you do things with like have sex with... and go on dates with. possibly you're looking for someone else to take care of you rather you take care of someone.also you said not have sex with at this moment? you said you wouldn't cheat, but i think you might. not to say you will or you have to just saying to me reading this sounds as if you don't want your current boyfriend and would want something else and i think that might be the best idea. if you truly loved him you wouldn't want another guy on the side.
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Okay this is gross but i need some help.I got a stomach ache and i went to the bathroom,i had diarrhea and it was green with a little bit blood.what i had eaten before that was some watermelon and eggs with a cucumber for lunch,nothin unusual for my diet but this green shit is freaking me out,isnthere anything wrong with me? also that day i was at the gym if that matters,please help (link)
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green poop isn't uncommon it happens it has to do with something i forgot but you're ok in that aspect, but blood in your stool?! not normal.. make an appointment to your doctors and be sure to explain what's going on you know "hi i want to make an appointment with my doctor because i have blood in my stool or i found blood in my stool and im concerned" that way they will bring you in right away with out the e.r costs.
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I am so confused. I dont know what to do anymore. I am depressed all the time. To the point where all I want to do is cry and at times it takes all I have not to. I feel so alone. I have been married for 8 years but we never talk and lately he and I have been sleeping in separate rooms. We dont even argue we just dont talk. I know I am not happy anymore and I havent been for a long time. But we have children together and this is the only serious relationship I have ever had. To top it all he is controlling so I have never had a job and I dont know if I can support myself or my kids without him. I dont want to be miserable forever but I am terrified of life without him. I dont know how to survive without him. And I have absolutly no friends not a single one because my high school friends and I have drifted apart and I am not allowed out to have any. And I have no family I grew up in foster homes. So without him I am completely alone. I have no one to turn to. No one to stay with til I get on my feet. Am I being selfish by wanting a life of my own. What do I do? Where do I go from here? (link)
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hi there... you have quite a lot going on it seems... i personally never been in a situation like this and it's very serious and only you can make a change only if you want to. sounds like to me you dont want to be with this guy anymore. which is fine and ok. I can't imagine not having a single friend or family member to rely on. I have nothing but ppl in my life so i feel your situation is quite difficult. if you haven't already talk to your husband tell him how you feel, maybe ask if getting a part time job for yourself would be ok? or better yet just tell him you're getting a part time job. you need to be social it's not normal to just see kids all the time and your husband. maybe your close with his family if so talk to them talk to anyone you can a doctor? that can help try there and go from there try to strive to be independent so if you still feel like you need to leave then you have people and money!
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Someone is blackmailing on kik. I sent him nude photo of mine, he want me to send again if I will not he said that he will post it online website wherein all country can see it. I dont know what to do. He said that he will spread it and all my friends can see it. Im afraid Im fron Hungary. Need help (link)
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Did u show your face? If not call his bluff tell him if he does he does the police will deal with them or ask for a nude of him and do the same thing next time don't show your face ever!!!
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If a doctor checks if a girl is a virgin can he tell if she has had anal sex or will he only see vaginal sex? (link)
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They can't technically figure out you had sex... Although it would show your hymen is. Token which can happen from doing intense activities. I advice you to be honest with your doctor they can't tell your parents if you are not in danger in any way.
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My boyfriend is moving to a new school next year and will probably won't be able to see him again! We're so damn close together that I cry everyday knowing that! Might there be some advice to prep for this and what to before he leaves? :( (link)
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i had a boyfriend all through out highschool and he moved away when we finished we were so close but ended up breaking up. sometimes long distance doesnt work, but it only doesn't work if you both aren't willing to make it work. that was our problem. make times to facebook chat or skype or phone calls. also make plans to meet up it gives you something to look foward to and have honesty and trust with each other thats how relationships work. its really hard when someone you love leaves coping with it is something you need to figure out that works for you just talk and prepare.
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Why are thirteen year olds allowed to use this site when over 50% of the questions are to do with sex and intimate sides of peoples relationships.
Sureley it's not right that someone who's 13 (or in some cases younger) is exposed to the kind of stuff you read on here at such a young age.
Seeing as it's not fair to not help these people when advice givers like myself have been up to now, I think the age limit should be increased, cos it's not fair kids learn about that kinds stuff off of strangers on here. Does anyone agree? :) (link)
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I dont agree children learn about sex from pretty much every thing at a really young age. I see girls all the time who have had already two sexual partners at the age of 11 or 12. things have changed kids are doing drugs at a young age doing things i never did at that age! heck i didnt even make out with a guy till i was 14. I think because that some kids are sexually active that there should still be the option for them to ask these questions. if you cant stop it, then we should be here to still help.
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Hi there
This question is off the back of a bigger dilemma I'm in which I will address at a different time but one thing I need help with right now is the following-(also just for this question I'm going to refer to these two men as guy 1 and guy 2)
Ok guy 1 I love deeply its a love that's got deeper over time he is caring loving fun etc all round great guy, it's had ups and downs like any love does but it is strong, he's never given me any reason to doubt him I trust him and never worry that he would stray. However the one thing that is a concern for me which is sex, I don't mean this to sound shallow in anyway because I do love him dearly but sex is only average, I pleasure him very well he is more than happy as he has communicated this but for me things just don't quite get there and I find it hard to address this due to trying before and he took it really to heart and now I'm scared to hurt his feelings so I just go with it but I worry that this will pose long term troubles for me because I know what I want and crave it and I worry I will need to act up in this urge.
Guy 2 I fell in love with fast and this is a new relationship he is wonderful and romantic and honest (sometimes too honest lol) sometimes I have had small doubts on how truthful some of the things he tells me are but then I think is it because he is wanting to impress me so much, I have questioned his sincerity (in a positive way) and his answers are clear and honest but he doesn't realise he sometimes makes me jealous by telling me about girls that have been hitting on him. I don't know if he's doing this because he's insecure and wants to test how much I care or whether he is a player and I'm been a fool. I wonder though if its due to the strain of a LDR and this would change if we was together but its a big risk to take. however the sex here is mind blowing for him and me, we connect so well and it is so passionate we know what each other wants without even having to ask but then when we do it just gets even better.
Basically what it comes down to is a choice of love, trust and average sex OR love, potential trust issues and incredible sex.
so I'm hoping that by getting neutral advice from others will help me see the clear picture.
All advice and answers are welcome and appreciate
Thanks for reading.
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I think there is a lot of thinking here to do, i feel like the sex issue with number 1 is just the communicating part. If you tell him what you like or move his hand the way you like things with out having to speak maybe the sex will become better for you guys. now I know you said that the last time his feelings were hurt, you should tell him that what you're telling him is not to hurt his feelings, but to make what you guys have better. not everyone is going to know what to do right away or what she likes people need to talk about it show eachother and sometimes showing is just as much fun and exciting. Now on guy number 2 he may just be telling you about those other women yes to get you to be jealous or to be 100% honest with you he wants to tell you whats up with his life. sex is a huge part in a healthy relationship in my opinion its frusterating if you cant enjoy it with the one you love. although trust is also a huge part in a relationship if you dont have trust you have nothing so if you cant or forsee yourself not tursting guy number 2 then sex wont even be amazing everything would just be blah. good luck i know this probally didnt help so much, but you are the one in these relationships and i think these are both minor issues and if you want to settle down you need to talk to both of them about with guy number 1 the sex issue and guy number 2 the trust issue
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My boyfriend is very rude to me. He always calls me a weirdo and judging everything I do. He doesn't like to cuddle or be affectionate. He hurts my feelings. He says he loves me but it doesn't seem like it & doesn't feel like it. Part of me is telling me to leave but the other part is telling me to stay. Which direction should I go? (link)
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Most likely when anyone is acting like this towards there boyfriend or girlfriend they are ready to end things too. If he has always been like this towards you and it sounds like you dont like it so you are already telling yourself that you want things to end between you two. if you dont like the way you are being treated then you need to be strong and leave the person who is bringing you down. he might realize after you have dumped him and ignored him for a long period of time what he is missing and try to get back with you.
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So...suppose you met a guy, and this guy has a girlfriend...but he seems kind of flirty with you...he finds that you both have a lot in common, makes sure he gives you a big hug before you say goodbye, he calls you on the phone often...and then he asks you to go get coffee with him...okay, this is where it may become an incredibly stupid question...does that necessarily mean that he's attracted to you? Or is he just a very friendly guy? I have absolutely no clue how his current relationship is going...and I don't want to ruin it either. I would be very jealous if I had a boyfriend and this was happening. But the really bad thing is that I am extremely attracted to him, and I do catch myself wanting to be with him. But the last thing I want to be is a 'homewrecker'...and then I ask myself, 'is he just being really friendly'? Uuugh, my heads a mess! Helllppp!!!! (link)
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this guy seems like hes a little more friendly then the average person. you need to be honest with him you know he has a girlfriend and you dont want to ruin things. so tell him i dont want to get in the way of you and your girlfriend i want to make sure that meeting up with you isnt something your doing behind your back and that when we meet its only as a friend kind of meeting
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Yeah..so he really wants it and I'm willing to give it to him.
Only issue is I'm afraid I'll do it wrong and hurt him ):
Any tips???
16/f 17/m
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no joke youtube on how to give good head.. its awk, but gives you good tips on how to do it and its not porn so dont worry that youll watch someone doing it to a real person.
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